PS here is the song from my church! If you don’t have Apple Music search “How Do I Thank You” by Mosaic MSC 🤍 Happy Easter, I love y’all. music.apple.com/us/album/how-do-i-thank-you/1611637563?i=1611637699
I recall when my breakup happened, someone telling me how when the divorce was final I would want to celebrate. I thought she was nuts. She said "you likely think I'm nuts but you will see." she smiled knowing the future happiness that lay in store for me. I did not do a party but I did celebrate in my own way. The dysfunctional painful relationship was over. The stress of that over. There was no longer someone sucking the life out of me. I could relax and feed my sole and it was wonder. It was done. All over and I was free to live my life again. Celebrate is the right word for sure.
God knew what he was doing Michel. He knows what your heart needs and sometimes he has to take us through things like a divorce to get to that HE always had planned. He prepared you for a time such as this. Let's call this period "Janse's back back back back again" lol a great song.
fixing the couch: get a basic iron on patch and put it under the fraying fabric of the couch with the sticky part facing the fabric. use some parchment paper between the iron and the couch to not get any sticky residue on the iron. iron the patch on. this should reinforce the edge which is fraying and you should be able to use the invisible stitch without a problem :) i hope this works
@@MichelJanse Honestly, I'm afraid that won't work. The fabric is thick enough that the heat won't penetrate to the adhesive on the patch, and if it's synthetic, it might even melt! I'd do something similar, but maybe tuck a piece of gray fabric under and then sandwich some fabric glue in there, no heat needed.
Was just going to comment this! If you are concerned about the couch fabric itself melting, you can cover with a cotton towel while ironing. The heat will penetrate through the towel and couch fabric to the patch. Good luck 💖
@@tmmc5 That would help with the fibers melting, but I haven't had good luck with iron on patches unless I apply HIGH heat directly to the back of the patch or fabric on the other side. Even then, they don't hold well. Maybe others have had better luck.
Michel you are doing amazing with your life situation. I got separated in 2013 and my divorce…which was my ex’s idea…was final in 2015. As people told me, a divorce is much like a death and when you are actually going through a divorce you need to mourn and give yourself time to grieve. You are so strong and inspiring! Much love to you.
I had a divorce party and it was fabulous! ;) There is something about getting the actual notification that it's all done that helps with closure and for me, it was as if I opened a window and all this bright fresh air came pouring in. 🥰 SO many blessings are coming. I'm convinced this was God's way of knocking you off the wrong path and placing you on the right one. Trust. 🧡 Also, my vote is to wear the skirt higher and have it taken in...SO cute!! A couch cover maybe? The only way to stitch that together is to pull the fabric over until you have the unfrayed part and stitch that to the seamed part...but no guarantee it won't fray further, especially if Max continues to do the same thing in that spot. Could you maybe use iron on fabric to run down the stitched seams in a slightly different color to contrast....might look that up on RU-vid though, not sure how durable that would be with Max. 💁♀
Great video! I had heard of divorce parties before, but I could not understand it until now. I have learned so much from your divorce experience. I think you sharing this journey has increased my compassion for others. Congratulations on your growth and bright future ahead. Have a fun and safe trip!!!!
You are so mature. I know God is caring for you in very personal ways as you close this chapter of your life. Beauty will come from the ashes and I can see it’s already occurring!
For the couch you have to tie off the parts that are fraying so they can’t continue to unravel, you may also be able to find a patch of similar fabric and place it under the seam to sew into.
Amen Being a Christian women myself who went through a divorce after 26 years of marriage I do not know how anyone can face such a huge upheaval or anything really without Gods love and faithfulness never have I felt so lead and sustained I am so thankful to my wonderful saviour and Heavenly Father
When I got divorced it was devastating to me to know I had given my all to this man who discarded me and our family. It almost broke me into a million pieces. I went to therapy feeling like a complete failure and the therapist told me: I wasn’t failure because I did and gave it my all, to be a failure I had to have not tried at all. I let that set in and realized how truly I couldn’t do it all by myself and God gave me the strength to heal and let it go. You will get there my sweet friend! 💗🤗
@@blueseptember2174 first off I’m sorry your in pain! Second I’m no expert and everyone is different. It’s really hard to say how to deal with the grief of loosing the relationship it’s can feel like a death. I struggled but went through therapy and it did help. I also was active with my children and church. All you can do is live one day at a time and work on yourself. 💜🤗
@@butterfly-kb4cn thank you for your wisdom friend. I know you are right with your advice but does there truly come a time when we are able to really let go of being discarded? I don't know if I'll be able to let go of that resentment deep down.
@@blueseptember2174 my name is Sheila and unfortunately I made so many mistakes in marriage. Not understanding how a healthy relationship should be and marrying too young. I had a traumatic childhood with an alcoholic abusive father and codependent mother. I married a man I didn’t even really know just to get out of my home right after graduation. He had addictions that he wouldn’t get help for and I was just supposed to be the loving doting wife. Which I was up to the point I feared for my baby and I realized I couldn’t change him and he wasn’t going to change himself. I remarried, a man I knew before my first husband out of fear of being a young mother no college education and low and behold he is an alcoholic by now I’ve become my mother except I didn’t stay in it and wait for the physical abuse to start. Now I have two children age 4 and 6 working two jobs and spending every moment I had with my kids. I met my third husband and he was my knight in shining armor, he love bombed me and treated me like a queen until I found out everything he ever told me about his life was lie. He started treating my kids horribly and I found out he was talking to other women online and text. This is after 10 years of marriage. I say all this to say I felt discarded in each of my marriages I gave everything in me to them until it broke me. I swore I would never be my mother. I was so bitter and angry in my last marriage and to realize I couldn’t fix it, how could break me into a million pieces after all I had been through and he swore he would never hurt me. It took me probably around 6 months after to let go and realized he never truly loved me and I never loved myself. I was so unhappy living with a man telling me how he couldn’t wait until my kids were grown and begrudgingly resenting my kids. So we could live our lives without his helping me raise them. One day I had to realize my low self esteem and inner hatred of who I was, kept me tied to a man that didn’t really love the way I should be. First off I had to realize I had to love myself and know even if I die alone at least I can be true to myself. I know this is a lot of personal background but if it can anyway help you I hope you can see that you are important! Look deep into yourself and your pain realize it is apart of you but not all of you. Know you are worth loving and do whatever hobby or anything that you enjoy doing. Find inner strength and learn new boundaries for yourself. I look back and I still have pain and I still struggle I’m only human but today I do know what my worth is. I hope this helps you in anyway possible. And I hope you find some peace.
OMG your sister and her finace are so cute and fun! And so comfortable on camera! You should have them on more often! Seriously your family is just something else ✨⭐️💫⚡️☄️
Can't wait to see your solo adventure! I go out by myself a lot and I always love seeing solo adventures, it makes me happy seeing others embracing the joy of being alone and independent 💗
I believe it’s by Mosaic MSC and it’s called How Do I Thank You😊It’s a beautiful song💖Christ has you where you need to be for his glory & he will see you all the way through! Much love 😘💋
I can say you're the most strong woman I found in my life. I'm really proud of you. I'm 18. But I think I'm matured now seeing all the life experience. Lysm 💖
For the couch, there is something called fray check that basically glued the frays together! However, if max likes to lick or bite the couch, I would maybe double check on that just cause I wouldn’t want him to get sick! But the fray check is a super easy and cheap fix for fraying and it’s what I use on my clothes whenever I have sewed!
little late to this vlog but regarding the couch. Since the hole is large enough you could think about placing a patch of matching colored fabric underneath the tear and then sewing the frayed fabric to that. I've done this. It will probably extend the life of your couch for a bit but lose woven fabric with pets is hard to maintain. Velvet withstands better with pets that like to scratch. The other option is getting a cover for the couch since it sounds like you don't love the color anyways. Not sure if you could get a custom one or not or have a handy friend who could make one. Most couches are basically boxes of fabric. I hope this helps. Thanks for sharing your journey. .
I have really loved Happiness by Taylor Swift when working through forgiveness and grief of a loss. "There'll be happiness after me But there was happiness because of me"
Reading those lyrics… I am in tears and have head to toe chills. This is how I am feeling at this moment. God’s timing is ALWAYS PERFECT!!!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻✝️💕💕💕💕
I'm so excited for you!! Yes a reclaim my name party is in order!! That song sounds amazing and so fitting in your situation! God is awesome and will never leave us or forsake us. It was great meeting your sister and Future BIL. For the couch I'd say maybe some black either iron on patches or sew a black seam down the middle sort a decorative in the couch.
Michel there is probably a one year warranty on your couch so contact the company and let them know that the fabric has failed. We did this with our sectional that had fabric issues and got a new sectional with different fabric.
Thank you Michel for sharing that beautiful song! It sums up exactly how I feel surrounding my break up a little over a year ago, and getting through losing my baby son. The Lord has been my rock and my saviour through it all, and so having a song that can put that into words is so healing.
Girl you made me cry when you read those lyrics. Proud of you. I have no idea what it feels like to go through a divorce but the last few months for me have been brutal, so thank you for sharing that song. Thank you for your vulnerability Michel 💛
God’s timing… I feel like this is coming at a time that’s perfect with spring. It’s like you’re getting your wings 🦋🌷. We go through so many different seasons in life… and I think your heart and soul are just so beautiful and sweet. I pray you are so blessed 💖. I pray your heart is full. I pray you feel love all around you and that you are comforted at all times and you notice it in quiet times when you need it the most. Thank you for sharing these videos and moments w us 💜🌸. Happy Easter 💖
I haven’t watched the entire video yet but checked out Tovala and hit a flash sale where I got the oven for $49 if I order 6 weeks within 6 months. THANK YOU!! I have wanting to try for sometime. ☺️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Fixing the couch: undo your stitching, get a long/small piece of cloth, similar gray color to your couch. Place cloth under and stitch it again getting the new fabric and the couch fabric. Make sure you double the thread on the needle to reinforce the whole section fraying. I hope this will work out for you.
Lots of love to you, Michel! So happy to see you getting happier and so excited for you that your sister and future brother-in-law are looking to move near you! If you ever want to take a trip north of Austin, downtown Georgetown is so cute! ❤️
Good morning Michel happy Sunday morning and I just wanted to say that your vlogs makes me feel happy and I loved your channel and happy Easter to you and your loved ones
I love that that is your great grandmother's belt. The skirt is something new for going forward because the one from that bad time of your life doesn't fit you anymore, and the belt is a piece of your history and the solid women you're made of so I think symbolically, they are perfect and very fitting together. ❤
For the couch, stick an iron on patch iron side up towards the frayed end, and hold it against the frayed frantic with a hot pad underneath while ironing it on. Then try try the invisible stitch a couple more times again.
Thanks for fulfilling you calling and blessing all of us! I’m sure God is very very proud of how faithful you are to not hold back and use your life to heal other ppl as you are being healed. What a privilege it is for us 🌺☺️
Girl, have the best time on your vacay!!! Also God always has the best plans for us, even when we don’t understand. Can’t wait to see clips from your vacay!!
There's clear sewing glue you can get to reinforce the where it's tearing. It'll change the texture a bit obviously, but if it's only that one line and he always scratches the same place, that might not matter to you. And it'll be more durable while you decide what to do
Michel, thank you so much for being so vulnerable with us and sharing something so difficult. Thank you also for sharing the lyrics and song with us. What you shared was such a great reminder that God’s plans are bigger than ours and that we can trust Him to bring us through any difficult situation. 💜💜💜
Seeing your videos always brings a smile to my face!! You have such a wonderful vibe!! Some day I hope I can hug you and congratulate you in person; you’ve faced so so much and you should truly be proud of yourself and celebratory of all you’ve faced. Keep being the amazing person you are! Lots of love! God bless.
Most beautiful girl. Just loved this video and you sharing that song. I cried proper tears with you in this Video. God is so good and im just so happy that you are growing closer to God in this season. May God bless you🌸
You might want to try diluting fabric glue maybe. I would call an upholsterer to see if they have any suggestions. Glad you're nose is feeling better & life is good.
A trick if you can’t try on pants is if you wrap the waist part around your neck and if the parts touch they will fit. If not then they won’t fit. If it fits tight around your neck then the pants will be tight. If they are loose then the pants will be to big. Also just used your tovala link and I’m very excited!
Hey....I too went through a divorce...it took him four years...!!!🥺 To sign ...very painful... It certainly makes you much stronger.. ..I am sure everything is fine and just making it's way through the system to you..x Thanks or sharing... happy days are ahead...x you are stronger than you know...Braver than you believe..and more beautiful than you imagine...and forever loved ... with support from your friends and family..xx 💐
I love the skirt on you, Michel. ❤❤❤ I continue praying for you🙏🙏🙏 You are such a BLESSING & INSPIRATION. GOD IS WITH YOU...HE WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU NOR FORSAKE YOU. LOVE & BLESSINGS ❣❣❣ Happy Easter to you & your family❤❤❤
Hi Michel. I hope you get your finalized papers soon. It will be so nice to move on from this stressful time and into new experiences and a less stress.
The best celebration is knowing that God has bigger and better times planned for your future. No parties are necessary It was a journey that you learned from just like all journeys should be. God wants us to be present in all changes but not to boast. Smile big sweet girl. Your going to enjoy each day moving forward walking on Gods path for you.
OMG, love the adult coloring book you got. And glad to see your nose is healing well, cute skirt, and wishing you and your family a very Happy Easter weekend, much love from Canada!
Hi, I hope you are doing well. That skirt looks awesome on you and I like it with the belt and without. You can always look for a cover for your couch that you like the look of better and flaw will be covered. Much love from Minnesota 💖💖💖
I love how your sister and I are at the exact same spot in our lives: I am engaged, getting married in September, my fiancé and I are both writing our bachelor thesis (my second his first) and we are moving in to our first joint apartment in 1 week! :D
Great video and I cannot believe the next blog you will be in Boston!!!! I am 30 minuets away from the city. I cannot wait to see where you end up and your thoughts of the city. Hope you get to take in Haymarket Square/Faneuil Hall. See you in Boston. Hopefully by then your divorce papers will all be complete and it will be official. Thanks for being so honest, transparent and vulnerable with all your feelings through this season of your life. ❤️
Michel, I have watched you off and on for a while. I have gotten to be a regular viewer now. I look forward to your vlogs and experience through life. You are strong and such a positive force. We are similar in age and I often feel like we're hanging out while you're vlogging! Much love
I would try putting some fray check (sold in sewing stores) on the fraying part and then putting some interfacing or patch under it, then try sewing it up. That will stabilize the part that is coming apart.
What was the song? I didn’t see it linked and rly wanted to give it a listen. So happy your getting through this season michel! So much good is on the horizon
Holy cow!!! Your sister looks exactly like your mom! So much so that I don’t normally comment on posts but felt compelled to on this. I hope that’s ok to say. While I’m here I have to say I am enjoying watching your new season…your new journey. I’ve made major solo moves a few times, one to Los Angeles as well, and I am a traveler by nature so it’s fun to watch you going through the excitement of firsts. That was always my favorite part. Finding new places, navigating new areas and territories. I was sad to see you forced into this season, my heart broke for you, but watching you own your journey and thrive in this new environment speaks volumes to you as a person, but also Gods plan for you in this time. I am a true believer in the fact that we are in God’s will even though we don’t always know, or understand at the time, what that is. I find it is usually always revealed in time, but either way have faith in knowing that you are in the place you’re suppose to be, in the time you are suppose to be there, to have those experiences and learn those lessons that will shape the next phase of your life. Everything always happens for a reason. 😊😁
Have a great time in Boston. My hometown ❤️. Also a funny tidbit. When looking for someone to file my divorce papers I came across a place. Discount Divorce, for when till death do you part is taking too long. I carried their pen around till it died. ❤️❤️
If your couch is less than 1 yr old you should contact the manufacturer. It looks like you may have a faulty seam. Send them pics and explain that it is separating at the seam. It really shouldn’t be doing that, even with Max. Repairs or replacement should be covered under the manufacturer’s warranty under “defects”.
Listening to How Do I Thank You right now. Whoa….. tears are streaming. We have different lives, but yes, I feel it!!!! Beautiful ❤️ I haven’t watched you in a couple months (work overload) and my, have you grown!!!! So so proud!!! I KNEW you would!!!! Next vlog is in Boston, where I live! Can’t wait to see you having fun in All my spots!!!! And then in Maine, my getaway!!! ✈️🚌🛳
Thats lovley you got time to spend with your sister😊 ( wow she very busy with study 😱) So pleased the infection clearing from your nose ,hope not as painful. Hope you have a Wonderful Easter weekend. & A fantastic trip to Boston . Take care 🥰
What a fabulous video!! It's so nice seeing you with your sister!! Lol I have to say that you & your sister sound so much like your mom!!! If I were to close my eyes I wouldn't know which one of you were talking!! I'm praying that you get that email RIGHT NOW so you can fully let go , relax & enjoy your life with no further heart break 💔 or drama for you. May you & sweet Max have a blessed Easter ✝️. Prayers & Wishes Lisa Hampton 😃
REGARDIN YOUR SOFA, this is the only thing you can to ....go to a fabric store and pick up a small swatch of material that is the same or similar to the material of the sofa. While you are there ask for some double sided adhesive (iron on). Cut the adhesive slightly small then the piece that you will be using to cover, so you can turn edges under and be blind stitched down. Iron down the patch while make sure the edges are turned under. The blind stitch around the patch. If you can not get a piece of material from the fabric store, contact the company the made the sofa, and see if you can get a swatch big enough to do the repair. I am a tailor, and I have do this very thing with chairs, benches, coats and jackets. It should work well. The only other thing that you could do is have the sofa re-upholstered.
Try some type of fabric glue on your couch to stop the fraying. It might be scratchy, but it will keep it from tearing further. Alternatively, you could search from some nice sofa covers until you’re ready to buy a new couch. Best of luck moving forward and finalizing this chapter of your life!
I would get a slip cover for the couch and that will give you some time to figure out if the slip cover is enough to meet your needs or if you want to invest in a new couch.
You know your quick fix on the sofa is just a bandaid. So start researching online for you inevitable new furniture purchase. Treat this as a long term investment and look for durable fabrics. Go to reputable furniture stores to ask questions about the construction, the styles, and available fabrics. In the late 1980’s I purchased a custom living room set, which meant I picked the furniture design, chose the fabric, and waited for it to be made to order. I chose a tapestry upholstery fabric. It was beautiful and very durable. I finally replaced that set this year. It lived through rambunctious children, unruly pets, and sloppy people eating in the living room on a regular basis and it still looked like new (I did replace just the seat cushions after about 15 years because they were beginning to flatten and were no longer supportive). I made the new purchase because the couch frame had become loose and creaky after many moves. For this recent purchase, I did not pick a tapestry and I already regret it (this fabric has a bit too much stretch and it wrinkles). Take your time and pick the furniture design and fabric that you love because it should last a long time.
