Watch this BEFORE you transition 

I really appreciate your video. I am a mum of a transdaughter that came out to her dad and I approximately 18 months ago at 29. We are trying our best to be supportive but we still at times struggle to understand her journey. She wanted to rush into surgeries within 6 months so we voiced our concerns that Hrt needs time to work. Fortunately we had a great relationship all her life so she heard our concerns. She is so much happier than ever before so how can we not be happy for her. It is a journey for parents too.

This trans woman really hits the spot! Good for you Gloria these people really need to make sure this is what they want! I Thank You you are definitely a breath of fresh air!😎

No matter how old you are, you deserve to be happy. If that means transitioning, a therapist can be a critical lifeline to sanity. The therapist that I found was so patient with my thoughts and, when I was ready, he knew how to help me find the resources I need. A good therapist and a doctor that makes you feel safe to talk openly is very important.

Completely agree. Step 1️⃣ get therapy!! Step 2️⃣ be absolutely open and honest with your therapist. & T blockers are the acid test, if you start crashing as men do when going through prostate cancer treatment, advancing to HRT isn't going to fix it. It's not a race, forward momentum is always good, but this is a very long and painful marathon and that's even the case if you have a easy ride of it. Edit: & when you start HRT get progesterone as well, your sleep pattern will thank you for it, honestly it's better than valium.

All great advice! You are so right about building up a strong support of people around you before starting to transition. Doing it alone is so not the right way to transition.

The one thing that makes recommending therapy to trans people hard is therapists who don't deserve their license. They aren't common from what I hear, but conversion torturers sometimes pose as therapists and cis people will often struggle to tell the difference. Get therapy, but be willing to bail the moment your therapist tries pushing you to be someone you don't want to be, or makes you ashamed of who you are.

Love it, love you, happy for you. Keep on being gorgeous 😘

I'm a 21-year old transfem and I probably might not be able to medically transition until I graduate and get a stable job and my own home. I have friends who are supportive and a few family members are willing to let me talk to a therapist though, fortunately. I prefer to dress masc (even when I try to imagine myself as a woman I want to be seen as somewhere between a tomboy and a butch lesbian), I never felt dysphoric until I turned 18, and I never had a problem with my own maleness until I learned what it meant to be nonbinary and trans from an enby acquaintance I knew as a cis boy from high school. Sometimes I wonder if I'm better of repressing it until I die since I'll end up starting late anyway, and I'll probably never pass, and will be seen as anything but a weird man who thinks he has a girly streak that doesn't actually exist, and it sucks. I mean, I was always pretty respectable as a man and I'm probably being a self-absorbed idiot by throwing it all away, but I digress. I can't exclusively rely on having a therapist metaphorically pat me on the back and say "there, there" whenever I vent about how I feel for the rest of my life. Waiting for the next life isn't going to cut it, and I don't want to be the family member who represses everything until it explodes. Maybe I could live like trans people in the past by coping and burying myself in my work to forget my dysphoria because no treatment exists, but I cannot do that today, especially with the visibility our community gets, and the visibility people who managed to make it while transitioning get. I can't just un-know that there is an alternative to burying how I feel, not in this age. "When you have once gained sight, it is impossible to feign blindness.” - Svetlana Alliluyeva, daughter of Joseph Stalin and Soviet defector to the United States

Oh my god your voice is so beautiful

You are a beautiful doll 😍

Thanks, you are so informative! I'm doing the skin patches, I wear them like a badge oh honor! My skin is so smother now, my scalp is free of oil, my nipples have a wonderful soreness that let's me know things are working! I won't go back! I'll never be as beautiful as you are, but, I can be beautiful in my way!❤❤😊

Sofia Vergara 😂😂

it was indeed a good video

I'd like to hear more about what you mean when you said you "transitioned alone" and moved away for it, and why you don't recommend it

Gloria, I am not sure you can relate to this, but I started transitioning when I was sixty-eight years old. There are reasons why it took me so long. I will not get into that. Therapy, yes, at any point you decide to transition or before. For me, I could not go on living as my birth gender, male. It was now or never. If I did not do it, I would have been overwhelmed with dysphoria and I would have had a hard time functioning. My egg had a crack in it when I was a kid. It split completely two years ago. Before transitioning, ask yourself why are you questioning your gender. Are you happy with your body? Are you happy with how people treat you in your current gender? Do you want to change and live all the time in the gender different from your birth gender? Does that idea exhilarate you? There are many more questions you can ask yourself. Then I would say, take time to explore. Get into therapy. Imagine how you see yourself changing both physically and psychologically when you think of changing. Be that person. If it feels like who you really are, you are on the right path. It is not easy. Yes, if you do it when older there are things to undo. But, IMO, that should not seem daunting if you have the sense that your true gender is different from your birth gender. Before HRT you may not have worked it all out. Yes, Gloria, as you say, once starting HRT you will better know if transitioning is right for you. I do not think you will know it from one pill. Maybe three or four months. After a year of HRT you should be very sure you are on the right path or not. I am going on twenty-two months on HRT and I finally can say I am a happy person. Gloria thanks for your fun and informative videos. ❤

Where do you see yourself is a few years? What is your main life goal at the moment?

Can you do a video on voice training?

Shame that therapy is one of the most important parts and it’s one of the least accessible for me lol.

Gloria -- Three points you didn't mention include: 1. Irreversibility of medical stages of transitioning, eg, HRT and bottom surgery. 2. Inability to have own biological children (could use a sperm bank, but must be done timely). 3. Biblical interpretation of transitioning and even crossdressing. Perhaps you could share your thoughts on these topics in a future video, if you haven't done do already.