We Need To Talk About Kalvin Garrah 

To everyone coming to the comments, don’t hate on Damion for his opinion. Kalvin is always talking about how he won’t be silenced by the sjws, so don’t silence people who disagree with him, that’s hypocritical. People are allowed to have opinions that differ from the norm.

Btw Kalvin’s fans literally told that I deserved death when I was already suicidal so yeah. Also his fans posted a picture of me in a bikini on Twitter. Mind you, I was a minor in that photo, and I still am a minor. They then proceeded to make fun of me and my body and purposely triggered my dysphoria. I’m now afraid to swim in public without wearing a swim shirt and pants in fear that that’ll happen again.

It is very disturbing when people (much more so after the Gypsy Rose series) think that just because you can walk you don’t need your wheelchair. My son learned to walk when he was 6 years old because of his CP but he still needs his wheelchair longer distances even after he learned to walk. As a comparison take a look at parents taking their 1,5 year old to the playground, probably they are taking the stroller there but once at the playground the child will run around and play - no one says those parents are faking that their kids haven’t learned to walk yet. But when we have to take the wheelchair that same distance because he seriously can not walk that far even if he can walk short distances, suddenly we are faking? 🤦🏻‍♀️ Seriously people need to think one second before talking.

Thanks for making this video! I loved Kalvin’s informational videos but his “transtrender reactions” made me very concerned for the direction the trans community is going. Even though many he might consider to be “transtrenders” might not be trans, they may be dealing with other trauma or other mental health issues which they confuse for gender dysphoria. In which case, putting them on blast and calling them out will just worsen their mental health..

i was a fan of kalvin but now im realizing its um rlly harmful + gross?? he makes fun of ppl and gets real mad over nothing most of the time

Hope u don't get bullied, ur being really nice and actually wanting him to notice the issues

Hey I watched this whole video and I want to say that it's very good, comprehensive and well articulated - not to mention very well handled. I do agree with the notion that Garrah (and his rabid fans) is childish and genuinely a bully at points. You were very calm and respectful and I hope more people choose to watch the whole thing . Well done man

Kalvin's channel has made it really hard to be a gender nonconforming trans person in general. Trans people can't present any way outside the way men and women are "supposed" to present. Nonbinary people have to be Binary lite and have the exact same experience as binary trans people or else they're really just cis. Being trans doesn't have to look a certain way. I follow many of the people Kalvin has harassed and they're mostly just gnc trans people, but by preforming femininity they must be subjected to ridicule. He fails to understand that he is exerting society's bias against femininity onto other people and by extension marginalising trans people who don't have a traditional story. Trans people who don't look the way we expect trans people to look. People like manlybunny. People like Lars. People like the guy formerly known yoshiisdad and his brother. Maybe someone you know. Maybe even whoever is reading this. It is so extremely harmful that he has taught his thousands of loyal fans what kind of people to pick out and harass. A whole army of bullies who will further marginalise people.

the only thing i agree with kalvin with is how intricate the labels within the lgbt community are becoming. I have no idea what trans individuals go through (me being a cis lesbian) but overall i think the way he carries himself and he treats others is obnoxious and rude. He seems very entitled and he (from the videos i watched) needs to work on being less aggressive and carrying his opinions out in a more civilized less “obnoxious teenage boy” way

im a fan of kalvin but i do agree with some of what you said, i respect you for speaking out knowing the backlash you would get

just wanted to say that the fact that you spoke out about this encouraged me to speak out on my channel. Thank you

An extra thing. Nonbinary people’s dysphoria is often different than binary trans people’s. Just because you as a trans guy can’t understand someone’s dysphoria doesn’t mean that they don’t have dysphoria. You can have body dysmorphia and gender dysphoria. Nonbinary people don’t always have a complete incongruence between their gender and sex because being nonbinary is very complicated. Nonbinary doesn’t mean not a boy and not a girl. It’s far more complicated than that. Also genderfluid is 100% nonbinary.

he can't reclaim the r slur, it's for autistic and developmentally disabled people. ADhD and PTSD aren't developmental disabilities. honestly I don't think anyone should reclaim the r slur because most of the people who are called it can't defend themselves, and it can only ever be used as an insult. it doesn't empower anyone... The T Slur is mostly directed at trans women so while he has been CALLED the T slur before that doesnt mean he has the right to use it. Some straight people get called the F slur but that doesn't mean they get to use it. he also said the D slur which can ONLY be used by lesbians no exceptions.

He literally told a child to stop acting childish

Ayyy we stand for a trans person with autism I love the representation here my guy

Thank you for making this video. I was going to come out of my 7 year hiatus to do it myself. I found his channel, and am completely appalled by his behavior. The misinformation he spreads, the bullying, calling out, and invalidating he does to his fellow trans brothers, his tendency to use problematic slurs and wrong terminology, and his calling gender dysphoria a mental illness (which ties into the misinformation he spreads, but yeah). There are just so many things he does that are just NOT okay. And this kid has over 300 thousand subscribers and they all take his word as gospel, so his presence has become extremely problematic. He's creating a hostile environment in the community, spreading misinformation to impressionable young trans & questioning kids, and with as big of a following he has, he has become a huge influencer as well. He claims not to bully, and he may not directly be urging his followers to bully the people he makes videos about, but if you have that much of a following, and your followers are hanging on your every word (which seems to be the case.. he can do no wrong in their eyes), those followers are going to attack the subjects of your videos on your behalf. He's unwittingly created an army of people who will vehemently defend him and tear down anyone he has a poor opinion of. I spoke to one of the unfortunate people he chose to make a "transtrender" video about, and the poor guy is hanging by a thread. "Hanging by a thread" were his words, not mine, but I believe he may be suicidal as a result of Kalvin's video about him. He was relentlessly bullied by Kalvin's followers after Kalvin made that video, and has never bounced back from it. Kalvin Garrah bullies people and gets other people to do the same, whether intentional or not.. and he spreads so much misinformation, it's crazy. And this is coming from a guy who has been a member of the FTM RU-vid community since the very beginning. I was one of the first trans guys on RU-vid more than 10 years ago (when there were maybe about 50 of us, and we ALL knew each other), and was a co-founder of the very first all-FTM collab channel. I've been post-transition for a long time. I'm not necessarily what one would classify as an SJW or a "trender" or someone who thinks Kalvin's "opinions" stink just because I'm too left of center for my own good, or something like that. I do have my views, but they tend to be more based on respect, acceptance, and validation than anything else. I'm just a trans man who's been around a long time, and is completely devastated to see how we've gone from being a solid community, to a toxic and hostile environment where we pick on and bully each other for not being "trans enough". I honestly thought we got over that a long time ago. But he's completely renewing that culture, and it's thriving, and it's disgusting. As a community, we can do better than this. Again, thank you so much for making this video, and I apologize for my lengthiness. I apparently can't sum things up in a few short words. Especially not when something guts me so much.

in my opinion he has no right to tell people what they can and can’t be, i never liked him because he, in my eyes, acts like a gatekeeper and is one of the most toxic trans creators i’ve ever seen.

I completely agree with you thank you for sharing this with your followers and keep post great content.

To be honest, I only every watched Kalvin's more informative videos. I was confused as to what a transtrender was, clicked on one of those videos, and soon left. I understand he's "trying to critique," but there is a difference between bullying and criticism.

Thank you for making this video. I recently saw some stuff about Kalvin Garrah and Rin on Instagram, but I didn’t really understand what was happening. This video helped me to understand what has been happening. Thank you ❤️

Also, i realised like 6 months ago or so that i probably had a disorder, when my therapist and i (and my aunt) looked into it, it turned out that i have BID (body integrity disorder). I don't think it's a recognized disorder (at least not in switzerland, where i live) but i looked into it. And turns out, it's what people calls "transabled" and treat it like we're crazy and want oppression points. As someone with bid and talked with other people with bid, it's far away from what media portrays it to be. BID is actually some sort of extreme body dysmorphia (more likely caused by traumas from childhood) that cause the person to think the only way of being cured is by removing the limb they feel dysmorphic about. No people with bid i talked with "wants to be disabled", they just want one of their limb gone as a symbolism for their trauma to be gone or because they feel so dysmorphic about that part of their body that it feels like this part doesn't belong here, isn't theirs. People who have bid often have depression, anxiety or even paranoia caused by bid. This is some serious stuff, but we often get called "transabled" and "crazy" and get mocked. Maybe transabled people exist, like people with no disorders who wants to become disabled??? But ive seen the term transabled thrown at people with bid more than people who are actually transabled. I don't even know if transabled people actually exist. But yeah.

I remember I watched his channel back in like 4-5th grade. I knew very little about the lgbtq+ community at the time of watching him. I noticed he was hostile and just rude so I stopped watching him since. I am non-binary but haven’t been diagnosed with gender dysphoria because I don’t have the resources to get a diagnosis or anything. Because I don’t have a diagnosis I feel as though I can’t say I am non-binary..

Wait omg now I remember you. You were the guy who made an unboxing video of stim toys and happy stimed the entire time. Loved that video.

You make very good points. Thank you for making this video. I agree with some things Kalvin says, but you bring up extremely important points and I am thankful for that.

I used to be a fan of Kalvin, but I started actually finding information for myself. I then started to realize that he got super aggressive, and I don’t agree with some of his opinions. He literally said that actual transgender people, “have to have dysphoria to be trans.” I didn’t know any better, as I am not transgender, I am a lesbian. I never attacked anyone because I am a respectful person that doesn’t really like to be mean. I then saw a video of someone was crying because someone told them that gender fluid people didn’t exist. I immediately thought of Kalvin Garrah. This just absolutely appalled me. I know that he never said this, but the other hateful things that he had said came to mind. Kalvin needs to realize that what he is saying hurts people. It’s not just him, but many other people, INCLUDING people in the LGBTQ+ community. The fact that people who have suffered to be who they are can attack others is disgusting to me. New subscriber!

God I can’t stand him. He thinks that being trans has to be as cookie cutter as physically possible, otherwise you’re a “trender”. Why would you discriminate against people struggling with gender, when you yourself are going through the same thing? I’m ashamed to be in the same community as him, honestly. Edit: Do you see how even though I do not like him whatsoever, I still use his pronouns? Hmm...maybe he could learn from that.

dont feel like you need to silence yourself, its worse to keep it in then having to deal with the backlash of people im proud of you for speaking your mind !

Kalvin blurred the line between “people faking being trans on purpose for attention” and “people exploring their gender identity”

This video was very well done. Thank you so much for giving us your insight.

He also recently used ‘undiagnosed multiple personality disorder’ as a ‘reason for nonbianary or transtrender people’ but for one thats totally offensive and ignorant and transphobic, multiple personality disorder is not a thing, and if hes saying any transgender person has DID then hes invalidating even bianary transgender people. But you’re very mature and thank you for making this!!!

This is a good video. I used to watch him but I stopped when he talked about a "trender" and intentionally misconstrued their words, and honestly I related to what they were saying a lot too. So yeah.

thank you for the trigger warnings! you’re awesome

Hey its Damion here with a bit of info. Sorry for any visual glitches. I threw myself into the deep end of the pool with animations and hour and a half exporting + uploading times. I'm also new to this editing software. I hope to improve both the quality (as I wasnt sure if I'd break my pc by exporting it in the highest setting.) in the future. For ppl like Rin or Lars, I'm not saying they for sure have gd as they've said stuff that would contrict that. The situations could've been sorted out privately and not blasted for hundreds and thousands of uninvolved people. I seemed to have either forgotten or misplaced some screenshots in this video. Here is a doc to show that I do have them, and I will update it if there is more to add - docs.google.com/document/d/1WrZRBhZMAoI225pg5EpwfBxDMaWblvW4XWQzqqMT7js/edit?usp=sharing Its 2am where I live now so I gotta sleep. Bye~

I agree with you completely. Kalvin used to criticize people ideas and sometimes their looks. Which I do think is negative but he didn't used to use so many slurs or misgender people because he didn't agree with them.

I was a fan of Kalvin. I did it know the timeline of his videos. I also watched Brennan’s full video after seeing kalvin’s. And I released that Brennan is actually really cool and released that kalvin basically calls everyone who is trans and does not look like him or what he thinks a trans person ( me , I only pass if I don’t talk ) looks like a trender .

I have seen multiple complaints about kalvin made by the trans comunity! He is so very toxic and an over all bully who makes fun of others to alleviate his own dysphoria or pain.

this is a great video but the background music is just *chefs kiss*

Thank you for making this video. Very well explained.

Kalvin made a video about how asexuality isn't lgbt and I unsubbed from then on. I can't stand it when his videos show up in my recommended.

This was really brave! I agree with you on a lot of things and ik Kalvin can be harsh but he makes a lot of arguments that are almost essential for our community. No hate towards you my dude. 🤟

Wow this video is actually relevant again... 2 months later.

this is a rlly good collection of all the little things that have slowly driven me 2 stop supporting kalvin, nd it helped me process it a bit better!! u summed it all up rlly well

This was a concise and good outlined video and even though I like Kalvin I can acknowledge his faults

I haven't watched this yet but I'm just gonna say something before I do because I'm very interested. I was a fan of Kalvin and others like him but I eventually realized it was making me feel more hate towards others and the LGBT community. As someone who is nonbinary with dysphoria and pansexual, it made me more hesitant to be proud.

I love how well you explain things in your videos

Thank you for talking about Rin. I feel like nobody acknowledges that situation, and I know why. I know Kalvin does it to more people than you can acknowledge. We can have varying opinions but I love Rin with my heart and soul. Personally, I believe people can grow and change and the rape apologist situation happened YEARS ago and was when Rin was dating that specific rapist and was also abused. Rin has apologized publicly and privately and no longer holds those points of views. The situation you talked about wasn't exactly the first situation where Kalvin had completely invalidated Rin's entire identity completely unprovoked, which I personally believe is reason enough to not treat Kavin kindly. I don't support Rin unconditionally, I don't support anyone unconditionally but I truly believe Rin didn't deserve the countless posts (stories and comments) made about them and Rin didn't deserve Kalvin digging up dirt into their past to use against them. Rin eventually was also deplatformed and had to move back to Texas while they were actively pursuing a career as a makeup artist. They effectively lost their career, not completely because of Kalvin, but he was a huge part of it and the massive amounts of hate they were getting. Kalvin also JUSTIFIED THE DEATH THREATS RIN WAS GETTING AND THEN PROCEEDED TO THREATEN RIN. Like what??? Anyways, yes there are many more situations besides Rin that are equally fucked up, but I'm glad to see you at least acknowledge it.

His fans are so obnoxious it’s hard to respect him

Preach!

after watching his newest video, i think he just skirts away from the problem. he needs to realize that what he says has a MASSIVE impact on people, and he should just stop with the reacting videos.

I'm still watching this video but I decided to comment off of what I have seen. I totally agree he has definitely changed and not for the good, but I will say with just these few months of what's going on with him it seems like he is trying to change back into a better person. I wouldn't say he's made a lot of progress in becoming a better person yet but baby steps are still steps (not a justification). I don't agree with how he's been in the recent years, but I will say I've seen a small good change yes a very small change but it gives hope that he'll continue to change for the better.

I used to watch him a long time ago. I think he has made it even harder to accept myself and made my internalized transphobia worse.

I love your opinion

You really should have more subscribers

I'm a big fan of Kalvin, watching this video has open my mind. Thank you. I'm the 452th like :))

I know I'm 4 months too late but I appreciate you making this video! thank you for so eloquently putting into words how shitty and dangerous this fool is

I used to be a fan of his because my friend, who is trans, introduced me to him to kind of educate me on the trans community. But he seemed to have a lot of opinions on anyone that was not trans in the way that he is (ftm passing). I don't think you should hate on someone and call them a transgender just because they do not pass or are not on T. Of course there are people out there that don't do the stuff that 'typical' trans people do like use testosterone, dress up as 'according to' gender they identify as, etc. I have agreed with some things being outrageous like autismgender not being a real thing etc. But I don't see how someone not wanting to do T, or a FTM wanting to wear dressed, or someone not doing the surgery, would affect his life as a trans person.

100% agree

I like this video. I watch Kalvin. But I love to hear other people's opinions and I agree with you on a lot of points!

I love kalvin, love you for being kind, dont love sjws, but i dont love hate! Thank u for being respectful, im a Kalvin Garrah fan all the way. But hey, idk thanks lmao

GAY TRANS KING 🤴🤩

I actually don't mind Kalvin Garrah at all. I think he's a very smart person and while blunt, he knows what he's talking about.

why don't people talk about him more? like he is pretty hateful all the time

Lars has literally said multiple times that autigender is just an identity label some autistic people use where their experience as being autistic is intertwined with their gender identity. Kalvin's video made them look like they were "identifying as autistic". also no one can reclaim the r-slur because the people actually targeted by the slur were intellectually disabled people.

hey damion, i wanted to ask : what do you think about blaire white ? do think she's just as bad as kalvin ( if not worse )?

I'm a big fan of Kalvin but this video is also very...true 😅😅😅

that kg needs to be cancelled

i found Kelvin Garrah on musically awhile ago and then i started watching his videos for a min i thought i was FTM but lately I've been felling more body dysphoric as a autistic myself i can say gender can be hard to understand but "autisgender" is not a thing what so ever we just have a harder time understanding gender identity since its a form of communicate i hate my breast and having my periods but i'm okay with the other female structures i have i used to agree with Kelvin Garrah but lately how he acts and treats people is not okay

I would've watched all of this, but its an hour long. I am a fan of Kalvin and I like how respectful you are and I do agree with you, but this does not change how I feel about him.

Thank u for this video

You are extremely mature

I found brenne he makes marvel videos now. Such a glow up.

This vid needs more views

I do hope you're doing well man

I’m personally a fan of kalvin but I appreciate the honesty about ur opinions and not caring about hate , honestly the fans are crazy but I don’t think that’s on kalvin fully, but also his use of the r slur is something I don’t like and I hope he can clear up his beliefs because of his impact on the community Anyways great video I appreciate your side of the story dude !!

You seem nice. My name is Isabelle ( like animal Crossing ) I'm questioning :) I hope you have a great day. 🌻🤗

Altho i hard disagree that u need dysphoria to be trans (for many reasons), this was a great video to watch on the damages imposed by Garrah's abhorrent behaviour and fans bc it helped in my own research so thank u for speaking up.

16:40, wait what did he post??

He attacked me in a comment when I said he was annoying to some degree. Making a rude Comment on my grammar.

I understand getting a gender dysphoria diagnosis can be difficult especially due to financial concerns and family concerns but likewise I feel it's useless to have a self-dx if you have no means of seeking treatment or even worse don't intend on seeking treatment. Psychiatrists don't go through education for 6 years just to be demeaned by 15 year olds that think they know everything; I think they have sufficient self-awareness to understand "something is going on" but further professional help is needed to identify any type of mental health issues and further to properly address and treat them. Solid video tho and enjoyed hearing your stances even if I disagree on some points. Hope you continue I just wanted to respectfully leave my two cents.

I strugged for ages trying to get a diagnosis for gender dysphoria because of my autism

Kalvin blurs out the names now and tells people dont go and harass the person. I like Kalvin but he can be a little much sometimes.

54:25 because views = money tbh

I think with kalvin he showed amazing detail in transitioning but he's gotten sick of the "trans trenders" and he puts a hell of a lot of clickbait titles to his videos to get money really, even if it means mocking those who he knows will get bullied, I do watch them to be curious cos I want to know why they aren't trans and what they say, but I don't go hating on them, I've only gone on one profile and that's because I was so goddamn confused at this person and even there reply made no sense. sadly stans and trolls are nasty and I do agree he shouldn't give their names etc, there has been some like the older lady (sorry if she's f to m) who was very concerning with me with her interest in very underaged people because im a victim of a paedophile. I do understand there are those who are after attention and make up words to be accepted or to get the drama because it would make them more popular, but not all are like that as u said, yes kalvin should try to speak before he posts a video in PMs helping the person to the correct feeling they have before its too late. To me kalvin is very set in his mind, he gets millions of people watching his videos and in his mind he's perceived that these people should see his videos to understand if they don't feel like what he's described as his experience then they aren't trans to him, either that or he gets so many videos constantly showing people who claim to be trans when they aren't and he's just had enough, I don't agree with him saying retard etc, I don't like that at all. As for him understanding autism to talk about it, u have to remember not many people know about all the different spectrums and feelings etc its a lot to know about and really takes a lot of time to understand, something I feel he doesn't understand, esp with the guy in the wheelchair, I am disabled and suffer chronic pain, his pain is most definitely horrible and traumatising but being disabled is no way the same and for that he should apologise to that person privately, I think he should have had a talk to him because I as a bisexual female who isn't trans I looked for the correct words to tell transphobic idiots how people feel and he should have been spoken to and said wait u can't think this person is stupid just talk to them, find out what it's like for being not only trans but disabled. As for him just posting a video, u have to remember anyone with ADHD just does it like an action or a thought without thinking like the comment about faking being disabled, if someone had sat down and looked at his videos first and educated him on that I think he wouldn't have as many comments that offend people but until someone says something to him he won't see he's done something wrong because he doesn't think of the bad things that happens after he posts (unless he purposefully says go for them) that's something I've learnt from knowing people with ADHD and how their mind is constantly bobbing around thinking of diff things

Tbh you do make some valid points. I like Kalvin but I can agree he has flaws. I get that he's blunt and harsh but I feel like he's really quick to judge other trans people. He jumps to conclusions and assumes that someone is a trender without knowing them (one time he called a trans person who was actually dysphoric a trender). Dw I do believe that trenders do exist but not everyone is a trender. I hope he understands that.

While I disagree with you, and I support Kalvin, you seem to really care for other people and I love how compassionate you are towards these folks.

In almost all of his videos kalvin says not to harass or send hate to the people in his videos. What his fans do are not his fault. I do agree with some of your other points I just feel like he’s not responsible for his followers actions especially when he tells them not to hate on someone.

Kalvin expanded the topics that his channel covers. Before, he made mostly educational videos but now he makes those plus more personal videos and videos for entertainment purposes. He makes videos that are fun to create. The screenshot of his recent page that you showed where you called him “angrier”.... 3/15 was educational, 2/15 defending himself/reacting to hate videos made on him, 2/15 personal/unrelated to trans, 2/15 exposing onision, 3/15 related to SJWs/transtrenders, 3/15 random

Brennan is definitely confused and rynn is definitely a trender

Hello

Man this shit is all the telephone game. Throughout the video you barely show any evidence and leave a lot of shit out. Despite this video being a whole ass fucking hour lmao. You claim Kalvin misunderstands people and takes things out of context when you yourself take things he says out of context. My advice? Provide more full receipts please rather than showing half ass receipts or making personally observed claims with no proof. I understand some of your points though; no one is perfect. I'm sure overtime Kalvin will learn to become more self reserved, but as for now I understand his anger towards other people who are making the trans community look absolutely ridiculous. They have caused serious issues within society, and just because they have deeper issues within themselves that are not resolved does not mean they can speak on behalf of a community they are, in reality, not apart of. Transsexualism is not about wanting to be special, it is not a personality trait. It is a medical condition; a mental illness that must be treated through transition. Seeing people claim to be transgender when they make no attempt to transition is an insult to people who are actually born with this condition. Just as it is offensive to pretend to have cancer, schizophrenia, etc.. Any dabilitating illness simply for pity or oppression points!! I understand that in the midst of this, he may be hurting people. But damn, the truth hurts. Some people need to hear it. It's currently 6:23AM and I'm going to move on to something else now, but am open to discussion. Thanks for reading my opinion, as it was interesting to observe yours as well.

Is Storm Ryan also bad?

Everyone has their own opinion

I think kalvin is fine. I discovered him a few months back (cant remember how) but instantly liked him. I think people are very very sensitive these days and get hurt over facts. I also think it's so important to have gate keepers of certain communities. I agree with alot of your points but overall I stand with kalvin 100%. Like i said i think people are extremely sensitive.

Oof sorry I’m on Kalvin Garrah’s side. Actually not sorry

I’ll never understand why y’all don’t like scientific facts.

Sorry but if you wanna hurt yourself because someone said something to you on the internet, then you shouldn't be on the internet at all, stop being sensitive.

jesus fucking christ

um no he’s not transphobic sorry

I am a fan of kalvin garrah

You are love rocking??