My mother and father passed away a few years ago and as a 50+ woman I still have moments that take me out because I miss them both so much. I feel you all on this one. If you have your Mom and Dad here please love on them now.
Claudia I’m so proud of you for sharing that story about your father, and hopefully that helped you to some degree just saying it out loud. HONEY, YOU ARE LOVED❤
Get a female therapist with a male psychology background to help you with daddy issues its important to unpack the nature of a male to better heal from trauma in my respectful.opinion Claudia You can have a any man you want eating out of your hands stop giving them Power set your Terms they must publicly love you not in secret thats be a true Man can handle all that smoke
Grief is like a rainstorm!! It sometimes comes down in little drops, and other times it rains hard. I can relate, both of my parents are in heaven, and not a day goes by that I don't miss them! Tears come and go! No one can tell you how to grieve!
My brother in law says….”A man loves a child because the child came from a woman he loves” So basically, he loved the extension of the woman he loves. So when there is no relationship/ bad relationship with woman, he probably won’t have one with the child
You go Claudia, give yourself time, and find more of yourself. What's for you won't pass you. More power Funky, men deserve public displays of affection too, especially from family.
Claudia, some dads can't own up to the fact that they were deadbeats. So, the best approach is to pretend like you don't exist. That's crude as hell, but I have seen it happen over and over again!
So true, my brother is one of them, but my niece and I are very close and close in age. I stopped trying to understand him and just pray for him and remain close to my niece.
We have the same experience Claudia. My dad is alive, well and lives literally 5 mins away from me and when i bump into him at a store, its like seeing an acquaintance. He has made and continues to make no effort. It hurts like hell
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾I'm right along with you. The issshhh hurts & it's sad. I would make edfort but it's like all he wanted to do was sit around his new lady & her kids drinking and I had to click on them & remove myself. But , when he went to the hospital in 2019 & found out he had cancer he called me. I went but didn't stay long cause this itch & her kids were there & was calling this Mofo dad. Again, I was out and haven't spoken to him since. Mind you I have an older brother that's his and he has kids by 4 women & he ain't been isshh to them either. And, bad as it is... WE HAVE & GONE BE OKAY.🙌🏾🫶🏾🙌🏾🫶🏾 THEIR LOSS!!
Claudia 😢😢😢😢😢😢My prayers sis!! It’s really okay to not be okay with this behavior from your DAD!! You need to know “why”Sis!! I hope you try to find out!! ❤
Thank you Claudia for sharing that vulnerable moment and I feel that this is the space to share your feelings, it allows others to feel comfortable with doing the same and we never know how many of us share the same experience. Thanks again ❤
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OMG😂😂😂😂 AFTER SHOWING THE MUG SHOTS AND CLAUDIA SAID, "THEY DID IT" I ALMOST PEED MY PANTS LAUGHING SO HARD! I HAD TO PLAY IT OVER AND OVER😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂CLAUDIA IS MESSY FUNNY 🤣🤣🤣🤣😭
To: CLAUDIA Thank you so much for sharing that story about your father. I was close with my father and we loved each other very much. So I cannot relate. However, the fact that you were brave enough to share something so personal speaks volumes about you. No disrespect to your father, but do know this Claudia that any father should be happy and proud to have you as a daughter! From a Sista from Brooklyn, NY
You never lied Claudia. The role of a father is SO important in a child life. i say especially girls but really all children. i thought i was so tough and strong until a man wanted to really settle down and but i had to get through these daddy issues. can't even date a man with a daughter as it's so triggering to see the love i want so bad for myself. it really sucks but this is truly my reality. i don't even want a daughter. damn
I’ve noticed that when I see cute viral videos about dads and daughters I literally can’t relate. Sometimes I get jealous too wishing I could know what it feels like.
@@mrsd9152 I agree. I get sooooo emotional and it truly makes me feel some type of way. Wishing healing on us all and a man who can understand the trauma in our life and help us move forward. peace and love to your Queens
Claudia I wanted to thank you for mentioning about absent Father. Mine is literally the same and you’re right about the overachieving. I have always felt “not good enough” because I was competing with the various women in his life and their kids. I do better than them in terms of work and my life, but I’ve worked to get his acceptance. In 2023, I’ve let it go. Claudia please let him go. It’s holding you back. I’m younger than you, but it’s hurt the same. Thanks for sharing ❤Literally the same. I’m close to his family but not to him.
Thank u for hearing me, And yeah isn't that weird how we crave a man to tell us we did good and to be proud of us cause we lacked that from the person who SHOULD want to do it for us? I think I let it go as much as I can but then every once in a while I feel a wave of abandonment or not-good-enough-ness. ughhh
I completely relate to you Claudia.. the difference is my dad is gone but if he was still alive, this would hurt bad. 😢. I pray your dad realize his error before it’s too late 🙏🏾
I remember using almost the same words to a friend (no longer a friend) years ago, my skin is not a dress (think I said dress or mask), that you can just put on and take off. WP be trippin honestly.
Exactly! This seems like something that started within the last 20 years or so. When I was young folks dressed up as characters for Halloween and they didn’t change the color of their skin! You knew who they were supposed to be too!
I recently found this show and have been enjoying it. As a child of abandonment and a Life Coach I can say that it is a primal need to be connected to your parents as your survival as a child depends on it. But through my own journey, what I've found is, that the best way to heal is to allow yourself to feel and experience the deep sense of loss and pain that it creates. That will show you what need was not satisfied by that connection, or lack thereof, so that you can find other people in your present life than can provide that for you. Honestly, I don't think that wound ever heals completely. But you can get to a point in your life where you feel sadness about it without it driving you to make unhealthy choices, especially when it comes to romantic partners.
Tyrese is tripping. Same thing happened to my mom when we went to Home Depot. She tried to use her husband card and they didn’t allow her because she wasn’t an authorized holder. The celebrity entitlement…🙄
Awe man Q i can relate so much with you because no matter what im doing or where im at the water works just come down whether it be a song my mother loved or a woman who resembles her 💯... Grief is so real and you have my love and condolences brother 🙏🏾❤
I'm sorry Claudia, you don't deserve this type of rejection from your dad. I can relate, my dad broke up with my mom and I guess he broke up with me too, he's a great father to my half sisters, but doesn't even remember my birthday or call just to check up. I'm 37 years old and sometimes i think about this and it hurts, for the most part I'm good. ❤️💐 I pray for healing for you sis. 🌺
In a nutshell, a different culture or race is NOT a costume for you to make a mockery of. It’s one thing to dress up as a celebrity (without race-switching via makeup), but simply dressing up as a “Mexican” for example is disrespectful.
thanks for sharing your stories Claudia and Funky. my mum has dementia, it's like a timebomb. sometimes I get choked up thinking about the future and how I will process everything. I get it, trust me.
I think you are doing great! Both my parents were absent in my life but my Grandma Ella and her sister my Aunt Frances stepped in and raised me in Chicago. I do have some vulnerable moments and I also recognize that this kind of up bringing gives you a SUPERPOWER!! I am sure you have identify yours.
Claudia and Q, I feel y'all on feeling the absence, abandonment.... luckily, I repaired the damage between my Dad and I before he passed, but my Mom just passed in April and I buried her a day before my birthday....most things remind me of her, even seeing Big Daddy Kane performing her favorite song, I Get the Job Done, tears fall at random times Claudia, I hope your Dad comes around 🥰🥰🥰
Abandoned daughter too. Everything Claudia said. Everything. My relationships, the people pleasing. It pops up. And sometimes you gotta be the reason CJ. If it’s on your spirit.. he didn’t care, baby CUSS HIS ASS OUT... be. the. reason. ❤ I’m very lucky my daughter has the most amazing father who through a lot has kept on going... he’s where it gets me.
My oldest brother and my father never had a relationship, but my brother was extremely close to our paternal grandmother just like you Claudia. So weird. (We grew up in different countries and have different mothers.)
@ClaudiaJordan - THANK YOU SO MUCH for sharing a vulnerable moment about you and your brother being cut out of your Dad's Reunion. I'm so sorry to hear this....especially how none of his family have been able to persuade him to do the right thing! Sending you love, comfort and hugs. I fear the same for my daughter when she's a grown woman.🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
I’m 32 my father has been locked up for 31 years and our relationship SUCKSS!! He rather relive his romance with my mom over and over instead of try to be a father…. He’s still that 17 year old dgaf about me
I grew up in Miami, as a child, and I also lived in Jacksonville recently as an adult. I don't know bears to be native to south Florida. However, I know black bears are rampant in North Florida, Q.
It "debunks" nothing Black Fathers have always existed. If this is what it took for anyone to "debunk" that, they probably don't have or know too many (if any) Black people anyway. Also we know nothing about this man, hell this is obviously the 1st time y'all ever saw him
@11:28 🤣 I’m sorry to disappoint you Funky bc I hate that damn word too, but “irregardless” is actually a word.. it’s extra af to me because it means the exact same thing as just saying “regardless” but both are in the dictionary and are synonymous lol
It's still a double negative even if it is in some dictionaries. It probably got added because so many people continuously use it. I was taught growing up that it was incorrect. Then again I am 54. Lol.
@@rudolphmcneill515 Growing up, I was taught the word is also incorrect. I'm 30. And I agree with you. The word was probably added to the dictionary simply because it was so popular in use. You're right, it's a double negative. Grammar would be incorrect simply because of that.
It is a natural state of being to wonder, wish and question why one may have been denied by a loved one. We are Whole beings made up of two. One that is missing a part of one's WHOLENESS, may nurture the empty side of one's self❤ but this comment is to express to those who are nurturing the missing part... Think of this, if that missing part is missing because it may be very broken and not passed away, then think of all the brokenness that may have 'Missed you' due to the missing ones absence, and this doesn't take the pain away as much as it makes things more palpable for one, as well as a porthole for one to move further on. God bless you Claudia.🥲❤ Stop questioning yourself on your relationships because of the missing part. It has made you the fighter you are.💪🏻 Yet the part that was not missing, balanced and soften you. You are beautifully made. Accept all of you and move on to your greatness. It is all we can do. One day you will meet someone special who will love ALLLLL of that quirky strength in you.❤❤❤❤
Claudia you look absolutely beautiful and I'm so sorry you are going through this with your father. My parents are deceased and I can say it is very difficult. I lost my mom a little over two years ago and as Q said, I still have those moments where I wish I could talk to her. Regarding your father I would just leave the situation alone & if you can, keep him in your prayers. Just remember that forgiveness is for you and not for the other person. Hang in there. 💞
NOPE. TYRESE WAS STANDING AT THE REGISTER HAD A CANDY BAR IN HAS HAND AND INFORMED THE CASHIER TO CHARGE THE CANDY AND SUPPLIES AND ON HIS CARD AND LEFT. LIKE HE SAID TEN YEARS OF DOING THIS. THEY TRIED HIM
Claudia, I feel the same as you when I see moments of people with their fathers. Mine is here but absent and now my kids are experiencing the same with their father 😢 I try to cope by not thinking about my dad.
I thank god every day for my Black dad and the way he loves me. That man knows how to show love even though he never had a father figure. I love love love that man. Wait, did I say I love him? 😬 I love him more than words can say.
First of all, Diva, there are plenty of black men who hug and kiss their sons and no Al, this doesn't debunk the myth of black men don't take care of their sons. There are still plenty who don't. This was a beautiful moment and glad they shared it. .
Claudia you keep your head held high you’ve accomplished, a lot and I don’t know you personally, but I’ve known of you for many years and you have accomplished extraordinary things in your life. I hope you’re very proud of yourself because you really should be and I’m sorry that your father hurt you, it’s his loss in the end because you’re an extraordinary lady. That’s unfortunate that he hasn’t gotten to know you in the way we have as your audience so much love to you sweetheart
I understand how Claudia feels about wanting a relationship with your Dad before mines passed. I never had a relationship with neither one of my parents and my relationship with my Mother has always been rough.
CLAUDIA I HAD TO SCREAM. ALMOST CRY, MY UNCLE JUST CALLED ME ABOUT MY DADS FAMILY REUNION THAT HE DIDN'T INVITE MY BROTHERS AND I TOO. WHEN I HEARD THAT THIS WEEKEND I ALMOST CRIED! MY DAD HAD ALWAYS BEEN ESTRANGED AND IT HURTS!
Hi Claudia, You keep moving and keep growing. My Dad have sixteen children and I was the only one he never did anything for and still communicate with my my mom and not me.. let me tell you girl, keep growing, keep loving on his family and still respect your Dad.. you’re a child of God and he’s your father, not man, because you’re beautiful, successful and a true inspiration for so many of our black sisters.. Thank you for inspiring me…
Omg, thank you, thank you, thank you Funky! For the grammar lesson, re: “ir regardless” & “Salmon”! Lost a not “friend” for correcting their verbiage, when they kept repeating Salmon (pronouncing the “l”) until I just couldn’t take it anymore and politely addressed/corrected them and she got upset Chil hung up & blocked me!!! 😂 As well as I have been asking my own “Sister” to please stop saying “ir regardless” and use the correct word “regardless”, our whole gd lives as the prefix already states the meaning in itself & besides that “ir regardless” IS NOT A WORD! 😢😂
Because he dad wasn't there! Now that he's rich, here comes the father. Dwayne talked about being homeless with his mom and being extremely poor growing up.
@@deedee_31He didn’t dump her, he married her and they have 3 sons together! Just like Juan Dixon and Robin! These girls parents took in DeWayne and Juan partly because they knew they had basketball skills! One thing about life, you’ll grow and sometimes you can and will outgrow a partner. Nooone has an obligation to stay in a relationship that doesn’t serve them well!
