Thank you ladies. Well done. Nigerian and and African women need to flee abuse . Including men that are being abuse. Please flee a dangerous relationship
There is something you Ladies dont understand, there is a way you will be abused that you will be psychologically traumatised that you will even begin to love your oppressor, in fact you will even accept it as part of what you are supposed to face in life that even if they leave the house door open for the person to escape, the person may not even escape. You guys don't understand the psychology of abuse. So yes if you find out that the person is helpless, find a way to take him or her away from such home, if it means to bundle the person then do it because, it is now a rescue mission, and an emergency rescue mission for that matter. Don't wait until the person is dead please.
Nymma I do understand ur points but see when someone is traumatized cos of toxic marriage , thiis is mentally , psychologically and emotionally you're on the part of the wioman and for her to really start get that healing, she needs to pour out all in her mind ., And this will lead to what is called closure and this is what will make the healing process to be a success for the woman .
Once again, a huge thank you to all of you ladies for delivering such a sensitive but yet, an important topic that needs addressing! I am so sad about the death of the lady but i am grateful that you spoke about what she endured (domestic violence) until the day she died. Domestic violence/abuse is real and until we continue to speak on it, unfortunately things will remain as it. Therefore, please don't relent on speaking on the topic from time to time. We need to teach our women to speak out about the consequences of violence or abuse to enable those experiencing it to leave, likewise, we need to rebuke men that abuse women and for our young men to be taught to unlearn behaviours that think low of women. No one has the rights to take anyone's life!
What happened to our dear sister Osinachi Nwachukwu is rather unfortunate. It is even more unfortunate that the issue of domestic violence is more complex than the manifestation that begins to meet the eyes of society. In my humble opinion I believe the problem starts with the way and manner in which we groom our young ladies who grow into the women who end up in the hands of these irresponsible men who abuse them. This problem like charity begins at home. Are we raising our daughters to believe that their values can only defined in marriage and no where else. African parents need to change or adjust the perception of girl children. No man in his right mind will abuse a woman who comes from a home where she knows her worth in the relationship clearly and without a shadow of a doubt. No such woman with her self-esteem intact will tolerate a man’s abuse without setting him straight the very first time.
The fact is that the chances of a divorcee depending on the number of existing children has an impact on his/her ability to re-marry with men having a higher probability and these situations are exceptions. THAT SAID, no WOMAN should tolerate ABUSE. The ignorant misinterpretation and intentional misinterpretation of the Bible to force women to endure abuse should be rejected.
May God bless these women. Nyma, thank you for calling out tell tales mothers-in-law and parents who separate children from their mothers in cases of divorce.
Our Lord Jesus Christ has died for us to live. The religious practice in Nigeria really has to shift. Wisdom is profitable altar or no altar, use your senses.
I love all you girls , you sounded and spoke so well, as always Nima, is my girl, Tope spoke so well too, in fact all of you guys really exploded. God bless you all. But I can't be happy enough as you guys are emphasizing this issue, But in all this the Government is not empowering the women. at all , our politicians , some of them are women beater you know, So when this type of issue comes up they will not support it. poverty is one of the mean hindrance, for some women, when they say want to leave the men, the will deal with them once they say they don't want to marry again, you see the case of Atiku just recently, taking the house from the wife, men like that are more
This is a sad tragedy. like I keep saying that religion, what people will say, he or she will change, culture, and my kids will suffer when I leave all play key roles in this issue..
It is very difficult for a abuse woman or a girl that is in abuse relationship to leave their partner because some feel that they deserve beating and some called it love, and sometimes feel like they can change the man if they can endure, what they donot know is that not all man can be change
The world will talk anyway, so why bother. I concur timing isn’t important, flee from an abusive situation first and if needed, it’s your life, your business, your pain
My humble opinion in the issue of domestic violence is that women should learn to be women,wife and not the other way round... cos i've been thinking why do 95% of Africa Men die before their wives... this is