Re: Gathering up your personal getting ready stuff: Put a Gold Star on items that belong to the Bride! They are pretty easy to remove & are often sold in multi-colored packs, so your girls can each pick a color. Then have a labeled ziploc or packing cube for all of it to get chucked into- that way you can have 1 pre-wedding bag that's ready to go except for AM items.
Warning if you decide to go barefoot: there could be broken glass! I went to a wedding a few years ago and someone stepped on a small piece of glass the staff missed when they cleaned up. Luckily the wedding was full of people in the medical field and we just had to find the sober-set one, but it would definitely be a bigger deal if no one wants to pull glass out of your feet for you!
@@alexiscormier4059 I would be very careful. It of course comes down to personal preference, but glasses can still break even if everyone is sober. People can accidentally drop them or run into things etc. Personally, I feel a little uncomfy being barefoot, but again, it's personal preference
Here's one for the books. Attended a wedding for a woman who originally wanted me to coordinate her wedding but went with another person. No issues, it was an amicable decision. At the reception everyone was enjoying themselves and then I hear an announcement, "Now that the bride & groom have cut the cake, you may now serve yourself". It was a multi-layer fondant cake AND the wedding coordinator apparently decided she did't want to do it (don't know why). Not sure why the catering staff didn't do it either. As I watched a happy group of children beeline for the cake table, the planner in me got up and tried to beat them to it. I couldn't let a self-serve cake fiasco happen. I sliced and served her cake to over 100 people. Did I mention I hate fondant???
Where I live (Croatia), it's common to have a multi-layered weedding cake and several other cakes. The big one is served by the staff and you cut the other ones on your own.
I'm confused why that would even be allowed by the venders. We have no option but to pay the fees for someone to cut it Very nice of you to help with that
I'm sorry.... I just can't get passed you getting heat for the point about wedding vendor meals... I'm not a wedding vendor, but a fellow human who understands that humans in general need to eat. Yes, with many other jobs, employees are responsible for feeding themselves. HOWEVER, considering the fast-paced nature of a wedding schedule, you'd think people would be more understanding! YES! At my wedding, I will be feeding our vendors - maybe that's just a sandwich in a to-go bag. Maybe they will eat the same thing us and our guests are eating.. But there will be NO starving vendors at our wedding, unless THEY feel like they're not hungry and don't want to eat! Know why? Because they're human too, damnit! And I have the "audacity" to think that humans need nourishment! Regardless of whether they're vendor staff or not!
I found this one odd as well. You want them to work your event, do a good job and be there the whole time, you feed them?! This isn't a normal 9-5 job where leaving for lunch is okay.
Honestly, several of my vendor contracts REQUIRE I provide vendor meals. I'm sure every vendor is different, but I think this is also becoming the norm, as it should be. Vendors are people too!!
I got very frustrated having to provide the same hot meal that we were serving our guests to our vendors as in any other job including fast paced ones you bring your own food or fend for yourself and because most vendors have breaks and don't work a full day, other then the wedding planner. They work the hours they dictate. I was very frustrated having to spend another 100 dollars on each vendor. They dictate their prices as well. Yes everyone is human and needs to eat but it's also everyone's responsibility to take care of themselves.
💯 agree with you here. I can't imagine not feeding those who are working so hard to make my day special. I mean, yes, you could say it is a part of their job, but anyone who is spending a whole day working for me will be fed and tipped.
Jamie PLEEEEAAASSEE do a video all about hosting a brunch wedding! Idk if that’s the right move, or doing a full weekend wedding with a Sunday farewell brunch. I know everyone’s style & budget is different, but I want to know how to elevate a brunch wedding so that people don’t feel like it’s just breakfast. I want it to be a PARTY!! 🎉🎊 LOVE YOU ❤️
@@bellaloves8656 Right? I’m asking this because my bf & I are actively talking about getting engaged, & our favorite meal shared is pretty much brunch. So I know brunch will have to be part of the wedding somehow. I want a full weekend event (Friday rehearsal dinner, Saturday wedding & Sunday brunch) because how often do all of our families & friends from both sides come together for happy occasions on that large of a scale? NEVER! At least in my case. But that costs a lot of money, especially paying for everyone’s accommodations. Having just a Sunday brunch wedding with a daytime ceremony I’m sure will cut costs significantly, plus people won’t have to take off from work, & I can possibly have an after party with our closest people so that I don’t miss out on the party aspect. All that crazy, drunk sweaty dancing is my jam lol won’t really happen from drinking bottomless mimosas & bloody Mary’s...or will it 🤔😂
@@misslenisekayy7897 my fiancé and I are doing a brunch wedding. Ceremony starts at 11:30. We are hoping to be done with everything by 3 so we can leave for our honeymoon. Dancing isn’t really our thing and we absolutely love breakfast foods. Instead of a cake, we are doing a waffle bar. I’m so excited. It definitely cut costs down with having out of town guests. 75 people for under $4k is pretty good I think
Regarding the point of somebody being in charge of the marriage certificate, I had a co-worker once who got married and forgot to submit the marriage license form. Cut to six months later he found out that she cheated on him with one of her co-workers so their marriage ended and that's when he found out that the paperwork was never submitted so essentially they just had a really expensive party. 🙃
I watched the original video 2 years ago when I was planning my 2020 wedding. Now this one is a helpful reminder as we're planning our now twice-postponed wedding for this fall. 🤞🤞🤞
I work as an event manager at different properties in different states and You Have To Feed Vendors! I have literally NEVER had an event that didn’t do this. It’s actually hilarious that people think it’s acceptable to not do this.
As a photog--THANK YOU. I often print 3 copies of the family breakdown list, one for me, and one for a family member on both sides to help me wrangle. It should only take 15-30 minutes, but can take so much longer if people are distracted.
Can we see a video on gifts? Who do you buy them for, how much do you spend? I’ve seen that you get for parents who are contributing but I’ve also seen that you get them as a general thank you for raising the human you’re marrying. What are your favorite gifts (to the wedding party and family) and what are ones you’ve cringed thinking, “I wouldn’t have done that”.
I will treat my vendors as my guests. My wedding is this Fall and we are lucky to have hired so many wonderful people to help us out that day... And there is no way I would let them go hungry. I understand that hiring wedding professionals is expensive, but at the same time trust them completely that their time is worth my buck. They are the ones working their asses off that day, and the least I can do is provide them with some warm food. I might be stingy when it comes to decor and might cut expenses here and there, but no way would I leave my vendors to fend for themselves when they spend their whole day devoted to my wedding. For all those out there in the wedding industry, thank you for your hard work!
On the vendor meals point- my fiancé used to be a DJ (in the UK, so normally they would only do the evening portion of a wedding), and they were hired for an all-day event, which was very rare for them. However, despite the fact that they were onsite in a remote field from 11am until 1am, they were not provided any food. My fiancé did take a Pot Noodle with him just in case (he’s vegetarian so sometimes has to be careful about food prepared by other people), and a kettle to fill with water, but as soon as he plugged the kettle in, it caused the generator to surge and all the power went off 😅 They got it back up and running again after about 15 minutes, but that is a lesson in what can happen if you don’t feed vendors! 😂
Hi Jamie, It's Mig. Thank you for continuing to be a great resource! As a former vendor, our meals were part of our contract. I always suggested having a specific time associated (i.e. 6-7: set one; 7-7:30: band meal break; 7:30-8: set two, etc.). I'd also arrange to have ALL vendors eat at the same time so we didn't miss anything important in the overall wedding timeline.
As a wedding consultant, I always offer to my brides to take a bustle video. I will walk through all the steps of bustling the dress while a friend records with a phone (I always recommend recording a video on the bride's phone and a video on their friend/mom/MOH's phone)
When my fiance got married to his first wife over 20 yrs. ago, they had forgotten to book transportation to the reception. Thankfully, his grandmother was still at the ceremony site after everyone else had left the church. If she hadn't been there, they have no idea how they would have gotten to the reception.
I have to work so I’m just going to keep letting the videos/adds run on mute in the background. I am not even engaged yet and you’ve helped so much. I know when we do get engaged (soon) and start planning our wedding I’ll be prepared because of you! Thank you!
So true about keeping track of your stuff. I was at a friend's wedding a while back and the bride's bag that contained her bra that she ABSOLUTELY needed when she changed into her reception dress went missing. No one knew where it was so someone from her family had to go to the store and buy her a strapless bra and stickies. MAKE SURE SOMEONE IS TRACKING YOUR STUFF!!!
One little mistake we made was we remembered the cake cutter but there were no forks near the cake. We ended up using our hands haha and leaning forward to not get the cake all over our clothes. Still worked out and I find it funny just didn’t make for the most flattering photos haha! I still consider that a sweet memory.
Could you talk about when to do things like nails, eyelashes, skin treatments, etc before the wedding? I'm not engaged yet lol but I'm curious what that timeline looks like to be prepped in time!
I have a vender feeding question. -Our makeup artists will be with us in the morning for 2 1/2 hours so I'm going to have muffins and coffee for them. -Our hair stylist is also a friend so she will have muffins, coffee, lunch and dinner. -My photographer is going to be fed lunch and dinner and she can have getting ready snacks too. Do I need to worry about onsite venders? Like the chef who runs the kitchen for the restaurant that will be open at the same time as our wedding, or the people who bring the plates to the tables for dinner etc; I'm probably overthinking things..
Ive been with you since the "How to Plan a Backyard Wedding" video. I got married over a year ago, but I still love to catch up with you because I love to entertain and host get togethers all the time. Loved this recap of your old video!
I haven’t been this early to one of your videos in... I think ever. Just saying HI AND IM SO PROUD OF YOU and thank you for being such an amazing resource! ❤️
Oh my gosh this almost happened to me! I was a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding. We got ready at her house and all hopped in whatever vehicles with no real coordination. I rode with my friend's mom and sister. Little did I know that all the small decorations from the ceremony site were going in her car! I just lost my ride from the ceremony to the reception. Fortunately I was able to get a ride from someone else. But I was almost left at the ceremony site! Please, please have a coordinating plan with all of your bridal party!
Just make sure whomever is cleaning/packing up the getting ready space doesn't pack a hot curling iron improperly. Definitely don't need a fire at the wedding venue or in the getaway car!
So glad I don’t have to worry about overnight bag or transportation. My venue is a two minute walk from my house 😂🥰🥰🥰 also have a two day cleaning up period afterwards!
Hi Jamie... I've been watching you for the last 2 years while.plannimg my wedding. I got married last week with 25 ppl and no reception. my reception is next year wld love ur best tips on making it theist fun possible with kids included
Jamie - I need your help, please! Regarding vendor meals - I totally agree but have a question about it. I have my photographer for 5 hours so that's my ceremony then photos....BUT then it's dinner time so how does that work for my 5 hrs??? I want to have photos of our first dance, cake cutting and then evening photos outside...all after dinner but there won't be time if dinner eats up 2 hours of her on the clock....how do I deal with this? Do I need to buy more time? Is it reasonable for the dinner time to count on her being on the clock? If she is on the clock during dinner, I don't need her to take photos of us stuffing our faces so do I just have her over at our DIY photobooth and let guests know to head over and get photos taken during dinner?
Wait, people actually got offended by the idea of feeding their vendors? What? I honestly thought that was a given thing. You have people at your wedding for the day, guest or working, they deserve to eat. Humans really needs to get back in touch with their humanity.