Judge Judy said it best, if you don't make it in your 20s, you can make it in your 30s. If you don't make it in your 30s, you can make it in your 40s and so on. Your life is not just your 20s. I have felt this unfulfilled and underachieved feeling. I think it is a very human feeling and it is necessary for growth. I just try and make decisions from where I am currently and not based on some distant expectation of what I should be.
@@MMD-ed6do There’s a ton of successful people who didn’t figure it out until 40+ years old. No one is talking about how much they failed in their 20s.
@@MMD-ed6doyour 30s might be based on what you did in your 20s but 20s is not the sole factor in how your life turns out. I take it you’re really young because 20s is the very beginning of adulthood.
But there is no magic or god that will you give something. You have still have to try to get somewhere. Get up and you will see, if you invest time and energy in a theme, than good things will happen. Dont be afraid to failure, its a learning for doing it better.
I am 36, good job, married, and I will tell you there’s no use in chasing things do what makes you happy and if you want something go for it. But you’ll always be chasing the next thing. The things I have are just foundations they don’t bring constant happiness, they bring security which helps but happiness is in little things that are free.
Exactly why I deleted all of mine. It gives a false reality and I’ve had enough of watching others live their lives when I can put that into my own life.
How is cyber security? I am considering it, though I don’t have experience in IT. Do you think that’ll matter if I decide to go back to school for a masters?
@@roneng.anititutoringcoachi159 It tough, but worth learning and something everyone should pursue in this crazy world to be aware online. If you're good at math you should do fine, look up the OSI model (OSI & TCP/IP) and understand how binary works, that was basically my first quarter
I’m 35, have been with my partner for 17 years, we have 2 kids together. We have the nice house. My husband has a good paying job and I am a stay at home mom. It would appear we have it all figured out, but I am very insecure because my life skills have diminished, I have 0 friends, my husband hates his career, and my kids make me psychotic most days. The stress is unbearable. Why is this the goal? Enjoy life no matter where you are. There may be a person who wishes they were in your shoes.
Why do I feel this so deeply? I'm 42, married 16 years with a lovely daughter, comfortable home, and "good" job as a nurse x 17 years. I've achieved the American dream, but I often feel exhausted, burnt out, and lonely.
Hi. I am 35, jobless, single, broke, on rent, lost both my parents. Feeling hopeless scared unstable unmotivated drained. Lost my strength and motivation. All my friends have their life settled and me... NOTHING
@@mbank3832 Thank you for your words, I'm still grieving even after two yrs but I try to remind myself that it's comes with the package of growth and I'm growing wiser and stronger than before. I would still have waves of moments where I would feel sad and longing but each time, those episodes in it's duration becomes less and less and more faint, it's a slow painful goodbye to the old self and in with the new.
People overhype our 20s way too much. Our society has a very weird obsession with it that is not healthy or normal. Why would you want to peak in your 20s and then plateau for the rest of your life? Just because you “make it” in your 20s it doesn’t mean life is always going to be like that for the next 60 years.
I was super reckless in my 20s Selling dope Gambling all hrs of the night I got married to my high school girlfriend, made a million bucks, bought 3 houses on and on, then in my 30s the drinking and drugging start running its course Now I’m 40 and still married to same woman we have an 8 year old I made it thru those years with one house that we live in and we own the building we do business out of But I’m working harder than I ever have in life for the least money. 2 1/2 years off of alcohol, gambling and drugs other than weed
I’m 41 now and I’m retraining for a better paying career. I just started last year and honestly it’s draining to do this and work full time. I wish I had started doing this at 35. or any earlier stage honestly. But I don’t want five years more to pass ending with me looking back and saying I wish I had started at 41. That is my motivation.
I'm 43, divorced single mom. I have no job, no skills, no idea what to do. I was a stay at home mom for almost 2 decades. I feel really lost. Thank you for this video. I guess it's never too late.
Man i used to think that i was the only one who was lost in life, I'm 27 and i literally have no skills i don't know where to go or who to turn to, life feel a lit lost right now😢 I hope everything changes for you one day, indeed it's never to late at 43 you can still make a big and positive change to your life and people around you, goodluck 😢❤
@foodsta6 Thank you so much! You're definitely not alone. There are soo many people feeling stuck and not knowing what to do right now. Please just know you're not alone and we can overcome this. 27 is still very young, and you have lots of time to find your path. I've been looking into it. There's training, volunteer work, apprenticeships.. even finding one job can lead to another. I went to community college, and there were people from 18 all the way to their 50s in my class. Also I find that my church community is really helpful when I'm feeling down. Please don't give up. There is always a way, and we're definitely not the only ones feeling this way. I think the saying "where there's a will, there's a way" applies here. We just need to be hopeful and creative and willing to give any opportunity a try. We'll get there. Lots of love and best of luck.
I’m 44 and a single Mom to 2 kids (one is on the autism spectrum) and I’m grateful to have my job but it’s not my passion. I ask God to help me and He surrounds me with my parents and brothers to help me along the way. It’s tough getting used to this normal but I am trying to focus on what I have and to be thankful versus grieving and staying stuck in the past. God bless us all!
You are so right. While it may seem like people are progressing and doing way better than we are, we are also better than some people out there, who desperately wish they could live our lives and experience our problems. Life is funny, better to count our blessings, make the most of our processes, work smart & hard, and not forget to take a break and smell the roses.
I thought when I graduated college after serving 4 years in the military, I had my path laid out in front of me. Little did I know that wasn’t the case. COVID happened and I was living in my car while maintaining a job flipping burgers because I had no prospects. Eventually, I ended up homeless and addicted to drugs and alcohol. Today, I am happy to say that I am close to 4 years sober. I got my masters degree. I make 6 figures. I married my beautiful wife and I couldn’t be more grateful. The universe is a weird and unpredictable place, but if you work hard and keep smiling, you will be blessed.
Wow that’s amazing! This comment made me so happy 😀 I almost committed suicide because I was an alcoholic/addict for 14 years, felt hopeless, ended up in a mental hospital where I finally got sober, now I’m over 2 years sober and working on my Masters degree to become a mental health counselor. I’m 31 and have been feeling bad that I’m still living with parents, no job, not married no kids.. I have a nice car but lost my drivers license because of a second dui, but this gives me hope and encouragement that I’m on the right path and it’s never too late to turn my life around!
What did you study? I just got out this January. I did 8 years and figured getting a good job would be easy with the skills I got out with in the navy. I did end up getting a solid job with boeing but with little civilian skills I ended up signing a contract for a year that pays about 800 less then what I was making in the military and to top it off no benefits or PTO. I legit am dipping into the savings from military just to pay my bills so basically I spend more then I make.
37 here with, not to brag about it, lots of potential and yet I find myself after years of jumping from one job to another trying to establish a more stable career. No stability, didn’t own a house or car or got married or any of these so-called happiness line of ducks. Still loving myself and knowing full well that I am so close to finding my true purpose and I’m working on it. Matter of fact, I can see it happening. Thanks for the video ❤
Do you think you haven’t found the right career path? I noticed I’ve been jumping to job to job because I don’t know what my passion is so I just take any job and I fail. I even went back to school and I think I went for the wrong degree. It’s really disheartening but you can only work a job so long that you don’t really like. Not saying that’s your situation.
But I relate to everyone here - 36, no partner (I feel like my pickiness has made it that way), confused about everything else, lost and stuck, while being trapped at home with toxic parents and can barely hold down a job, it’s exhausting and stressful
I’m 35. I work a terrible job, I’m in a toxic relationship & I’m in the middle of family drama. I might not get my shit together until I’m in my 40s but I’m DETERMINED to accomplish my goals, the only thing stopping it is me.
That's my story as well except my job isn't terrible just not what I want to do. It's worse when you live with family who doesn't want you there. We will get through this because if I have to make a choice between keeping the life I have now or building a new one. I'll grind everyday for that new one. Don't give up love you have a purpose.
I completely skipped my 20s. From 15 to 19 I partied and had friends, boyfriends, always straight A+ student. At 20 suddenly stopped existing. Cancelled all socials, stopped going out of my house, dropped college. From when I was 21 I keep repeating “next year is gonna be my year” but it never comes the time I get access to my potential again. I know I was talented and charismatic and pretty and now I am none of those anymore, I feel like I lost everything I was and every passing second I’ve less and less opportunities. Thank you for this video, I’ll stop waiting for “the right year” and start with this day God blessed me with.
@create306 thank you so much for sharing your experience and for your advice, you’re right and I’ll do my best to remember your words🤍 I’m glad you found your happiness 🤍
crazy how its gonna basically be the opposite for me lol I stopped existing at like 13 and my teen years were completely spent in online schooling and isolation, I haven't interacted with anybody my age in years, never been to a party etc. but I plan on making up for it in my 20's but I gotta figure it out fast because my 20's are right on the horizon
I just turned 40 and I feel like a lot of my 20s and 30s was just trying to figure myself out. I was trying to live society's definition of success, but just felt lost. I had to think real hard about what my personal version of success looks like. I'm sure at 60 I'll think I didn't know anything still at this stage, but finally feel like I have a path forward
When you’re around 30, you go through Saturn Return. Life as you know it is supposed to fall apart, so a new and more authentic identity can be built from the ground up. If you’re around 28-32, welcome to Saturn Return. It will pass♥️
I didn't become financially independent until I was in my late 30's, and I'm still in my 30's. In addition to having purchased my second home and earning money on a monthly basis through passive income, I've also achieved three out of five goals. I just hope this inspires someone to realize that it doesn't matter if you don't have any of these things yet, you can start today no matter your age. Change your future by investing! I made a rather big decision by investing in the financial market.
20s were great for me but turning 30 at the very start of Covid lockdowns was a premonition of the years to come. About to turn 33 and I’m so stuck. I don’t love work, kids unlikely to be soon, anxiety isn’t great, no clear goals, friends have fizzled away. So excited for this chanel to grow.
I'm 33 turning 34. But I just take each day as I can. I actively looked for a job I would like to at least try. Now I do Japanese sake events and learn about it. No experience in that but y'never know.
I'm 33 turning 34. But I just take each day as I can. I actively looked for a job I would like to at least try. Now I do Japanese sake events and learn about it. No experience in that but y'never know.
It’s okay if you don’t have children. I think the concept of having children is overrated but it’s glorified and so many people regret having children when they did because they didn’t know any better.
Hi. I am 35, single, currently jobless, having social anxiety, broke, lost my father. But I still have hope that I could change my life back to my normal days. Thanks for this encouraging video.
Lies from the enemy. You have purpose on life. Know God and he will help you! You got this girl! God loves you! Keep going. Living and breathing on earth is a gift from God❤
I'm glad this popped up in my recommended. I'm in my 30s now and often feel like a loser. But there is still time. There's always time. It's nice to not feel alone and it gave me the motivation I need. ☺
I’m 38 and not in a relationship or have kids. I still live with my parents, whom I take care of and look after since they’re very old. I also watch my nephew and take care of him as well due to my older sister being a single mom and financially burdened with 3 kids on her own. I’m pretty content with my life. I’m surrounded by family so I don’t feel lonely and I’m an introvert anyway so I enjoy my alone time reading or playing video games or just go shopping on my own. I love my job, it’s chill and relaxing, also pays good. I bought my own car and have no debt. My next goal is to buy a house so my entire family can all live together. To me, this is ”success”. You define your own success when you feel contentment.
You should strive for kids and a wife to keep the family going. Kids bring so much light and joy into your life and then as you grow old, hopefully they can be there with you as you are with your parents now. God bless, blessings to you and all your family.
@@brianpendez5340 I’m a female lol. I would like to have at least one kid but it’s okay if I don’t because I’m already taking care of my sister’s children since she is burdened with being a single mom. Kids do bring joy to our lives and I’m experiencing that through my nieces and nephew.
I'm 33, single for 13 years, hates my job thoroughly, riddled with end-stage kidney failure with very low chance of transplant due to rare blood. But I just want to say, I'm losing time, but still holding out. Trying to live my life as good as I can... And I hope all of you can do better than I am. Take advantage of your good health, stay hopeful and do your best!
I was never bothered because I never really cared about achievements. I just wanted a job to pay for my apartment and good food. And it never changed. I am working in system administration, which in Germany pays ok but nothing crazy. Somehow I don't have any ambition to change that. I'm now 36. I'm curious if this will change. But the good thing about this, I'm happy because I don't follow targets so I don't have any fails in not achieving them. And because I don't care much about achieving something, I cannot be unhappy not achieving something. At least it works for me A good tip is, never look at other people. Don't care about what others do or have done. Everyone is different. Some are only happy earning 100k or more while others just want as much time with themselves or with their dogs, cat or family. Only change, if you really feel unhappy. Never change because you think you must change because others did
Your content in life and that's not a bad thing. Some people never feel accomplished because they have a constantly moving goal post. If you can provide for yourself and are generally happy with the quality of life you have then that's an accomplishment to me
That's awesome. I'm currently 28 with no job no money and no partner. Honestly I just want to live a decent life where I can comfortably afford at least the basic things of life but it's looking like that might never be me. Now looking into getting into edu tech but still don't know where to start from after a lot of research, thinking about it just makes me very very sad
I’m in my mid 30s and I’m trying hard AF to get my sh*t together. What’s helping me is realizing that I can be my authentic and creative self while doing my best to get sh*t done. Trying to live based on how society defines progress is a disaster waiting to happen. I’m doing better at avoiding people pleasing. Lastly, it’s also been helpful to realize that ALL of us are trying to get our sh*t together no matter what people post online. Thanks for this video!
Thank you for sharing this… I am 33 and I haven’t achieved much not b/c I’m lazy or don’t appreciate my parents but b/c my whole life I felt like I was being micromanaged and sheltered to the point of not really knowing what I really wanted or not much excites me…higher education was definitely something being constantly told to do not just by my immigrant parents as well as the social community I grew up in… I always felt like a black sheep…
@@crissymiller yes I was being sheltered and micromanaged by my mother a lot even when I was attending a community college that was so close to home… it was nice to be away from home and stay at the campus even after class was over to maybe talk to people from my class or just get to know myself more and explore my surrounding… I would get constant phone calls from her always wanting to know where iam or if I’m talking to someone which was fine and it tells me she’s very caring but it also became too much as well. There would be times where I might forget to turn my phone off especially if I’m in class and my phone would ring and interrrupt the class or my mother always having to know everything and my whole class schedule so that she knows when I should be arriving home…
I'm in the EXACT same boat as you!! I'm also 33, about to be 34 this year...and my whole life I was heavily micromanaged and sheltered by mom. It was so bad that there are still a lot of things I can't do that I should know by now. For years I've just been working as a dishwasher because I had no ability or confidence to learn or try something new. But I made a decision last year to go back to school and try to start my life by getting a career. It really isn't easy because seeing my peers who are literally a decade younger than me be more successful already has really taken a toll on my mental health. Many times I've considered ending my life because I feel like my life is pointless but I'm trying to push through and at least get my degree
Same. I find life depressing because of the people that surrounds me. I want to be happy and know where my life should be so I keep praying but it’s still not easy. Sometimes I am so overwhelmed that I forget to pray and just kept on thinking and demoralizing myself. I hope that we will all be happy and content. Let’s cheer each other up.❤
My life's pretty shitty too. I'll be 28 in a month reaching close to my 30s. I still don't have a bachelors degree, I am unemployed, I live in a ruined house full of mold, roofs dripping from humidity, rat and cockroach infestations, broken cooking appliances, only enough money for 1 meal a day, never had a relationship, I have an incurable UTI. I compare myself to my friends that made it in life and I feel disheartened. The future still looks bleak. I don't know why I still am hoping for some miracle instead of considering suicide. But hey, at least that's a good thing
You just need to work a plan. Don't say your UTI is uncurable. You just do not know how to cure it yet. You are capable. Listen to norman vincent peale.
Hi, You can make it out of whatever you are going through. If you need anyone (therapist) to speak to you can contact me. I can do so for freely. I know how it feels.
Wow. I am at the exact same conditions, except that I am 44. My house is in exactly that same condition, and I fear my roof will collapse any moment. Rain is starting to pour in and soon there won't be a dry spot in this house anymore. I get some help, so for now I can have more than one meal a day. But the worst feeling is that I've failed my daughter. I battle suicide thoughts everyday. I told myself that this is the last year I will try to get out of this situation.
Hi, I just read your comment and I wanted to tell you that you should try to pray 🙏🏻 God can bring anyone out of a bad situation. Since I gave my life to Jesus he has completely turned my life around ❤ please at least try it 🙏🏻 it will give you peace, and hope, I promise God will help you, and does healing miracles! You just need to have Faith and believe.
Your 20s are a period of self-discovery and finding out what you want out of life, a partner, and everything. I just turned 28 and my life has been a zig-zag full of turns. Only now do I discover that my passions lie with two creative projects that I started in 2023 and 2024 and my work just pays for my bills and keeping a roof over my head. You grow as you experience life and move across countries. You grow as you meet new people and gain new perspectives. You are not meant to figure everything out by 30, and if anyone is telling you else, they are lying. Stop stressing yourself out fam if you are reading this, just focus on getting better 1% everyday.
Life is not a race. We all learn and grow at our own pace. If you feeling not accomplished, don't be too hard on yourself. Look at where you can improve.
I am in the last year of my 20s. I've made a lot of mistakes and held myself back at times because I wasn't ready. I too planned to get married in my 20s and have a stable job, but it did not turn out that way at all. I've only recently decided what I want to do with my life. I'm glad to have come across your video, it's uplifting and a good feeling to know that I am not alone. I'm excited to see how your channel grows!!
im 27 lost my motivation at 17.No drive to succeed nothing(low self esteem thanks to my toxic ambitious brother), regretted at the age of 24, started making little changes at 25, made a blunder at 26 with my career choice, fell into depression still making mistakes but you know what i told my myself no more im choosing hapiness.Thank you for the wonderful video.
I am 25, and I have never felt so young. A lot of people younger than my age seemed like they have their life together because of social media platforms like TikTok, making 6 figures and all, travelling, being able to buy what they want, and it was so discouraging to see that they're living the dream life I wanted. But thank you so much for this. You are like the sister I needed for today, because I've been feeling so down ever since I turned of age. I am reminded that there is still plenty of time to get my life together. Love lots. Just subscribed. 🖤❤
So relatable. I'm 36 and one huge thing that changed my life in my 30s was to finally start being honest with myself. Asking myself what I honestly want, who i honestly am, what are my honest flaws and what are my honest strengths, etc. Doing this sometimes reveals how much we play ourselves. We "want" things simply because we think we should want them. We live in places because it's what we're used to but it's not where we truly want to be. We judge ourselves so much harder than we would judge a loved-one going through the same thing. Just my two cents. All the best to you in your 20s!
I'm 39 this year and the 30s were never good to me,I lost everything,my career,my car,my heart got broken a couple of times in my 30s.I was so confused when it comes to my career.I feel like a looser but i hold on to the hope that this final year of my 30s will be good and pave a way for my fulfilling 40s
Really needed this encouragement, thank you! I'm in my early 30s and feeling lost with my life at the moment. Currently not happy with my job, recently broke up from a long term relationship and still trying to figure out my purpose and meaningful career/business. Taking it one day at a time, although it's very tough when you feel lost and alone.
The clock started clicking for me in my early 20s and this decade just slipped by. It is all a blur to me, a time that I wasted in paralysis and stagnation and self-sabotage. I will become 34 in a few months and I am just recovering from the self-paralysis and darkness of the last decade. I was not truly awake and I wished I have awaken sooner from this stupor. Now, I am rushing to get a lot of things finished. I did finish my master's but I never truly enjoyed it nor I benefited from it, worked temporarily as a teacher but quit. I could have done more. I am just starting to read a lot of my books in my library that I never got to read 10 to 12 years ago. I do not know how I left them untouched, so is my life. It is always I could have done this at that time and never realized I wasted time until now. My ADHD also affected me.
Please be kind to yourself! I was diagnosed with raging ADHD at the age of 31 and I felt awful about it. But then I realised for me existing only takes up 3x more resources compared to a „normal” person. When I was younger and didn’t know myself every day was a struggle. We should be proud we made it and remember than not everyone reaches the point we’ve reached and the level of self discovery
I would argue that you shouldn't ask other people the perception of you, because their perception of you can skew how you see yourself. How others see you is in their lens (their prejudices, beliefs influence how they see you) is not your true authentic core self. If you really want to get to know yourself, go to the pure childhood experience, what you actually did as a child .
Felt the same when I turned 28. Worked on it for 2 years. In 2 months I'll be turning 30. I'm happy to declare for myself that 30 is the new 13.😊 And I was never so proud. Also, Poppy considering the number of views on this video, it's a sign that more people need this therapy from people like you. ❤
This is so inspiring and uplifting 💞🦋I lost everything and hit rock bottom when I turned 28. I’m 31 now and and slowly rebuilding a completely different identity for myself💗
I can relate to this. I thought I'd be buying a second home when I arrived at my mid-thirties. Life did not happen that way but, if I allow myself some grace, it has been a beautiful journey. Lovely music on your channel, btw.
I'm 31 going 32 . I wasted my 20s on low paying shitty jobs, depression-anxiety, worrying about what's everybody thinks, studying, travelling, having no friends. Being betrayed by everyone and having suicidal thoughts. My 30s are my best decade ever. I have the wisdom of a 100 year old. Let me know about that. I know what I want how I want it and I know how to get it. I ve been through a lot and I deserve the best out of life
That's awesome! Man, I remember working like crazy in my 20s and feeling like it was spinning my wheels for low pay and in the wrong direction. Were there any specific events that happened that brought you to the place where you know what you want and how to get it?
yeah, let‘s deconditioning! it‘s all about perspective; I always tell myself my 20s are my second puberty and my 30s are my 20s -staying young is a choice & we can choose however we view ourselves 😌
I am turning 32 very soon, my career is okay but I have very few friends and no relationship. There are a lot of days that I feel like I'm failing at life quietly alone. It is a nice reminder that life can change very quickly, and knowing that I am not the only one going through difficult times in their 30s is comforting.
I am on the same boat. Despite being a good student and good at my work I am unable to be still in a job still trying to get where I feel I belong. This video is inspiring.
Don't worry, I'm 28 and I can still tell you that I don't feel like I belong at my day job. I get more personal validation and pleasure out of my RU-vid channel and other creative project that I do and want to do that full-time instead. You will find out where you belong through trial and error. Cheers!
I must say in all the jobs I had, there was only one that I felt belong and truly enjoyed. What I realised is we need to accept the difference between job (what pays the bills) and passion (what we enjoy doing), only fair few people will have a job that they truly enjoy. Most of us have to do the job as a mean to get paid and find enjoyment elsewhere like side jobs, side projects, hobbies, etc.
You can do it, i am always shocked at how many people are lost...i am 40+ but i am one of the lucky ones...have great familly, great partner, kids, my own company...YES it can be extremely hard, but if you focus on your goals (when you define them) you can accomplish them! You can do it! 💯💪
This hit home. Thank you for making it! I found something I wrote in my 20s in which I predicted that I would be considering children and buying my first or second investment property by my early to mid 30s. Then I found myself there with the least amount of money I ever had and a lot of uncertainty about what I wanted to do next. I just made a video about something similar (I'm 36), so it will be fun to see how we document this time of our lives and share it with the world.
Omg thank you for this video! I'm literally at my personal rock bottom and was struggling with wanting to end everything but you changed my perspective! Society makes it seem like there's only one way to live but there's so many paths we can take in life! You've helped me regain hope!! 😊❤️
I know this feeling. I’m 35, no partner, doesn’t have my own house or car, still working in a small paying job. It’s really hard especially seeing other people of your age living the life you wanted. But we have to try and be kind to ourselves. Things will be okay. Sending hugs to everyone experiencing this. 😊
33 here no relationship, no job (no motivation to look for job), spent the past 10 years after graduation staying at parents home playing videos games, mindlessly scrolling social media, binged watching tv series & feeling depressed. I think I'll be winner of being a loser in life. :))) Though, I am will change my life. I refused to give up and am hopeful that in 1-5 years time i will be able to pull a 180 in life.
Hi Poppy! Found this video right when I needed it. I'm a little younger than you and feeling the exact same as you. I think we also had the same journey in school and career. Looking forward to seeing your journey. Every day is day one 💗
I’m 35, single, surrounded with married people and their kids, started to love myself and am grateful with what I have.live alone. No friends. almost all the free tme I spent reading, watching tv
I really appreciate this ❤I'm living abroad, have just come out of a break up and recently went back home where I caught up with some other 30-something year old friends who are now married, renovating their beautiful homes and at the top of their career ladders. I remember sitting there at dinner with them feeling so disconnected like we had nothing in common anymore and so behind in life. I put on a poker face then after dinner all these emotions suddenly came to the surface and I had a full anxious meltdown. The next day I woke up reminding myself we are all on our own paths and everything is in divine timing. Also we all made choices with only what we knew at the time.
I am 44 years old watching this video and my life changes every day and things I want change every day, especially since I have debilitating anxiety I have to make adjustments constantly to keep some kind of sanity and to avoid a spiral and avoid panic attacks and all that, but just wanted to say that this video is very refreshing and I agree with so many things that you are saying and I appreciate you sharing your outlook and mindset with us.
Same here! I’ve been trying to get my mental and personal health in order. I have some sort of idea on how I’m going to take my next step in life, just feel stuck and afraid on doing it.
31,never had a job,girlfriend,any purpose...depression,anxiety,solitude are my constant companions.... i realize it is never too late objectively but i have no spark left,no motivation,no goal.sonit definitely feels like it is too late
I am 31, have no soaring career, no kids, no husband, and live in a box room at my mums. I messed up the whole of my 20's and I'm still so lost and confused about what to do. This video made me feel not so alone. Thank you for the advice
This couldn’t have come at a better time. Subscribed! I started a RU-vid channel (not this one) over the pandemic and found how much I enjoyed making videos but stopped because of the negative self talk, societal pressures, and friends/family making fun of me. I’m 32 now, and feel that I’ve lost my way. Trying to reconnect with myself and what it is I want now feels like a task I must face or I’ll be stuck in this limbo state.
You should continue to do RU-vid videos no matter what and document how you feel Melina! I turned 28 and started mine about 2-3 weeks ago, it has been a process but honestly it became therapy for me as I vent about my issues. Continue, you got this!
Hey Poppy! I can't believe you're approaching 40. Finding your channel make me less lonely. I'm 37, single, and rebuilding my life. My life never been better since broke up at my 35 😅 thank you for your video 🎉
I just hit 30 not too long ago and I’m still figuring out life. I’m more content with my life nowadays, but there’s always room to grow. I like my job, but I don’t get paid enough for the work I do, so I’m just here to gain experience to find a higher paying job in my field. I may not be married or have a house yet unless I find the right partner to do that with. People seem to seem to think that I have my life figured out, but I don’t. I’m figuring it out as I go along with life and try to not let life knock me down. If I need to take a step back, then I’ll take a step back.
39, been around done things but I feel so lost. No job, no close friends to confide in, no place to be. I have my two dogs but not a partner. I feel hopeful but I’m at my parents’ temporarily and I don’t feel easy being here. I want a compatible housemate and move out ASAP.
@ReinventingPoppy RU-vid's technical algorithm has recommended your video to me and great timing too. I thought I was the only one in my 30's now going through being lost and not achieving things that I was supposed to do in my 20's. I'm very happy that people are talking openly about their experiences too. 😊
I’ll be 35 in two months, single with no kids and although the idea of settling down and starting a family sounds normal I don’t think it should define you as a person. I think success is subjective and unless we feel whole and content with where we’re at or unless we’re willing to change some habits to improve ourselves we’ll be continuously chasing external things trying to fill the internal emptiness within.
I'm just in my 20s, I think your video has been a great help to me in trying to do things well these years and I see that I worry too much about achieving the things I want and I forget to enjoy the process, thanks for giving me this advice
I can definitely relate to feeling behind in life. I just returned to finish college, and I’m 29. ☺️ I love the reminder that we have the choice to take action towards our goals daily. 🏋️♀️ Congrats on progressing your career. May I ask what job industry you’re in?
I have worked so hard in my 20s. And quit my job at 31 and started my own business but due to the economic instability in my country and my personal reasons it couldn’t work and I lose so much money, and closed my business. Now I am 33, searching for a job for 8 months. Turns out companies are not very eager when they are hiring 30 year olds. Feel like starting over again. I have never felt so depressed in my life. Hope everything’s will be ok for everyone.
I just turned 37 and I am starting my whole life over. I have more determination now than ever and I really enjoyed your video on helping me achieve that. I would like to thank you for showing me it’s the Not the end for me and ONLY the beginning ❤❤❤from Poland 🇵🇱 new sub also ❤
You can't really plan relationsships and not all jobs are stable. The only constant in your life is you. Appreciate what you have, embrace change and be open for new opportunities.
Thanks for this video. I'll be entering my 30's this year and most of my 20's was spent figuring out what was right for me. A lot of people said I've been wasting time and i've been indecisive, but to me - it was just figuring out what's right for me. As long as I learned something from the experience, it wasn't time wasted. I moved on to the next thing and learned a little more about what kind of work I'm drawn to. Some people have things figured out by the time they graduate high school or College. They're the lucky ones. In reality, you don't have to have everything figured out by 20, 30, 40, 50, or even 60. For example, my father became a database administrator at the age of 40. My uncle became a network engineer at the age of 60! I'm still figuring things out, but I'm really close. :)
thank you so much. i needed this. hitting my 30s this year, and have been really hard on myself. but this video and your others have really made me reconsider my mentality and perception of success and "failure" really means. and to go for my dreams!
I just turned 29 close to 2 months ago. I began learning to make 3d meshes almost 3 years ago and continued when I could when not working at my full time job. I've brushed up some other skills that I have as those 3 years passed by. My skills have allowed me to create things that I'll be able to sell online when I finally move out from my parents house. Actual practical skills take 3-5 years to build but it's worth it... I hope🤷♂️ I'm less social but I needed the time to practice and learn. I guess I can call it my training arc lol.
How do you sell your work? What tools do you use and how can one learn this? I am quite interested in 3d lately, would be nice to hear some practical experiences.
@@MedievalFantasyTV I've yet to sell, I'll do so when I move out. I'll cross that bridge when I need to. I use Blender to make 3D meshes. As for practical things, I've made my mom an adapter for a water pump she has. I made one side the size of the pump connector and the other is a connector for a water hose. Whatever you can make that is useful to others is practical, the sky's the limit so to speak even for other things as well. I normally make swords/shields, cookie cutters(used my drawings as references), rolling trays, hair clips, cosplay props. Being poor and having no space sucks so I've been saving for 2 years working a shitty full time job to put a down for my own place. Life has a way to make you alter or change plans to keep you in the same place sadly. Good luck.
I am 29, still in university, single since 5 years after a toxic relationship. Love my friends and family and I am very grateful for having them. But after my relationship I lost all my motivation and strength. Your video gave me a little bit of hope back. Thank you for that
I'm 37 years old, I was ill with invisible pain and forced myself to work and made worse because most of society told me it's in my head. The thoughts remeanate all the way to 2023, Andre you're not enough, you gotta catch up, you gotta work harder so you can earn more. Andre you're stuck with hypermobility syndrome like doctors told u. How was everyone possible to chase all these money and status to feel happy. Is that inner happiness, chase and achieve and the be told to be not contented?I got fed up 4 weeks ago and let my body and mind free to heal and I'm healing even though doctors say no cure. Contentment is here and now, no future illusions created to chase. Just happy now
