Seriously? She looks straight out of the 50s.... Nothing sexual or sensual at all. In fact, I think her style represents an era when women's voice and expressivness was suppressed by men not to mention the fact women enslaved in the household stuck with choirs and childbearing.
This video is a blessing and so are the both of you. I find it very interesting that despite identifying more towards Ash's side of things, I think I would still be happy running around in a dress and a petticoat. Not with my hair curled- and maybe with a tie- but still, interesting.
Lesbian high-femme style tends to be very different from the style of a very feminine straight girl, so I don't know why people assume that high femmes are straight.
Oh yeah, when I say "people" I mean "other people in the lesbian community who should know that some lesbians are feminine" lol. I know straight people and often times even other GBT people are too far up their asses to realize that but I would hope that at least lesbians respected lesbians...
Yeah, lesbian circles can be pretty judgemental and exclusionary sometimes, like it's not enough to be a woman who likes other women, you've gotta have rolled up sleeves on your pocket t-shirt, a snapback, and at least one rainbow accessory with your choice of either a double Venus or poorly drawn nautical stars tattooed somewhere before other lesbians will accept that you're _One Of Them..._
Griffin S Definitely true. You'd think people in communities that are marginalized and have their lives & identities policed & scrutinized by mainstream society would be more open, open-minded, and accepting... But it seems to go the other way a lot of the time. As though they feel that because they had to work & fight for their communities and such, everyone else should too or else they haven't 'proven themselves' or 'earned it'. There's also the whole 'hierarchy of oppression' feeling where certain gay people dislike bi people because they can pass as straight in the right circumstances, while being visibly gay means you're either always a target or you're hiding. But the same is true of being bi, even if you're being read as straight you're still bi, so avoiding homophobia still means falling into erasure. It's all very clique-y, I'm not a fan
Making assumptions based on appearance doesn't mean disrespecting someone. Refusing to be corrected about those assumptions is what makes someone rude and disrespectful. Learn the difference and you'll be a lot happier in life.
The results were so cute! But you looked how I always felt in a dress. Awkward, but putting on a good face despite that. I'm glad you had a good time though.
wow, that's awesome. i'm more or less female, but i'd love the option to just be "them" when people talk about me. it would remove so many complications
Hi! This comment has nothing to do about this video, but i just feel like saying this :D I heard that in English you use the word them and they to describe people who don’t belong to he and she. I live in Finland and the Finnish language actually doesn’t have different words for he and she. We only have one word to describe every gender which is the word hän (pronounced like handy but without the dy) So if you’re telling something about someone you just use the word hän. And some people have asked if this is a new thing added because of the ”modern” gender thing. But no, it has always been like that and i think it is very cool :)
HELMU yeah it’s cool when you think about it - written Finnish is gender neutral, but even in spoken Finnish we usually say “se” while talking about a person, which basically means “it”. torilla tavataan!
@@mayi6350 i think she meant the word "hän". Ja mun on pakko sanoo et luulin olevani ainoo suomalaine joka kattoo Ashin videoita, mut nyt kun huomaan et muutki kattoo, oon jotenki super-ilonen :333
@@wouldntyouliketoknowweathe9431 If Russian "ono" is the same as Polish "ono" (and I suppose it is, 'cause those languages are pretty similar) using ono as an neutral pronoun is a really bad idea, as it's used only to talk about objects
I think you looked adorable. Very Audrey Hepburn, especially in the dress and hat. That said, I totally get your reaction to it. I’m a trans woman who transitioned a long while back and while initially I was very femme in my early transition, later on I discovered I much prefer being a butch woman. I’ve gotten a lot of reactions like, “Why would you want to go through all that to be a woman, but you rarely wear makeup or dresses?” But it was never about makeup and dresses. It was about feeling comfortable in my skin. As a kid, I dreamed of becoming Joan Jett, not Christie Brinkley. There are so many ways to be a woman, just as there are many ways to be non binary and many ways to be a man. I so adore you, Ash, and enjoy getting to watch you discover who you are. Peace out!
I like your comment. It just shows that people still have this old fashioned idea that women aren't women unless they are very feminine. I'm a cis woman and while I enjoy dressing up when I go out, my day to day look is mostly plain. Jeans and a top. And I think that goes for a lot, if not most, women. Does that make us any less woman? No, ofcourse not! I'm glad you found your style.
I'm a trans man and the more comfortable I am with my own persona, the more I just want to present exactly like I am. Someone once told me that "I looked gay" because I like to dress up nicely and that threw me off, not because of the gay part but because things like that make me realized that people have such a wrong interpretation of gender and gender expression. I like to dress nice because it makes me confident, I do it because I like it. That same person told me that sometimes I make things that are associated with "gay mannerisms" but I'm a trans guy, I obviously will continue having some stereotypical female mannerisms because I can't change like day and night, and because when I'm talking I like to move my hands and express emotion so the other person will feel I'm actually interested in the conversation.
When I saw a picture of Ash from that day, I swear I almost didn't recognize them! He looks very pretty and definitely like a princess. Her little curl reminds me of Superman.
@@kittymeow4u879 I usually try to switch up pronouns when it coems to Ash, but I did purposely use masculine pronouns with more feminine adjectives and vice versa. Thanks for noticing. I like your username, too.
@@galimirnund6543 when ur bi, you are only attracted to two specific genders (usually guys and gals, but it can differ) when your pan, you like people regardless of gender. Hope this clears it up :)
@@hehehehehehe1025 Dude I am 55 years old. When I was young there were men and women and they would fall in love, get married and have a family... (yes I've been stuck under a rock) that kind of romance is gone now....it's whatever..
I identify as bisexual because gender and gender expression affect my attraction to people. I prefer a more feminine nonbinary gender because it’s a more relatable experience, but a more feminine expression because I more so present masculinity.
You look so good as high femme and also as masculine and androgynous! I am shocked how you can look good in everything! It is also good that you know what you feel comfortable with and how you want to look
The "we're gonna put me in a dress now" just reminded me of a small child (like one of the weirdly grown up but obviously really young) telling an adult something important with that facial expression.
Omg yes, one of my 4 year olds at work had that exact expression on her face when she told me "I used to have a grandad but he lives in the ground now" it's when kids are mature but don't have the right vocabulary for what they want to express that it's hard to keep a straight face
"I feel pretty, oh so pretty! I feel pretty and witty and GAY!" :) But I think in the 20s you would have been more of a Marlene Dietrich kind of person. Which would be fitting, cause she was bisexual.
50's Hollywood queens are quaking at femme Ash Also Ash looks good as every gender. We love our more masc hipster boy Ash. But femme home maker badass realness Ash is a nice splash.
Mac Davis No you definitely did imply that by your phrasing there. You're referring to expression/presentation I'm assuming, but you didn't say that or refer to the looks as looks, you made it sound like you're saying that looks are gender and Ash dressed normally is 'a boy' and Ash dressed femme isn't, like the clothes change the gender, based on stereotypes, just like A G said.
It feels so validating to hear someone actually "feels like themselves" when dressing up all girly! Because of I never felt that way, it always felt like a dress up game to represent myself female (I'm AFAB). And I've been just thinking maybe everyone feels a bit unnatural when wearing makeup and dresses and stuff. But if that really is not the case for everyone (I should know by now), in some wicked reverse ways it feels validating for me to hear people opposite me exist :D Anyhow, I don't necessarily hate dressing up either (it can be fun occasionally)... it just feels like a costume, drag or something. Thank you for the great vid! I really like your editing and it's always interesting to hear stories of your quests :)
I love it when people try wearing something thet they would usually avoid, it shows how brave they are. Like when men who are usually very masculine try makeup even if it makes them a bit uncomfortable, just out of curiosity.
i was trying to figure out why they were so uncomfortable because "they looked so cute and so good! why would they feel weird?" but then i put myself in their shoes (or heels rather) and realised holy CRAP id feel so uncomfortable!! thinking about how out of place and almost embarassed (?) i would feel makes me cringe almost. and its not even that boys (or masc/ non binary ppl) cant wear dresses, but for me personally if i had the choice between a dress or a nice button down and sum cool pants, im going with the latter haha. it was super interesting what ash said about how one article of clothing can mean different things to different people, and i really just over all enjoyed this video !! :D
Jessica is genuinely of my favourite human beings on this planet and I'm so glad you made this video. I have similar feelings when I wear dresses and skirts and that which sucks because sometimes I actually enjoy how it looks and the whole process. You looked incredible and I never knew I needed you two to collab 🌹
You are one of the most fun people I’ve ever seen! I love that you are willing to make yourself uncomfortable just to see how it feels. You are brave and awesome for sharing your life on video.
I love that you two met up and made videos!! As to invisable disabilities, both Annika Victoria and Martina from Simon and Martina (formally Eat Your Kimchi, cause they moved from Korea to Japan) have invisable disabilities and are big advocates of speaking up and just living and also having fun in any way you can.. I really hope both of you check them out.. I'm gonna put this comment in both your comment sections because idk how to tag, so prepare to see double 😂
That's so cool you were brave enough to try this out! You look great, no matter what you wear or how you present yourself, you look AMAZING, Dahling!!!
"I feel like I forgot how to move." I absolutely understand this feeling as a mostly masc presenting genderless person. I have a absolute fascination with dresses and makeup and "typical feminine" things but any time that I wear them it's like I forget how to exist because its not my "normal" so I just tend to avoid them completely. If that makes any sense...
I have so much mixed feelings lmao, like... It's a great make up, it's a really nice dress and also looks so fun but.. still makes me feel like uncomfortable and weird and I feel like, that person isn't Ash, kind of If the weirdness got out of the screen, but in a good way because with Ash everything is good hahahaha
i loved every second. i also would have loved every second if Ash had dressed up as an anthropomorphic kitty cat. not because i'm a furry, but because it's fun and cyoot and totally different and sometimes different is just nice :) but, yeah, totally not the Ash we know, but more power to Ash for doing it, especially as it features a really misunderstood and underrepresented part of the lbgtq culture that you just don't see around a lot
I have my nipples pierced and other than the first day of getting them done it was one of the most comfortable piercings to get done so far. Boy does it hurt the first few hours though, felt like someone was holding a lighter to my nips and the only thing that helped was holding something very cool on them. After that the pain did go away really fast and they felt like usual after maybe 5 days or so and even on day 2 it only felt uncomfortable if I bumped into them with anything. Now I just love my breasts so much more and I don't want them removed that badly anymore. I'm genderqueer and I have some disphoria around my breasts still but somehow the piercings helped me feel more comfortable with them these last few years. 10/10 can recommend this piercing for any gender because it always just looks awesome. My older brother has only one nipple pierced and he choose a golden bar for his and it just looks so nice with his much more than skin color.
I'm so glad you had fun despite feeling weird about the results! I don't think I would be brave enough to show off a look like this in front of anyone, so kudos to you. And even if you did LOVE it, it invalidates nothing! Love you!
I think they could pull off being Luci, Ash seems like they could do it. But I do agree, he would be good at Dean or she would be good at Castiel (although they don’t have black hair).
Ash, I came here from Jessica's channel to let you know I think you are a wonderful human being and your personality is so fun. It is nice to play dress-up, I think, when there is no expectations on you to change, like family and friends might want you to do. You looked like you had fun doing this and that is what matters. Also I wanted to say that I would be subbed to you if it weren't for me being a prude, and your channel having certain content, all me, none of you. Be all that you are, and shine for all the world to see, and don't take shit from no-one. Wishing you all the best!!! AMB...Rose EDIT::: I came back to add.... NOOOOO I didn't come to your channel to see you in a dress like many may have. I just didn't get enough of you and Jessica interacting. Big Smiles and Hugs!
Omg I love this so much! I need more make-over videos like this that aren't all "oh let's make you look good/better than before" but rather "let's make you look totally different from usual and see how it feels because we can"!!!
Eeeeeee, I'm getting second-hand uncomfortableness from this XD I think it's really cool that Ash found this fun! But for me, I've had way too much of people putting something traditionally feminine on me, and then they're like "you look so good!!" (subtext: you look better like this, I prefer you like this etc.) Like, no. Ick. But that's just me and my own baggage on it :P
