If you're in your 40s and older, you'll know and understand why this woman listened to her parents...in our generation, parents were more strict and we weren't as acclimated to American independent thinking as the younger generations....we did our best to be a "good" daughter/son by letting our parents dictate what's good/bad for us, even though at times they were wrong...calling cops or going to women shelter was unknown to most of us...
I’m in this age group and I can sympathize with her but I never let my parents dictate my life. My mom told me once she was going to marry me off to a cousin and I said if you do, you will never see me again because I will run away or tell a teacher. She never mentioned it again.
They believed their parents/family had the best intentions for them, unfortunately it’s not. What they did wasn’t right then, and is not right today. The moral aspect of it doesn’t change regardless of time and place.
Damn women. First time I get cause you’re young but second time you still listen to your stupid old despicable dad. That’s on you. I would call the cops on your dad and your ex because you were underage. They can still get locked up!
Your own fault for doing everything your dad says! You're in America, you have rights! You didn't learn anything from your first marriage 🙄🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Well, after 45 years I finally got married. So I didn’t listen to my mom or family. They made me feel bad for years, but I wouldn’t be the person I am now, if my life didn’t go how it went. I’ve been with my husband for 16 years. Love is a real thing! That’s y people get divorced. I feel terrible for you hun, being with someone u don’t love is just sad. I hope one day u will love u more, and stand up for yourself!
Yes! Better late and right than early and wrong. That's why the divorce rate is so high especially with Millennials, the generation that's stuck between tradition and modernization. Where you were forced to marry someone but knew self love enough to leave a relationship when it wasn't stable.
You were born only to be a slave fir your father to traffic from one man to another, sister. You need to come to this realization and leave your father/master behind before you will find happiness in accordance to your heart's desire. Until you accept that your father is only your slave trafficker, you will always obey him over your happiness. Liberation for you means getting rid of your dad and your family and going at life alone. If you can't cut off your family, you'll be forever a slave. Hope you free yourself. Good luck.
Why blame your dad? The first time it was your dad's fault but the second time it was you because you are over 18 and shouldn't let people make the decisions for you.
Her parents and spouse conditioned her and shield her from learning her rights. It's not because she was obedient, she has fear and that's how they were able to manipulate her.
Wow, I never knew there are fathers like this father in this world. My dad was very protective especially towards us daughters and I can proudly said my father is the only men in this world that will never betrayed his daughters. I thought all fathers are like my father until I listened to this story. Tus leej txiv ntawm txoj neej neeg no tsis tsim nyog ua ib leeg txiv to any children li os.
When my dad said I was a bad daughter for not listening to him. I said yep that's right. I don't live with you and you don't pay my bills. You already sold me once, your not selling me again.
Listening to stories like this, I wonder why these hmoob people still want to come to the U.S if they still want to live life like nplog teb. Why come here when you don’t want to better your life? Cas nyob luag ntuj es tsis yoog luag txuj.
Man this old days suck! We tried so hard to please our parents/family only to learn some parents never really cared for the daughters the way they care for their sons. This that had parents who love/support their daughter in this era are so lucky!
Koj txiv yuam koj mus them koj txiv cov nqi es lub neej twb tsis zoo es koj tseem mloog koj txiv thiab thiaj txom nyem es tsis tas mloog li ua li yus nyiam xwb yuav zoo duas
It doesn't matter her age or years of being trafficked. She's still a victim from young age; therefore, of course, she will be fearful no matter what until someone rescued her and educate her. Show some empathy no matter how many times she's been trafficked (traffickinb consist of many things that damaged a person in ways it can seem so easy for us to judge) and despite her age.
@@ThePrincessWorrior that’s because if she called 911 her parents will get in trouble for trafficking her too. I was in similar shoes before, I know the feelings. 😢
So sad. Please don't bash on this sister. She was controlled by her parents from a very young age so she's used to listening to them. I hope u find happiness one day sister.
Xyoo 85-2000 ma cov ntxhais nyiam cov tub laib tshaj plaws vim lawv txawj hlub ntau thaj hlub tau txhua lub sib hawm li cov ntxhais lub siab ntshaws ntag
You should’ve make decision on a man for yourself. You don’t need ur parents to pick a man for you. hopefully u know how to pick urself up and be happy for what is left of ur life.
She's a victim and will continue to be victim until she educations herself and empowers herself. Trauma is real until she is willing to work on empowering herself. Some women are self empowered and others are not. A great lesson in life is don't be afraid of change.
I understand this sister story. Easy for all u ppl to say.. why she didn’t call the cops. First of all. Need to understand as a Hmong teen. U call cops on your parents than u are consider a bad daughter. 2nd.. that’s your only family u know.. but where will u be when your parents are lock up? When your dad relative dishonor u and no one accepts u? So b4 everyone says Why not call cops and why she does what she does is probably because she didn’t have a family support. As a Hmong daughter back than is abt listening to the elders and be good. Hmong daughter doesn’t have any rights to their life.
Ca tu ruam e yuav ruam txog ntua qhov lwm tu txiav txim thiab yog tu xaiv yu lub neeg rau yu, ho tu ntse ma ho ntse ntse txog ntuag qhov ua phem rau lwm tu thiab. Twb nyob teb ncaw me ka e koj twb txiav txim tsi tau koj twb lo ua hlua nkauj zaum ob koj tseem ruam txog qho koj cia koj txiv txiav txiv rau koj thiab ce nw kawg zoo li koj xwb vim koj tsi Paub txiav txim rau koj lub neej koj thial lwb siab
How sad...your innocence & youth was taken away from you at such a young age. Your parents don't deserve to be Parents!!! I hope you'll have a good life in your older years.
We live in America and I willing to listen to my parents for good advices on everything else, but to marry someone they chose for me, heck no! The OG way it’s a No, No, No in America.! I just don’t understand why those girls that their parents forced them to marry someone they didn’t like and why they didn’t get help from all those agencies out there. I will rather die than marry someone I never knew/dated.
Yep! Thaum taus tus tsis hlub mas nyob taus lawm txhias niaj txhias xyoo. Hos taus tus hlub yus ib zaug los uas hlob li hlob tsis xav hlub!? Only complaints but can’t move on.
Tus vivncau aw koj yeej tsis ruam os koj twb txawj hais tag npaum no nev ! Qhov tseeb ces yog koj txiv yog ibtug neeg qias neeg tshaj quav lawm thiab ua rau nej kobhuam tag, ces koj tsis xav kom koj txiv raug tua koj mus theej koj txiv lub txhoj xwb. Es stop ! hais tias koj nim ruam ruam no xwb.
Thov ntxim ntau 2 thiab txhua yam nw yog koj xaiv xwb g tsim nyog liam txim rau koj txiv vim koj twb yeem tu neeg e yog yam g xaiv g yeem tiag tuag kiag lo twb tuag tau tshuav kom dig
Koj txiv yog ib tug hypocrîte nwg mus tsim2 teeb meem es thaum kawg nwg muab nej cov me nyuam coj xiab nuj xiab nqi, koj txiv mas yuav ua neej tsi muaj txoj kev kajsiab mus txog hnub tuag li loj, muab hais los mas koj txiv thiab koj niam yuav tsum tau mus nyob tsev loj cuj kom lawv thiaj paub nkawv txoj kev ua txhaum cai rau tej me nyuam naj.
Koj mas tsuam plawg koj ca koj txiv xaav rua koj yog kuv tes tug thib ib ntawm xwb tes kuv tub hu tub caav xwv rua koj nam hab koj txiv lawm es koj tseev ca koj txiv rov yuam duas tug ob hab koj yeej los ruam naj yog koj tsi ruam tes yeej yuam tsi tau zag ob lawm
Omg, so much excuses 😂 ugh, I couldn’t finish this story cause of her nonsense excuses! Not once but twice!! SMH, I’m feel so sorry that you can’t make your own decision the first time. But the second time there is no more excuse! 🤦🏻♀️this story makes me so frustrated 😂
tus txiv zoo ces txawm yog zij los yog neb sib txaus siab yuav los nws yeej hlub yus tsis mus ua elcheater, hos tus neeg phem ces txawm yog zij zawj los yog neb txaus sib yuav los nws yeej yuav ua kom zoo nws lub siab phem xwb, pojniam los ib yam nkaus hos.
Being a good girl doesn't mean relinquishing your rights to happiness over to your father. You act like you live in Laos instead of the U.S.A. I can understand life was out of your control the first time you were forced to marry because you were just a kid. But there's absolutely no excuse for you to let it happen again after your divorce because by then you were a grown woman. This time your unhappiness is your own fault. You clearly don't live by the advice you gave in your story. When you don't use the rights given to you by the U.S. government, then it's your own fault if your life is unhappy.
Sister, koj twb hlub tau koj thawj Tus txiv laib muab koj ntaus ntaus ce ua siab hlub koj tus second husband bec he seems to love you. Stop yearning for your lost befriend bec it's too late and eventually you become a divorcee again if you continue to do so.
Koj yog ib tug neeg ruam siab zoo dhau xwb os.. koj ces yug los xiam tiam lawm xwb! Tos koj txiv tuag tso mam nrauj tus txiv ko es yuav tus koj hlub koj ntshaw thiaj tsis muaj tus los txwv txiav xwb lau
Sister I feel sorry for you. It's too bad your father was never punished for his gambling crime. You need to find your own happiness forget your dad he never cares for you
Screwed by everyone around you. Parents, culture and religion. I always question why anyone would choose to believe in things like this when it doesn’t even match with reality.
Txhob ua neeg mloog lus!!! Dont think so highly of your father. Cov txiv phem li no txhob saib nws cov lus muaj nqi. He will not get my love as his daughter. Dont look dont on women who has been through more than one man! Because thats a double standards! Men have been through more than one and no one thinks its wrong!
You were 13 and then as an adult you had no backbone! Should’ve used your brain and called the cops! Those are hurtful words, we have kids because we slept together! 😢 Why would you associate yourself to someone your father knows! It’s obvious the person your father knows is going to be like your father. Your story makes me so angry!
A piece of “property” to pay off her father’s debt, not only once but twice! There’s a saying that goes “fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.” I wished you would’ve had enough courage to say NO‼️, especially the 2nd time around. Having come back divorced & with children! The good daughter mentality should’ve went out the door the 1st time your father “sold” you to pay off his gambling debts!
niag neeg twb g tsim txiaj li es cas ho mus mloog hais ua dab tsi na mi ntxhais aw yog koj txiv yog tus neeg tsim txiaj mas koj mam mloog hais yus lub neej thiaj zoo hos
Koj twb yog poj nrauj lawm es cas koj tseem yuav mloog koj niam koj txiv hai nas koj twb nrauj txiv lawm es cas koj tsis mus nyob koj na es yuav tus koj xaiv nas koj ruam dhau qhov ruam lawm thiab os
Vidncaus, koj twb nyob USA tseem cia niam/txiv quab yuam koj yuav tus koj tsis hlub. Nkawd txawm yog tus yug koj los tseem tshuav nomtswv coj kevcai ncajncees rau pejxeem. Koj tsis kam mus seb nkawd puas khi koj tes taw cab li tsiaj xwb. Lub neej txojsia yog koj li, txhob cia lwm tus rhuav tshem.
Koj this koj txoj kev ruam xwb. Yog koj paub tu siab npaum koj ua cas koj ho ua li koj tsis muaj qhov ncauj. Thawj zaug zam tau txim, zaum 2 tim koj xwb.
