At no point did this coach give any answers. All answers were pulled out of the client via questions and periods of silence. This was a solid example of guiding clarity. Finding the places of 'stuckness' and digging at it from another angle. Thank you.
Thanks for watching and commenting! We are thrilled that you noticed the value of asking curious questions and leaving space for the client to provide their own answers. Keep loving your life's work!
As a "coach in training", I found this session to be incredibly valuable. Kelly's use of open questions, challenging and comfortable silence really drew out some "gold nuggets" and observations from Steve. Thank you for sharing the session with us.
Thank you for sharing this, I'm learning a lot, including how Kelly noticed somatic shifts which I missed. Any ideas/ thoughts on how I can sharpen this skill?
@Victor Omollo Practice being present with yourself so you can be more present with others. Sit more in silence. Meditate. Take short breaks during the day to breathe intentionally. When you interact with a person (any), talk less and listen more and observe the person. It takes to sharpen genuine curiosity about others and it also starts with self curiosity :-)
@@hasnaa11136 Thank you for this helpful tip to practice presence. I've just realized that I've slacked in this area of taking breaks to breathe. Makes sense, I need to practice with self and that sharpens genuine curiosity. Top tip for the week for me
There's a new program coming up next month that will deepen your somatic awareness. It's called Leading by Authentic Self Presence -- www.invitechange.com/solutions/enterprise-solutions/leading-by-authentic-self-presence. Hope you can register, Victor!
Kelly, thank you for a great example of coaching flow. What advice would you have for someone starting their coaching journey to help set the beginning, middle and end for the session. Did you start with a handful of standard questions?
Hi Barbara, thank you for your thoughtful feedback and question. I do not have a standard set of questions. I find the most effective approach is our authentic presence and real-time curiosity in service of the client’s goals. Therefore, I’ll offer the metaphor of a road trip to illustrate one way to approach this. While listening to a client describe what they want from our time together, imagine they’re describing a road trip. Visualize the destination (vision/aspiration), the type of journey they are describing, and play it back for them to confirm you’re seeing what they’re seeing. Sometimes these question prompt them to refine their initial thinking and the ‘picture’ shifts as we talk, which can be highly valuable in itself. As the picture becomes more clear, I confirm where we are starting from (i.e., Seattle to Florida, or?) so I can meet them where they are. I also pay attention to their preference for how we approach the journey (i.e., car, RV, motorcycle), the route they want to start with (back roads, country lane, freeway), and how that informs where we are likely to land for the time available today. If they’re not sure, we brainstorm possible options together and they select their preferred approach, what leg of the trip they want to focus on, and what “arriving” will mean for today. I am also mindful of ensuring they remain in the driver’s seat. I likewise don’t ‘own’ the map (we are usually co-creating it as we go), but I continue to hold it in my mind as they drive while periodically checking in on where we are so far. This includes helping them to reflect on what they’re experiencing, noticing, and finding most useful about our journey so far (versus waiting until the end of day). Sometimes these interim check-ins prompt them to discover a shortcut neither of us saw in advance, or an interesting ‘detour’ that is more valuable than speeding through to the original destination, or an interesting view point that we pull over to further explore. Sometimes we even arrive at our destination faster than expected. As we approach wrap-up for the day, I prompt them to summarize their reflections and how those inform what they will do next to prepare for an even more rewarding phase of the journey ahead. Last but not least, remember to enjoy the journey! Warmly, Kelly “It’s good to have an end to journey toward, but it’s the journey that matters in the end.” - Ursula K. Le Guin
@@inviteCHANGE love this metaphor and the rich content with the context. As a grad of inviteCHANGE, I especially appreciate the quality of coaching education and training provided over many months for this to now emerge organically in my coaching. I learned Generative Coaching and the ICF core competencies all in service to the client and more seamlessly over the years. Making the invisible visible for the client. Thanks, Janet and team!
The video was fantastic to learn from other leaders on the kind of challenges they encounter and also to be part of the conversation. A special kudos to Steve for his courage in recording and posting his conversation online.. 😊
Powerful questions. Active listening. Silence. Client’s agenda. The coach connected with the coachee and this made the session interesting. I stand to be corrected but I think the GROW Model and Balanced formula played out here. I enjoyed it. Will help in my ICF journey.
