Hi Mandy. Please check the pattern of "things breaking" or "incidents" that keep occurring in your life. Don't ignore that. It's possible that there's something you're doing or not doing that's causing the reoccurrence of these incidents. There's something you're not hearing well. My suggestion would be for you to speak to your grandmother and also allow yourself to enter into a very deep, intimate and private connection with uNkulunkulu (away from the camera, not everything is for everyone). Shut the noise, there are way too many voices in your life and you actually need to be listening to your inner self in this crucial time... Then you'll know what to do.
Hey babe I just thought I should let you know that fasting also brings out all kinds of emotions and all that...Please don't be hard on yourself and take a break and rest, you'll be okay❤
I highly relate. I've been in my room for almost 4 weeks, depressed. But am trying to beat it. My sister reminded me that the community you've created once advised me to open a channel last year when I was pregnant, broke and broken. So next week am officially converting my podcast channel into a vlog channel. One thing I know we are going to beat this depression. Thank you to all the sister who spoke life to me. You've given me some sort of purpose. Continue spreading the love and support❤
Hey mama, yhooo I honestly, deeply relate. This year nje is already a mess, I am slowly shutting down, physically and mentally. Nothing matters/excites me anymore, I also feel like I'm existing and not living. Watching you soothes my heart and mind. Let me tell you ke sana, your existence at this very moment matters to me a lot because wow!! I say WOW!! You such an amazing, loving individual. You are enough and that's all that matters. I pray and hope that God sees you through❤❤ I LOVE YOU SO MUCH😭😭😭💐
Hey dear I know this may sound crazy to you but please don't allow circumstances to make you feel this way... Never ever allow anything to remove your faith in God and besides how will you keep on praying when your spirit is this low... Come on babe surely there's still a lil bit of hope for change somewhere well I believe there is please be steadfast at all times and pray don't let evil win, NOT THIS YEAR. PLEASE❤️ Feel whatever you need feel now and get out of that gut, I trust you💐
Hi Sis Mandy, I really appreciate your videos as they are the highlight of my weeks, especially since I thought I would be employed by now, I am suffering from Postpartum Depression and watching your vlogs reassure me that things will get better in the end. My sister who is your age has a teenage daughter and went through what you are going through but with time and love her daughter became mentally and emotionally okay, what I am saying Gods time is the best time❤ Praying for you❤
Aww mommy I can see how much you not being with both your kids is getting to you. The hardest part of being a parent is letting go of the dreams and vision you have for your kids and letting them be as they are their are own human beings who process emotions their own way. You are doing your best and its not your responsibility to replace the other parent and never put that burden on yourself, they are the ones who failed and not you.This too shall pass and your babies will look back and see how much you fought and gave them the best version of yourself. Kuzolunga and you and those babies will just fine ❣
Sana I can fully relate.. I was there for 2 years and it is not a nice place to be ... I know these dark days are tough, but you are tougher. Reach out when you need to, lean on your support system, and remember that healing is a journey. You're not alone, and brighter days are ahead. Your strength is admired, and you are valued and YOU MATTER.
Mandy♥️ While watching the weekend vlog, you were so excited for uNolu even the day after, but I noticed after the call from your mom and Wawa there was a shift in your mood. I thought I was reading too much into things, I mean I still could be, but ngiyabona ukuthi you are really not well. Mandy you are an amazing mother and ayikho into ongayenzi for your children, even from the part of your life that you share with us, we can tell. Like the comment you read to us, it’s very easy ukuthwala umthwalo as the present parent. Wonke ama frustrations athwalwa wuwe. Take your time ma. I’m praying for the journey of healing for you and your family.
Arrrg Mandy 😔😔😔 you're not alone mama. I've also been feeling really down, just like you... my year started on a really bad note. I don't know how many times I've cried.... yhooo I've cried, I've crewd, I've crode!!! Real tears!!! 😂😂😂 Yazi I'm not laughing. 🙆🏾♀️😂🤞🏾 Watching this really helped me A LOT. Managed to make my bed, do the dishes and tidy up a bit today. This channel is healing us man, you have no idea. ❤ Please take care of yourself, I hope you heal and come back in a much better space. Keep praying mama. You'll be fine. ❤️ O thandwa ndim'! 💗💗💗
As first born daughters, one of our biggest struggles is growing up trying to control the outcome of everything and everyone that is around us. As we grow into adults, it's the biggest unlearning that we have to do. You have to remind yourself that you are doing the best that you can with what you know currently. Take the break that you need knowing that you are great Mandy. The world is a better place simply because you give me the vlogs and Amanda Jakes that I need. 2024 will be a great year for you and me! Enjoy yourself MaNdlangisa. I've been watching your old videos all of today and I'll just continue doing that. I love you so much. Ngiyabonga kakhulu. ❤❤
Oh Mandy hugs mamá.. I know it don't feel like it now but it will be ok so just ride the waves, breathe and don't let the negative overtake you.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Hi mama,in my eyes are the best mother in the world. You do all u can to give the girls the best.kids will be kids,please don’t be too hard on yourself and also please take all the time u need,we will always be here when u return.wishing u all the best always ❤ 🕯️
HI Mandy raising a teneger is something else cc I raised 2 teenagers who are not my kids are my sister in-law who passed I away the boy he is turning 20 this year he already has a child so you can imagine he things he is old now to do some chores in the house but you know what I take it because he is a parent now he will feel what he makes me feel 😂😂😂, kodwa standwa sam konke kuyedlula this too shall pass and your girl will tell you ngenye imini that you are enough ❤❤
oh Mandy we love you so much mama, take all the time you need to heal...sending you love and light❤❤ Kuzolunga mntakama, don't forget to pray, will keep you in my prayers as well❤
I have to give it to you for your impeccable mopping skills Mam!! 😂🤭 I’m sorry that accident happened mama. Also crrrrry when you need to but just know that weeping may last for the night but joy definitely comes in the morning. Things will eventually fall into place. I’ve been going through it (dealing with a co-parent that makes co-parenting horrible) and I think I’m in denial or just avoiding finding out what they diagnose me with or I just keep thinking people are probably dealing with way worse. I know I definitely am not okay. I just hope I find the courage to face it head on when I’m on leave next week.
It's okay not to be okay Sthandwa Sami. You are a very strong and beautiful woman. Take time to yourself, we Love You So Much, If You Are Happy, Natsi we are happy. ❤❤❤
Dear Mandy, I did not want to comment on your last vlog but today my spirit told me to do so. I grew up with my mom mostly because dad had to work in different countries for us to have a good life, i really showed my mum pepper, i didn’t want anything to do with her. Poor dad he would receive a call from me saying i am leaving the house if he doesn’t come back and my mum would make the same call right after me. I attempted to kill myself 2 times, i have tried to hire detectives to do a research if my mum is truly my mum (with my broke ass), i have prayeeeeddddd many times for dad to divorce mum. The thing is I couldn’t live without my dad’s absence and i was throwing all the bitterness on my mum. She on the other hand was trying to play both roles and as an African mum, she was going above and beyond to make sure she raising us well as per African standard and i hated thaaaat! I also felt that dad having to go far from us was her fault because why didn’t she tell him to not go far and take any job he could get near us (stupid me!). Years after, she had an accident and i spent a lot of time with her, if i tell you things changed and we were the best of friends to the point that there was nothing i couldn’t tell her. Our relationship was sooooo beautiful! She passed away last March and life has been sooo hard, my life without her is something I don’t know if i will get used too. Me who prayed for her to divorce dad so we can go away from her, i don’t know how to live without her😭😭😭 All this to tell you, give it time, things will get better! Give her time to come around on her own terms and trust me, there is a day you will both laugh at this stage. I could say a lot on this, people who know me will tell you more, my teachers at school will tell you moreeee because of the things i used to say! I never hid the dislike i have for me but at the end she was the best mum i could ever ask for and i thank God who made me her daughter! She was a treasure and i will always cherish her! Be well mama, this shall pass!
Ukuhlehlq kwenqama ukulanda amandla..amakhulu namasha. We Will be patiently waiting for you,take all the time you need. We want you good and better.dont forget we love you so so much❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Keep well maNdlangisa wethu❤❤❤
Hi Mandy, wishing you well sis and I just want to say what Boipelo said might be so true cos last year when Wawa had to go for those few weeks I felt like commenting why don't you let her go stay with your parents. Why I'm saying this is because we are single mums I'm a mother of 2 girls 12 and 8 yes and when I look at my girls I can only thank God that my parents are there and painting a different picture that I was raised with to my girls instead of me maybe raising them alone. I don't know it's just my thoughts I might be wrong but at least the gap of a father my dad has closed it somehow and I really see the impact for now not knowing yes how do they feel but there's a father they can run to and during Father's day those cards they create from school goes to either my dad or brother. I know it shall be well and I'm learning a lot as from next year my first daughter will be going to high school and I don't know the changes that will come with her being a teen so recently I tried talking with her father especially maintenance issues so I screenshot the conversation so that when the time comes of questions I can show her those chats and she'll decide on herself what she wants. It's not easy especially when you're not working but we thank mums like you who are encouraging us and I pray that the peace of God which surpasses all understanding may be with you. You are loved mama and stay strong❤❤❤❤
One thing about me, I love it when you drop your videos during my free time because I drop everything else and watch. Thank you for letting us in your vulnerable moments. You are a delight to watch oko. I was thinking to myself while watching that even at your low, I’m pretty sure that you inspired at least one person to get up, To give this life thing a fighting chance and validate them that their emotions are valid and so worthy to be felt and sat with. Please don’t be hard on yourself, we feel it too, sibaninzi in feeling the slump. Take care of you and what you can control. We will miss you ke bethu but you deserve the break to be still and one with yourself. Milani will always be famous ke shame 😅 what a cool toddler haibo 🌸
😂 thank you for explaining the onions coz u had only 15min to prepare lunch, I'm expecting bread cheese polony...hhaybo umuntu uqoba u anyanisi 😅😅 my jaw dropped shem
Hi Mandy ❤ for some reason, I wish we could do lunch/brunch. I relate with some of the things you share with us. Today when you mentioned how you're big on staying with your kids full-time, that triggered me but not in a bad way. It fuelled something in me and how I wish I could share with you my journey about being a mother of two, my mental health issues and maybe we might find comfort in each other. 🫠 I know it's a strech since we dont know each other, but don't hesitate to contact me should you consider this. Great vlog as always ❤❤❤
How i wish i could just hug you nje ngikubambe sisi Amanda 😭❤ bengisacela unkulunkulu akuphe amandla kulesisimo odlula kuso😊 awuwedwa mama. Take all the time you need,we will be here when you come back❤
Yho Mandy I am so glad I discovered your channel, I have been watching each and every one of your vlogs. This one though I decided nah I need to comment because I totally relate. I started my channel recently mainly because I feel if I have a channel I will be motivated and accountable to get up, do things and stop being in a funk and depressed state...Thank you so much for your rawness and realness... Sikhona sisi we are watching, supporting you every step of the way and definitely motivated❤
I just wish I could give you a long hug nje, and take your pain away. It will pass nana. You will be okay Alwande will out grow the emotions, the hormones and confusion. It is not easy being a teen. She is going through a stage in her life that is confusing. Give it time lala.
I was once Alwande and I couldn’t feel cos I was scared of my mom n I felt sorry for her cos she had no control of my dads absence , I’m 33 years now and in a good space.I’m sorry u hv to go through this but it will pass. Love and strength to u.
Mandy I'll pray for you during this hard time for your strength comes from above. Motherhood is hard we are all going through difficulties but knowing God is by our side and he won't forsake us because we are his children. Good luck and I hope it all works out for you. Sending love & blessings - always ❤❤❤
Mandy I am crying at my desk watching this because I am feeling so low so I relate I dont want to be in office and I have been praying so haard that I bounce out of here sooon soon
Hi Mandy, yazi I know that one day zizosulwa 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽. Today I cried with you but for a different reason. I cried with you for your endeavors, believe me when I say what day you are going to reap the tasty fruits. Keep pushing, it will all work out in the end🥰
Hugs to you sis. I am a single mum as well and i don't think i am fine. I cry most of the times when i am alone. I lost my mum 30 years ago and it has not been easy. I have been feeling depressed and so lonely. I however send you love from Zambia 🇿🇲
Boipelo's comment is indeed valid. It is know that I feel the absence of my father because my mom is no more. But then she was both parents at once. And you remind me Soo much of her. Having to raise 2 kids on your own? Don't ever forget you are strong, no matter the circumstances. My mom raised all three of us without any help. I love you and again you are strong❤❤❤
Hey mommy be okay vha,Allow her to feel whatever she is going through.Uzokhula when she had to and you will thank she that it happened.Nothing wrong you did and nothing you could to make her to stop when it's time that sad thing about life sometimes being not in control of things. Just keep praying for her uberight marn being a mom is not walk in the park but I promise akuzuhlala kunje❤❤❤
Hi Manda ka Milani Your short rant got me thinking - what if your baby reached the point of realizing SHE actually does not need him anymore, she's mourning him ephila and she doesn't understand the feeling? This was all unraveled in the short time she lived in Gauteng, that no matter how close or far she is, he just doesn't try. His presence now, would do more harm than good. Rather she THINK he didn't care instead of getting confirmation from the horses mouth - because saying you're in quarantine to avoid seeing your child is bone crushing. PS: Please let me know if she watches your channel so I can delete my second comment. I honestly don't want her to read that.
Hey babes, just last night i told my daugter that i want to catchup s on millinal mom and i am so far behind. I watched decemeber last and didnt know where to start.. U so consistent... Yoh. She told me to just start with the recent on.. Just to come here and see Bye.. I am a sad but happy that u taking a break, u need this.. Spend time alone pray meditate and focus on yourself. You are such an amazing mother, no1 can take that away that. Teenagers will be teenagers, keep on keeping on.. Praying for you
Not me crying with you when that bowl fell! Hugs to you babe, uzoba right… Aybo uyamkhumbula uAmanda wa 2 years ago? For me that was your lowest sisi, you’ve done so well to pull yourself out of that, so nalokhu mamie kuzodlula, you’re stronger than you know. Strength to you.
Take the break that you need. May you heal mentally and physically. May you find comfort in God and the solace he provides. Love and light from Bosnia🌹🌹❤❤
Izinsuku azifani babes. Some days are better than the others and it happens to each and everyone of us, I was feeling the same the past 2 weeks and I had to take leave from work. Rest, go for a body massage if you can and listen to your favorite music eventually you will feel better again. Lots of love ❤
Hi mtwanami I m using my daughter s account. I always pray for you and your daughters . Remember everything inesikhathi sayo. Kuzo lunga. Ku ya ndlula into enga pheli Iya hlola. Kuzo lunga.❤❤🙏
Oh Mandy 🥺please take care of your mental health this is the most important thing, we will be here waiting for you to come back whenever you are ready we love you ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I love you with all my heart, whenever I feel like vlogging my sons would be like mommy let's watch the millennium mom, surprisingly they are in their early teenage, you're real babe, you're human, you're normal
🥺🥺 As parents we just try our best that's all we can do, don't be too hard on yourself. Also Alwande is with your mom, awumlahlanga. Some of us were sent to boarding school 😢 Keep your head up ❤
Hi Mandy I just wanted to let you know that you such an amazing woman, 1 thing you don't realized is that how strong you are, Take it easy sthandwa ❤Best mom ever
Oh hey Mandz. Only catching up now, I am the lady that tired reaching out to you on FB and you ghosted me.😅 I understand now that you were also going through a lot.
Even me, hey, when my house is in a rut... no sweeping for a number of days and not doing my bed, washene all over the place....I know that that I gots to attend to my kids😪
Manda when you made your vision board you have tht statement you said when things dnt go as u plan dnt stres allow God to do wht he wants ,the same as not having Alwande with you God has a reason
Hi Mandy i was sad to see word bye but i put my self together to remember that you need a break as much as I need a break at my work place rest until you come back ima waiting for yy lot's of love from me❤❤❤❤❤
Ive watched your vlogs for some time now and I agree with most people that have commented stating that you are doing your best. I'm learning a lot from you about conscious parenting. Wawa will be just fine, you will be fine
Hi dear ,l pray that you be good soon ,but you put yourself first ,you take your time ,we are here ,you got us ,we will be your support and love you always ,you don't need to be perfect ,just be you ,good things are happening to you ,it's okay to be happy for yourself ,love you lots sweetie ❤
