Nice! But after making feel happy ... When he needs to talk , let him him talk a little; then change the subject. People feel dissapointed when they feel you disregard what ever they want to talk! Put it on the side, is true; but there is an art to it ! I ' been there. Two long marriages! I don't talk about past relationships... It leads no where !
Right. I was making him feel alive and different and lifted him up like, he said himself, nobody else did - and he “bushed up his tail” and went to impress other girls with that energy I gave him. And after he ran out of that energy he was coming back for more. I had to close “the gas station”
Yes it happens to me a lot in life with so called friends too not just romantic relationships. As an Empath its my nature to help others find their confidence. ..and then they dump you. Re romances. ..they use up your energy till you are no longer You and its inevitable that they lose their emotional attraction to you....you're just no longer the person they fell in love with!!! I didnt even recognise me!!! But his mum had just died so i tried to support him...3x i went to his place and stayed despite knowing i needed to be home attending to my own life and all it got me was taken for granted and dumped! A hard lesson to learn but one I needed to learn. Its so easy for an Empath to become engulfed by another's pain and suffering but it is possible to protect ourselves and keep ourselves "zipped up" as it were. True friends don't diminish your Shine. ..they sparkle with you. Ive noticed it happen to my dad a lot...women flock around him because he makes their husbands look boring in comparison. Other men try to compete with him. Many copy him and use his ideas as their own once they have cruelly got rid of him from the friendship group he formed. He is ex Navy and a real action man even at 81 years old....and I am my father's daughter. However, don't feel sorry for him as despite his popularity he was not kind to his family when i was growing up. He had such low self esteem that he couldn't accept our love for him and sook admiration outside the family. Its because of him that I learnt that I had to 'earn love'...am still working on this and undoing this unhealthy programmming age 56! But I like myself now and i am getting stronger and got my Sparkle back. The Universe sends us people to teach us the lessons we need to learn...over and over...until we finally learn them snd become the Person we were Born to Be! Don't be sad or hate your ex...be glad that you are Free to finally be You and Enjoy your life. Most people never learn these things...good luck everyone!
It happened to me recently, the guy had broken recently his engagement of marriage, but he never mentioned it the topic. When I realised of it by a picture in his Instagram, and I asked him if he love her still, he told me please respect me, how can you ask me that?, past is past, I'm with you in the present.We continue talking until last week, when he published a post in which he was singing a very painful song, the song talks about how much he wants her come back to his life. I deleted him from all my social media. I can't act like if I didn't care his past, I can't "ignore" his past like you suggested in this video.🙂🙂🙂
I think what u did is a bit extreme. U should of had a talk with him first before ghosting him. Communication is imprtant in all relationships. If u gona ghost someone over miscommunication then girl u gona be single for a longgg time
I did this ar first but then his Narcissistic Psycho Ex turned up and threatened to hurt me... i got scared and was too helpful. ...yep he has lost his Attraction for me. ...am in Non Contact now m i needed to learn the lesson of putting myself first. .the Narc did and still does 5 years after thet divorced. Am seeing him Monday. ...i am going to have a good time...hell to his issues and ex...
thank you for the great ideas and i applied it now and its very effective since i have a talent in singing i just sent song for him as a form of communication and i can receive words of wisdom from him thank you for the guidance sir
One guy wanted to marry me, I refused him, after one year he called me & telling his problems etc. One year before when I talked to him, I found he is not mentally fit or fit anyway to make any relationship. Recently I blocked his number, go to hell. When I was listening to him, he was using a technique. At first telling his problems to get my mind or sympathy & then started digging my personal issues. He has no more chance to talk to me. Learn to love 💕 & then come to love me. It is not easy unless you bro g love with you since you born
But since I’ve moved in with him, he has gone into his own world - he doesn’t want to do anything with me much - he expects me to do whatever he wants - WHEN he wants - he doesn’t share his emotions. Its very frustrating.
Maybe he needs to pull away to rebuild his Testosterone, too much Oxytocin (bonding hormone for intimacy) is bad/dentremental for a man as it blocks dopamine & lowers testosterone. Allowing a man to pull away is a Catch 22 situation for us women, we resist this as we become panicky and scared🤔. Good kuck
How come I don’t try to be his mother or his psychiatrist? I guess it’s because I know I’m NOT his mother ? I’m his lover ! Lovers don’t mother , mothers mother their CHILDREN, not their man! It seems like common sense . 😍
What about when you're in the beginning stages of getting to know each other should you guys talk about your past then to share your experiences or just leave it completely out of question?
Hi coach. Me ex is a DA and I am an AP. Been on the 90th day of no contact. It is hard because we have the same circle of friends. I try not to bump into him, thanks to my job keeping me away from my province most of the time. Coach I just want to ask, at a friends birthday recently (which I didn't go to because I knew he is going to be there) he wore the cap I gave him on his birthday last year. That was the first time I saw him wearing it. I saw it on the pictures they took during the birthday party. Did he do it on purpose? He knows I would be sooo happy to see him wear that. Good thing I wasn't there or I will become so weak. 🙄
I'm doing NC. He also didn't contact me during the time. He didn't even update any status on whatsapp. Fyi, he blocked me on Instagram and Facebook. Is he really want to move on?
Alex, I am chasing him. He moved on. We separated 3 months ago already, and saw each other once only since the separation. We dated for 7 months. Is it too late? Should I go in radio silence even if it was short term? Pls help
Hmm this is interesting. I was in a 25yr marriage where I probably mothered him too much. So much that I felt like his mom instead of his wife. He sought other women which is why I left him. But this is interesting to me. I'll have to think about how I'm being. Thank you.
But wait, why would anyone want a relationship with someone who doesn't care about your feelings your problems your life etc... why would anyone want to be with someone who doesn't want to listen? - I don't get it
If you think you have to get someone they are not for you,divine alignment is completely mutual no effort no trying no forcing guessing manipulating it simply is
No I want to marry him and live with him only after marriage..and give myself 1 year to get to know each other with our legs closed..but he ghosted me for any woman willing to live with him unmarried..
My bf broke up with me 5 days ago. He made something into a jealous situation that should not have been. I feel I was an excuse to end things. Said he loves me but needs to work on himself and his anger. I am currently doing the no contact rule. I don’t know what he wants. Ugh
I was being distant and he complaint very badly that I have a very bad character, I don't care about him. When I start checking on him, he becomes a bit distant. I am so confused on what to do
Hey Mary, I'm sorry to hear about this. I would love to help you so I'd recommend you book a coaching call with me so we can talk this out and I can guide you on what to do. www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
What if we mother eachother?😅🙈 ok we don‘t talt about past relationships etc. but we demand from eachother kuddles nonstop (and have no sex cos we‘re pandas now🤣)
Yes. I do agree i cannot understand why he does things and his past, family, etc. Our goal is to grow and not let our life situations get in our way. I want a relationship where we support each other emotionally in a crazy world.
Oh my gosh this is so helpful! We women need to understand this! I love this! I had no clue! Don’t look at his needs! Emotions, challenge them!!!! I would love a video on how not to feminize our men.
Ha-ha! When he has problems he need to go into the man cave and solve it by himself and them come back to pursue you like a queen. Your job is to enjoy the moment and receive from him, not provide advices.
Thank you Alex, your messages are alway inspired me and saved my life. Listening from you I have much benefits but guys still dump me because they are looking for something else without having to ended. Hence, I am continuing my single journey for safe. 😄 thank you so much.
I'm always happy to help Hanh! I know how frustrating this can be but don't give up! You will find someone that's and so I hope you will continue to love and focus on yourself!
What if he says he is too involved in his own world and can't make time for me (LDR) , working hard, make money out of business, can't afford to travel to see me overseas, he says it's his last opportunity, Unfortunately, I had to convince him he is better guy , now ever since I joined a new job, communication has gone down so much that even he is online I have to initiate the conversation myself....people out there, I badly need some emotional boost. He is very good guy (separated) for few years, have had failed relationships in the past. We are in open relationship right now but LDR. He says he wants to get distracted his goal is to make money right now and it's his last opportunity at this age(49)....I am jut not being myself...thinking about him 24x7....pls help me! But he will want to stay in touch with me all life
I observe every details. They think she is so soft & polite, must be fool or idiot. I saw people one face at first & after a while face change.At first very nice or kind or sad or friendly & after few minutes or days or week completely different someone. Purpose is to get attention or sympathy or anger etc getting first & then digging through you to upset you. BUT I listen to guys if I find them no bad intention
I really need help and advice...he has convinced himself I've cheated, not spoken to me about it, moved out without a word and left me in a foreign country. He's been very low and honestly I don't know where to start. I could really use some help.
