[TW] My friend is self harming 

I'm only 2 weeks clean it's not much but I'm quite proud of myself

tomorrow i'll be 200 days clean from my last relapse.

2 and a half years clean. Sometimes I still feel like I could relapse but I try not to

Even if you're 1 day clean, or 1 month clean...or even 2 years clean You're doing amazing. I believe in you all, you can do it!

today I'm 2 years clean :D

Today I am 300 days clean. Couldn't be a better time for this video

Today I was discharged from the hospital after self harming pretty badly. Tomorrow is a new day. Life goes on, my dudes. Please help your friends at all costs, because it will help so much in the long run. Thanks, Emma, for raising awareness for this 💙 I love you

I'm only 3 days clean but i'm proud of myself for making an effort:)

I've been a year and a half clean and I'm still going - It's so relieving to not feel that pain anymore

I've not self harmed in about 4 months. I'm proud.

At least in the UK (and I believe everywhere), doctors CANNOT tell your parents something you say to them without your explicit permission unless they feel you are in immediate danger. It's part of the Patient Confidentiality agreement that all doctors sign.

not self harmed in 6 months! Stay strong guys❤️

I didn't self harm properly just like little chicken scratches as Emma says but I'm still 5 months clean and am so proud

I'm 2 months clean! Woooo

No hate but please don't call shallow cuts "chicken scratches" it makes people feel who do shallow cuts like they are fakers because they feel like their cuts aren't good enough because of the word 'chicken' otherwise amazing video fully support it.

I'm 14 and i know someone who self-harms (chicken scratches), but i feel a lot of the kids my age romanticise mental health and its to the point wear it irritates me because they pick aspects of depression like "being sad all the time" or having body dismorphia when really they're doing it because they're obsessed with attention or appearing more than just a teenage girl/boy. It's hard to tell if they even need help because of a chemical imbalance or if they're just fishing for compliments. I'm not trying to come across as a dick but i hate wasting time on people who don't need it, i dunno, maybe im the problem. I'd appreciate if you made a topic on romanticising mental illness its so popular yet its hardly talked about, smh.

Just last night I gave my mom my blades, I'm really proud of myself.

PSA: In America at least, guidance counselors are legally required to tell the person's parents. MAKE SURE that whoever you're talking to isn't required to tell the person's parents, if there may be a negative reaction from them. I don't know how it works with anonymity, but be VERY CAREFUL before telling anyone. Even if you think their parents will be supportive, you don't know their home life, okay? My suggestion is to go to the guidance counselor and tell them to talk to your friend. Don't bring up self harm, just say that they're depressed and need someone to talk to. That allows them to decide for themself what the best course of action is, but you make them take that first step of getting help. If you like, go with them. Like Emma said, it's all grey area, nothing is certain, but that has worked in the past.

33 days clean

I love going through the comments and seeing everyone saying "I'm enter time long clean" and here's me like I'm two days clean :(

Im watching this and at 14:30, I can't agree with you unfortunately. You're talking about 13 year olds Emma. I think in many situations it can actually be dangerous for your own mental health. I was a person who used to tell EVERYONE with problems "you can call me at any time!!" I don't do this anymore, because I know how it would influence me. So I disagree on saying to any friend with problems that they can call you at any time because man - I've been in weird situations were being held down by someone elses problems. Especially in a situation where you've struggled or you're struggling with self-harm, take my advice, take care of yourself first. If someone doesn't want to take your simple advice and is in great danger, tell someone but don't let it get to you. Don't feed your hunger by listening to another self-harm story. If you struggle with self-harm, whether it is you struggling or someone you know; I understand you don't want to tell someone like a parent or teacher. But get your story out. Certain phone numbers (which I'm sure you can find in the description) or even online, like this website www.cyhm.org (which stands for Can You Here Me) where you can share your story, struggles, but also art and other things you're proud of. It's for you to make you feel heard without having to tell anyone you don't want to tell. Be safe everyone. ❤️

Two Days Clean… I'm Trying!

Oh my god NO you should not tell anyone that a friend is self harming without that person's permission. You have no idea how their family are going to react, and often parents that aren't understanding will just make it worse by guilting the person. There have been people who have been kicked out of home because of their parents finding out about their self harm. And the absolute panic when you find out that someone you trusted has meddled in your life in that way is so soul destroying.

Thank you so much for making this video Emma. I have recently also found out that one of my best friends are self harming over the summer and she told me to tell no one so I listened (which was a big mistake). She would always were her school jumper to cover her arms and never wore short sleeved shirts. I had no idea what to do as I wanted to tell someone, but I also didn't want to lose her as a friend. Of course I couldn't take it anymore, it was too hard for me to go into school and carry on with my everyday life knowing that my best friend was harming herself. So just about a week ago I told the school counsellor and she's currently getting help. I don't know if we're still friends or if she even wants to be my friend, but the best thing to do was to tell someone so she can get the right help for herself. What I've realised is that, if your friend or anyone is self harming and they have told you too keep it a secret, please tell someone so they can have the right support and help they need

I'm like 4 or 5 weeks clean, it's longest I've gone. I'm pretty proud of myself.

ah, if you're under 16 (or 18, not sure which) and tell a doctor you've had suicidal thoughts they're required to tell your parents

I can relate to this fear a lot. I always held myself back from completely venting to my counsellor, because I was scared they'd say something. Everything is confidential until they discover you're a harm to yourself. They won't tell your family about self harm, but if they discover that you've attempted suicide, they will tell your parents. It's the same with doctors, from what I know. My friend went to a psychologist, but they didn't give her compulsory help because my friend told them she hadn't attempted, even when she had. Ngl, if it wasn't for my friend Stacey, I wouldn't have got help for years. She went and told my school that I was struggling with self harm and suicidal thoughts, and the school spoke to me. Annoyingly, they didn't give me counselling until 3 years later. I used to talk to my form tutor a lot, because she was very understanding and sometimes, you need someone who's experienced a little more than your friends. She always allowed me to vent to her, and she'd advise me a lot and aid me through things. She'd give me coping mechanisms etc. In the past, my mum has discovered my self harm and stuff, and she took it badly. She would tell me that I'm pathetic, and that I should leave musical theatre because I'm being too dramatic. Due to that, I never told my mum, and that's the reason I don't get help. I'm scared I won't be able to be honest without them getting involved. It sucks ...

I go through this myself but i am too nervous to talk to anyone as I really dont want my parents to know. I really dont know what to do but i want to do something

I never told my mom because I thought she would restrict me even more than she already did. She was overly strict in everything and had control over everything I did up until I turned 18 and ran away. Wasn't allowed friends, a job, anything. When I started self harming, I realized how scary it was getting because I became suicidal and when I finally told her out of fear, she took everything out of my room until there was nothing but a mattress on my floor. It was like that for two years (I had no phone or internet or computer, no connection to the outside world), and then I ran away when I turned 18. Looking back, I wish I had never said anything to her. She hates me now because I "abandoned" her and she hardly ever speaks to me. It hurts everyday to not only not have a dad (he left when I was 12), but to also not really have a mom either. It sucks and it's lonely and depressing as fuck.

This happened to me and I told a trusted teacher and my friend was so mad, but I would do it all again bc I'd rather go to school and have her mad, then have to go to her funeral

Self harm is not equal to suicidal. It's a complex issue on its own

I am almost 300 days clean from self harm (cutting) and things have been really tough lately. So I am struggling to keep going, I will though. I want to carry on being okay. But it tough. It's really hard, but you can get though it, whoever you are, it will be really hard and you will probably relapse a lot, but each time you will get stronger and get tougher each time. You will get through this, I am trying and we can try together, stay strong my dudes 💕

Basically, I’m sixteen and I have a friend who’s only ten. (Our parents are friends and hang out a lot) I was talking to her and I noticed some cuts on her wrist. (Chicken scratches) She’s a really really sweet girl and it made me so upset to see that. I’d talked with her mom a lot and she was really kind. I told her mother and she was super supportive. I’ve seen that she stopped and she still talks with me a lot. I didn’t want to see someone so young self harming.

This exact thing happened to me in Year 9 (2012), except I did go to a teacher about my friend. We fell out and it did cost me our friendship and we were never really close in the same way after that. I spent a lot of time regretting telling someone about what she was going through. But on the last day of sixth form (2016), we were signing yearbooks and saying goodbye. My friend who I'd helped but since grown apart from asked to sign mine. When I got home and read what she'd written, I cried. She'd written me the most simple yet heartfelt thank you note for helping her four years previously. And I know that if I could go back in time, I wouldn't do anything differently. If you have a friend going through this, please tell someone. If I had done nothing, that thank you note might not have ever been in my yearbook. Instead, it might have been a memorial page to her.

As a trainee teacher, I can give advice on how to handle this situation. Due to child safety laws, every school has a safeguarding department, often called SENCO. If you speak to a teacher, that teacher will tell no-one but the SENCO team. The teacher is supplied with form, and they write down what you've said, and give it to SENCO, and then they have to forget about it. They aren't allowed to ask questions and probe you for more information, they aren't allowed to check up on you, and they aren't allowed to make a decision as to whether your parents find out or not. All of that responsibility goes to the SENCO safeguarding team. That team is in contact with all the local authorities, from the police to social services. Most likely, they will contact your parents and discreetly let them know what is going on without you knowing, and your parents will discreetly give you support, but only if they think it is the right thing to do. If, say, you've told a teacher that your parents are abusing you, they will have to contact social services or the police, but they will handle the situation with the utmost delicacy. They will not tell your friends or your teachers what is going on at home. It will not get out around the school unless you let it. The safeguarding offices are open to you at any time, and I would urge you if you are worried about anything at all, you tell a teacher, because at the end of the day, they aren't going to be malicious. Why would they? They are going to help solve the problem, and it won't be an easy journey, but it's for your safety and wellbeing, and after all, that's the only thing that really matters.

one of my very good friends in college was a cutter I ended up walking him to counseling services and held his hand until he went back and stayed the hour until his entry appt was over. We had other incidents where I knew he was cutting or wasn't in a good place and he stayed the night or I went to his apartment and hid the knives. He hasn't cut for a few months but now is indulging in other self destructive behaviors. The most you can do is encourage your friend(s) to get help, and stand by them/ be there for them, but for your own mental health you have to accept that you can't force them and they have to be the ones to do it (Like Emma said)

I was 6 months clean before my last relapse... Now just over 3 and trying so hard not to go back. If there's one things I could say to anyone thinking of starting, it's please, please, don't. Once you do it's something that will follow you forever.

I'm 7-8 years clean of self harm. What you'll realise on your journey to never doing it again is that the urges may never leave you. I still get them but they're easier to deal with now it's been so long. But cutting will never fail to cross my mind when I'm upset. It's just learning to never give in again.

I was in an EXTREMELY similar situation when I was 13. I discovered that my friend was self harming and she was very reluctant to get help. I confided in my head of year, and I didn't name any names. It didn't really help, as all my head of year wanted to know was what her name was. I was terrified of making the situation & her home life even worse and ultimately I was scared that this would push her over the edge. I felt useless and I didn't want to lose her trust, which now I believe to be the wrong mindset. I don't think I could see past the friendship. Luckily, because my friend trusted me (and again i am VERY lucky that she trusted me this much) she used to message me when she got urges to self harm. I used to ring her every time. I never spoke about the self harm, though. I used to ring her and say "hey, do u wanna have a chat? Tell me about your day" and we would have a normal conversation and would normally get to the route of the problem just by chatting. I'm not saying this method would work for everyone, but I think that her talking to me about nothing put a bit of comfort in the situation. She just needed to know that she wasn't weird or alone, and I was there for her. It's a tricky situation to be in and I was very lucky with how much she was willing to reach out to me, as I know most friends don't even get the chance to help. I urge you all to tell someone if your friend is going through this or something similar. Your friendship is important, but it can be mended. Your friend will thank you in the end, and if she doesn't, at least you know that you put her first.

A counsellor I went to told my mum I self harmed right infront of me and it will always be the most horrific moment of my life. But after that I was more open and I was able to ask for my mum's support because I wasn't hiding from her. We were never close but have been inseparable since. Secrets can hurt the people around you more than the truth because they won't know how to help

I once had a suicidal friend. One night she said she'd actually do it. I cried for maybe 2-3 hours before telling my dad, who got help. She wouldn't talk to me for a few weeks but her parents are now aware of it and we're still friends. She actually thanked me a few months after my dad got help.. anyway the summary is *tell someone*!!! your friend won't be mad at you forever bc they'll realize how much you've helped them later on.

1 week and 2 days clean.. Not much but it makes me happy

my friend from college recently told me she was self harming again. She asked me to tell no one but she just felt she could trust me enough to tell me, which is something I'm so glad she did. I've done the best I can to help and it seems to be helping her, and she told me she's going to see a doctor to get antidepressants, so I'm glad she's trying to help herself, but I don't know what to do, no matter what I'm not telling someone, I know her enough to know that betrayal of trust could be the final nail in the coffin (if you get the metaphor) I would be fine with her no longer being my friend if it means she's getting the help she needs, but I know that, if I'm to tell someone, it might be what finally causes her to take more extreme measures. When she told me she was self harming, I wasn't shocked, i know she has been diagnosed with a few mental illnesses and, is by the way she has spoken to me sometimes, ready to leave everything behind, yet I still had a panic attack just because, I don't know how to help with self harm, I can deal with depression and anxiety and such because I've had firsthand experiences with those illnesses and know what to do to help. But this is the first time i've experienced self harm so I don't know what else I can say or do. I think for now I'll do what you advised and try to email my tutor and ask for some advice anonymously.

It's been almost 2 years since the last time I hurt myself & I just want others to know that it is hard but also possible to get help. No one noticed, no one saw anything, & if they did they didn't say anything. I had to be brave enough to go to my mom in the middle of the night and say "I. Need. Help". It is so hard but so worth it. The sadness doesn't just go away quickly, it's a process. And even then it doesn't go away completely. It is worth it to tell someone. It is worth it to get help even if you think no one would care. If it weren't for me forcing myself out of my bed, tears in my eyes, fresh cuts on my legs, a low self-esteem, & almost no will for life. Then I wouldn't be here right now. I wouldn't be as happy as I am right now. I wouldn't have influenced as many people as I am right now. It is always worth it to stay. It is always worth it to be brave and ask for help. You. Are. Worth it.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

see why dont my friends help me with this. they ask if im okay, and even if i say yes or no they just completely ignore it.

ive been clean for 72 days! ^-^

I'm two days clean. I'm so ashamed of it and I've been trying to hide it from my parents. They get so angry at me for doing it and I hate it. It's awful, but I'm trying. And this time it wasn't as bad as any of the others.

I'm one month clean, I know that sounds really short but Its progress for me :)

This video was so enlightening I self harm, and I told my friends- not looking for attention but looking for help and support. At the time, my guardians, doctor, counsellor and school did not know, and I liked it that way. Around a month ago, my friends told the school which honestly angered me so much. I didn’t speak to them for a couple of days and, when I eventually did, we argued for at least a week. I ended up, however, coming round and realising that I couldn’t stay mad at them forever. I did not understand or appreciate what they did, but through watching this video I think I finally can. If you are reading this and know someone who self harms, please tell a trusted adult. If you are reading this and self harm, please tell a trusted adult. It’s so damn hard but much more important that you do. Thank you for making this video, it’s so important that the message is spread.

In my school they have to tell the parents if they know their child is self harming

Really needed this a couple years ago

I don't care if your 24 hours or 2 years clean of self harm, I think you are strong and an awsome human being and I'm proud of you. Also, even if you currently self harming, for whatever reason you're doing it, you haven't done anything wrong. If you're ashamed of sexuality or gender or have issues in home life please get help from a trusted person or talk to someone because you're worth more. Just be you and don't hate yourself for *anything* . As Emma said there are helpline numbers in the description. It doesn't matter who you are you shouldn't have to do this alone. Stay strong ✨

Today.. I'm three weeks and two days clean. Not that people will probably care, but this video genuinely made me feel a bit better. So thank you Emma, thank you so much

My close friend told me she was self harming, she told her mum but her mum told her that if she continued, then she would take her phone away and look through all her conversations. Her mum also blames it on "hormones". I spoke to my mum about it and thankfully she reassured me that if I was ever in that situation, she would support me and take me to a doctor/therapist.

Well done to everyone who's commenting about their recoveries. You're so strong and I'm so proud of you all❤️

my friend isn't self harming, but he does have bad mental health, anxiety and he still thinks about his old friends that left him horribly. he's 90% sure he was add, but his parents don't believe him. he went to a school counselor last year to get help and when he told his parents they were really mad. I wish I could help more. I talk to him and offered to go to the doctors with him but I'm worried he might get worse and that there's nothing I can really do

Looking at all the comments makes me feel really good because everyone is saying there experiences with self harm and depression and how they felt alone as well and reading all of theses I feel a lot less crazy

" it was uploaded 10 seconds ago why is it not on my recommended list wtf." And thank you for covering this topic Emma, it means a lot to me!!

I stopped November 26th 2012. Almost 4 years now!

I am on both sides of this. I am the self harmer and I am the friend who knows about a few friends who self harm and it's hard. I wouldn't want my friend to tell because I don't want that. I always feel I am the burden I am the reason for all the problems with my family and friends. And on the other hand I want my two friends to get help and I want them to stop but I know I can't stop myself and I don't know how to help them because I can barley help myself. This helped a lot emma thank you. I am kinda in the situation as Alice too and it's hard, it's really hard.

I really really needed this video, I found out my friend is self harming today, despite having suffering with it in the past I don't know how to help them. Thank you Emma you might be able to help me help my friend. I'm so glad I have you to help so many people :)

This made me cry so much. Please if there is anyone out there that wants to ever talk to me or self harms I am here! There are so many people out there u can talk to and I'm one of them. Please contact me if you need to talk I love you all so much and please just speak to friends or family.

This is so important...thank you for sharing with love and compassionx

About 9 months clean now

I never talked about it with anyone except people online, and somehow I still managed to stop. I have no idea why or how, though I believe leaving school must have played a huuge role. I just didn't feel the need to anymore, once school was over. No more stress, no more deadlines, no more failed tests. ...I don't really know. I'm just glad I'm over it, even though I still sometimes think about it.

It's really hard to listen to this cos I am/was in the position of Alice

I'm one of the luckier ones. My dad had a brother who commited suicide and one who has PTSD, so he gets alot of what's going on with me emotionally. My mom has a minor in pysch and she can help with the things I can't understand, so she helps me mentally. My older siblings have both self harmed and have gotten through it so I have their support along with it. So I use my luck to get and help other people through their challenges.

What if I'm that friend. I have lightly self harmed before. But what if I'm that friend that doesn't self harm, but is severely depressed. Or has anxiety so bad she can barely get out of bed. I'm that friend who hates them self. That friend that always smiles. To hide that pain. She shuts the world out and cries herself to sleep. Every. Single. Night. What if I'm THAT friend.

if anyone reading this is thinking about self-harming for the first time. don't. please don't. scars stay with you for the rest of your life, there's other ways to vent. please talk to someone if you want to harm yourself. please. don't get into a never ending cycle of self-destruction.

My friend just self harms, he's not showing signs of depression or suicidal thoughts he just takes out his scissors or sharpened protractor and cuts away at his wrists, in lessons as well, in public anywhere. It's really concerning.

I love you so much Emma - thanks to the promise I have been clean for 1 year now 💙 thank you so so much beautiful

Anyone else besides me self harmed pre then post Brexit? Don't want to be alone on this

Watching this and reading these comments makes our hearts feel all warm and fuzzy... everyone should be so proud of themselves. Like if you agree!!

It’s just that I was that friend. I was the one self harming. The only thing is that my friends stopped encouraging me to get help. I talk pretty openly about my self harm now, but the first 2 years I kept it as closely to myself as I could. I told my friends and they were surprised, yes, but that’s about as far as it went. No, “I’m always here for you” or “talk to a therapist” or anything like that. To be honest, I was very easily influenced at that time, and my friends seemingly not caring made it worse. Keep in mind, I started in 5th grade, so I was 10. Anyway, the third year in was the worst. I did a lot of terrible things not only to myself, but to others. I really regret it, but I’m not going to get into it. By the forth year I was comfortable wearing short sleeves if I needed to (ie. foods class). It was my first year of high school, so having a whole bunch of people I didn’t know see my scars was terrifying, but I got through it. That year was also really tough because I had to get used to having multiple classes and exams, which was very stressful. I’m now five years in and trying to seriously recover for the first time. I made it 3 months over the summer (which is the longest I’ve ever made it) but ended up relapsing the first week back to school (teachers are shitty). Overall, the third year was the worst. I didn’t care at all about anything, whether it be my health or my grades. I had multiple suicide attempts and am left with the scars and trauma to pay for it. Now, I have an amazing group of irl and online friends who support me so much and care deeply about me. I’ve also taken up hobbies that I really enjoy and that are a great distraction as well as finding a small amount of youtubers that really keep me going. I’ve never felt so loved and I think that’s really what I was missing when I started shing. I have a shit ton of scars that I’ll never get rid of and will never be able to hide, but I can’t let that stop me from my dreams. I can do this. You can do this. We all can fucking do this! ♥️♥️ Stay strong

Emma, I've been a silent subscriber of yours for years, but I'd just like to say thank you for this video. It's not only my favourite of yours but my favourite on RU-vid. When you started telling your story, I started to cry, because it's almost word-for-word like mine. Almost. I was almost the exact same age, with a friend going through terrible things (I don't want to elaborate on what they were, out of respect), who would only ever tell me. We were absolute best friends. Inseparable. And I faced that choice of what to do. But I went down a different route than you. I told. The things that were happening were so bad, I couldn't imagine not telling. I knew that it would probably ruin our friendship and they would never talk to -- let alone trust me -- again. But I told anyway, because I wanted to make sure they were safe, and I knew their safety was more important than our friendship. Ultimately, my friend hated me for it. Never spoke to me again. Blamed me. Never trusted me again. And I have carried this insane guilt around since then (I was 12/13 then, I'm 23 now). I don't know what their life is like now. I think they're happy, but we haven't spoken in over 6 years. I still have an immense amount of love for them and miss them so much. The choice to tell and its aftermath affected my own mental health, even. But I've worked through that guilt, those thoughts that I'm a bad friend, and at 23 and looking back at myself as a child, I do believe that it was right to tell. I know it was right to tell. But damn, it hurt, and it still hurts. But then, it would have still hurt if I didn't tell -- like you say, there are all those 'what if' questions when you don't. I guess what I'm trying to say is that both options are hard. I've had to work through what I did, just like you have dealt with your choice. And I want to say thank you so much for sharing. And to anyone out there who is struggling, there are people who love and want to help you, so please do reach out. No one should feel like they have to deal with that alone.

So my ex self harmed, said she wanted to die and that i was the only thing keeping her alive. She was 14 i was 15, this is still quite recently as i'm soon 17. We were together for almost a year and i knew she struggled with some mental health issues but i didn't find out how bad it was untill about 5 months after we got together. Anyways the night she told me she wanted to die i made her promise she was never going to commit suicide or self harm, the next week she called me early in the morning, crying and saying she had gone to town on her arms with a nail clipper and made me promise to not tell anyone because she thought she'd get into trouble. I held my promise for a while before i eventually told my mum since she had started seeing the marks on her arms anyways. Fast forward a month or so and she tried to overdose on painkillers, on my birthday aswell, her parents still didn't know about any of her mental health issues. Luckily she failed but i told my mum as soon as we found out and we called 911 to see if she was in danger, luckily she had taken just too little of the pills to be in danger. Now me as a 15/16 year old guy dealing with anxiety issues myself, (although luckily not in a self harm kind of way), had a very hard time dealing with my girlfriend at the time having such issues, and since i was the only one she trusted enough to talk to i had to comfort her every single day for a year, which drained me to the point where i just couldn't stand it, eventually i made my mum tell her parents, (which wern't very nice to her), because i just couldn't deal with being the only one knowing about her severe issues. They were mad at her and pretended everything was alright and still do to my knowledge. A month or so after that we broke up, for semi-unrelated reasons. I guess what i'm trying to say with my story is that if you have anyone close to you dealing with these things, help them the best you can, but don't do what i did and let it destroy YOU in the process. And no matter if the person dealing with it wants help or not, tell someone, and get them help, it matters!

8 mouths cleen for me🙂💟 and glad👌🏼

If you have a friend who has really bad mental health problems, but is too scared to get help themselves, PLEASE get help for them. My best friend has depression and alot of other problems, when i told a grownup about her problems things started rolling and now she has a psychiatrist. At first she was really angry at me for telling all her secrets to adults, but now she has stated multiple times that if it wasn't for me, she would've been gone. Emma i think this video is amazing, this is going to help alot of people with deciding what to do, so thank you for that.

I wished I had this video when I was going through this. One of my friend used to self harm and we encouraged her to go see the school counselor. But when it got really bad two of my friends went to see the counselor because they feared for her life and her parents were called. I don't think we could have done anything more to help her.

personally, when i self harm i dont tell people because i dont want to wake them up, or bother them, and if its bad enough i kind of just black out and lose control

Two of my bestfriends used to self harm, and I remember to one of them I sent Luke's video Cut Cake x

been clean since feb. I'm not usually one to keep track of milestones like this but it's nice.

im currently in a psychiatric unit for the second time for various mental illnesses and self harm. my first admission was 3 months, and so far this one has been 6. it gets better, is all i can say. you're all extremely brave, and i wish for you all to carry on ((love you emma)) xx

Was clean for two years, now I've been clean for two days. Small steps, I'm getting there.

I'm one week clean today...not much but at least it's something :)

I currently have a friend who self harms. In January, she is moving schools and I’m super worried about her

Me and my friend are both self harmers, at camp we both brought tools and someone saw our tools in my bag and took it to the teacher so now that friend hates me because she thinks I told our teacher.

honestly, i wish my friends thought the same as you, emma. ive accidentally told my friends that i did self harm and from that day, one of them always checks my arms. i get the gesture and everything but she does it everyday. i told them not to tell anyone and they obeyed. i cant tell adults anything, im always to scared. i had the worst time telling it to my psychologist. they kept just being extremely over protective but never told anyone. if they did, i would be in such a better place right now. but i dont blame them, i told them not to and they obeyed, but still...everyday, i wish that they did.

I've been clean for over 7 months, and I've never been happier. it does get better

Hey Emma, I was wondering if you could make a video about how to deal with having a poor family. I'm 13 and I'm not really sure how to deal with this anymore. It's hard when you can't afford nice healthy food, your hobbies, and just being a normal kid.

1 day clean :) starting recovery

It is very great to see Emma do these Deep talking videos. a lot of RU-vidrs don't Do this . This what makes a Good connected Community .................Thank you Emma for these Vlogs Keep the Great content ( :

I'm about two years clean and i went through something similar. a friend of mine knew about it and got help from the school councillor behind my back who then rung my parents. it was horrible, the shame of them knowing and the guilt they must of felt. it made my parents angry and i had a broken relationship with them for months afterwards. but the worse part is neither my parents nor the school councillor did anything about it or got further help and that is when i realised that only you can help your mental health. i was angry at my friend for ages but then i grew up and realised it was the spark that started my recovery.

watching this with my blade in my side. one week clean.

I'm only 3 days clean and I'm happy I haven't cut because I usually cut everyday

I have a lot of friends that self harm, I don't know how to help anyone have any advice ??

I'm 2 days clean (If you don't included sigarette burns) there was this one time where I was clean for 2 years ish. And look at me now.. 2 days instead of years... I am getting help. I am speaking to a LOT of people about this. which I haven't done EVER. But somehow it doesn't really work as much as I thought it would? since the advice people usually give is to talk to people. So I'm kinda out of ideas and I'm pretty scared. So advice is always wanted here. I'm not sure what to do now tbh. And btw, I feel pretty shit by looking at the comments because they are clean for so long and I want to be that person. (Don't get me wrong, I am absolutely proud of all of you guys! like really really proud! I just wish that would happen to me to) (another side note. I'm not sure if anyone is reading this lol. but I'm home alone for a week and that terrifies me even more. Like I'm scared of myself. also because there is alcohol in the house and I tend to drink much when I feel somewhat ''sad'' which makes it even worse)

Nearly 5 years clean and learning that I was worth more than what I was putting myself through lead me to stop. I didn't really understand that I was depressed and anxious, cutting, at least for me, was a way to let the anger, self-loathing, and anxiety out that comes with depression. I was really young, and I didn't understand that there was other ways to help me. Also, unfortunately, in the US they DO tell your parents if you are self-harming, and you often have to tell them yourselves because we don't have NHS. That can be the hardest part, telling your parents, I think there is a lot more knowledge and understanding about self-harming now, but my parents did not understand what it really was and why I was doing it. But its better to go on that journey with supportive people that love you than on your own.

I'm so happy because I'm about 3 months clean ❤ I have really bad anxiety and I used to deeply scratch myself on my upper arms and burn my thighs with a lighter until they would blister and no one would see because they were in other places but one day I just decided to just stop. I tried so hard, and I only did a few scratches every day. I'm trying so hard to overcome this and it does get worse sometimes, but you just have to keep trying.

8 months without cutting. Very proud of myself.