Little to none...just call or text (maybe). Unfortunately, it will only get worse. The ones whose parents allow limited access to social media, will be ridiculed and bullied, especially by their peers on social media. It's a sad, sad world we live in.
Caitlin - one of my best friends is a major journalist who has written about social media and its negative impacts and clear dangers for children. I’m sure he would be willing to do an interview with you for your channel. He wrote a book about Facebook/Meta that was published in November. I’ll reach out directly to you.
I usually dress in gothic fashion which I show no skin and don’t wear tight clothes, I’m pretty young and putting myself out there like that I feel personally would make me feel bad
i'm 12 and i do really stoopid stuff like watch eddsworld (ma FAVE series!!) n play with barbies :P honestly all the people i know that go to the same middle school as me all wear flawless makeup, have little dresses n they all bully me for not being like them bc they have ALL been in a relationship and theres just me being a single pringle and they all call me ugly and bully me for not being like them :-((( i just wanna be myself and be an awkard little 12 year old gurlie and STILL watch my favorite series and play with my dolls should i TRY being more like dem or what do i doooooooo?????? PLS ANSWERRRRRR itz urgenttttt!!!!!
I’ve noticed they no longer have kids clothes. Just smaller sizes of adult styles! We used to have corny princess or dinosaur shirts! Now they go from playing with toys straight to tiktok and wanting social media clout, zero tween zone. Nothing makes me more uncomfortable then seeing a CHILD in the same outfits my bf wears! Weird!
There is however oversized and baggy clothes and there is basics clothes which my daughter wears, we homeschool our kids as kids in school are being taught utter cr*p and an agenda is being pushed from both teachers and peers, the homeschool community we are in has all different age groups at meet ups so our kids are dressed more appropriately then these girls in this video
So sad! I think the “cringey” clothes we used to wear back in the day helped us grow more mature, like we gradually became more mature with our style. Tweens nowadays go from galaxy shirts to crop tops…
@InaraLxx exactly we were all wearing galaxy shirts and backpacks with our favorite tv show or whatnot. these kids are now wearing stuff that are immodest even for later ages.
I took sexy photos on my flip phone when i was young and my Mom almost killed me she was so mad. She threatened to call the police on me for CP. I didnt understand at the time that it was CP. I finally understood after her getting so mad at me. We had the talk about taking certain photo's and how they are forever.
It begins with parents. My husband and I had many serious talks with our now 18 year old daughter about posting online. My husband works in tech security and emphasized that these pics never go away, even if you delete. It can affect college applications and getting hired….it can haunt you forever. She got the message. AI is what is currently freaking me out. Your face can be added to ANY image. If a person cannot post a regular picture without somebody taking their face and creating disturbing images, does social media have a future?
Oh shoot really? I have never posted any inappropriate photos but I did delete some photos I don’t reasonate with anymore and somehow they will never get deleted? :(
@@kimhuynh1225 Pages get cached on sites like wayback machine or in google's searches. Guessing by your comment you're a young person - please be careful & responsible out there. I totally get the irony and humor of saying this in a RU-vid comment section, but the world is a much better and nicer place offline.
That happened to me in highschool before AI was even popular. Someone on Facebook took my face and put it on a p*rnstar. Then they were threatening me to show them nudes or else they'd share it. It was really weird. I just blocked them. This was probably like 14 years ago.
I view AI as a good thing, because if something ever gets leaked (which shouldn't exist in the first place but that's besides the point) you can just claim it's AI
@@doorsfan173those sites don't always get cached though. I look for fan art from accounts that have since long been deleted and way back machine is useless. In order for something to still be able to be dug up youd need to make sure someone cached it (not likely if you're an average person) and someone determined enough to dig it up (again not likely). At least as far as I know. Still recommend not posting anything too private on the internet of couy
This is why I NEVER let my kids on social media. They're little but I dont plan on getting them phones until much later and when they do, they wont be on tiktok. TT is the demise of our society.
I was concerned about this until i found out about smartphones that work just like regular smartphones but cant be used for social media. My daughter is still a preschooler but time will fly fast and i’ll eventually have to equip her with a working phone 😅 modern problem requires modern solution.
I have an 11 year old daughter and it is honestly so hard to keep all these apps away. We have bans across all social media, but things still get through. Many tic toc videos are available within RU-vid shorts, there's chat functions in Roblox! How can we teach our kids to respect their bodies when things like only fans exist, these girls making 100s of 1000s for "dancing" and writing it off as being confident and loving their body...it's a really hard balance of trying to teach them the right way and then becoming the enemy because they are the only kid at the school without a tic toc account. We recently moved to Kangaroo Island, remote, and honestly it's like going back 20 years, no ipads at schools, weekend sports are the pillar of the community. It's a breath of fresh air. It's a crazy crazy world!
I just wanted to add as well - in response to the men's commenting etc - these young girls are presenting mature content, without the maturity to handle it. They are simply not aware of the dark side of these situations. I spoke with my daughter about these kinds of potential situatiins, and she hand on her heart could not comprehend why these people that were commenting were not her "real" friends and may have alterior motives...I do think everyone shares a little bit of responsibility, but ultimately (imo) it's the parents that need to be "the bad guys" in order to protect their kids.
My parents didn't let me have a smart phone or social media when I was in high school (2011-2015). I got a "dumb" phone only when I started driving at 17. At the time I thought it was "sooooooooo unfair" and ridiculous. Probably one of the best things that happened in my life. Having parents who were on the stricter side has been the biggest blessing.
I can tell that you appreciate what your parents did for you. The fact that you're able to appreciate it is probably down to the fact that they did that.
@@gustavus0013 There wasn't really a need to contact my parents when I wasn't with them. For most sporting events, hanging out with friends, jobs, volunteering etc. my parents would know where I was going and when I would be coming back or when they would need to pick me up and they would just arrive at the agreed upon location and time (or I would already have planned a ride back with friends, or was within walking distance). Ex. if I was going to the park I would just tell my parents, leave and then come home before dinner (or whatever required family event we had that day- which I would already know about). The constant communication when not with someone is a new feature of life. It makes some things more conveinent, but it isn't required. Cancel Reply
40-year-old woman here. I'm watching these clips and I'm just... disgusted and heartbroken. These poor girls! I've got a 14-year-old niece and her parents banned TikTok and most other social media for her, and I know she was unhappy about it, but I have never agreed with my brother as much as when he and his wife made that decision. She was still exposed to all of it enough that, at 12, she told me she wanted plastic surgery (she wanted to look more like the K-pop stars)! Her face had barely even started growing into its adult shape!
I'm a teenage girl the pressure to look "sexy" is intense, I was made fun of for wearing oversize clothing on a casual clothes day (baggy clothes are popular, I think, but my clothes were apparently 'unfashionable') like I'm young and I don't want to have to worry abt fashion and looking "hot and attractive" before I reach 18. Whenever I've told my friends about my parents and how they don't let me use social media like TT they always call my parents "overprotective" or "really strict" but I just know that they're keeping me safe (never thought I'd prove my mum right) .
Way to go, you're not missing out on anything and the fact that you can withhold peer pressure when it comes to dressing the way you want shows you probably have a lot of inner confidence and strength (even though I'm sure it can often feel like that's not the case, haha). I'm sure it will serve you well in your life. Wishing you all the best!
When I was your age (now I'm 32) it was actually very cool to stand out. We used to DIY a lot. Nowadays it's not cool anymore. Be true to yourself no matter what. Think for yourself, I guarantee you, these people criticising you aren't going to help you anywhere anytime by any means, they have zero interest in your problems. Just being confident in your oversized clothes will do. At the end of the day, we came to this world to enjoy our lives, didn't we?
As a complete stranger I’m so unbelievably proud of you. At your age it’s hard to understand that your parents are your biggest supporters and want the best for you. That’s great you understand that. Your friends that are growing up too fast are going to endure things they shouldn’t have to but will because of their choices. You stay strong and be you. ❤
Worst thing is, I'm close to 18, and I feel like the pressure never stops. I'm glad I ended up in this part of youtube and that I follow creators that are able to slap in my face that the awkward teenage phase *was* and *is* normal, because I literally felt so "left out" when I was younger. I was the awkward kid, and I always felt bad when I wasn't able (again, because it was... uncomfortable?? I guess. I thank my parents for warning me about the internet and making me mindful) to flaunt myself and show videos and pictures of me in the clothes my peers were wearing. I'm growing out of it, I don't feel the need to post tiktoks or pictures every other day and, honestly, I'm more than happy like this. It just saddens me now to see girls younger than me acting like this. What has the world done to its kids?
Omg this is terrible. I feel sick….social media is truly the decline of humanity. But the worst part is that it can’t be stopped. It is always going to be a permanent part of humanity. We can’t go back, at least not collectively. It’s truly disturbing. I was born in 1998 and I’m 25 years old and I can’t even imagine growing up with social media my entire childhood & teenage hood.
Social media or the parents that allow this? We had social media. Remember MySpace? But it was not what is today because this generations lack of parenting. Lazy parents.
But we did! We had msn, Facebook, 4chan, MySpace, etc it depends on what else is there to suck away your attention, if you don't have good friends or family, or you don't have a community and your environment is bad, it's gonna be a bad time. Might I add that pornhub was a thing in our time 😅 It depends on how it is used, as teens we'd lurk to see and observe and puzzle at why people acted like that. At some point you leave because the environment got toxic, like 4chan, people moved over to Reddit instead. My parents tried to shield us from stuff, but well, they didn't know much about the internet 😅
My 13 year old niece is addicted to tiktok, taking selfies, using filters, and has a collection of beauty products. It really bothers me but she’s not my child and I can’t do anything about it. I recently had to block a perv who was messaging me disturbing things and asked for photos of my niece 🤢 it’s a sick world
Same here. My niece is turning 15 this month and has been on Tiktok since it became a thing. She (along with her friends) are constantly posting videos when they aren't looking at videos on Tiktok. She is a good kid, but don't know how the long term affects will affect her still impressionable mind. I'm not even privy to the freaks who are looking and maybe DMing her too.
@@nicolenotizieeamici my sister already struggles with her since she hit puberty and is heavily influenced by her friends 😔 she monitors her social media accounts, but I still don’t like how kids these days try to look like adults. She has a full skin care routine and so many makeup products…
Today, I saw a little girl, and I mean like 6 years old; holding her dads hand so adorable. Then, in her other hand, she had Stanley Cup. The cup was almost bigger than her. It's not the same thing you are talking about in the video, but it's still strange and sad.
I remember when I was ages from 14 to 16 trying to rush into being a woman. I look back now and wish I enjoyed my youth more. I never had social media and glad I never did. These young girls will hopefully grow out of this phase.
I am now feeling the need to be younger at an age where Im supposed to be grown up. Back when I was 14-16 I was proud of knowing too much and now I wish I could enjoy being a child. This was when Facebook and YT were young and couldn’t wait to be 13 to get the access. Quite a few people also lied about their age (they were between 10-12 year olds). This was about 15 years ago. I think the kids, especially teenagers always are in a rush to grow up despite what generation they grow up in.
me too but i don’t blame myself for it i’ve always been treated and mistook for way younger than i actually am u can’t blame children for not wanting to be infantilized
that is wishful thinking, does that mother posing with her daughter look like she ha grown out of it - in reality they are actually graduating to Only Fans
They’ll be on OF the second they turn 18. It’s how they’re being raised and what they’re being taught in school and out. They can make money by just posting pictures, it’s the gen z/alpha dream these days to be the next influencer whether that be on RU-vid or OF because it’s an easy way to make millions of you actually make it.
@@roboteenand red pill content made by older men inviting OF girls, degrading them essentially whilst also saying harmful things about all women and the younger generation of boys have begun to adopt that ideology, with the younger generation of girls only being exposed to the careers of OF & influencers which grants more societal points in comparison to other careers. It’s not “cool”
As someone who has been groomed online as a teen and a survivor of SA this is literally my worst nightmare. I’m so concerned for these young girls and they deserve to be protected from predatory adults. Childhood is so precious and it’s unfortunate to see these young girls letting social media pressure them into looking older than they actually are. I know…every teenager wants to feel mature and all but that doesn’t change their age. They are still minors and minors need more protection from dangerous adults. The parents are the ones who are at fault for not being a parent and protecting their children. It’s the parents responsibility to protect and raise their children. Don’t blame celebrities or influencers for someone else’s bad parenting.
I am the parent of a tween daughter. She is still an awkward half child half teen. My kids are not allowed on social media. The idea of grown men looking at my daughter like that is gross.
Somehow when I voice my concerns in mom groups, *I’m* sexualizing my daughter when all I’m saying is this stuff is not appropriate. Edit: I agree we shouldn't be in excess policing our daughters more than our sons, and tank tops in summer is ok. At what point does it do a full 180 though and you end up with stuff like this? In my house, no crop tops. Legging have to cover your butt. Natural makeup is fine, healthy and clean hygiene is always number one. And you dont need a stanley. The cup dadd brought home free form work is just fine.
You're in the minority and your healthy views mean more work for the parents and parents don't want more work but less and they don't want to be in the minority so they go with the flow and shame you for pointing out that parents need to do better, they don't want to hear it, they want more me time and they are fine with daycare, school and iPad raising their kids
Obviously, this is not an issue for boys. Most boys don't have any interest in going on Tik Tok and dancing around in skimpy outfits. Social media is much more of an issue for girls, because of how socially motivated they are. Why do we have to make a controversy out of the simple fact that boys and girls are different and not interchangeable?
I suggest dumping the group and going your own way. The argument they use is mental gymnastics. A knee jerky, fake intellectual response because they don't understand critical thinking. People like that take wisdom and reason as a personal attack instead of what it is: Wisdom and reason. They'll learn when their kids grow up and hate them.
No the reason why boys don't engage in such degen behavior is because they get taught what accountability and responsibility are from the day they are born and what the punishments are for degen behavior. Girls however are not, in fact they applauded constantly and applaud eachother for it. They even get awarded for it in short term. But the punishment comes much later, but by then they don't know why it is and how it came to be (Not able to find a good man or be happy in a relationship). So of course they blame men for it, not themselves which is all cycling back to accountability. If you're a man and dare to criticize them on their degen? You are a toxic man! That is toxic masculinity! You are trying to control wmn! HOW DARE YOU! That is harassment. Women are victims of men! Bodily autonomy? Schrodingers feminists are at the same time an empowered go-getter-queen-who-dont-need-no-man-and-can-do-anything victim-of-the-patriarchy, and depending on the situation she picks which of the two benefits her the most. Take TokkieTok/social media out of the equation. Even before it they behaved like this, but it was less wide spread. Remember MTV and those reality programs. Social media is definitely a catalyst.
Hi from Germany! there's one famous teen TikTok in Germany supported by her mother, she started when she was 14 and exactly behaving and dressing like an adult and most of her fans are acting like her now, and the ones dressing like real teens got bullied and feeling uncool if the parents are trying to protect them to not acting like that. it is a real nightmare becoming parent nowadays.
Honestly, these social media CEO hearings are strange to me. I think it's the parents' responsibility to check what their children are up to online not the corporations. If you consider social media a digital public space privately held, it's comparable to a mall. Would you let them go there by themselves in a lingerie outfit?
I quite agree. It’s still 90% the parents’ responsibilities. However, the rest 10%, I think social media’s age restriction need to be increased to maybe 16. It’s “just” a few years different but that few years is quite crucial too. Plus with the ai and algorithm technology, would be amazing if the social media companies could implement “better” censoring.
I agree in part, but even with radio and television, we regulated how those modes of communication could behave towards kids. We just take that for granted since most of us weren't alive when those debates were being had. Teen depression, anxiety, self-harm has risen in kind with the prevalence of social media. When nefarious practices were levied against kids of generations past, our lawmakers did their jobs. Now, they just grandstand at the CEOs instead of getting a legislation passed, and they even acknowledge that it's the power of lobbyists. We won't be able to just transpose the FCC's regulations to protect kids onto social media because it's structurally so different, but we literally could not be doing less than we are right now. This unmitigated social experiment we've allowed to go on for over a decade and a half is going to be looked at as a massive failing in a century's time (if we can get our act together).
ABSOLUTELY CORRECT. That’s my thoughts exactly. Anyone who disagree with you are part of the problem. We had social media before and was nothing like this. Is the lack of parenting or parents want to monetize their kids. Simple as that,
Parents definitely need to do better but let's not make excuses for the sick billionaires profiting off of exploitation, they have more than enough money to put together teams and programs to end it if they really wanted to.
I am a millennial and my mother used to tell me when I was a teenager, 'enjoy being young. Enjoy being a CHILD. You are going to be this young for only a short time but you will be an adult until you are old and grey. Don't rush it, enjoy it!' So glad I listened to her! I didn't date in highschool, never went to any wild parties, never tried smoking and alcohol. I dressed BEAUTIFULLY without showing any boobs. I literally played outside, skipping and playing netball with my other young peers until I was a senior in highschool, even when I was about to graduate 😂😂😂 I had so much fun! Now, as I have become a full grown woman, 31 and engaged, most people don't believe how old I am. Keeping young at heart and mind has kept me fresh. It saved my innocence and protected me from adult trauma which makes kids nowadays look old. I am so thankful! 😊
Some of these parents are really oblivious or straight up conscious of what their kid's do, and they don't care. I've witnessed firsthand with my cousin the consequences of this type of parenting. My cousin basically got pregnant before finishing high school, in which she was seen as an unruly student and got into an abusive relationship. I now have a cousin's daughter who behaves pretty much the same as this girls, she's only 14, but she looks like a 18 year old at least by the way she dresses and presents herself. Even her grandma, who is very liberated by the way, believes that her daughter is committing mistakes in her parenting, giving the girl so much independence without consequences.
The young girls clearly want attention, and in their nativity don’t realise the creeps out there, and how their posts are being used. Where are the parents!
Growing up I knew about those creeps, I knew what they were doing; It’s more that I just didn’t care because I didn’t have many positive male role models that showed me appropriate attention, so I was looking for it any way I could get it.
@@kathleenking47 ANY parent, it doesn't matter the gender of the parent. And quite frankly most of these kids have responsible parents but it's literally impossible (and not morally right) to monitor your children 24/7. At some point they're going to be influenced by a trend, or a friend who was etc. It's on you as a parent to teach them right from wrong so they know how to deal with any situation. Trying to deal with individual situations is pointless. Either you've raised your kids with a good head on their shoulders or you haven't. I didn't need to be monitored or banned from going to chat rooms or doing anything, my mom was well aware I was knowledgeble enough to never meet someone from online because she raised me correctly.
They know there's creeps out there. It's what they want. I was also a hoe online as a teenager and they know what they're doing. My mom would never support it but I still did it behind her back. Girls are just awful and attention seeking
The seriousness of this situation will not be fully understood until its too late. It seems people don't have an concept of consequence. Parents who allow their kids to post this content on social media should be charged with child trafficking. Maybe then it will be taken seriously. And I say this as a mother of a 19yr old and a 16yr old. Stop outsourcing your parental responsibility to everyone else.
That is a a great term for what they're doing, outsourcing parenting - counting on daycare, school and iPad to raise their own kids while they have more and more "me" time.
@@AA-iy4gm Uh or because parents have to work their azzes off just to make ends meet these days. The small wage increases we got pale in comparison to the increased amounts of everything around us. It is quite literally impossible to buy even the shttiest house where I live unless you are a literal millionaire. The tiny house I rent on a tiny piece of property is worth 1.7 million if my landlord were to resell now. It's absolute fcking insanity but we have no choice but to work hard all to pay someone else's mortgage or else we are living on the streets. Foreigners came in and scooped up all the housing and land, built sht apartments to stack people like cockroaches and are squeezing the city dry. Also, in many places it's literally illegal to NOT send your kids to school, and even it wasn't it's still ridiculous that you are calling sending a kid to school or daycare "outsourcing parenting". Not every parent is capable of homeschooling etc. I went to daycare and school, had phones and internet access as a very young kid, yet I had no problem not falling into these BS traps set out by companies, perverts etc. You don't need to spend 8 hours a day with your kid to teach them basic things. My mom told me about pedos when I was 4, I suggest every parent start young. Little kids understand a lot more than adults give them credit for.
It’s not just TikTok. It started with phones too early, then texting, then Instagram, then Snapchat. This has been going on for over 20 years. It’s the parents!
Taking responsibility as a parent / guardian and being aware of what your kids are doing online is a much better solution than blaming tiktok/social media
As an older millennial, I'm not part of the TikTok world (I've never used it, and don't plan to, because I can see the toxicity of it) and I'm childfree, so I'm thankfully not personally involved. I still watch these essays and many others about the state of the younger generations as I find humans fascinating in general. This may come across as a very cynical view, but I personally don't have much hope. It's a bit like the obesity epidemic across the world - the Western world has become so reliant on ultra-processed food (and social media) that I can't see a way back to a simpler, healthier life. This is the ugly reality of capitalism unless we have a societal epiphany, nothing will change; I'm not putting my money on a societal shift away from Social Media any time soon - not while we still think it's acceptable for billionaires to exist. This individualist model isn't going anywhere, sadly.
As a parent I agree to many parent's either should not have had kids or should do a better job of being a parent, I also refuse the tiktok app as it is toxic, my kids are only allowed youtube and I can view all their history take matters into my own hands when it comes to online controls, I have a joined family account to anything my kids are on and can shut it down at any time there is any inappropriate activity cause as a patent it is my job to be my child's protection
Let me guess, the answer is communism right? Capitalism doesn't cause the problems you're talking about, it's corruption that causes the problems that you're talking about.
@@leapingdeer7880 YT is really not that much different than tiktok. In fact I've seen far more graphic things on YT than tiktok, like it's not even close. Hell just last week I saw a video of a dude spreading open his azz with his balls and cock hanging down on YT. Was the video hilarious? Yes. But was it something I'd want my 13 year old to see? No lol
I am an educator. School boards are moving towards banning mobile phones in the classrooms in Canada. We have seen a rise in mental health and diminishing attention spans. It begins in the home with proper monitoring. However, not everything can be controlled. Parent(s)/guardian(s) are often not aware of everything their children are doing, so I want to cut them a little slack. Yet, we are finding that this behaviour is becoming a "societal norm", which makes it even harder on a parent/guardian. I report every child under 18 on social media, regardless of the post. No child should be shown on any platform. It is extremely dangerous. In the past children were seen as mini adults. After, the government implemented education programs and coined the term, " age of innocence," to get them out of factories and into school. Now, the government will have to step in again because children are being hypersexualized and families are running out of tools to keep them off the internet. We as a society need to let governments know that we need stronger regulations because we are warping the brains of our children.
Depending on the government to do something is very sad and wishful thinking. When has a government coming to help, actually benefitted people? It's usually not helpful and always too little too late. Plus, representatives are making too much money NOT solving problems.
In the uk a lot of primary schools and secondary schools have limitations on phone use or complete phone bans. Unfortunately it doesn’t change anything because it doesn’t take long after school or before to use such social media, they just become sneakier. Young peoples ability to post on the app should’ve been nipped in the bud, including now, it’s scary how much worse it gets month after month, instead of tiktok cracking down on it, they are letting it run rampant. Parents obviously have responsibility, not all of these kids have present parents or family, and for those that do but are just not well equipped enough, won’t be able to instantly understand how to enforce digital safety, so with the parents education of such, TikTok can at least crack down in the mean time. TT has so many resources for parents even for general parental controls & internet safety but it’s useless if they can’t enforce their TOS
banning phones in class doesnt do anything, my school had them completely banned but kids would still constantly use them whenever the teachers werent looking . it also just made the kids a lot more violent, and physical fights occured way more often because they didnt have their phones to distract them as much. it also doesnt stop kids from using social media outside of school
I'm 32 and I'm so glad my teen years' "social media" was NeoPets, RuneScape, and a very early version of Facebook. I remember wanting to explore 'dressing s*xy' as a teen, but for me it was just playing with an aesthetic (didn't realize I was asexual until my mid-20's). I'm so glad we have no record of that, or at worst maybe two photos of me on Facebook in a borrowed dress that was a bit low-cut at 17 years old. Every few years I look at the generations behind me thinking "thank goodness I didn't have to deal with THAT." It's been getting more like every few weeks lately, tbh.
I’ve now deleted my social media accounts, and haven’t been on them for almost 10 months, and couldn’t be happier with my choice. We truely don’t need social media, and more people need to get offline. Also, I love your lipstick! 😍🤤
Like mother like daughter.I’m not surprised at the one where the mum was the enabler. Not mum shaming but seriously some mothers need to worry abt their kid’s safety instead of tik tok fame or worrying about being their best friend.
Amazing as always!🤗 "I can no longer tell the age of the young girls" - sooo true😅 Thanks to them I appear to look much more younger at my 30s than those girls at their 'teenage'
Parents need to educate themselves around social media. They also need to start actually parenting their kids. Great video Caitlynn, this is hopefully a wake up call for someone watching.
Caitlin, just the other day, here in the states, these social media CEO"s were testifying before the senate about their practices and it wasn't pretty. The senators laid into the Tik Tok, Meta, and other social media platform CEO"s like there was no tomorrow. Parents of victims boo-ed in the audiance and it was just unpleasant. These CEO's need to pay for the hell they've unleashed. Anything from PDF file stuff to teens buying drugs through Snap. It's disgusting. I hope that congress here lays into them for all their worth and finally passes legislation to protect teens. This is the wild wild west of the internet still but teens are dying and being harmed and it has to stop
Thank you so much for this video! I cannot explain how greatful I am to hear an adult who is willing to pushback and recognise this issue in our society. I am in my mid/late teens and this has largely impacted my mental health and, I know, has also affected many other girls my age. The feeling that our self worth is only based on our appearance is extremely degrading and damaging. It makes us feel invaluable and unwanted if we do not succome to the pressures that weigh on us from society and social media. This issue is extremely disturbing and, in all honesty, it is so perverted the way that young girls and CHILDREN are being sexualised in the media. Again, thank you so much and please keep fighting for us x
It's so heartbreaking to hear that. Most women my age (40) have experienced unwanted sexual advances and pressure to look a certain way, but I thank my lucky stars that I was able to grow up without social media. I wish you a lot of healthy friendships in real life, and a lot of mental support and strength. You sound very self-aware and "society-aware", which I'm sure will help you a lot in dealing with these issues. If it helps at all, it really does get better as you grow in age, maturity, confidence and self-knowledge. At a certain point you just stop giving c**p about what random people think about you. I hope you can get to that point unscathed!
Over Covid my 3 teenagers became addicted to their phones. They wanted to stay in their rooms and I noticed a big difference in their personalities!!! I was so scared. I got rid of their phones and got them flip phones.. we haven’t gone back. I believe us as parents need to stop this. Very toxic and dangerous.
I have told my family about this, and they dont care... the kids have full access to social media. My family has already seen tragedy and i just dont want to witness anymore. Glad to live far away from them now.
GREAT VIDEO - I have 2 children and I think about this a lot. Mine are not teens yet but my son who s 9 has friends that have tik tok already. The issue is even if you manage to keep your own kids off social media until like 15/16 years old ; all the other kids are sharing the videos in school ; in the bus ; at the sport activities with your kids. You can only control what you can control, nonetheless I intend to not let my kids have any social media until the age of 15 or 16 minimum.
That’s true. It frightening. I think of this and it gives me gas honestly 😅. My child is 6, but her growing up in this world makes me want to faint. The only thing we can do is moderating and overseeing and putting up strong boundaries that’s not suffocating. However these other kids are sharing these videos as well. It’s a damn jungle out there!
If it makes you feel better, I am raising 3 daughters and this has not been my experience. I myself am not on social media after watching Cal Newport’s Ted talk years ago. We as a family focus on the real life in front of us, the beauty and the sadness of every day life. We are grounded in gratitude and I’ll be damned if I’ll let anyone, influencer or big corporation, destroy their authentic self-confidence just to make a buck off them. It helps that as I am in perimenopause I am focused on what a privilege it is to age, ie to still be alive on this planet, since the only true anti-aging product is death.
I am 33 now, but, I was 11 when I was hit on by adult men consistently for the first time. This is nothing new, what is new is how this is spread on social media and how permanent this is. That’s what concerns me. I think that it is entirely normal, and should be expected for young women to engage in this way with their peers. I just really wish they weren’t on the whole Internet. of all the things going on this doesn’t make me worry for the future because this is nothing new. This is something we have always had to deal with in the real life . But it is absolutely despicable to watch. in 2001 when my friend’s mother saw me being. 🐣🍳ualized - in this way, she cried. But ultimately it continues to happen to this day. Idk , I remember being that age. And back then my intended audience was my peers. That’s what I have issue with now, and the platforms should do better to separate teenagers from the general population.. -this is from TTS. Hopefully the message comes through properly.
This is absolutely insane.... very scary to know that kids cannot be kids any longer... I do not understand why the parents are not stopping it... 😢 It is going to be worst... hat off Caitlin to tackle this serious issue
Soo happy I’m not the only grown adult seeing this as a problem. Way too many people pull the ‘grandma vibes’ bull for not wanting to groom babies into a world they know nothing of.
I honestly couldn’t agree with you more. This is creating more & more little narcissisms in our society. And I’ve started to see how this generation is starting to become affected. My partners niece is 13 and looks about 17 years old I dread to think what men must think or message her with. But she’s so so intelligent naturally and unfortunately she’s been excluded from school she’s not been sent to an alternative school because her behaviour at schools has gotten that bad. And I honestly think it’s down to social media influence. Not her parents fault however they’ve not been monitoring her on social media as much as they should be. It’s a scary scary world we live in. As always thanks for creating this video xx
Well if it makes you feel any better when 13 year olds looked 13 they were still being hit on by men. It's funny that you think they care. If she looks under 18 then they are creeps period, there's no excusing that because "she looks 17".
@@kltil5082 yes I know there’s still creeps out there at any time regardless of how old they look. But it’s still sad I think that young girls are no longer looking & behaving like young girls / kids. They’re growing up way too early.
I have a 5 year old and I’m in fear of what her life will be like in 7 years. I try to teach her to respect her body and I don’t plan to allow any social media but what about her friends? Fomo exists and I don’t want her getting pressured
The big tech companies do care to an extent, but not entirely. I would partially disagree but also partially agree as well when you mentioned that statement about these tech corporations and their care for the digital health of a younger population demographic. I don't work in the industry, but my level of prior knowledge, not personal experience from research, is how I could claim this thought, but it can be improved even more. I don't know if it is about balancing things or picking sides.
100% agree with you. Wether we choose to be a role model or not to young girls, they are looking up to us and copying/observing our actions wether we want them to or not. So I believe we all have a responsibility to them. Honestly I'm looking forward to the day when certain apps get banned because they're not being used correctly. Kyrgyzstan banned tt last year due to affects it has on children's mental health and I believe it is also banned in Canada?
Thank you for talking about this. I have a couple of thoughts: 1. Where are the parents? & 2. How many of these kids are being trafficked into this content? Also, it’s this content that has normalized p*dos. It’s all grotesque. & no. No social media for children until they’re out of their teens.
I don’t allow my kids to have any social media under the age of 18. I have 3 kids at home and two are adults. They grew up so much healthier because they weren’t online.
I'm 38 and when I was a teenager I used to watch Clarissa explains it all, Pete and Pete, Sabrina the teenage witch.... Teenagers in those shows were more silly, creative, innocent and focused on playing and studying. So when I grew older and my little sisters watched Zoey 101, Lizzy McGuire, Victorious, etc I saw those "teenagers" like very apathetic, frivolous, sinical and and adult-like in comparison to the ones in my shows. I guess many of those victorious and Zoey 101 teenagers became frivolous and materialistic parents or in the best case scenario: very weak enabler parents. And then TikTok and influencers made the rest ..
I feel the same way about tweens and teens under 18 being on Social Media especially TikTok. You are not alone with your thoughts! I am 53 years old and I have a 10 year old daughter and she has absolutely no social media! She watches RU-vid Kids and I monitor everything she does! She has a phone but cannot download any apps unless I approve it from my phone! All my daughters friends have TikTok IG and Snapchat! This is so wild. I know someone who had a TikTok teamed party for 3 year old because she asked for a TikTok party. One thing about me is that I am going to allow my child to be a kid! She can have social media when she turns 18 years old! Thank you for bringing this to light. I respect your opinion! ❤
I don't disagree with what you're doing. But you aren't "allowing" her to be a kid, you're forcing her. Again, nothing wrong with what you're doing, just pointing it out. You'll need to re-examine what you do in a couple years, because being under a parent's boot while everyone else has freedom will likely make her resent you and rebel to extremes. You're lucky she's only 10 rn. Everything changes once they're teens.
As a person who was given unsupervised internet access as a child, it absolutely ruined me. Short story short I did underage sex work on sites i shouldnt have been on and me being young and illegal was the literal selling point drawing men in wanting to buy my shit. I ended up getting kidnapped. For the love of God, parents, protect your children. Social media is devastating to a young mind that is so vunerable and sensory seeking. If you dont think its your child, trust me it could be. I would always delete everything before my mom checked my phone, had secret app galleries.. she never found out till I was kidnapped.
My daughter is 25 and I CANT IMAGINE what it would have been like trying to deal with this. She and her friends used to make videos singing Hannah Montana songs with their hairbrushes as mics and post up on youtube (but certainly not dressed like that!). I mean, innocence at its finest, compared to todays world. My son is 18 and thank god his only interest in TT and IG, and such are regarding video games and 'would you rather' and reaction type videos. I go up to his school and see the girls walking around the halls in clothes that OBVIOUSLY violate the dress code that I KNOW they have, but apparently means nothing (which is on the school for not enforcing it). But super short shorts, super tight tops, tube/crop tops etc. Fine for the beach or lake but not for SCHOOL (or other public places). We live in a VERY rural area. Not in a big city, or even medium city. Our middle and high school for the ENTIRE COUNTY is in ONE BUILDING! My son and his friends (both male and female) that come over and hang out, talk about these people and not in a good way. These are good, nice kids, and wouldnt say anything to their faces, but definitely behind closed doors they do. And im sure others do as well, at least the ones with some modicum of common sense whose parents are even halfway involved in their lives (on and offline). I always say im the worlds most 'okayest mom' but .... maybe im just a bit better than that.
when I was 13 all I cared about was fluffy pens that had bunny ears. The clothes I wore must have been in tatters, because my mum also told me to 'go change. You look like a pauper factory kid.' Kids these days blow my mind.
Caitlin, love your newer videos. Chances are these girls’ parents could be quite unaware these videos are being posted by their children. Also, what lipstick are you wearing? Best red ever!!
I'd say they are very unaware, problem is we have this postive parenting issue where programs like the ppp state not to intrude on your childs privacy, I'm my childs parent not some stranger my childs privacy is my business and I will intrude and have thorough conversations with my child about issues they are going through not just leave them to fend for themselves nievely and alone with zero life experience
9:11 this is what litteraly EVERYONE was wearing at my 8th grade “prom” type thing- what is going to happen to us… (I was wearing a long dress with sleeves that my mom made me… 11:47 bro I’m 14 and I still look like a kid while these people look like they’re 17😫)
Thank you for raising your voice on this type of problem and highlighting the contradictions of these social networks. I think the solution must come from everywhere, parents via education, school via conferences or coaching but above all through social medias themselves! I really believe that a simple system is feasible to protect the youngest but social medias do not want to put it in place because yes, they would lose millions of users and therefore millions of dollars in the process! Today many countries use an authentication system via birth number to connect to our taxes or our bank etc... setting up the same connection system would already make it possible to limit access to these platforms to adults only. But again, the solution exists, but the social medias will never align with this system to protect the youngest because it means losing a lot of money.
Preeeeach!! 🙌 This is a discussion I’ve had with many moms, quite organically, as a professional piercer. Little ones coming in to get their ears pierced and somehow I, as a parent of now adults, am understood to be someone the moms can talk to about the pressures their kids are under to physically and materialistically conform. At age 8. 6. Age *5* the skincare and makeup questions are flowing in when coming home after school. Madness!!!
Its SO hypocritical for someone who calls themself an "influencer" to say they don't wanna be a "role model" What DOES influence mean??? .... The issue is, they want all the glory but none of the responsibilities or consequences.
RU-vid live had two small teens with their number listed, and as off as it could come across that I called, I meant to "scare them straight". I'm like, I could be a 43 year old man. That kid was like, are you a 43 year old man? I was shook. I asked if I sounded like one. She said no. My heart 🙄 I told her I'm a 35 year old woman and I could be anyone. I asked her not to post her number. I hope she took it to heart. Kids need to stay safe, where are your parents?!? The internet is way too vast. I'm childfree by choice, so my opinions are a mixed bag.
Since I'm a teenager, I could tell the age of the last girl. It is disturbing, how I could tell her age so quickly, because it only shows how many girls dress/act/look this way nowadays. Many, many, many girls I know are this way since the age of 12 and I'm hopeless. Overall there are groups of teens that I consider normal, but are considered "weird" by most of the others. A thing that I also find pretty important is just the fact, that me and my friends have been called childish since 5th grade, even though we were all just children, many not even preteens. Beeing a child is not accepted anymore and those who want to be themselves, suffer from bullying. That's just the sad truth since 2018 (or earlier). Have a good day!
I have an 11 year old brother and I no longer feel comfortable posting pictures of him on my private facebook page. I was reading books and watching makeup RU-vid videos from Tati. I was shamed for showing my shoulders in middle school.
We both check what kids are posting online and we have discussions over it. I have had my online business for many years and pretty much never posted about my kids. Parents are failing this kids
In the UK as soon they get into 5 th grade (11 years old) they are already introduced to the 53 sexual genders, they do not study history, history art, or grammar but they study all about sex, gender, positions, what ever the teacher wants with the parents knowing.
My son has a tablet but its kid locked you can't download anything inappropriate and if he tries its immediately blocked. Parents gotta start parenting too. I can't put most of the blame on tiktok .
This is so scary it's like child pornography on the internet. The internet is destroying children people need to see what their kids are looking at and what their posting I'm so glad that I was an 80s.kid. We glad that we didn't have internet.
Somehow this reminds me of the scene in mean girls when the little sister lifted her shirt while watching grown women do the same on tv, only this is WAAAAY WORSE because we can not switch the channel.😢 never thought i would say this, but i am so grateful that my parents were super strict while growing up. At 32 I now see their prospective. Indeed how do we get back?
I agree with you - its disgraceful and detrimental to these young girls in ways they do not understand at their young ages. If I had a daughter (I have teen sons) I wouldn't allow TikTok. The parents that encourage this for monetisation - also disgraceful.
@@kathleenking47Becoming a single parent with few exceptions is a Personal Choice. If people would choose partners wisely and actually marry before carrying we wouldn’t have half the issues we have now with our children.
My brain thinks like you! ❤ i love your thoughts and i agree. Both need to stand up but parents, you need to step the hell up. Stop just giving your kids technology and teach your children. Social media is so toxic
I’m probably one of your oldest fans and I’ve just found your channel, I’m 64 years old and I Thank God that I don’t have any daughters and watching this, I’m grateful that I don’t have any grandchildren yet, I would hate to be a parent to young girls these days because I certainly wouldn’t allow any child of mine to have any form of social media platforms, call me old fashioned, I don’t care, this world we live in now is just not right on so many levels and for that mother to be encouraging her daughters, she’s not a mother, she’s more of a Pimp and exploiting her children for these Creepy Men to watch. What you’re doing and also The Dads Challenge Podcast calling out these people who exploit their children, Keep Doing What You’re Doing. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻😳😳😳😳
As an experiment my cousin (male in his late 30s) downloaded tiktok and scrolled to see where the algorithm would take him. It took 4 minutes of scrolling for tiktok to start showing him videos of teenage girls like the ones you are showing and many many LIVE ones where you would see very young girls sleeping, doing homework, eating lunch and the comments would be all from pervs sayings stuff like "take off your clothes". Then the girls start engaging with the comments and flirty to the camera etc. He was horrified and deleted it straight after. I, female late 30s, did it in parallel to him and only got makeup videos (I didn't look for) and cooking stuff.
Tiktok is showing those videos because that's what men are clicking on/searching up naturally. Don't blame algorithms for outing the insane amount of disgusting men that are out there.
as a 13 years old, what the hell is going on with my generation?? why is everyone so... adult like? not in a "old soul" like, in a actual MATURE ADULT. 14 years old and already acting like a 18 years old. Its actually gross!!
Of course that little 15 year old is from Riverside, CA. I lived there for a short while senior year of High School and 80% of all seniors already had an STD. I had classmates who were still struggling with freshman algebra.
Considering we've had kids tracksuits with the word juicy emblazoned across the arse of em in huge, glittery letters specifically designed to be eye catching (doesn't matter your intention putting it on, the large glittery letters are there to draw the eye to your arse, it's not even a voluntary thing, people catch the sparkly glitter in their peripheral and look, that's literally why they're designed that way) since I was a kid (I'm 33) things have been headed this way for a while, it would help if when people point out that sort of thing is a bit weird to dress a child in, the people who dress the kids in it didn't say "well that just the you're creepy" and maybe looked at the companies pushing this kind of shit as the creepy ones over the ones saying this doesn't seem right. Edit: Just out of interest, how does someone call themselves an "influencer" but then shy away from being a role model... surely if you have any brain cells rattling round in your skull you'd realise that role model is baked into the term "influencer" because the word suggests that you "influence" people, as in there is a good chance that the people you "influence" will to some degree emulate your actions, which by extension makes you a role model whether you like it or not, gotta take the rough with the smooth, can't just pick and choose.
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldn't just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring her back
Sorry about your troubles! Good luck finding a place where you can talk about them-maybe with a therapist or group therapy, as well as on the internet in spaces devoted to such topics. (But don’t trust all the advice you’ll get from bitter, damaged people-and those with bizarre political agendas!)
