German boyfriend saying ‘I don’t want anyone wearing a green suit but me 😢’ is sooooo adorable and totally understandable!! He should get to have his big day of standing out too 🥰🥰🥰
Honestly i doubt he will have a problem in Germany having someone else wearing a green suit to his wedding. I never saw men wearing something else than a black or a dark blue suit to a german wedding. I mean maybe the shirt could be colored, but even that would be rare. Most man wear white shirts to a wedding.
When I got married in Thailand, I proposed to her on a wednesday. We tiold her mom and she immediaely told us we had to go to a monk and find an auspicious date. We did the same day, and he told us: In two days. 48 hours later we were married in a wedding with hundreds of people. We have been happily married for 17 years now. Wish you the best!
Your hubby is a funny guy. "In Germany we also have fortune tellers. They are in the Amt, and if you don't take the appointment, there will be no wedding." Love it!
Uyen-My friend in Thailand married an American. The Thai wedding became a comedy. The Bhuddist priests gave the bride the day using bride n groom’s birthdates. All the guests arrived from all over the world to Thailand. All of a sudden the Priests realized that when they set the date, they used the groom’s date as if he was born in Thailand NOT the US which of course was a day earlier than Thai time! They redid it and said they had to wait 3 weeks. With guests from all over, that couldn’t happen so the Priests found a lucky number day so the wedding was only delayed 2 days! So be sure when you give the fortune teller his day of birth give them the day it would be in Vietnam!
So the best thing to do is get married in Vietnam first so you have the money to pay for the German wedding! Haha!! 😃 I'm so excited for you both!!! Much love to you from me in Australia.
Good idea but the German wedding has to be planed super far in advance because “wedding season” is getting bigger each year. Depends what kind of location you want. You need to get the official wedding where you sign first then you can have the church wedding in Germany! Hahah and it’s expensive omg…. My friend is spending almost 30.000€ and then you have to spend almost over a 100€ as a single person for the food and catering so you basically pay it back 🤡😆
Honestly, the idea of making a photoshoot in advance is brilliant. That way the "fancy" pics can be redone if they turn out shitty and the couple can focus on enjoying the wedding, and the photographer can focus on the spontaneous pics of everyone. 10/10 would consider.
American here - it's very common to leave for the honeymoon right after the wedding. For ours, we left the wedding reception and drove 2 hours to our hotel then the next morning drove another 4 hours to the beach. Most people I know leave the wedding and go stay at a nice hotel before continuing on to their honeymoon.
@@CableFlame in hollywood movies it's usually that, straight to airport after the ceremony, but even having the honeymoon day after wedding is pretty sudden. From the way she described german weddings it sounds the same as Norway's where I live, and we'd wait at least a week before honeymoon (weddings lasting past midnight makes the day after pretty exhausting), some would even wait months before going on their honeymoon.
For avoiding the issue of guests expecting you to drink too much, you can do what we did in my bar when patrons pressured us to drink with them: have non-alcoholic beer and cocktails ready. We had code names: "Super strong beer" and "Tipsy Loo"
Being a south asian I can understand the enthusiasm of family for wedding... For Asian wedding is a celebration once in a lifetime so they try to make it as grand and memorable as possible 😁
Same I was the only child and usually they didn’t try to make too much fuss about it…until I got engaged and that sort of thing 😂 then it became much more important (I’m half viet half white) my viet Dad is very chill, it is my white mom that is crazy af 😅 Actually all my Dads Input was incredibly helpful and was a nice memory of our planning together as he helped me pick out a dress with my MIL and with the flowers and colours. He’s very artistic and was previously a graphic designer 😊
My wife and I cycled around Vietnam and never got sick of being invited to many roadside weddings. We often had to sing or drink lots of crazy shots with the locals!
Awwwww ❤ "I like dancing and limousines too". I want Uyen to have the very best bestest wedding & hope she gets to do all the traditions that she wants!
A more traditional thing than bachelor or bachelorette party, would be a Polterabend, this party is celebrated by the couple together, the guest bring old plates, cups, mugs or similar stuff, and during the evening they smash it, an the bridal couple sweep up the fragments for good luck, and it should them prepaire to always work together as married people.
Yeah, that's very German. We don't have such a thing in Austria, we call the bachelor/bachelorette party Polterabend. In Germany, it's a different thing though, it's called Junggesellenabschied.
Yes, I was thinking that too! Bachelorette party is a very American thing to me, that just got adopted here, like Halloween. My parents back in the eighties had a three day wedding in Germany - Polterabend on the first day, Church and food on the second day and then coffee with the aunts on the third day. Polterabend is also very good to invite people who you like but are maybe a bit too removed to have them at the main wedding, e.g. if you are part of a club or a choir or an orchestra.
Agreed. Polterabend is the traditional German thing. And the kidnapping of the bride on the wedding day. That's during the party after the ceremony. the bride gets kidnapped by some friends without the husband noticing. He (usually with the help of his best man) then has to search for her in the coffeeshops, bars or pubs near the wedding location, and finally has to buy her freedom by either paying for the drinks or performing a task.
We also have wedding gifts for guests in Vietnam, usually it is a small bag included Vietnames tea, lotus seed with sugar (hạt sen ngào đường), and a traditonal cake (bánh phu thê). In other parts of Vietnam, people also have bag on dinning table for guest to take leftover food for their family at home.
My husband (Vietnamese) and I (American) had a simultaneously very traditional and very non-traditional wedding, from both Vietnamese and American standards. We got married in a mass at our Catholic church (my husband became Catholic before the wedding), and we had our reception at a local restaurant with an outdoor garden. We had a small wedding in terms of guests with just close family and a few friends. Neither of us wanted to even have a bridesmaids or groomsmen, but our church told us we had to at least have a best man and maid of honor to act as the official witnesses to the wedding and sign our legal marriage license as witnesses. So we each chose our closest friends for those roles. Then for the reception itself, we didn't have any dancing or music besides the music from the restaurant. But the food and drinks were amazing, and everyone had a fund time just hanging out and talking. We also set up some board games for people to play at tables. We also had cookies instead of cake since neither of us wanted cake, haha. The best part of the reception was that we had a Fujifilm instant camera for guests to take pictures, so we ended up with a lot of very fun candid photos to remember the evening. We only had a few flower arrangements in the church, and I made some small decorations myself for the reception. There are a lot more details I could share, but ultimately my point is to share that weddings can come in all shapes and sizes. Just do what you want!
I plan on having 10-20 guests for my ceremony & max 50 for the reception but it'll probably be like 30 lol. Genuinely could not fathom having over 100 people there
I organised my sister’s bachelorette party, and her and her besties wanted to do something chill, relaxing and fun, because they work a lot, and most of them have children. sooooo we went out for brunch, did a pottery class, made home made cocktails, and did some fun skincare while watching a movie from our childhood. Everyone loved it 🥰
This made me soooo happy, Uyen! I definitely understand. I'm Nigerian-Egyltian and there are definitely some traditions that are trying to be imposed for my wedding. I'm really thinking of just eloping haha. Much love to you guys and you both are so very dear to me. All the best to you two and you both are such a blessing and a gift. Love you guys!
Congratulations! You sound like a sweet person yourself! Also, it’s important that you enjoy your own wedding. So do it however you like, your happiness matters most 🩵
Omg just elope! My husband and I both agree (after 22 years of marriage) if we ever get married again we will elope! 😆 So much pressure for a traditional marriage no matter the culture! 😆😆
Honeymoons are really popular in the US. You don’t always go right afterwards. It’s nice to have a romantic vacation after the wedding planning because it is so much work.
Yeah, at most of the American weddings I've been to, there's a part where the guests see the bride and groom off to their honeymoon (even if the honeymoon is just in a nearby hotel). Usually, this is when the couple finds out how badly decorated their get-away car is.
Could totally relate to the statement, "The sun is out and life is worth living again!" 😂 Cheers from another Southeast Asian living on the other side of Germany 🙌🏼
You forgot something very very traditional.. It's called "Polterabend". In many areas it's often a very big event you actually can invite the whole town to, or at least many people. Usually there is drinks and maybe some small bbq, nothing fancy, nothing too expensive. It's usually outside and people bring old porcelain, like old plates and.. Smash them.. In the floor. It's supposed to be lucky. The couple has to clean it up then with a broom. Sometimes it's A LOT. This is being done sometime before the wedding.
I don’t know anyone my age getting married doing that anymore. It’s outdated. I have attended 5 weddings in the last 3 years and no one did it. It a thing that was popular when my parents married (~90s).
@@gumfiffybon it's still quite popular in more rural areas. That way you can party with the whole town and invite only close people to the actual wedding which makes things cheaper!
@@joceery you're allowed to do both ;) Also: my bachelor party went as follows: I didn't want to do that crap.. Somebody told me, I can do stuff I love and did the "the boys". So..I did that. Rented a dark room, had everyone bring their computer and paced old games the whole night long and slept there. Loved every bit of it. I heard of others that did a basketball match.
This is such a cute video. As an Indian and Asian, I can relate to some of those Vietenamise traditions. It's always fun to know the similarities in different cultures and country. Keep up the good work and happy wedding planning. P.S : - your nails are so freaking pretty :))
I was recently at a wedding where the couple asked us to (if possible) wear navy, pale green or clothes of a similar colour/the same colour family because those were their wedding colours… The bridal party wore those colours as well.
Sounds like a US thing. The "wedding party" with the bridesmaids and groomsmen in the coordinated clothes and so on is a US? anglosphere? thing; definitely not traditional in Germany. "Trauzeugen" aka best man/matron of honor yes, but otherwise, there's flower children and the parents of the couple, and that's it with the special roles.
@julianelehmann ya, I'm in the us, i should have specified. There are so many beautiful traditions around the world. I love when the wedding is a community/ family event. Bridezillas are epidemic in the us
In indian hindu wedding too we have like 1000 guest ..some of them bride and groom meet at wedding for first time There are 3+ days functions for wedding And wedding guest dress the best ..like the bride has to step it up ..no body can outshine the bride Depend on region people do a sort of bridal shower ... Where they pamper the bride with her favourite food 😊 Normally gift is money and close family give gold or silver One tradition or atleast in my region of india has ..is to put a lemon on the bride ( normally in the bra) to ward off evil spirits 😅
I love yall videos so much. Im a mixed race American who’s learning languages, one of them is Vietnamese. Your videos make me so happy! Often about the genuine pleasures in life
I’m Navajo married to a German. We both agree and did our pictures before our engagement party but… NOT our weeding, like goobers. We should’ve done it like our engagement party cuz it took almost 2 hours for pics. At least everyone went to the reception and started eating snacks or they’d have left, lol. So smart Uyen!
My family's tradition is for the couple to leave the wedding and go to a nice hotel for the night, then start the honeymoon the following week. We packed our overnight bags in our car the day before, and my maid of honor collected the wedding gifts and took them to our apartment for us. I can't imagine having to immediately get on a plane or start a long car ride to the honeymoon, we were so tired.
“As you can see we are outside in nature as summer is coming and life is worth living again!” As a Canadian 🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦 - I definitely can relate to that remark!!!
It’s really nice to see your two cultures meshing into one another. I’m in the same boat, my fiancé is not familiar let alone someone of my race and culture. We want a wedding that reflects the both of our worlds becoming one. I’m hoping my parents can accept this, they have little regard to what we want. I’ve been crying a lot over the stress. But, my fiancé has been supportive and understanding, and that helps a lot.
Here in Australia, they have the wedding ceremony say around 11am, then the couple go away to take photos and then the reservation/party starts around 5pm. Guests can go home or find something to do in between. Can't really do photos before the day, because the groom isn't supposed to see the dress before the wedding. If you don't care about that, then I actually think it's a great idea to do them before.
In the USA traditionally the bride's family pays for everything (except the rehearsal dinner, groom's family takes care of that). Also the honeymoon is totally a thing and yes you leave right after the wedding party is over (and yes it is very stressful to pack for a vacation and prepare for your wedding at the same time, but it is nice to spend the first few days as a married couple having fun on vacation).
You know that the tradition that the brides family pays for the weeding originates in the believe that women are less worth and need to be giving additonal gifts? So not only give the parents the daughter away they pay the husband to take her. ( Origin, i dont think that people really think of it like this anymore )
@@ronnitschka I thought it was because traditionally the husband would be providing for the wife financially for the rest of her life so it seemed fair that the bride's family would pay for the wedding. Of course that's not the expectation anymore (lots of couples both bring in income now, though not all, some women are stay at home moms) but the tradition still stands.
@@qunstrudel not really because where the husband brings the money the wife cares for the home and the children. There is nothing what she needs to give in advance because of this. But i get your way of thinking :) and sorry for my Englisch, it is not my first language
I love the idea of having the whole day dedicated to taking the wedding pictures. That sounds like it would be relatively stress free. Plus you would not keep the guests waiting. I had to wait 3 hours in sweltering humid weather between the ceremony and reception. My boyfriend and i were so miserable that we promised that if we ever desided to marry, we'd atlest have a buffet and some sort of entertainment going. And air conditioning if it is the summer.
I think the idea of going to the honeymoon right away is that then you can have some stress-free time with your new spouse and enjoy life. Though here in northern Europe it's more typical to leave to the honeymoon next day or two days after and first spend wedding night in hotel or some other nice location at peace.
Omg a topic i can sympathize with. Me and my husband are both Vietnamese living in the US and even us had culture shock and arguments cause our preference were more Western lol it’s true our wedding is more for our parents too, but seeing how hard they worked for it, im glad i agreed to go with a big wedding cause they were so happy lol i’ll share some personal tips chi as our style and preferences dont really fit the standard there so make sure you vet your vendor carefully. They love to get overseas customers but some dont have good customer service. I had problems with my dress and it stressed me out. Make sure you get what you want and prepare to walk away! We also had our wedding photoshoot outdoor and my friends said that’s a very western thing to do cause it’s expensive and people prefer studio photoshoot BUT i love my photos where i went to a sandune, a hill, the ocean and they were beautiful. My photographer specialize on outdoor photography and i think German finance would really like if you guys have time and can splurge a bit. Vietnam outdoor sceneries are super pretty We fought during the wedding. Cause it was so stressful but we made it and i know you guys will make it through. So happy and excited for you!
actually the bachelor(ette) parties also came to germany from elsewhere (probably the states, let's be honest). my parents' generation still had a "polterabend" where you invite a bunch of people to your house the day before the wedding and smash porcelain bc "shards bring luck"
We got gifted a herbal salt for one wedding. I enjoyed cooking with it for a year and remembered that day. On another wedding wie got a Lebkuchenherz (gingerbread hearts) with our names on it. I loved it. So guest presents are nice
@@ChrissieSM No. Also not every wedding party as this. Oftentimes people take their name plates with them as a memorandum. It also quite common to have a guest book where you can write good wishes and when you are willing to splurge have an accompaning photo booth.
In Canada at least, the other purpose for the maid of honour and best man is to also sign the marriage license as witnesses, along with the bride and groom's signatures. Idk if that might be the same in Germany? They also commonly play a big part in planning the bachelor/bachelorette party. We have a unique tradition in my province called a social, which is basically a big party to fundraise for the wedding. There's entry tickets, a raffle, drinks cost $2. But the food is free, usually chips on every table and then what we call "social food" - basically bread, cheese, deli meats, pickles etc. Maybe even some perogies with cheese and potato. Ive been to a couple where they had pizza, but then you cant meat shoulder someone (put a piece of deli meat on their shoulder to see how long until they notice lol). Congrats to you both!
Yes, in Germany they can sign the license as well. They are actually called „Trauzeuge“ and „Trauzeugin“, which means „witness to the wedding“, which I guess in former times was a very important role. Nowadays it is optional to have the Trauzeugen sign the papers, from a legal perspective the role is not necessary.
@@Ohforgodssakethatsme Manitoba! I didn't realize stag and does/Jack and Jills were similar, I mistakenly thought they were similar to bachelor/bachelorette parties. Very cool!
Trauzeuge are the people that are there in church and / or with your at the state kind of marriage. They actively sign that they legally witnessed your marriage. So the correct translation would be "witnesses".
Yes, exactly. When I was my friend's Trauzeugin, I had to sign the catholic marriage certificate thing at the church altar, I think? I also organised a bachelorette thing for her, but that was not the main thing.
As a german-american (was raised by my immigrant Oma) I had no clue Germany had wedding newspaper. That is very VERY cute!!! Im divorced now but my wedding favors were little cookies in the shape of my state with a little heart over the city I got married. Also I went to my honeymoon a week after my wedding
In India we have similar weddings to the Vietnamese ones but also some aspects of German Wedding, like we gift anything, we have weddings in the night like from 7-8 pm to 12 or 1 or maybe even 4 in the morning. We also have astrologists who are similar to fortune tellers who decide the date. We also have the activities and rituals and our weddings usually last from 3 to 6 days Some rich people also have weddings for 8 days!
Uyen,in USA the couple and parents on both sides do guest list. 500 were invited to wedding. Many as bride I did not know many of my parents and husbands parents. We had 435 guests were actually at the wedding.
In Eastern Germany there’s a tradition where the guests make a sort of mini obstacle course for the bride and groom when leaving the church or courthouse- at bare minimum, they have to cut a hole in a sheet and step through it and saw a log in half, but sometimes they have to do a bunch more stuff like solve puzzles together. At least, I assume it’s only an East Germany thing, I’ve never heard of it anywhere else.
Filipino weddings also have small gifts for the guests. We call it wedding souvenirs. For example: a small stuff toy holding a card with the name of the bride and groom, the wedding date, and something like "thank you for celebrating our wedding".
I cannot express to you how happy I am for the both of you! Your guys relationship is so wholesome and cute it makes me go all goey. I love how funny and informative your videos are, and how care free it is. I'm one of your younger audiences (teenager lol) and I look up to you both a LOT. I love your journey as a mix couple and the facts you learn along the way. Your videos always brings a smile to my face during tough times and I'll forever be grateful for that. So thank you guys ❤️
Your wedding plans are making me excited!! To share some ideas, in my recent Indo-French wedding in France, we gifted a pair of little jars of mustard (from the french side) and spice-mix (from the indian side) to thank the guests. Also, all the tables were named after spices because we love cooking! 🤭
I like the 'talent show' part in Vietnamese weddings 😅😂. It reminds me of the time back in my home country when kids are asked to narrate a poem, sing or dance at the reception. It's kind of sweet.
I paid for my brother and sister in law's wedding cake for their wedding. It was a bit pricey, but i didn't mind since i love my brother and my sister in law is the best! Plus, i loved the expressions on their faces when i surprised them with the cake. They didn't know how it would look like. The cake was delicious and soon all gone. I think i did a good job in picking a wedding cake for them.🙂
"Life is worth living again" 😆 As far as leaving immediately for the honeymoon, Americans _do_ sometimes do that, but I always felt like you do about it. My wedding was quite short, and I made us a reservation at a nice hotel for that night. We stopped at our favorite sushi place after the wedding (while in our suit and gown still! lol), then had a nice time at the hotel. A week later, we went to a different state for the weekend to see different museums and parks for our honeymoon. It was really nice, and the whole wedding was barely over $1000, including the nice hotel and the honeymoon weekend.
About drinking on wedding, in Poland groom and bride often use something we call “cheated shot-glass” (oszukany kieliszek in polish). It looks like regular shot-glass but it has only 10-15 ml and regular shot-glass has 40 ml. Sometimes groom and bride have their own bottle of vodka but with water instead of vodka ;)
I was a guest at a German wedding that took place in a small village in the black forest area. They had a party before the wedding where the guests broke dishes in the front yard of the couples home and it was left for the bride and groom to clean up. My understanding is that it was to help the couple to learn how to work together. But, by far the most fun was when the grooms friends 'stole' the bride after the ceremony and took her to all the bars in the neighboring villages, leaving a trail of bar tabs behind them as the groom and his best man hunted from village to village until he found them. Paying the tab at each establishment as he went. Great fun.😊
In Hanoi, there are also countryside people living in Hanoi, who bring countryside mindset and put their own wedding tent in the middle of the public street!
Having the same husband in both is very important! In Spain it is perfectly fine to wear white, so long as it isn't a bridal or, if the bride is wearing something else, not in the same style as the bride. You simply should not be easily mistaken for the bride. I've even been to a wedding which took place during the local summer festival in a location where the "traditional" clothing at that time is white with red accents; since everybody knew each other, everybody who was local including the bride and groom were in red'n'whites.
Americans do leave for their honeymoon straight from the wedding night sometimes. I had a coworker who was still in her veil when she boarded the plane! Personally we waited 2 months to get better weather at our mountain destination.
Yes in UK its customary to go directly to the airport. But in practice they normally spend their first night at the hotel where the wedding took place. Then head off to the honeymoon the next day.
I had a Taiwanese friend who married a Vietnamese in America. Those were some AWESOME wedding photos! 3 different traditional costumes. Because of the monks choosing the date, they waited like 7 years.....then the marriage, sadly, didn't last. Come to think, neither did the friendship.
Your boyfriend reminds me of my soulmate. We couldn’t get married because of cultural differences, despite being from the same country but our relationship was exactly like what you guys show in your videos. We are separated, and I’m married to someone else now, but I’m laterally living the rest of my story via you guys. God bless you both ♥️♥️ 🧿
Super interesting video! I never knew the differences between Germany and Vietnam. I am from the U.S. and when I got married 23 years ago GASP! We went on our honeymoon the two days after the wedding. We wanted to have a brunch with our out of town guests the next morning at the hotel and open gifts at my husband’s parent’s house and then the following day we flew to Hawaii for our honeymoon. Enjoy your very special day. It goes so fast. Try and soak it all in. It is a very special day!❤
I was invited to a bachelor party where both partners first went with their own groups to have fun and came together at the evening for a big karaoke party. Was so nice to celebrate together at the end 🎉
