To me no one is never fully healed but the key is learning to use those tools that you discover ed in therapy on how to deal with people problems situations life in general and remember to smile even in the fire
Hey Maya, I’m glad you are open about therapy. I tell my clients that healing is a journey. Utilize the tools you learned in therapy, and put theory into practice. Healing looks different for everyone. If you notice that you aren’t managing your “triggers” well, take a step back and reflect on what’s happening for you mentally and emotionally. If I notice that my clients are making great progress, I suggest reducing the frequency of our sessions. I just started my RU-vid channel on trauma and mental health. Wish me luck ❤
I think apart of healing is actually being in other relationships and allowing yourself to use your new tools to behave differently. Healing is really a life long journey but the good thing is life doesn’t stop because of it ❤
Maya I am 10 year older than you and loss both my mom (56) and grandma same year about one month apart due to Cancer. Here’s I can share with you the only way to MOVE ON IS TO MOVE. Move mentally, move spiritually, move physically. STOP accepting what doesn’t bring you HAPPINESS. STOP doubting your DECISIONS, you already made them . STOP looking to the left or right of you and MOVE FORWARD. When you pause time and life keeps going. Remember just like you have nature your friendships for them to grow nature YOU
I concur with literally everyone below. As a therapist myself, I learned while doing the work that there is no such thing as being "fully healed". We are constantly refining ourselves and going through changes in life so we can expect that some healing is going to be required in each and every season of our lives, so I pray that you continue to have a graceful response to what healing calls you to. It truly is hard ass work.
Good Morning, i think you know when your response or actions are different. The only way that happens is if you are placed in those situations…I guess bottom line is you have to put yourself out there so that certain situations can happen 🤷🏾♀️
Maya, hey girl! I caught this video while scrolling through yt. Happy Sunday! Your wash day routine for your sew in gave me flashbacks 😂 I was wearing that style for a couple months and couldn’t wait to take it out! The maintenance, the damage, and the smell you can’t fully wash out drove me crazy. I’m wearing a pixie cut now (no relaxer) and I feel free and my hair is the easiest part of my day. I cut off all the damaged hair and my scalp never itches and I can run my hands though it. I know sew-ins are trending right now but, black women, we need to do better with caring for the hair that grows out of our heads. There’s no reason we should be constantly starting from scratch when it comes to hair care. I’m sharing this because it seems that women are willing to damage their natural hair, just to blend it with hair that’s not their own. Itchy scalp is not good and we need to stop wearing these styles that only damage our roots overtime.
I definitely believe it takes a substantial amount of time to heal from a divorce. I knew I was healed from my divorce when I no longer cried at the thought of him moving on with someone else. I knew I was healed when I stopped blaming him for the downfall of our relationship and took accountability in the fact that I was settling for less than I deserved, and knew it…and continued to hold on. I knew I was healed when I genuinely wanted nothing but good things for him….but healed doesn’t mean that you may not still suffer from some trauma after the fact. It’s a day to day process. None of it was possible for me without God. ❤
This was a great video, Maya. Thanks for your vulnerabiltiy. As someone who was in therapy for years and continues to do maintenance as needed, I’d encourage you, if money is not a factor, to not rush scaling back therapy. As others have said, there’s not really an end state to healing imo; rather I believe it’s about having the tools at the ready within yourself and externally to ensure you’re on the right track.
You’re most welcome, thank you too for showing me as a younger sis on your channel that I can still grow/ evolve in my best self even after life detours💕💕🙏🏾
Hi Maya! Only 1/4 into the vlog, but to answer your question, I don’t think that anyone is fully healed because of constant life adversities and triggers. But I do believe with therapy and processing your emotions and focusing on your core values, then it’s not going to have an effect on you the way that it use to. Hope this helps!
Thank you for allowing us into your life. Forever give yourself grace. You will know you are healed when your triggers no longer trigger. ❤ you got this and God has you …..
I think its great to remember that we are always growing and changing. Emotions are fleeting and there will always be another time when we get hurt by life but its what you do with that hurt that ultimately matters. Thats why on my channel I make it a point to tell people that self-care isnt just buying luxury skincare and going for a spa day, its about the little steps and work we put into ourselves every day. Nonetheless, this was a great video!
Congratulations on your growth, I’m glad you are feeling more of yourself. Hold on to God, your standard, and your wellbeing. You have come a long way, and the best is yet to come.❤️🙌🏾🙏🏽 Keep sharing with us, you are helping us out as well.🥰
Maya it takes time to heal. Your doing the right thing by going to therapy and praying and also going to church. You just have to put God first. Have a blessed week
I’m my opinion healing is a never ending journey; within the healing journey it’s important to be aware of your triggers or when you are reverting back to the same pattern.
I knew I was healed in my Christian therapy when I no longer felt that I needed therapy anymore on the topics I went to therapy about. So I ended therapy with my Christian therapist. I also used my tools from Christian therapy to help others and myself throughout life.
Thief Lady Liar. its like an alternate version of cinderella where the whole family is running a con, thats how she ends up at the ball, and thats how she ends up in the palace, but its a great read, twist and turns. it definitely kept me interested
Hiiii Maya🎉🎉🎉 Omg! Why am I loving you sooo much more. The new Maya is everything! The shine is from the heart Sis not the makeup. Why our kids take the show lol when I’m vlogging lol my baby takes it 😂. Maya keep doing Maya cause Sis we see the growth…it’s beautiful ❤
The Roses look beautiful in that thinner vase and I'm so glad you left some of the leaves 😍 Dogs are very smart; Dior is for sure playing Amirah with that whining 😂 She has the Giggles; cute self ❤ They're Hydrangeas 🤣
Hey Maya! I use to be an avid reader and got away from it from just life. I just recently got a Kindle because 2024 is going to be the year that I get back into reading. I’ve completed 3 books so far. Before I let go by Kennedy Ryan, Blossom in Winter by Melanie Martins and Verity by Colleen Hoover. They were all good reads.
Maya, you know know when you are healed when you are re-introduced to similar situations they hurt you but you respond in a different way. Healing does not necessarily mean you will not put yourself in the same situation feeling simply just means when you are introduced to the similar situation that hurt you you respond differently. I hope and wish so many blessings on your journey
You will definitely know that you are healed. What are the things that you went to therapy to accomplished? Evaluate each thing and see how you feel or how you react when those things trigger you. If you can move on in certain areas, you will know.
My opinion… we are never fully healed due to a thing called life. Life is constantly happening and we are forever healing and evolving. Yes we learn better ways to cope and manage situations. We know better as we evolve. I haven been on this journey for 8 years and I am still healing, learning and evolving ❤️ we do move on but we evolve as we do and then we have to heal from more. It’s a constant but it does get easier to cope the wiser and more healed you become! I am excited for you to be on this journey! I am a transformed drug addict who has addictive personality from childhood trauma. I have sobered myself up and evolved so much that I don’t even recognize myself anymore! I am now a 39 year old mother of two who has beat stage 4 ovarian cancer and manages a multi million dollar business asset. Every level is new healing that we go through and come out transformed on. It’s the most beautiful and rewarding journey aside from motherhood ever. #strongwomenvibes
Thanks for the code! The hair gloss is in my sephora cart and I clicked on that link with the quickness! Thanks for putting us on to Oaui. My hair looks and feels amazing.
Thanks for sharing your therapy journey with us! I guess healing is something you will know personally when it happens, like you mentioned not being angry or triggered when the thing comes up… wish you all the best on your healing journey! 🫂💕🙏🏾Loved the joy and laughter with you and Amirah! 😂😍
Hey Maya. I used to do therapy every week, but now I do every other week. There’s been times when I’ve done every two weeks. I think healing isn’t linear so you’ll always have triggers but once you’re putting the tools you’ve learned in therapy to use and you’re not hurting about the things that used to hurt you, then you’re more healed.
Hi Maya, I'm brand new to your channel and I think GOD put your channel in my view today on purpose. I'm really loving the content so far, you are a Child of God trying to raise your babygirl and just be a success in this life. I can't wait to see what this new chapter and year will hold for you! It's up all 2024 and beyond! Blessings to you!❤🎉❤
You got this Maya. I'm a faithful viewer and appreciate your train of thought regarding moving forward and elevating. I don't comment often but here rooting for you girl! Everyday is a step forward ❤
Just to note put the eye cream before your moisturizer but eye cream can be for both day and night (I do night as well but if I want to be fancy I will do the eye cream during the day under my eyes and I see a difference for my makeup).
Good morning Galore Gang!!! Thank you Maya for this vlog much needed. Self care Sunday! One way to know you are healed is whatever caused you pain no longer does and you pay attention to your boundaries you set and make sure you stay true to yourself. Everyone have a wonderful week.
Happy Sunday beautiful! 👋🏾🤗😊 I know when I am healed from the offense of others when if thoughts or conversations regarding it arise I FEEL differently about it. Not just in the way I view it because that is definitely part of it, but more importantly the way it makes my heart feel or “not feel” cus we know pain hurts. Like at times for me depending on the offense it has felt like my heart physically hurt💔. But when God fully heals me, chiiiillleee✨♥️ we move on, we be good and we are ready 🤲🏾 for bigger and better whatever that looks like🙌🏾.
Loving your growth. It’s helping me on my personal growth as well. My recommendation for a good novel series is Ethic by Ashley Antoinnette. I promise you will most likely read each book in a day or two.
Fulfilled healing is an individual process. What you may heal from quickly may be a stumbling block for someone else. I agree. We have to make sure others aren't projecting on another individual. That healing is between you and God. We can't avoid everything. Some things we have to grow through...
I think therapy can be/should be a life long journey. Maybe you start going twice a week, then once a week, then once a every month. But you continue to go every month to stay on track. And speaking as a Black woman, we’re always living in a perpetual state of trauma so therapy never stops.
I've subscribed to your channel for a few years now and never miss Sunday with you. You've been through so much, but this vlog was amazing. You shone through my screen. I giggled with you and Amira in Hobby Lobby like I was in on your jokes. You really put a smile on my face. Keep it real as you always do. Thankyou❤
One of my favorites authors right now is Nakao ! She has an amazing catalog that you can browse and read through to see which one you may be interested in. She has a lot of series (that eventually intertwine with each other but she does have some standalone as well) She also incorporates God and his word through her storytelling; One thing for sure, you will always finish her books with GEMS ON TOP OF GEMS! She’s amazing! But yeah, if you want to get lost in a in a good read!? She’s your girl!
TBH what I'm hearing is that you're ready to start dating again and I think that's something for you to work on in therapy, the need to immediately date and to be wifed. It feels like there's a deep need for you to be with someone and of course that will come, but that deep need borders some deeper things and that's something that you could work on, there's something deeper there.
One thing about me I’m going to watch me a Full Mya video/Vlog you definitely inspire me to start my RU-vid. I’m a huge supporter girl keep going strong 💪🏽 ❤
This was such a good vlog. I feel like healing is a process that continues until the end of our lives. We will make progress in some areas. My prayer is that Jesus help me not to take anything personally because everyone is living at their level of consciousness. Setting boundaries is necessary. We have to be firm about them.
What I’m learning in therapy is that we don’t fully heal from things we experience in life. It’s a journey. Very linear, up and down but you can learn how to cope and move forward. We are always learning better ways to improve ourselves.
I enjoyed "Everyone in My Family Has Killed Someone" by Benjamin Stevenson. It's a lighter read than the title suggests and a quick read. I recently finished "Black Cake" it was a good read but took me a bit to get into it. Once I did though, I had to finish. Watching the show now.
Hey babes! I agree with another comment…healing isn’t linear. I think it has ebbs and flows…we just learn to how to better navigate and quickly identify triggers. You saying, That baby referring to Dior cracks me up🤣😩🤣
Healing is not a destination. We don't heal in isolation, it's only when we are in relationships with others. Stick to your standards and boundaries. Put yourself first always.
Great vlog sis! And one day you should check out Michael's for realistic fake flowers. I bought pink roses that look and feel real that i have in my bathroom. I spray them with rose scented spray and people swear they are real!
I don’t think we’re fully healed until we make it to heaven. Healing is a life long journey. I think as you overcome you may respond different but to be fully healed is an on going battle
