We will not accept this marriage -The Bala Family | Mzansi Magic | S1 | Ep 13 

and bahle sana yhoo

Why not? They have nothing to lose, someone has taken over the responsibility of taking care of their Dad when he gets older..no stress😊.😊

@@xolisankonki8006 nqo

@@xolisankonki8006 injalo

The Balas are hurt don’t confuse it and they said they have accepted. You don’t know how they were when they were still dealing with it

He doesn't have the same vigor during the Zwai & siblings.😅

@@MyLifeDIVAA imagine if he came as high pitched as Zwai? It would not solve anything still. It's a sensitive topic to the Bala family

@@nombusombatha2422 yhu they would fight. They would brawl yevha. LIVE, during the cameras & the people. Yhu kungaliwa.

🤣

He sends me straight to laughter central 😂😂😂😂

​@@neondaba_still with their fathers friend!! N they still providing for her kodwa she's got a hubby that brought only his suitcase to the marriage....

@@Mamakhe048 Well said!

Qha qwaba...Zwai is right to sought for answers. This is his family he should protect them as much as he provides financially and otherwise...

​@@neondaba_she was not married to Phelo's dad, she was married to someone else and didn't last and in that process she was not in kids lives including Phelo they raised each other and maybe they were still young to Express their feelings

Xhosa parents sithandwa sam all the time 😊

Bayathandwa ke ooLoyiso ezweni...nam ndihamba noZwai noPinky

I think Loyiso is the sheep of the family and he is like that...asifani vele as siblings...mina I'm the pinky of the family...

Yaz Nd kuyonakala eloxesha

What's there to discuss here because they're married. One can't help but just move on hard as it is but I get you.

The problem is that our parents think that, by virtue of them being our parents they DESERVE respect. They usually get aggressive and shout when they know that they are wrong. It’s usually a tactic to shut us up and push us into submission. That behaviour is motivated by shame ya hore “my child is highlighting something that as an adult I should have known”. Forgetting hore they are not perfect. My mother would even cry and accuse us of disrespecting her and ungrateful of everything that she has done for us. Imagine! As a mother to adult children myself (raised in a Western society), I have had to unlearn a lot to have healthy relationships with all of them. Our parents did the best that they could but in some areas they failed. And it’s okay because they wouldn’t have known everything. However, when we highlight their blindspots, they need to listen and stop being defensive.

@@neomoiloa9669They are already married indeed. However, the purpose of the meeting is for the parents to admit that they did not do things properly. Acknowledge and apologise to their children.

@@nette2144 I agree with you. Also Thankful that your children will have a different experience due to your awareness and willingness to behave differently. I respect you for that.

I wouldn't be happy to see my mom marry my dad' friend...it will bother me soo much

Same applies here, Zwai s mother and Ntate Jafta are both not transparent about this issue, during the conversation, i couldn't feel any authenticity from both of them. Ntate Jafta was in love with zwai s mother while she was still married with his friend. Correct me if i am wrong.

Welll guess what its not about them . Abasangeni ndawo. Tu kulento

Abe utatakho wamshiya ethafeni emncinci emhle 1982? And u 2nd ngu takaPhelo not taJ

Heeey!!! 😂😂

The breakaway star honestly 🤞

His diary session are like 🤣😂🤣

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

😂😂isingcolo sodwa😂😂

Poul Mashatile as well deputy president

Mama is right it happened before. There is nothing wrong. As long as it's happening after death.

But the whole family was aware zange ifihlwe

Their father gave them the gift of song (voice) which they have used to elevate the family name and provide for themselves financially, including providing for uMama, that is the enduring legacy of their late father. Lest you forget!

We don't know if he didn't leave money for them honestly

Yes ooh mam I don't like the Way that they talking to their mom😮

😂😂😂 I agree

Lol sudika

She must go & enjoy it at Jafta household. It was said in the earlier episodes by Pinky that even their cousins now find it difficult to visit bcoz kukho this tata Jafta. Why are they not getting their own house & leave the Bala's in peace.

Get their own house with what money. They are both retired and have no source of income. If it bothers them so much, they must gazat and buy them a home... Make your mama happy as often as you can...

@@letusmake7093 that lady got married to Jafta, she must go to his house not the other way. Jafter's kids are cool bcoz their mom never neglected them, they do not have issues of an absent mother in their as they were growing up.

@@letusmake7093 haha as for gazat,havent heard that word for such a long time

@@LuntusYou are right!!! This is not a matter of “Happy mother, Happy life”. Ma Bala is emotionally immature.

Kukho isizathu...if u read btw the lines mama has always chose man over them. For them to raise Loyiso and Phelo it means mama wayebhabha emoyeni...

Period mntase

Yindoda emadodeni

Hai sana awunondifuza. I like indoda enomqolo not bhetyebhetye.

@@HighlyFavoured074 his a real Xhosa man uZwai…yiDyani yamanyani his firm va period

Uthandwa ndim u zwai ❤

Njee!

Ow I love him kodwa uphola too much😂😂 he's a man he must man up

akazithandi izinto ezithethisayo shem

😂😂spineless lowo!

Well said 🎉🎉🎉

Exactly even if they throw tantrums

They should be ashamed of themselves it looks like they want to control their mother that's not fair......they are not perfect either 😮😮

The mother is saying tatuJafta moved to the bhala home...saying that uhleli nefemeli enje...😢 why is he staying with the bala family and not taking him wife to his home...ungene ngebhatyi utata. UPinky said nothing is changing while they are married.they are still buying groceries and electricity...Kuba it's their Home.

@@thabomol Their imperfections stem from the dysfunctional family home. Listen, men can be as rubbish as they want to be, but as a woman, you are the compass point that must provide direction, the glue that holds the family together, the balm that must sooth all wounds. The Bala children have wounds because uMama failed to provide direction or hold the family together. Her childrens 3 divorces go right back to her, these children are dealing with generational curses and their chidlren (the grandchildren) may end up going down that route. Divorce is not a joke, it causes upheavel in the ancestral realms and individuals are born (reincarnated) with curses hanging over their heads.

Bebephi abantwana ngelixesha kusenzeka umshato wabazali

Enkosi...love ur question. Very profound

Love your critical thinking skills

Haybo lo Jafta uzohlala kwamfazi? It's a no no kaloku

Exactly

I fully agree with you...and people who are carrying this financial burden are the Bala kids.

@@jabulilemlaka6253 ey, but they can choose something else. U Zwai ingathi he's not giving himself a choice to tap out of matryring himself, khe naye aphumle and see if others will step in. I think others dont step in because he hogs the responsibility & takes it all upon himself. He must tap out & let the house of cards do whatever & not be guilty about it. He needs a break.

So True 🙏🏾

Yes, we need to respect our parents. Parents need to respect their adult children. Which kind of marriage did Mama Zwai & Rra enter.lf there is no antenuptial contract, Jaftha children can inherit from Mama Zwai. Marriage brings families together but also terms and conditions.

Nje🤞🤞🤞🤞

I wonder if Japhta's kids make any contribution.

Well Said!

I c my mom kulo mama. 😆😆😆

Yes that how I see

He must hey..yena who is discussing her marriage..

Very true

Ukrwada lo Zwaai

He's rude

Unga relaxa wena xa umama wakho engatshata ichomi katata wakho ongasekhoyo, behind your back without so much as a consultation?

Facts 💯

Well said!

Probably bcos uyabazi abantwana bakhe. Love, especially at that age has nothing to do with anyone else but the couple

These kids need to heal and move on. I was 28 when my mom got married. My dad has more than 10 my just 2. Adjusting to being part of a big family takes time. Now we're a big happy family 💕

On the surface it looks like “a simple matter of not wanting a parent to be happy”. This is a matter of a history of a parent who continues to put her interests before that of her offspring. It’s difficult to have a loving relationship with a parent who is emotionally immature and has low levels of self-awareness. These kinds of parents are emotionally abusive. Their children are often the ones who make an effort to move on from past issues. Often without holding their parent accountable for their bad choices. They will even go to the extent of “buying the love of their parent” to demonstrate that they hold no grudges. However, because of the emotional immaturity, the parent automatically feels entitled to the respect and effort made by their children. As often observed, these kinds of parents often continue to make selfish choices. This is because, despite them abandoning their kids, and being unavailable, their children have managed to thrive without their involvement. When a parent repeats selfish behaviour, their children feel betrayed and come to the realisation that their efforts to build a loving relationship were in vain. It is a cycle that never stops and it hurts the next generations. A cycle that can be traced back to the previous generations. The Bala children must first acknowledge that their mother is emotionally immature. Get therapy for themselves to gain tools so that they have boundaries and develop healthy ways of dealing with their mother. Based on her age, she may never change. They will be taught ways of how to love her where she is, and how to guard their hearts. It takes being born to an emotionally immature parent to comprehend such relationship dynamics. Those who have never had this experience, focus on the reaction of the children to a parent’s actions. It’s deep.

But it's not like they cheating, both their spouses are no more njena

You don’t understand, would you be happy if your dad or mom get married to another man/woman after few months of your other parent’s death???

😂😂 yamaz no Hili

They want uTatu Japhta to take up the financial responsibility as well, get their mumz a home, and stop living of them

@@zolilemamba5547 does he have? So if he can't get them home what must happen?

Ndimcapukela ukufa la Tata

@@phumzagalada6263 makayofunela mama umzi wabo yindoda enjani zwai zagqibele mqhwaba😂

It's the mother’s parents house not Zawi and Loyiso’s parents house- that is number 1 And number 2- he has his own house and can move out any time if their mom dies Let's allow people to be happy.

@@nocawemogale6561 makamqhwabe anye🤣🤣 uya endlin ye frnd yakhe kanti yena uyazaz ba uzele ntoni ngcolile naye lomama Adavule amathanda for tshomi yendodakhe rhaaa banamanyala bebadala andiqondi noba wayikhupha mali yelobola ngoba akanamzi kuqala 🤣🤣

@@phumzagalada6263 ntate Jafta manyonyoba. Kudala bayiqala lento

Asoze ndibe happy nam uMama etshata me friend kaTata aphinde endlini kaTata

​@@benedictorkaya-es3xltyhin ungcolile lo Tata atsho ngonyinyitheka nje

@@benedictorkaya-es3xl akuyondlu ka tat uBala, kukokwabo ka mam Veronica, utata Bala kange ashiye nex

@@mademoiselle327 even worse ayiyondlu halo mama kukokwabo....disgrace

We can't be questioning that after 22 years of their father divorcing their mother...Haooo madoda...The only people who have a right to question this parents are Jafta's kids because for them it happened suddenly 6 months after the burial of their mother

Still @tumi in xhosa you cant date my father’s friend period nomatter the time frame of their divorce …Stout lomama maan and well tatu Jafta should have looked elsewhere man … haibo

@@tumidigo6217 They was no divorce btw mama and Mr Bala he just passed on. I think what she means when she says she was single since 1982 is that their marriage was dead since then...

​@tumidigo6217 thank you. It feels like a forced storyline because they surely can't be upset over something that ended in the early 80s. Even Ta Jafta's kids are confused gore really

its not their father's house, its their Maternal Grandmother's house and I agree with you its wrong.

Heh wethu, nam ndiyazbuza🤔

@@mademoiselle327 cz I know one lady died but on her death bed she suggested that indoda must marry someone who was so close to her reason was cz my kids are used to her they were young. And she also said she believes the lady will love her kids better than a stranger. So hence I ask ku isit wrong hayboo

Qha