Hi! So fun to watch you! I lost my first child baby Isaac to stillbirth at 39 weeks this past May. Even though its hard to watch mom's be mom's, I still enjoy watching you share your experiences while I wait to try again for baby #2 this upcoming May. I am trying so hard to stay positive and your videos are very uplifting to me. Thank you!
Lost my first to stillborn 2 years ago also, and now have a baby boy who turned one last month. I’m here to tell you it does get easier.. I promise. ❤️ Isaac will always be your baby, but once you have your rainbow baby, it will bring your heart so much healing. Praying for you mama❤️
I loved how you said it makes you feel more like yourself again!! I’ll look forward to that, I’ve been nursing 5 years 2 months straight, no breaks, between my two daughters. Back to back! My younger one is 3 and I feel partially ready but also know it’ll be a struggle... can’t believe I don’t feel totally ready at this point! My first weaned easily after age two when she saw that she had a newborn baby sister who needed it more. Thanks for sharing your experiences!
So glad you posted this video! My baby turns one in March and our breastfeeding journey has been ROUGH, I hate to say I've been counting down the days but it hasn't been the magical experience I've heard about. I feel blessed I've been able to nurse her though, I wasn't able to at all with my first so this time around I was determined!
My first one is due 12/27. I'm a wreck and feeling really lonely. So nervous about not being a good parent. Stumbled upon your videos and instantly subscribed. I love your honesty, positivist, and vulnerability.
Lol I was just talking to another mom friend and we agreed that babies are much easier than we thought. Haha I mean hard cuz you're exhausted but it really is just diaper, feed, nap repeat 😂 hope it's been easy going for you so far and congrats!
Hello! I had to stop the video and tell you how much I appreciate your way of approaching this motherhood thing. I have an 11 months old boy (so our boys could play if the ocean and some countries would not be between us). You are amazing! And oh, the courage to have more children, the courage of exposing yourself online, the beauty, love and compassion! Thank you!
@@TiffanyChantee yes!!! I found out I was pregnant and had nursing aversions anyway. I just wanted to make it to two years so I was fine quitting. we night weaned which was easier than I thought. first night she was upset for less than an hour, I just sang her songs to sleep. next night 15 mins. next night she was totally night weaned. never woke up at night again. then maybe a week or so later, I started day weaning. I nursed her and was like okay that's the last time and she was fine. she was only nursing maybe once a day at that point though, and I know she didn't need the comfort or nutrients over night or during the day anymore so I didn't feel bad. we coslept for another year and just moved her to her own room at 3.5 years. I thought she'd never stop nursing and then it ended up being so easy. depending on your kids age, you don't have to feel bad about withholding milk. obviously I wouldn't wean younger than 15-18 months personally, but that's just my opinion. just distract and comfort another way but don't give in because they will just know they have to cry and you'll do it. if you don't they learn super quick.
My son is 11 months now and I am ready to start weaning. I feel like it is going to go extremely slow because my son is teething and we’re still going through a sleep regression so nursing nights and mornings are so helpful still 😓😌 hopefully soon I can drop another feeding. Loved this topic, super helpful!! 👍💛
I just weaned our one year old also!! This was our 4th and you have NO idea how excited how was to be done nursing even though I LOVED nursing them all BUT I had such hard times nursing them all!
Thanks for being honest and yourself. I appreciate the not perfect and real moming perspective. I’ve been feeling like I don’t know what to do and I don’t know who to ask, so thanks :)
Wow my baby is 15 months now and im so sad thinking about weaning her but its time for me but I've been so emotional that I don't want to go thru it but this video just gave me a big Boost of confidence. Thank you for your openness and honesty about this i feel like my feelings are validated (:
I have been nursing my daughter for over two years and now I am tandem breastfeeding her with my 7 month old. I plan to wean them both after my son turn 1 but I STILL feel like I'm gonna miss it. Don't get me wrong I am definitely preparing and I will be glad when I finally do, but it will definitely be bittersweet for me.
Omg this is the most timely video 🥰 thank you thank you!! I was pregnant when you were pregnant last time! You talked me into doing a natural birth! It was amazing! Now I’m quarantined pregnant as well with a 9 month old and need to wean before baby comes in March!!! I’ve been sooo stressed about this process! I haven’t even watched the video yet but I hope you talk a little bit about tips on breastfeeding while pregnant. It’s certainly been trying! Again thank you for your post! Can’t wait to have more babies! Best of luck!
My baby boy is 3 days old now and I’m binge watching baby videos while I’m nursing and not getting any sleep. 🤣😩😁 I love my baby so much and my 5 yr old daughter loves him too. Thank you for your videos.
I freakin' love you Jess! You're awesome, and doing so great. I love your videos, and really appreciate feeling like I have a girlfriend during this difficult time of covid and social distancing. I'm a 28 year old with no kids, but I've had baby fever since I was like... 8 years old ('no joke I thought I would DIE if I didn't get a baby born doll for Christmas). I have also worked as a nanny for a long time, and feel like I've had some mommy experience. Obviously it's different when it's someone else's child, but you really become so attached when caring for them full-time. Anyways, even though I'm not currently raising any children I still love watching your videos because of just how sweet, funny, and down to earth you are! Thank you for putting yourself out there, and making consistent content ❤️❤️❤️ You rock!
Cold packs really help!! When you’re in too much pain hand express just a little for comfort. Wear a snug sports bra and if you’re not feeding at all, Sudafed being the counter is amazing for drying you up.
Watching you makes the tough things seem manageable 🙂 have you done anything on sleep training? I'll have to go back and look... I hope so because thats where I'm at right now🥴 keep the videos coming!
Thank you for sharing your experience! My daughter is 3 months. Omg I imagine not having to breastfeed will just change everything. I like breastfeeding but i’m going to be happy to “get my life back” at the same time. I’m going to have to go back to the office after we get past the Corona spike, and I don’t know what’s going to happen with feeding. My daughter does not want the bottle or pacifier either. The thought of me suddenly leaving her is absolutely terrifying. Even more so because she does not want the bottle. I wish we had one year maternity leave laws in US.
Thank you so much per usual! I adore your advice! My sons 6 months and not ready “yet” but when I go to ween him off I’ll be watching this again! Good luck with beautiful baby girl and keep being a ROCKSTAR MAMA!! 💖💖💖
I totally agree that offering the bottle and pacifier from the start is a good idea because I tried to avoid it in the beginning, but now my daughter won’t take them 😐
Hi Jess! I’m a ftm and currently struggling with persistent nipple thrush. My daughter is 14 weeks old and my aim is to breastfeed her for a year but I don’t know if I can keep going with this thrush as it’s incredibly painful! How did you eventually get past it? I’m on meds etc which is helping but it’s so hard to get rid of. Her latch is great but I was on antibiotics twice early on which I think gave her oral thrush. 😔
I highly recommend Gentian Violet!! It’s over the counter and took about 3-4 weeks, but it worked! Little bit messy, but worth it. The stuff the dr gave us made it worse
Jacki Seymour oh that’s good to hear! What did your doctor give you that didn’t work? I just ordered it so will try it tomorrow. Do you take it off before you breastfeed or not?
Hi Jess, well done with weaning Wilson😘 i am about to start that process with my 7 month old soonish... I have a doubt about zje bottle taking issue. My son rejects every type of bottle. How did you give Eloise her milk back in the day? Just from a normal cup or glass?
Does your son take a pacifier? If he does he might just not like the 'nipple' of the bottle. What I'm trying to say it might not be the bottle but the nipple. Could also be that if he knows you're there he's like nope mom not gonna happen, I want the real deal. Over time my son preferred the bottle and he's somewhat okay with drinking out of a cup. It's just really messy and seeing as your son is only seven months old he might not be ready for that. Very easy to take too big of a sip and choke a little. Being a parent truly is learning on the job. The easiest part is finding out what doesn't work🙈
Just want to add, for me personally it's a big no no letting a small child/baby drink out of glass. It wouldn't be the first or last time we have accidents and the bottle or cup ends up on the floor. That's a disaster waiting to happen.
@@-Annn- hahaha that is so true Angela. Thanks for your answer. I think the point is he still prefers the real deal, doesn't take a pacifier either... Yeah you're right, i'll try to avoid glasses for the moment. By the way I am a german mom, writing from Germany. I have found a lot of support on American RU-vid channels 😁👍 greetings over the ocean!
Yes, weaning is more traumatic after 1 year. I gave my kids breast milk in a sippy cup, and provided lots of cuddles. Toddlers should get enough nutrition during the day...don’t need to eat at night.
@@surabhibhate7685 i also hate pumping and havent done it once during my 2 years of breastfeeding. I have stopped my morning and naptime feeds and any extra of course. Night i still do and midnight if he wakes up once. I.am not gonna use a bottle he wont drink from it anyway. Its all about your scent and skin to skin i think
Right... I would say it's easy for you Jess because you know that you're getting another batch of breastmilk in a few months as you're expecting another baby LOL. My one and only baby is turning one next week. She's currently teething, having a cold, never slept through the night etc. Breastfeeding is still a big thing in our lives although we have been giving formula too for a long time. To cut the long story short, The plan was to stop at 12 months but I'm not sure if I want to stop!!! I'd never ever thought I'd say this 🙈🙈🙈🙈
You don't have to stop!!! I nursed baby #3 way past a year old--- you can continue until you or baby are ready to be done! I stopped right after a year with baby #4 just because I couldn't deal with thrush or mastitis and start another homeschooling year nursing so I stopped. Don't feel bad whatever you decide--- do what's best for you!!
You don't have to but you can! They don't even need cow's milk if they're getting enough nutrients from their food. So do what's best for your baby! :)
You are just so sweet! I just weaned my 17 mo old (really she weaned herself 😳) but I watched this anyway :) I'm pregnant and due in December! Excited for your little lady.
When you mentioned not trusting the nipple confusion thing.. holy shit lol. My next baby will be able to take a bloody bottle lol. Almost 19 months of straight nursing lol no pacifier/ no bottle.. I'm so excited to wean 😆
Jessica how did you do to keep your milk supply at night after your baby turns 6 months and sleeps through the night. Do you pump? Or how do you avoid the plugged ducts?
Your body adjusts I think you can just not pump because you’ll keep getting engorged. What I did was I just slept it was painful for a couple of days but after a couple of days your body realizes you don’t need much at night anymore. You’ll leak as well but it gets better. Clogged ducts I would do epsom salt inside the Hakka with warm water and it got them right out
Just realised I've been breastfeeding for 9 years straight. I have 4. My youngest is 2 1/2 and I'm ready to wean but he's not... I'm sad that I want to because it's my last baby but this is more security and comfort for him but I'm done now. Done. No more. I just wish he'd show no more interest so I don't feel sad about it.
I feel like my son is constantly teething and he's almost 16 months. But as of the last week he doesn't allow me to unlatch without biting me a bit. So I've been trying to SLOWLY wean. Mainly because I'm not ready to let it go. I still really like that time but trying to figure out this recent biting thing. Any suggestions?
Ah this is perfect! I’m planning to continue with my bub till a year too, so still have 5 months ish but I was genuinely thinking how do you even wean, I don’t understand how to even stop 😂🥴 thanks gf x
Hey ! I shall be really grateful if you answer to my question which really concern me badly ! My baby is 8 mo old now she refuse to take bottle still. She took bottle first 30 days after her birth with breast feeding but suddenly she refused to take it I tried many bottles with different shapes of nipples but she cried alot . I am really worried what to do now. I really want to switch on bottle as it is really difficult for me to carry on !!!!! I am so upset.
And how for an egzample to stop baby from breastfeeding or from pumping without having clogged breasts . DId you just stpop and milk stopped producing within few days ?Thanks!
Noooo, you have to do it slowly or you can get mastitis. I’ve had it 3 times and it’s not fun at all! How long it takes to wean depends on how much milk you are making.
Can you share the link to the video you used to have featured that was a funny commentary on how everyone tells moms what to do and how it's all contradictory?
My son is almost 8 months old and u just want him to stop breastfeeding at night!! He wakes up every 2 hours :( he is my third and LAST baby so that helps me get through the loooong nights
Babies get super attacked after like 14 months. It becomes such a part of their routine and comfort that it’s much harder to stop. They can always start getting demanding and throw fits if you don’t give them the milk.
I know this is old. But how interesting! Trying to wean my 11 mo old and he is also becoming more obsessed with his binkies while I got rid of daytime feeds!
I completely understand you. Baby is 6 weeks, won’t ever stop nursing, it’s basically a 24/7 thing. I don’t particularly find breastfeeding a “beautiful” or that much of a bonding experience (more power for those who do and enjoy it) but I’m set on doing it for at least 6 months but man, do I have doubts every day. Breastfeeding’s been hard from day one 🤦🏻♀️
And on a related note, how do you get your child used to cow's milk (or any other type of milk for that matter) when all they take is breastmilk? My baby has refused straight cow's milk.
Omg!!! I knew the Jess Hover name sounded familiar!! I’ve been following you on Facebook for about a year and a half now! Wow this is crazy!! So so cool how I found your RU-vid channel!! I didn’t even know you had a RU-vid channel. 🤍🌈🦋✨