This cognitive reframing is a good strategy. Another one is to find virtuous wins. If you can keep your cool in the middle of a conflict and the opposing side breaks down in frustration, then you know you've landed checkmate without ever needing to land a blow. It reminds me of Star Wars when Obi-Wan warns Anakin that he has the high ground... find that high ground and plant yourself in that truth. Learning to keep cool in the face of mobbing and maintain the high ground is the number one way to overcome the victim mentality from my own personal experience.
