THE GOAT, literally nobody talks about the stuff you do, and without you idk who i would be right now, so glad i found you all those years ago, the value i get from your videos increases as the years go by
We had an incredible event in NYC this past weekend. Wanted to get a clip out as soon as possible. I created this with the intention to keep it very "fast paced" and a shorter video than usual, with step-by-step instructions. I know there's people who enjoy that style so wanted to make something specific for you. Next video in the cue is around 3 hours lol (trying to chop it to around 2 and 1/2 hours). Thanks for checking out the video and let me know what you think. My proper self help event is coming to NYC June 26th weekend and headed to Hawaii for my next series of events in July. -Tyler
Started since the beginning, the ability to articulate your words in a way that we can understand has improved 1000 fold. I appreciate your sincere drive to help us out. Were slowly getting there and i hope others help! Much love owen.
G.O.D: G- Ground yourself in your own energy... O- Only answer questions that resonate with your energy... D- Do this for your own well-being NOT to impress... peptalk before the club be like
Meanwhile, the part you’ve also got to figure out is, when you think like you’re doing, it’s easy to fall into the pit of “trying to be true to yourself”, rather than actually being true to you. The difference is major, because when you try to be yourself, you do it for other people. Being true to you, is a lifestyle. It’s nothing you just switch into when you get out to the nightclub. Remember that.
I would not totally put O in such a way.. Tyler was hinting that when you fall into your own great vibe, you naturally won't register some questions.. If you focus on not answering some questions however, it gets you in your head. So just GD I would say :D
Man, I would sincerely like to thank you. A lot of us guys in game don't want to just neg girls to simply be unpleasant, and when I did, it would come off ingenuine cos I simply did it as an arbitrary technique. I like the idea of being a nice guy WITH high value, boundaries and the ability to handle tension
Love how Owen is constantly refining and improving the ideas, content and delivery of his speeches. Obviously, he's not repeating anything new (If you watch his old videos consistently) but how he builds upon his older ideas and synthesizes them with disparate fields of knowledge (spirituality + Instagram) is awesome. I like the written bullet points in the video too! Very helpful to anchor the main ideas.
If you need a written summary/transscript (just as I do) of this great speech, here we go: * Attraction is based around the desire for approval or the desire for validation * when withholding validation and then giving the validation later, there is a sensation in form of a much higher level of sensitivity * the people who you are attracted to, they feel that heightened sensitivity. They are actually very aware of who they get approval/validation from or by whom they don't get approval/validation from 1. Be Your Own Energetic Island - Be the hero of your own movie - Be your own party. Don't try to get into their party. - You are the giver of social approval NOT the recipient. * a lot of physical intimacy is driven by a desire for approval 2. Establish Your Own Vibe - Give other people the space to try to fit into that vibe - Don't waste mental energy chasing their vibe - Swagger means having an energy people want to keep up with * when you see someone who has some real swagger, you think some superficial physical traits of that person are worthy to be adopted (e.g. having a beard, etc.) - if you are a younger guy, you will think "That guy is in his prime, I have no chance to keep up" - if you are an older guy, you will think "I'm too old for this, I cannot keep up with these young guys" * if you are in a venue, where everybody seems to have a great time, you will start wanting to fit in, e.g. - in a hipster bar you will want to wear hipster clothes or dance the way they dance - in a high class bar you will want to wear a shirt and a blazer - in a rocker bar you will want to wear leather - etc. * Naturally ... You feel the desire for approval. You have to stop being the person who is chasing after approval. You have to be the person who gives approval, who dispenses approval. * What most people do, they are always trying to get into somebody else's reality. But you should want to do conversely. You should want other people wanting to come into "your" reality. * You have to audit yourself here. You have to ask yourself "What is my vibe?" * You cannot trick other people into perceiving you having a good vibe. If you have a genuinely toxic energy you are not going to have good swag, you are not going to have a good vibe, which people will want to be part of. * Key-Traits of a positive vibe/swagger: - a sense of humor - laughter - not taking yourself seriously, not being afraid of making fun of yourself - teasing each other in a nun-judgmental way * When you go into a venue and you are already craving approval or see the venue as a threat, you are already in a wrong frame of mind. Instead you should - be laughing - busting jokes with your friends - talk about things you are interested in and passionate about * You have to be on your "own" path * Not being reaction-seeking * Difference between reaction-seeking and self-amusement: - Reaction-seeking: You say something funny and you hope that the person will like it and then bounces that energy back to you and then you will feel good - Self-amusement: You're just saying things that pump "you" up. Things that "you" find funny, things that you are just sharing and than "that" increases your mood. * When you are the high status person of that environment, people will laugh along with you because they want your approval. They want to go along with the group. 3. Self-Amuse Don't Seek Reaction - Pump your own state - This draws other people into your mood - Self-Amusement increases status. Reaction-seeking decreases it. * When it comes to self-amusement, two factors are key - Authenticity - Relatability * Authenticity is the foundation on which everything is based on. If what you do/say is funny to you but too little relatable, you go off balance and you lose the environment. That does not mean you lose your authenticity if you have consideration for this. Being unrelatable simple means, you are being unfair towards your environment. Don't forget - you are still engaging with another human being. 4. Balance Authenticity / Relatability - Being yourself is EVERYTHING - But you are still relating to another human being - You must strike a balance between the two * Within that balanced framework, what they want to see is the authentic "you". Once you establish that balance, they will start chasing your approval. * Have fun with other people as well and don't give all your attention to just one person. * What will happen once they are in an approval loop and you e.g. suggest a change of venue (let's grab something to eat, we are going to club xyz), they will want to still get your approval and will comply. Or even if you just bounce within the venue. * As soon as you lose that loop of them wanting approval, the "line goes slack" -> it's over * Don't try to get them back into the loop. That goes into the field of manipulation and that DOES NOT WORK. Manipulation does not work! You know what does work? Being yourself! * There is nothing wrong to purposefully give and then take away. But really the best way to that, is to "kind of" pull away just to be on "my" path. * Always ask yourself "Am I on my path?" or do I try to get into their reality? As soon as you feel that you are energetically reaching for the other person, be aware it will not go well. * Frame of mind: Never have your own proactivity at the mercy of another person's response. * Sample mission: You are going to talk to every person in a nice and cool way from where you stand, up to the other end of the room. If any person is not into it, you are just on "your" path doing what you are doing -> stacking proactivity 5. Stack Proactivity - Make little missions to keep yourself proactive - So if someone doesn't like you ... it doesn't take you off your path - That way you are self "Self Approving" from YOUR OWN actions * At the start of the night, set the right tone. Regardless of however somebody responds to you, you always want to be respectful of their responses. Sometimes they don't want to talk to you ... great, absolutely, yes - see you later.But what you do is - if they are not feeling like talking to you - you can disengage quickly and keep going and it does not mess up your proactivity. * Know, when your energy is grounded in yourself and you do what you want to do.Know, when you your energy is "reaching". And reaching energy is killing your results. * If you are hoping to be attractive and you want someone to be drawn to you, then you don't want "reaching energy". * Counter actions: - meditation: getting accustomed to feel good in your own body without requiring external stimulus ° being looser makes you more verbally fluid and it makes you more perceptive to other people's feelings ° trauma release -> releasing negative energy - Make some cool friends - Have hobbies - Have a higher life purpose -> grounds you, centers you - Have cool little missions, when you are in a venue - Meet tons of people 6. Meditation Gets you RESULTS - Trains your mind not to need external stimulation or approval - Frees mental bandwidth to be talkative and witty - Frees mental bandwidth to observe people and calibrate 7. "Approaching" Is Not Pressure - Establish your own vibe and have your own fun - Offer people ways to join in and engage - Some will resonate and some won't. It's all good. 8. Offer Ways To Engage With You - Funny imitations and observations - Singing and involving them in jokes - Situational comments about dynamics of the group 9. Talk To Everyone In The Venue - Introduce people to each other - Over time most of them will chase you for attention - By the end of your outing you will have tons of options * Even if your life is terrible and you don't have/apply any of the above mentioned counter actions, having some fun little missions in the club can put you in a state of "stacking proactivity". Even if you are in a miserable mood, fun little missions can give you amazing and quick results. * Audit yourself -> do you give out too much validation, because you're making it about them OR are you the hero of your own movie and making it about your own energy? * Don't answer every question. They have to come into your energy. This is not tactical, it comes naturally, because you are having a good time.
You know every since i started doing game 3-4 years ago, I've always been nice. That's just who i am. The key is gonna be congruent behavior. The kinds of nice guys that finish last are not actually nice guys. They're nice with an agenda and the girls instantly pick up on that.
@@salembeats1875 You can't put "Nice guys" into one group. It's completely relative to the person. If a guy is a nice guy because he has severe social anxiety, caused by whatever, he doesn't have an underlying agenda. His only agenda is stop his heart from exploding and acting awkward (which everybody does to a certain degree). You catchin ma drift?
@@makegainz4218 This is a good point that adds to the conversation. "Nice" by itself won't trigger attraction. I think Tyler would say that the nice guy with social anxiety needs to work on "Freedom from Outcome" by gradually realizing that socializing isn't as scary as they think it is. Easier said than done... I've been there myself.
@Ranin Zadviylet Don´t point on parents. Point on yourself. Tyler had no special parents either. "I really hope he continue helping us". What´s fucking wrong with you. He´s preaching it the whole video. Don´t be so fucking dependent. "School sucked. Parents are just regular people. Cant learn anythn." Don´t be so fucking negative. Shift your thoughts, otherwise you waste your time watching these videos. And don´t feel offended. Be thankful, it´s just an advice.
i am proud to have graduated with honours from the instiution of RSD from hardcase newbie to ze' pimp! Still grounded in self development and improvement providing value to myself and the world. Owen Cook, i really love you. thank you. You are a wonderful human being and your legacy and work is phenomenal. in fact the english language doesnt have a word high enough to give you your props and love. thank you Timestamp: 0:00 beautiful intro 1:42 seminar stars dont make the person u like the central point of your orientation u set the tone of the vibe u want 4:00 be on your energetic island (beautiful segment) u have the ability to draw other people into your world and frame dont chase approval- give approval audit yourself to know wht your reality and vibe is 8:00 the importance of laughter and humor 11:00 self amuse dont reaction seek 12:15 authenticity and relatability seesaw 14:00 manupilation doesnt work 15:45 some how to stuff - stack proactivity 16:30 grounded vs reaching energy- meditation 18:30 instagram and meditation are friends (great tips on insta game) u can either meet 200 a wekk from being social or 200 a year 21:15 no such thing as rejection 22:23 some of owens openers (continues at 30:10) keep things light and fun + how some ways to how to engage with mass amount of people why owen doesnt focus on tricks and gimmicks rather deep identity level change 28:00 why owen wants to focus in on self development 30:10 more on owens openers 31:20 the pimpest thing i've heard owen say- straight gangsta 32:22 some quick relationship tips + dont confuse being yourself with being a loser 33:10 its okay to want to be around other cool people 33:35 owenon monogomy 34:48 persistance vs freedom from outcome love yourself- then u can love other people THANK YOU
@@mcmjr405 a poem: (Mos Def) They say the goodness in life belongs to those who believe So, I believe... YES! (Chorus) 2x I start to think, and then I sink Into the paper, like I was ink When I'm writing I'm trapped in between the line I escape when I finish the rhyme (aiyyo) My pops said he was in love when he made me Thought about it for a second, wasn't hard to see I could hear he was sincere, was a game of promotion The entire affair's probably charged wit emotion But love call your heart, I guess you got to pursue 12-11-73 my life is testament Praise the beneficent, element that rest Devoid in the form that make love manifest I spent my early years in Roosevelt Project It was a bright valley wit some dark prospects In '83, Venny C was the host wit the most I listened to the Rap Attack and held the radio close I listened to the Rap Attack and held the radio close This is far before the days of high glamour and pose Aiyyo power from the street light made the place dark I know a few understand what I'm talkin about It was love for the thing that made me wanna stay out It was love for the thing that made me stay in the house Spendin time, writin rhymes Tryin to find words that describe the vibe That's inside the space When you close yo' eyes and screw yo' face Is this the pain of too much tenderness To make me nod my head in reverence Should I visit this place in rememberence To build landmarks here as evidence Nighttime, spirit shook my temperament To write rhymes that portray this sentiment We live the now for the promise of the infinite We live the now for the promise of the infinite And we believe in the promise (love, love *repeated*) Yes yes y'all and we don't stop because Thank you.
great example of reaching energy, is at the end of the ted bundy/ zac efron movie, ted buddy's wife is literally yelling at ted from beyond a jail cell glass window "release me". he doesn't have his hand on her at ll, he's on the other side of the glass, but his influence over her life has given her an amazing sense of guilt because she loves him even though he was a murderer. it's very deep and an amazingly played moment by both actors.
This is legitimately one of the best talks I have ever heard (about any subject, but namely the content at hand given the gravity of its impact to a person’s life). Thank you Owen.
i’ve gotten rid of much of my “reach energy” through doing as Tyler said (being proactive, staying on my path) and everywhere I go I feel unbelievably grounded.. people want to be in my reality and everyone has the potential to reach this point. When one sees their own value and acts daily in accordance with that, life becomes surreal!!!
Thank you Owen. I have been learning self development for 3 years. For the last year, after a significant personal success, I have trapped myself into some limited thinking, literally wasted most of it. about 2 months ago I realized some of the problems, saw a path, and shortly after somehow came onto your content. It just made so much perfect sense what you said. Now im turbocharging through life.
Thia is gold! how he hits on each topic off the cuff like that and expalins so many newance points like telling a joke for self amusement vs for validation .... killing the game lol
Tyler stay with the 2 hr videos it’s who you are bro. First of all it’s you’re screening out the people who don’t have attention span, and creating a legion of focused followers. Also, usually in your 2-3 hour videos you drop gems in the last 15-20 min, don’t rob the audience of that.
You cannot assess the ramifications of the content before hand when it has so many mov8ng parts. Well maybe. But also. This guy is like Ritalin for attention deficit soul.
Im not the type of person that writes comments, but men this vid is priceless. I have got to understand how some people behave and very much relate to what you have said. Thxs for those free videos that you give to us.
Every point in this speech is so purpose driven and so nuanced I could watch it 100x over and still learn from it. Owen I can’t thank you enough for continuing to over deliver every step of the way
Last answer reminded me to a fishermen: He puts little pieces of bait on the fishing pole, but its the fish who need to bite it. The fishermen wouldnt jump into the cold water and swim through all the dirty water and mud to chase the fish. So put out all the little things youre abundant of anyways, then let the other people come to you. The ones who dont come wouldnt be a good fit anyways.
These videos never get old. I live on youtube and i'm always most excited to see an Owen video. He's on a whole other level compared to the other pick up and PD teachers.
1) Don't answer every question 2) Be your own energetic island 3) Establish your own vibe 4) Humor shows emotional health 5) Self amuse, don't seek reaction 6) Balance authenticity and relatability 7) Stack proactivity 8) Meditation gets you results 9) Keys to inner-groundedness 10) Approaching is not pressure 11) Offer ways to engage with you 12) Talk to everyone in the venue
Thanks I do them all the time in paid events. For RU-vid I share off the cuff rants because they are infinite. The structured content has a limit to it ... because, well, game is game and it just takes a few hours to break it down. It's all the crazy stories and rants that don't run out for social media. But I like to post something more structured from time to time, like I did here. -Tyler
The biggest thing is going out. Honestly after going out non-stop for nearly 3 years, I was able to understand everything in this video perfectly and it wasn't super new to me. Because I could relate all of it to experiences I've had. But definitely if I had watched this before I started going out, it would've been confusing and I would've misinterpreted it.
you can tell that even this comment section is good by the fact that people dont care about giving themselfs a like to get their comment started edit i tried to fix my grammar but i understood that i am allready ok i dont need to
Wow. Tyler. Strong video. The concept of "energetic island" and your reflection on humor was awesome. Helped me see humor and energetic giving differently
I CAN'T BELIEVE THIS CHANNEL STILL HAS ONLY 166k SUBS. That number must be deceptive in some way cause this dude is one of the greatest teachers I've ever witnessed. You're a true genius in my eyes dude, i've learned so much from you.
I love how you mentioned the part about how you just unfollow people that don't respond after 1 or 2 times trying to send them a message.. i need to learn this lesson badly because i always want to keep chasing girls that don't like me or that don't respond.. it's a combination of persistence and creating abundance so that you can just let them go easily i guess..
The stuff you say in this video is GOLD, this stuff could be so powerful if you master it. Lately I've been starting to notice this "effect" more and more and actually becoming aware of it and I've been trying to identify the behavior of people who achieved this "effect" on me and this video explains it so well...
Yes, finally. This is the real shit. You're essentially interacting with otehr human beings - if you're a genuine human being - you don't need 'techniques' really.
If you have too many techniques and gimmicks you become unnatural. If you just self amuse all day without any control, you become very unscientific. They key is to find a balance, a good mood plus skill.
"I don't require the perfect thing to say" Damn right Having the perfect thing to say, in my opinion, only matters at 2 moments 1. Setting the frame 2. Passing shit-tests Outside of that, I feel like saying the perfect thing tends to make things worse more often than better. Sure, I can look witty for a moment... maybe a few moments, but I can't CONTINUE saying the perfect thing. I think it puts me in my head and trying to say the perfect thing again. When I accidentally say the perfect thing, I find it's best to disqualify like, "Damn... did you hear how witty I just was? I wish I was that witty all the time." Takes all the pressure away from being "congruent". If you continue to have the right things to say, that's perfectly fine. You're witty AND modest. If you don't... it's whatever... they aren't testing your "wittiness" anyway. You've already disavowed it, so it's not incongruent. Not only that, but high-value behavior invites high-value behavior. If you showcase your wit and intelligence, she's going to showcase her modesty and chastity by suppressing her sexuality.
Thank you! I really would like to see you release a course on self development & energy. I know, correction, I feel the energy work is where it's really at for me. I think it can help my business as well help me uncover my authentic self
"We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time." T. S. Eliot
this. stuff. works guys especially proactivity stacking.. think of it as one of those video games where you have to complete tasks but if u dont complete them u still win
You make this look like the most baller road you could’ve taken Tyler, we (men) are so lost in the sauce. Fun just doesn’t make sense to anyone, it’s foreign. Dude keep it up
It's like if everyone is dancing and having fun, bring your own energy and swag to the dancing, but don't be the idiot who sits in the middle of the dance floor reading a book and creeping out the room on the justification that you're "being yourself". Be yourself within a context of relatability -Tyler
rsdfreetour I’ve been watching your content for the past few years, you helped changed my life and I am so fucking grateful. I just don’t understand how you keep taking things to the next level. I’m honestly always impressed.
