Vidya is very intelligent...The whole podcast..The way she was taking a pause....thinking about the questions answeing...I felt so good. It felt like Raj is the younger brother and Vidya is the elder sister...both adults discussing LIFE❤
Thoroughly enjoyed this podcast. I repeat myself here saying this, "Raj, I love your way of interacting with your guests. You let them talk and you listen well and your questions are well curated and thoughtful."
Totally agree as I love watching his style of interaction so very pure something like what we would ask if we were in his place:) I’ve been watching most of your shows as I missed so many from the past.. keep going Raj! Kudos
Actually, their chemistry was good in Guru. Her chemistry with Farhan, Manav Kaul and Pratik Gandhi is beautiful. But Madhavan will come close to a husband like look, a lot like Siddharth.
Vidya’s self awareness is a lot and her EQ is high. Her explanation about connection and instant simulation is perfect. Being scared of connection is also true because our generation is suffering from major Fomo. Her explanation about being insecure is the reason for cheating is psychology backed. But the host talking about keeping the experiences alive to maintain the relationship is also psychology backed.
This is such a beautiful episode. What I love about Raj is that he doesn't shy away from putting across his point of view and stick to it and justify it sensibly
53:00 "connection se daar lagta ha".. afraid of trauma, the sadness it brings, we see constantly connections getting broken evey day, whether loosing someone, pets, no one stays forever, don't wannay be vulnerable for anyone to hurt you later. Connections are meaningless just harmonal highs, its you, your personality, your journey, also no one wants to change for the other person, you want to get accepted as you are, (I am not saying not dresssing up) like not wanting to put up a show for the other person, relationships nowdays are only for adventurous types, looking for thrill of dangers(breakups), cheating/affairs just the thrill of getting caught, not like hiking because its difficult and challenging, but like gambling, its easy and gives similar high. Idk, finding true honest people that are willing to open up, show true self, is very difficult, social dating is all a show,(show of money power influence) no one want to see or even think of the future like 20-30yrs down the line, how will life look like, how we want to spend our future together, everyone wants to just live in today, aaj hi karlo jo bhi karna ha, kal ka kuch nahi pata, But no one is planning for the furture and acting accordingly, thats why these situationships, meaningless relationships. Great show. Bro I want you work with you if possible, this was a deep conversation, thoda deep and better questions aur and it will be Lex Fridman lvl.
This is not jus an interview this is a reflection of everyone's relationships which we all faced and some will. We need some other podcasts like this to understand things.
lack of connection with yourself definitely comes in the way of one forming a connection with the world. and I have experienced this firsthand.
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The best part was end of the conversation where you mentioned that you skipped all the questions to keep the originality. It so simple to have conversations and you proved it right rather faking it. Its wow ❤
Vidya Balan is my all time favourite...not just her looks, but how she thinks and speak is soooooooo deep & beautiful.....This podcast is just awesome...THE COMBINATION of Vidya and Raj is mind blowing....Lovely coversation
Same dear my husband is in armed forces and i am in state government job. So we have to live apart. But if you want to make it happen everything goes smoothly
She’s an actor and an amazing one, why no questions asked about her methodology of acting/ her work, like for example, Manoj Bajpai was asked. Imagine if Manoj Bajpai spoke about the relationship with his wife for an hour and nothing about acting.
heyy,actually the thing is that shes here for her movie promotion,and hence its more relationship based(as per the movie also),shes been doing similar promotions at other places also
This was an amazing episode ❤. She is so sensible and smart in her life. I love the healer part, and to every modern day persepective she has one that defines her soul. 😍
We can ask @rajshamani to get her back to talk about her acting journey bec that interests allllll of us. 👍 but this doesn’t undermine this podcast in any way. This conversation was excellent bec it got us to know Vidya as a person. And she’s incredible 😍❤️
This podcast is exceptional, truly one of the finest I've listened to. The chemistry between Raj and Vidya is remarkable, and witnessing it has elevated my admiration for Raj significantly. I am definitely looking forward to tuning in to more episodes. Good luck and keep growing.
Raj aapnae Jo apni mummy papa ki grateful wali baat btayi That's very very true ❤ We must be grateful to everyone in our life 🙏 I'm grateful to Raj becoz he gives me very informative podcasts. Thankyou thankyou thankyou 🙏🙏🙏
This is the second time i am listening to Vidya mam on a podcast. She is such a beautiful person inside and out. Her thinking, her point of views are so on point. I could really see myself agreeing to what she was saying. And Raj this is the first time i am watching your podcast and i must say Its brilliant ❤❤❤
Raj you are a great conversationalist! Vidya Balan is an exceptional individual! She has no star airs, she is listening to what Raj has to say with keen interest and excitement. Her thoughts are so sorted and she comes out as a truly humble and genuine person! I am a great admirer of her acting prowess but now admire her intellect and her thought process as well. 😊
Raj is right here. Even when you are in bad mood, you don’t have to take out frustration of someone on people who love you are there for you. So your 5 min rituals is well thought out and healthy. You don’t have to brush off people who have nothing to do with your bad mood. And you can give a couple of minutes and tell them that you are tired and you will come back to them in an hour or whatever. What Vidya is saying here is not healthy but it works for her because her husband is like that, he doesn’t feel there is a need to tell her that he needs his space but just takes it, but you have chosen to be in the relationship and it is your prerogative to communicate your needs instead of expecting someone to just guess.
I think it is a balance of both. Overall one should give that 5 mins time every dayand make that effort because the relationship was a choice of ours. But again there are days when you are so tired or down or whatever you need your alone time, then you should be able to shut off without any explanation. Even if in those occasions you feel the need to explain your mood, etc for 5 mins, then one day you will surely get tired trying to live up to the best version of yourself, you’ll feel drained off, your relationship will feel fake and you’ll be neglecting yourself. A family is someone in front of whom you can be the most authentic version of yourself. If they can’t take your bad days they are not family, similarly you should accept the bad days of your partner or parents. There is always a thin line though. For example if you face toxicity or abuse at work you don’t have the right to channel or project that toxicity on your family/ relationship. But you can always come home and ask for a day to yourself… This would be happily accepted by your loved ones if for the majority of the other days you ensure that you have spent time with them. They are assured that you love and respect them and your efforts, so they will respect your space. So more than extreme of a scale, it’s balancing both in the right amount. Example: if someone who is a kind and sweet person behaves rudely then automatically the people around understand that he/she might be going through something difficult even without an explanation and will be supportive. But if someone constantly avoids or behaves badly and never seems to care, then even the smallest things can trigger discord. So the bottom line is, be kind and understanding, try to put yourself in the shoes of your loved ones and understand their feelings and needs. Respect and give them time, at the same time be brutally honest with them. This way no one gets tired or unhappy, both you and the ones around you.
Don’t u think that’s very unrealistic to expect. We are humans we are going to have certain implosions and outbursts it’s only natural u can’t be a calm rational logical mahatma machine all the time and I think having a partner that allows u the space to do that is very cool
@@ayushisharma162 you are confusing allowing space with lack of communication. And no, if you are doing something wrong you need to make efforts to be better instead of blaming your short comings on 'I am only human', that is not being human that's being lazy, avoiding doing inner work. It you want to stay that way then do, but them don't be in relationship or expect the other person to tolerate your toxic traits. You will still get space if you just tell the other person that you need some space instead of throwing tantrums and expecting the other person to just get 'the hint', it is disrespectful.
@@AishiBhattacharyaOfficial I understand what you are saying, but if you love your family why would you be rude to them even when you had bad day? Esp when they are being nice to you. I think it is not right to expect your family to tolerate your bad behavior just because that is your family and you can be your authentic self. The point is, what is your authentic self? Do you think being irritated is your authentic self? Is that you 95% of the time or is that only 5%? If it is only 5% then it is not yourself, yourself is the version that you are most of the times. And if your 'authentic self' is someone who snaps at people who are just being nice with you then you need to change your authentic self because that authentic self is toxic. I hope you are getting what I am trying today. Realizing that our time here is short, oue time with our family and loved ones is limited then why cause unnecessary drama? In my opinion your family is your family later, everyone in it is an individual first and you have to respect them, you have to respect the people you spend moat if your time instead of taking them for granted or treating them with a lower version of you.
@@SA-cb2it i think like I said it's unrealistic to always expect yourself to be perfect. And that's where a good partner can be understanding. Being a good communicator doesn't mean u have to be a good communicator ALL the time. It's not possible. Otherwise we would never experience any negative emotions ever. Rationalising and hacking relationship through guidelines and rules is one thing. But giving your space to truly be human sometimes is also an understandable aspect of existing. It's really not that big a deal if one day out of several days there is simply a breakdown in communication on your end. You can circle back to it when u r feeling better. It's not that big a deal. Always working on yourself like you are self improvement project 24x7 is actually detrimental to your natural existence. Balance is everything
Vidya Balan is the only actress who has used weight as her fortay instead of her weakness! Even Bharati was insecure about her weight! Urumi is my favourite where she has portrayed a priest! and she is narrating the incarnation of : Urumi!
Podcasts mein na yeh ek bada gap tha ke beerbiceps he hai jo sabse top ka podcaster hai but honestly he is lame. His way of conducting podcast sucks. Yeh cheezein sabhi maante hai. We as viewers were wanting ke koi iss gap ko fill karde beerbiceps jitna high level quality podcast provide karte huye. And only Raj Shamani and his team does that👍🙌 Fills the gap✅ No bullshit. No rubbish. Not being over excited, just being perfect💎 Raj Shamani is perfect in doing podcasts that’s why we enjoy as viewers😍 P.S.- I’m definitely gonna watch film Do Aur Do Pyaar only because of this podcast❤️
I felt a lot of healing listening to this. Learned about the sofa theory, also about doing something new every month with your partner, so you explore and know each other more. My husband and me have been stepping out of the house for dates, but doing nothing and we come back feeling we have nothing to do. This was a super duper episode , that I could sit and listen to you guys for hours.
One for the ages, Raj! Vidya Balan Chechi (all respect!) opens up abour relationships and everything that makes it work. Pivots, perspectives and a positive feeling of being loved. Let's hope all of us experience it! Cheers Raj, and thanks for having this honest individual and supremely talented actor on the show!
Raj Shamami, your views on giving time to your family even if it is for 5 minutes, was so so so wonderful and a mature thinking. I wish my grown up children would listen to this podcast. Kudos to you.
Wonderful natural flow of conversation!! Love how you quote studies/research that you read during your podcasts. It'd be great if you can put those paper links in the description for us!
What she said is so true about connection and commitment.. at the end of the podcast..made me realise fault in myself and relationship with myself.what a great conversation !!
As somebody who is very interested in human psychology and behaviour and dynamicity of relationships between people, I loved this Podcast. I am constantly learning and pondering about human relationship with themselves and others so I found this podcast very insightful.
She is connected to herself..natural, genuine and true .. The Vidya Balan !! From her very first Ad on TV..predicted She will be famous soon..(predicted too for Pretty Zinta..Lyril Ad and Shahrukh Khan..Fauji) Watched the show first time because ..Vidya Balan..❤❤❤🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
People consider Virat and Anushka an ideal match but I've had always felt this couple is to another level...I like Siddharth more as a calm and private person but Vidhya is Just beyond, her personality is infectious...
Also she never has that sort of actor star like thing or attitude in interview it seems as easy/aura if you are having conversation with you friend or known person
Vidya continues to shine with her brilliance, and Raj, you’ve truly mastered the art of interviewing. Your ability to bring out the best in your guests and effortlessly engage in conversation is commendable. It was a wonderful interview.
You asked such nice questions . and the chat in overall was very informative , eye opening and leaves one with lot of questions about oneself . Great work Raj !
Amazing podcast, this is how a podcast should be equally interactive❤ . I have seen most of the host do out cast the guests in a way to show how smart and knowledgeable they are! Or not being reciprocative to the guest what they speak of. It's a wholesome conversation 😍and Raj have an amazing and genuine way of forming bonds with the guests 👏 and it's always a treat to see Vidya talking 😻
Beautiful conversation! Very human, guards down, aise laga hum saath beth ke coffee pi rahe hain. If only humans were so comfortable being vulnerable with each other... This is true connection :) Thank you once again Raj, you're helping me sail through in tough times.
Marriage is a sacred union between two individuals, a promise of love, support, and companionship for a lifetime. Weddings are joyous celebrations that mark the beginning of this journey together, surrounded by family and friends. It is a time to cherish and create lasting memories that will be treasured forever.
Felt as if: Vidya is at one of her BEST phases in life as an artist, a wife, articulates very well and a relatable person, so worth chilling out with BUT, On a "One on One" dialogue basis. 🌹 ✨️ Thoroughly satiated with this podcast, you conducted it so well Raj. God Bless ❤ 🙏 ❗️
The entire podcast had such a natural flow of normal conversation that it made me think about a lot of aspects in relationships. Kudos to you @Raj Shamani that you held up to a natural dialogue in progress for an hour as compared to asking noted down ‘interview’ questions. Vidya Balan of course is someone who is loved by millions but her thoughtful mature answers made the podcast even more interesting and left me (and I’m sure a lot of viewers) pondering over inward connections, validation and stuff to bring novelty in relationships while not losing connection with yourself and the need for space! Thx for such a natural progress of conversation Raj. And I must say thx also bec I also learnt about the sofa theory from your podcast only. Keep up the good reading you do. Looking forward to more learnings…All the best to you. And God bless!!
Raj when you say that even if I am tired, I need to give my family and friends at least 5 mins, that's not right. Vidya is so right and the way she explained you is beautiful. You have to have your time and when you take some time for yourself, you really come back fresh and much better. When they are you closest, they will understand that you too can have a bad day. Never over compensate.
You know what? I am a CA student and i really don't have enough time during the day to listen to anything except my lectures. BUT i really reallyyyy enjoy listening to your podcasts Raj and everyday i am able to learn so many new things :) So what i do is, I put on your podcasts while writing down my notes! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE INCREDIBLE AND THE BEST PODCASTS EVER 🧿
Fantastic show raj with a brilliant & natural actor vidya Balan true conversation about how a relationship should be between our people ...... lovely show I am proudly watching this show on you tube channel on my computer from chennai, Bharat
Lovely, honest, real, organic & insightful conversation. Vidya doesn't shy from admitting she has flaws and is working on them on a daily, is not pompous or has airs about her. Love that Raj takes time to listen and respond which is a great quality as a person, not just a host. Some great insights, anecdotes & learnings shared by both that made this chat so great. Loved every moment of it. Great format for a podcast. ❤🙏 The show is aptly named.
Brilliant podcast, first 10 mins of it and I'm hooked, compelled to comment right away and sold on it to watch full. Also how about if I feel like the air and neither the boat nor the anchor?
I just love the conversation I usually miss this go with the flow attitude in your podcast I am glad that you didn't open your note book keep making such natural conversation podcast ..best of luck
Wow, this was super awesome, l felt like me and my sis have deep conversation like these and getting answers for so many questions by itself. Keep growing, loads of wishes 😊😊
Hey Raj I am writing this because I have seen Divya on TRS and on this podcast both. I feel how Divya is an example off being independent but also acknowledging the other person's presence is a great discovery. U would live to explore her healing journey as a tomboy and then later accept her femininity without feeling shy of it. As she has talked about it very little but very wisely.
Amazing!!!!!!! I didn't know what I was looking for until I watched this. And I got everything I am looking for from this. Thank you for bringing out such beautiful content. Lots of love.
what a beautiful conversation..... every point of relationship is discussed here, its a good lessons for us too........ keep it up Raj.... wonderful show
