I'm very interested to see part two!! Honestly - in my opinion, it's OK for the samurai to do this if he was by himself. I can understand protecting your pride. But this samurai has a family... it feels like he is starving his wife and children to protect his ego. When you have a family, your family is your pride. If they are starving, you should take a gift to make sure your children are fed even if it's embarrassing. You can always make it up to the gift giver later. My heart hurts in this scenario because this happens in real life even today. I had a friend growing up whose family had very little money... but her parents never went to the food bank for free food because they were embarrassed to ask for help. Instead, she starved at lunch every day with barely any food because of her parent's pride. I always shared my lunch with her. :(