My sister had the worst experience. She met and fell in love with an Arab man. He asked her to marry him met my parents my father gave his blessings. When She met his parents they were disrespectful and racist to her. They forbid the marriage and the most he said was that she should give him time to work on them. When my father heard he was beyond furious. He withdraw his blessings called them and was adamant that his black daughter was too good for this kind of family. Their son had not even gone to university and his daughter was in medical school. My sister did eventually agree that it just couldn't work and they went their separate ways. It is important not to love someone so much that you must love yourself less in order to be with them.
It's not the fault of your sister's lover or fiancee so why did she abandon him if his family refused her he loved her and wanted to marry her she is marrying him not his family
@@financialliteracyeducation5112 it's a cultural thing, we are Caribbean , you don't just marry a person you marry a family. A family that your children will be born into. If they do not respect you, there will never really be peace in your marriage.
Alhamdulila I married a black African man and I'm from Indian muslim diaspora. We are completely from different backgrounds, culture and upbringing but similar university backgrounds and Islam and correct aqeedah unites us and our children masha Allah. Bless my parents for never being racists, always putting Islam first and always loving him as their son. I never felt discriminated either from his side Alhamdulila but we also live independently in a different country to our respective cultures. So relations are cordial and easy on both families sides Alhamdulila.
That is beautiful. All that matters is God and someone’s heart. The prophet told us all races are equal, men and women too, all that matters is our character.
@@hfradar9763 who the heck told you we hate Non Muslims? And don't try to pull some Sur'ah you know absolutely nothing about. I live currently where I was born in Muslim region of the country but overall country is predominantly Orthodox Christian(but in all reality they are car from true Orthodox Christianity but that's on them ) country where 6 Million people 85% out of 7 Million are Orthodox Christians and 1 Million rest are Muslims(which make only 4% of country(,Catholicism 5%, , Protestant(0.9%) and rest 5% other religions. So say if we go by that statement which is utterly stupid I should hate 85% of the country? I should hate anyone who isn't Muslim? Man wake up and don't be so dumb next time.
@@dmitri970 exactly not sure why anyone with a brain would follow it I mean quram promises men 70-100 virgins that become virgins over and over as it says what kind of sick sht is that?...and oh there white while anyone else is locked up sick cults
Thank you for speaking truth. I’ve taught my children I’d rather you be happier married to someone of another race then to be married to someone just because they’re the same race as you but treat you poorly. Love has no religion or race and everybody needs it. Love is the best feeling in the world. Who wouldn’t want to feel loved Thank you again
see we got 14 dislikes but I am a black man I am a Muslim and I converted to Islam a year ago and I watch you I study I really like what you say Allahu Akbar 💙
My parents were from different countries, cultures and religions. But their marriage was absolutely strong. they taught me to judge all people on their merits as an individual. Thank you for touching on this important topic
Job 30:30 said a black man has suffering . I think a black man is attacked as a chosen race as garden of Eden is in Africa . Africa is blessed with mineral resources with gold, diamond, tobacco , copper, goal etc
A Abyssinian man (Bilal) was the first to make the call to prayer in the history of Islam, and one of the most beloved companions to Prophet Muhammad ☺️
This is bcos of politicians and satanist who wanted to control the world. They make us fight each other when we ourselves were actually dosent care our skin colour
Learn sumin new everyday... I knew Yeshua/Jesus had skin like burnt brass and burnished bronze... dark brown...but i didnt know Muhammad was a black man as well... it makes perfect sense.. you can figure out most of the past by looking at the present...apparently. btw i guess Arabs are basically mexicans on camels? mixed i mean ...
Prophet Muhammad’s last sermon before death was that an Arab is not superior to a non-Arab and a non- Arab is not superior to an Arab. We are all descended from Adam and Eve.
I DISAGREE BECAUSE THERE IS A CONTRADICTION IN THE QURAN If we say that Allah created all of us equal, it contradicts multiple chapters and verses where slavery was allowed and officialized by the Allah. The Quran even gives laws about how to treat slaves . It even autorizes a man to sleep with his wive and his slaves. So I am confused about the term Equality in creation. Please let everybody comment on this question because it is causing a lot of confusion and disagreement between us here in Algeria. Wallah, c'est difficile à comprendre mes freres et soeurs. salam
@@azzizdeblida7983 Islam abolished slavery pretty much. What it allows is captives of war. But on certain conditions. Slaves can only be caught in war, no exceptions. The master must treat him how he would treat his family, and himself with proper accommodation and the same food as you eat. Islam even says you should help the individual with work. Any physical violence against the individual means you have to release them under sharia law. If the individual converts to Islam, then you have to free the individual. A slave can go to the sharia courts and make a contract with his master, that he will do a period of work usual 20 years, and then he will become free. Islam has no discrimination among individuals of different race, everyone is the same regardless of race. If you wish to marry the individual, you have to set the individual free. The Quran calls for the freeing of slaves, either the owner manumitting the slave, or a third party purchasing and freeing the slave.The freeing of slaves is encouraged is an act of benevolence, and expiation of sins. It is believed to be the one of the greatest acts you could do and P.Muhammad highly encouraged the freeing of slaves. The Quran recognizes slavery as a source of injustice, as it places the freeing of slaves on the same level as feeding the poor. Slaves can also buy their freedom in instalments which is encouraged in the Quran. And slaves can also progress higher up on the social platform, and there were many examples of that in the past, with the mamluk dynasty of Egypt being founded by Circassian slaves. But none of this matters because all Muslim nations agreed to ban slavery in the 1960s admitting that Islam’s goal was to slowly get rid of slavery, by choking and discouraging its practices, like P.Muhammad did with alcohol. Peace!
As a black myself I say you are right but you can’t tell that to arabs most especially they they think blacks are meant to be their slaves they refused to accept we are all equal till today they feel they more human than us one of my yemeni classmate said if she ever gets married to a black man her family will kill her I was shocked to death I tried to make her understand we are all human beings in the face of God she knew it but she was very afraid of her family
I am glad that such a topic is being brought up and discussed upon, as now days, racial discrimination is a global issue and I feel like it's a topic worth discussing. Great going sheikh!
I DISAGREE BECAUSE THERE IS A CONTRADICTION IN THE QURAN If we say that Allah created all of us equal, it contradicts multiple chapters and verses where slavery was allowed and officialized by the Allah. The Quran even gives laws about how to treat slaves . It even autorizes a man to sleep with his wive and his slaves. So I am confused about the term Equality in creation. Please let everybody comment on this question because it is causing a lot of confusion and disagreement between us here in Algeria. Wallah, c'est difficile à comprendre mes freres et soeurs. salam
Honestly i knew about this as a black muslim brother but i dont sweat it about marrying out of my race! Who said a black queen ain’t enough for me 🤷🏽♂️
@Blackà Đønz the title is click bait. You'd have to watch the video in order to get and understand the message. I'm not even Muslim and I understood the message. He spoke against using religious doctrine to reinforce racist motivations. Something that southern U.S. Christians have been well known for.
@@neilmcdonaldii4367 so why use a black man to get views? Click bait smh It is racist. He could've come up with a less offensive title. Everybody who saw that title who isn't subscribed to the man clicked on it because they wanted to hear why you shouldn't marry a black man. But we got something a bit different. I think it's pathetic. To make that statement your title just shows me what you really feel inside. He doesn't like black men, and he wouldn't want one to marry his daughter.
@@No_Frills_Carnivore did you even watch the video? Have you even been to the middle east and mingled amongst the Muslims? What he did with the thumb mail is what a lot of content creators do to grab people's attention. It's a very touchy subject. Some of the biggest racists/bigots I know are black!
@@saiyber908 Spreading hate? I am muslim. Im also a black man. When i say "Pure" im saying keep it just how Allah intended it to be, no skin color should matter when it comes to marriage. If the two want to marry then the father should allow it. Maybe you mis understood my comment.
@@saiyber908 Also ive experienced many middle eastern muslims to be racist when it comes to marriage. No Black men, No Bengali, No one but a Cousin is worthy of marrying their daughters no matter if you can meet the dowry or not. Ive seen this mostly with Yemenis.
@S R Ishmael was black, he comes from Abraham a Black man and Ishmaels mother was black too, she was an Egyptian a servant of Sarah. The white man mixed his seed with the seed of Ishmael and eventually everyone on the planet. But Everyone now is against the black man even their own.
My parents denied me from marrying a revert sister who I got to know, her character was what I liked the most. They did not want to meet her even just because of the skin colour difference and treated her as a lesser human with a negative attitude towards her. I'm not even sure on marriage anymore, the time and generation we live in people are not marrying anymore before ages of 35 or 30! There are too many requirements from looks, financial etc and the Marriage websites/apps make it even worse so you flick through the best looking person, these apps promote the extenal attraction NOT internal and before people realise it years fly by and they have regrets. I wanted to marry from a young age and I hope future generations will stop chasing the world and realise the important things in life. I pray that Allah blesses all humanity with the basic understand of the meaningful things in life and move away from materialism. My sisters are in the same issue getting older with so many requirements and I really fear for them!! The UK/Western mentality is just ridiculous
and i also think as a guy you have more rights to marry who you want as long as she fits the criteria within our deen and if the reasons ur parents don't accept her are un-islamic then they don't count
Alhamdulillah best piece of knowledge I needed exactly today for a close person of mine. Jazak Allah khair sheikh. Ya Allah help us all and accept our Duas. aameen
Ameen. Anyway, Peace be upon U my brother and sister. My Muslim folks only for the sake of Allah SWT I would recommend u to subscribe/watch the channel named "Farid Responds" who debunk/refute anti-Islamic (Islamophobe ) people’s false accusations against Islam or misinterpretations of Hadith and Quran. & they are trying to Muslims get out of Islam & playing with innocent average Muslims mind. May Allah SWT guide us & protect us from these devilish people’s game. Let Muslims be aware of their own Islam, so that they can have enough knowledge to confront these Hypocrite/Black Sheep or for own knowledge. [If anyone here who is Non-Muslim & genuinely honestly seeking knowledge & can keep their ego/arrogance or mindset aside while searching knowledge then I would recommend u too to watch and listen to his words just for ur knowledge my friend. As they don’t preach against ur belief, they're only answering those who are misinterpreting Quran and Hadith & spreading falsehood against Islam. Be neutral in search of knowledge if u r truthful my friend. . In-sha-Allah, by ur creator u'll find the truth.] ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-a3gPpl-ixPU.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-cPhHyfwcoLs.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-jWWGA_607MI.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-EB95o7cPcMs.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-Ji7Cm_FMxmc.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-HXa-aM8b-gU.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-_yw0hXk-9Pw.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-ZmitcgpeEJc.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-NrTjEwY3-x8.html ru-vid.com/group/PLsdT_5k9wPhFzJEEnkjTWG5huDbTkTEeT ru-vid.com/group/PLsdT_5k9wPhHDDVtz-B4mBDQeC9vMB535 ru-vid.com/group/PLsdT_5k9wPhEQ_Nh9zdS9kbFJ7xL0l_Es ru-vid.com/group/PLsdT_5k9wPhGJLSRJuxl0NEjmJqocgKOC ru-vid.com/group/PLsdT_5k9wPhHiPLXp8JwaVWokL5IYrsI_ & I would recommend u people to watch "The Muslim Skeptic" -s channel too. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-k3FbXjO8fY8.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-NGpOEIkTEjU.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-k_hT4f1u6y8.html ru-vid.com ru-vid.com/group/PLcnL9bB-q3ylbGDxmWwWNCp77hc_iCCdH I have no intention to argue with anyone. So, be peaceful. JazakAllah Khairan brother and sister. Note for ignorant people : ★★★ These aren’t my channels.★★★ I'm just trying to reach Muslims so that they can gather knowledge about their deen only & definitely Brother Farid inspire people to read books, there is a lot of videos advising that.. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-K9e5uRs3GDI.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-lyR_tICvTBE.html & they're only working for Islam. Not Anti thought based channel. Rather they defend anti-Islamic people’s misinterpretation & falsehood against Islam. & I'm just trying to work for my Muslim ummah from my position and ability. . Assalamu Alaikum woa Rahmatullah woa Rahmatullah.
Wanting to preserve your race, is not racism. If a father refuses his daughter to marry a black man, he shouldn't be called racist. People dont know the definition of racism so will call everyone who thinks differently a racist.
I am black and I agree with this statement. Most people will even prefer to date people within their own race. How much more a father expecting his child to do the same. There is nothing wrong with that. However, the problem comes in when the parents don't respect their child's wishes. The thing to always remember is your child has now become an adult.They are supposed to make decisions for themselves.
@ahmed ali I am not Somali rather a proud Afghani but I know many Pakistani girls married to African ( They have RU-vid channel).Also I didn't ask you so better to mind your own buisness.
Mashallah, I am a white londoner and my husband is black londoner. I am blessed to have met such a wonderful man. We compliment each other, complete each others sentences at the same time. Have in depth conversations, and learn and support one another as well as problem solve. Outsiders, and so forth do have their opinions, but we choose to ignore, as we have the strength and Allah to guide us through this wonderful journey. Alhamdulliah.
I’m a black American woman and I’m married to a Yemi brother. I teach him about the harms of our dumya and he teaches me more about the deen. MashaAllah we balance one another out!
YOU COULD MARRY WHOEVER YOU WANT because color don’t matter BUT WHEN CHOOSING SOMEONE FIRST IS IF THEY ARE RELIGIOUS THEN THEIR WEALTH/STATUSAND LAST THEIR BEAUTY IN THE QURAN👍🏿
@Daniel Khan yes that’s the reason wealth is last the main reason when choosing someone is looking at how religious they are and wealth is last meaning not the main criteria but is one of the last criterias in the Quran.
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@Daniel Khan The person isn't saying its important however it is fair to look at such a thing and if someone can't support a family it makes sense why some women won't try to marry them. On the flip side if a woman is too old or can't have kids many guys don't want to marry them even if they are religious. Humans are superficial creatures and the facts are people are going to have preferences and they aren't haram.
@Daniel you need some wealth to get married, also most people want similar lifestyles to what they are used to. This is very logical and plain to understand.
As a Palestinian who married a Pakistani, we were brought up in the same community, we went through the same schools and shared a lot of the hobbies. But after marriage, I realized that even though people are all similar outside the house, inside the house people are very cultural. The little things when you engage your self in an interracial marriage become eventually big, like different food, language, lack of family compatibility and so on...we ended the marriage on good terms between me and her, and ended up marrying a Palestinian like myself and things are better, an easier marriage without any doubt. People behave in their houses differently than outside, children of immigrant parents are more cultured than we think.
@@RSingh-lv1ro the Pakistani is a she :) we ended it well and there no fights, we realized due to the culture clash, it would be much harder to have kids
What cultural differences can lead to separation? I think u guys already knew u had different backgrounds already. I am not judging u personally, just wanted to know some reasons.
I was in a relationship with a Muslim black girl from Caribbean. We, went to the same college, had the same set of classes for almost 2 years. We both had the same goal in our minds, both becoming Nurses. I felt like she was my missing piece. I loved her so much, we been together for 3.5 year. When I tried to introduce her to my family they were really upset, called her names insulted her and her family, with out even getting to know her. I understand why we had to break up, but I felt like losing her, I lost a part of me. I pry that my family could just understand. She was not a criminal, she was a Muslim, she had goals and ideas similar to mine. But it’s all gone. Almost 4 years gone and 3 extra years of school for nothing.
I’m so sorry you went through that but you shouldn’t give up on her if that’s who you truly love try to bring a respectable sheikh who your parents respect who is not racist to advocate for your union
Being a black Muslim I’ve dealt with a lot of racism even in the mosque of all places! it really upsets me. How do you claim to be Muslim but you think you’re somehow better than me cause of the color of your skin? Mitchewww
True, I remember the first day I came here to Canada and there was some Arabian dude and when you pray_you put your legs together..the dude was moving his leg away from mine during salah and the guy beside him was arab and they joined together...it's so sad
@Banshee Lurcher yes this is literally right here in America the only time these people want to be next to you is during Ramadan and you can literally feel how they stiff when you stand next to them. I hate to say it but Arab/ or Arab like and brown folks are racist asf .
We see the following regarding the kafa’a for marriage in the classic Shafi’i manual of Islamic law titled ‘Umdat as-Salik wa ‘Uddat an-Nasik (Reliance of the Traveller and Tools of the Worshipper): والكفاءةُ في: النسَبِ والدِّينِ والحريةِ والصَّنعةِ وسلامة العيوبِ المُثْبِتَةِ للخِيار، فلا يُكافئ العجميُّ عربيةً، ولا غيرُ قُرَشيٍّ قُرشيَّةً، ولا غيرُ هاشميٍّ أو مُطَّلبيٍّ هاشميةً أو مطَّلبيةً، ولا فاسقٌ عفيفةً، ولا عبدٌ حرةً، ولا العتيقُ أو من مسَّ آباءَهُ رِقٌّ حرةَ الأصلِ، ولا ذو حِرفَةٍ دنيئةٍ بنتَ ذي حِرفةٍ أرفعَ، كخياطٍ بنتَ تاجرٍ، ولا معيبٌ بعيبٍ يُثْبِتُ الخِيارَ سليمةً منهُ، ولا اعتبارَ باليسارِ والشيخوخةِ، فمتى زوَّجها بغَيْرِ كُفءٍ بغَيرِ رضاها ورِضا الأولياءِ الذينَ هم في درَجتهِ فالنِّكاحُ باطلٌ، وإن رَضُوا أو رضيَتْ فليسَ للأبعدِ اعتراضٌ. (Taken from the section of Kafa’a in the chapter of Nikaah in the text) Translation: Kafa’a (Suitability in marriage for a female) is in the lineage (ancestry of the man), and in religiousness, and his being a free man (not a slave), and in his profession, and his being free of defects that can cause the annulment of the marriage. And the ajami (non-Arab) is NOT suitable for an Arab woman, and a non-Qurayshi is NOT suitable for a Qurayshi woman (Quraysh was the tribe of the Holy Prophet (S)), nor is a non-Hashimi or non-Muttalabi suitable for a Hashimi or Muttalabi woman (Hashimites are the members of the clan to which the Holy Prophet (S) belonged to, and Muttalabites are the descendants of the grandfather of the Holy Prophet (S)). Nor is an immoral man suitable for a virtuous woman, nor is a slave suitable for a free woman, nor is a freed slave or one whose ancestors were touched by slavery suitable for a (free) woman whose ancestors were free. Nor is a man of a lowly profession suitable for the daughter of someone with a noble profession, such as a tailor wanting to marry a tradesman’s daughter. So we see that the following are NOT kafa’a (suitable for marriage) for women: Non-Arab men for Arab women Non-Qurayshi man for a Qurayshi woman Non-Hashimi or non-Muttalabi for a Hashimi or Muttalabi woman Sinful man for virtuous a woman A slave or a freed slave for a free woman A free man but one whose ancestors might have been slaves for a free woman whose ancestors were not slaves A man with a lowly profession for a woman whose father has a noble profession
You know that there are white Christians that don't like Black Christians even when Christianity suppose to preach brotherly love. You know that it was the Popes that sanction slavery. The point is that racisms knows no religious boundaries, nor culture boundaries. My advice to you is find another Mosque with people that respect you and love you. Please don't waste anymore of your time there.
roses maybe black Moroccans but not black Americans. I am Morrocan and black American. I do not see Moroccans and Black Americans couple and children like myself who is a cross between, I am sure it exist but it's not common like example a black and white couple/ black and white kids., i think it's more so because of different culture/religion than anything else that's what my birth mother said..
Allahmudillah my brothers and sisters. I am a white American male and I'm currently studying Islam. InshAllah I will be taking my Surah soon and becoming a proud Muslim Brother soon. There's no place in this world for hate no matter what. We All need to know this.
Peace and many blessings to you special person scrolling through the comment: I pray for your happiness, healing, victory from sources you never expected, and soon my beloved brothers and sisters may Allah grant you an expensive gift where you are left to shed countless tears of joy and may your final home be nothing less than Alfirdouse'l A'alaa!
So many of us have experienced it, by not having the same nationality and therefore not being good enough for this person, even though we wanted different, but they wanted their children, no they demanded their children to only get married within the same nationality. Despite calling themselves muslims as well. May Allah swt. Guide us all.
Before you convert to Islam, you really need to investigate the facts about Islam yourself. Take a look at this video. It will provide you with several Islamic sources for you to read. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-Qx1IkH5pNH0.html
@@HamzaSayyid ??? Absolutely not! He has never spoken a word of hate toward anyone. What he does is reveal the true facts about Islam and he does it by showing it in Islam's own scriptures, the Quran and the hadith. He never says anything without showing it in the Quran or the hadith. Do you know there's a death sentence against you if you leave Islam? Muhammad commanded his followers to kill anyone who leaves Islam. You've ben told that Muhammad ended slavery, right? It isn't true. Muhammad was a slaver. Yes, he bought, sold, and traded black African slaves. These are all facts proven by Islam's own sources. Do you want to know the truth about Islam? Or are you content to simply believe what Muslims are telling you?
@@heirofthenazareen3812 I have read both the Quran and Bible, feel free to do the same instead of listening to that Moron... weird but owning slaves is in the Bible also...... you are blind
I am a STRONG advocate for interracial relationships/marriages. I would advise people to draw the line with allowing people to dictate who you love & are attracted to. I knew at an early age I was gonna date & marry interracially, & that hasn’t changed in 20 years. I took a lot of heat over the years for it & don’t care. Don’t let your friends, parents, relatives or whoever else dictate who you spend a lifetime with. You better make sure that YOU are happy with that choice since YOU are the one that has to live with that decision everyday…. Not your loved ones 💯💯🎯🎯🙏🏾
Mufti Menk plz pray for as I am going to write my medical entrance exam & want to become a doctor .But fail to focus sometime & become depressive due to this . Pray for me plzzzzz. May Allah bless all of us .Ameen.
Frwa Khan YOU WILL PASS WITH FLYING COLORS‼️‼️ ILL KEEP YOU IN MY HEALING STRENGTH AND PRAYERS ALWAYS ‼️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️‼️ SENDING YOU LOVE ❤️ ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@dianagentile7636 Jazakallah Khair (Thanks a lot💕💕💕 ) dear for your love & support. I am feeling less anxious now💞💞💞💞🙏💓💓May Almighty bless u a lot. Remember me in your prayers. May Allah help us all Ameen.
I'm very conflicted with this message as being raised in a Christian family. When I wanted knowledge about this very issue, the church was nowhere near as insightful and accepting as this Muslim holy man. Most of my life, I have had questions about religion. I can only speak about what I've been exposed to and my personal frame of reference. Everything I've ever been told by the church about other religions has always been brutally negative; but when I have gone to religions outside of my Christian upbringing, they mostly show respect and reverence to other religions. I witness so much hipocracy in Christianity, definitely conflicted about what to believe. Am I the only one who feels this way?
Remember folks, Iblis was the 1st racist. *"I am better than him. You created me from fire, You created him from clay."* _-Iblis_ If your family don't want you to marry someone because of their race, Who are they acting like?
bigoted maybe. Don’t you have to be both human of different races to b3 a racist? From what I gather, Iblis isn’t a human being. Its like saying I can be racist to a goat just because we’re different species.
@@o_o-037 I know that. My comparison was to show that angels or jinn and human beings are not on the same level. Though angels jinn and humans are all sentient, they are not on the same level of power and intelligence. The angels and jinn are purely spiritual beings whereas humans are not. I was using the goat as a benchmark to show the contrast . It wasn’t intended to be taken literally.
A guy rejected me because i’m black and he is not😔 even tho we are born and raised in the same city and we went along so well but he decided that we can’t be together. It hurt me so much he called me fat, ugly, and black (as if being black is a curse). 😞😔i’m glad allah separated us if he thinks of me so low. I forgot to add that he even told me he’d rather marry someone “worth it” like i worth nothing i just can’t believe these words came out of him😔 its funny that he even said your skin is not black but you have black features and I don’t like it😔
Focus on your relationship with Allah swt, time will pass quickly that way. 🙏🏾 You will increase in everything and he will increase in nothing but vanity.
You are beautiful and your worth is with Allaah swt. I had a similar experience and i begged Allaah for a sign to sooth my heart. When i opened the Qur’an the page opened up to the following verses:- “...and do not let their words grieve you, for all honour due to power belongs to Allaah he sees and hears all”. From that day onwards i realised people are worth nothing. Stop allowing one person to take up so much of your heart and thoughts. These men are not worth your tears. Smile... for when you are happy it winds people up. I would not be surprised if he ends up with a daughter who has ‘black features’. For Allaah is Just. These people need to fear Allaah’s judgement.
Sister Im black like you and you should not be shamed of your color because Allah SWT created you and whoever doesnt like the way Allah created you then he doesnt deserve to be your husband also you should know that marriage is riziq from Allah and when Allah SWT grant you a husband no one can stop it so please sister always pray to Allah and make so many duas in your prayers so that Allah give you a husband that you didnt imagine in your life
This is an important topic. Thanks for this Mufti. I'm Nigerian and even though we're all black, almost all parents still discriminate against other ethnic groups. They'll be like you can't marry from so so tribe without giving any reasons. I feel that one of their greatest fears is marrying their children into other tribes. The first thing my mom asks when I tell her I have someone I like is: "What tribe is he from?" Is that supposed to be the most important question to ask? I'm tired of the tribalism.
Hanan THANK YOU for your honesty!! A lot of times people point the finger at other people when there 3 fingers pointing back at themselves!! In buddhism if it's in your environment it's in yourself!! Your environment good and bad is always a reflection of self DEEP down internally. People have to change that DEEP down conscious and sub conscious junk!! It hard and painful you have to do a reality check on your self but it is necessary if we want to go in the right direction of a peaceful world. Please RU-vid SGI BUDDHIST MOVEMENT AN INTRODUCTION FULL LENGTH VERSION. We are in 192 countries threw out the world, including Nigeria. You can Google SGI Nigeria. Have a great day!!!
My sister if there is one positive thing that came out of the transatlantic slavery system. It was that it forged a group of different ethnic groups of Africans into one people of who I am apart here in the United States and it was us becoming one people help us survive that horrific ordeal . It saddens me to hear you speck of the the discrimination that goes on within Nigeria its people. I think the only thing that will change that is education. What your parents do not understand is from the outside the world views you all as Nigerians, and if some other country comes against Nigeria, they will not care what ethic group you come from. Maybe next time your mother asks you what tribe that they person comes from, tell her he comes from the tribe called Nigeria. I recently saw this wedding of 2 Nigerians on this television show called 'bridezillas'. The bride and groom were from different ethic group of Nigeria, it was so beautiful they showed the different ethnics groups cultural wedding ceremonies and customs, they honored both customs in the ceremony. Your parents need to see the successful marriage of a couple from different ethnics groups. They maybe fearful of their customs and traditions being lost, but it doesn't have to be.
We should don't forget that We are humans We need each other always Live with love it's beautiful I hope you are have a great life guys Lots of love from Afghanistan 🤲☝️🇦🇫🥰♥️
all praises to the most high imam and I swear to Allah and I am black guy .... the paradise will be entered first by black guy, said the prophet Mohamed
Here's my story and I'll keep it short: I met an Arabic man, very respectful and nice man. we were so much in love that we talked about getting married. Things were so serious that I introduced him to my brothers (cause I lost both parents). However, I was so disappointed when I asked to meet his family. He always came with excuses, keep me from meeting them, until 1day he said: "Sorry if I didn't tell you the truth. I just don't want to hurt your feelings" "Tell me, I need to know" I said With his head down, he said "I love you but my family will not welcome you as my future wife" Why not? Did they already reserve someone for you? No! He said. After talking for about an hour he finally said this: "My parents don't want any of us to marry a black person... but I love you. We can get married without their consents. Let's just do the ceremony here in U.S. not in Egypt" I was so disappointed to find this issue within our religion. I couldn't take it, we finally broke up!😥
But he loved you. And parents may have different tought but you can't change them if they are strict. right?. We can't make everyone happy at the same time 😥. Love is rare. Don't lose it again. Best of luck for your future.
I've been meeting brothers and be felling welcomed. This topic has been in my heart and mind as I see the hatred for the African and African-American people all over the World. Thank you for this teaching it had bought joy to my heart and easy to my mind. Alhamdulillah
I’m an African American, I go to the Masjid and Salam my Muslims brothers, but nobody Salams me back. They ignore me, and act as if they don’t hear me. There is a cultural separation in the Muslim community and it’s truly sad and frustrating for a me as a person of color. Sometimes I honestly don’t even want to go to the masjid because of how I’m treated by other Muslims of different cultures.
The angles replied on you instead, that what our prophet told us if someone didn't reply back the greeting. The prophet peace be upon on him said too: people who has envoy or arrogants in their hearts even a tiny bit they will not be in paradise Some Muslims in the west had westernized and start seeking the materialistic things and money but thier hearts are empty and forgot about being true Muslims. They're the poor ones not you, Allah bless you
It is best to have taqwa and not follow man made rules of cultures by letting them rule your life. You can't have both. *Either* culture *or* Islam. The prophet's many marriages to different women serve as an example to us to follow.
I have to say, before I converted to Islam, I thought racist attitudes in Islam were not an issue. Well, I was wrong. Although the "race" issue is not explicit, it is implicit because "culture" is generally tied to "race." It got me thinking about which system has a stronger influence on community: whether religion or culture. From my experience in my 46 years of life, I hate to admit it, but culture is stronger than religion in terms of general influence because the breadth of culture is wider than religion. Religion is only one part of culture. There are other things that bind a community that give it its distinct identity: music, language, literature, food, dance, child-rearing, clothing, the history of a group, etc. I find that most people who marry interracially don't have much concern or regard for their native culture. In fact, they subconsciously try to distant themselves as much as possible. To prove that culture is stronger than religion, I'll give you two stories to help illustrate this. My wife and I are black Muslims. I'm black American. She's Somali. When we moved to America, we joined a mosque, but most of its members were Arab. Outside of Islam, we had nothing in common. Our tastes in music, some politics, views of history and just general mannerisms were quite different. And the whole vibe of the place was strictly Middle Eastern "ways of doing". The Arabs there always looked out for other Arabs, not us. We were background figures. Same thing happened when we visited a mosque largely led by Indians. It wasn't until we found a predominately black mosque in Maryland that my wife and I were comfortable. Another story was when my wife tried to get a job through a female Arab contact who was Muslim at our mosque. Come to find out later the Arab woman decided to go with a female Arab Christian from Lebanon. So see, culture does have its pull.
I’m somali and I’m dating a Sudanese but I’m so scared my family to find out because they are so strict idk what to do I been so depressed thinking what will they think of me or will they cut all ties for me 🙏🏽please guys pray for me
Just soo happened I saw your previous comment from onother video (same time as this) How can you be dating and be married dont you think that's not good End the marriage if you find it toxic then date But the two never goes well together
Do you live in your parent's house? Do your parents know any Sudanese? Maybe you should have a general discussion with your parents about different people and see where they heads are. You can also make up a story about a fake encounter with someone that did not like you, because you were of a different ethnic group of somali. That way it would force your parent to see how bad it is to not like someone or misjudge someone of a different group. Just a suggestion
Asalamu alaikum, this is a good topic to touch on. I am black, and my husband is white (Irish and French). His parents didn’t have a problem, but my parents did in the beginning. Once they seen how good he was, they relaxed, now they love him. I understood why my parents felt that way in the beginning especially since they seen so much racism in the south of USA when they were younger. Allhumdulillah that they were able to see that he has a good heart, and his intentions were good.
I didn't hear this but the title hit home big time!!!! In my late 20's I fell in love with a muslim sudanee. My parents didn't approve and were so against it. I am 44 and still single. I am now confident that they ruined my life and that I shouldn't have listened to them
The creator gave us this one life here on earth, and the creator allows us to choose how we are going to live our lives. I am sorry that you allowed your parents to make that choice for you, and now you are miserable. This is a lesson to you that it is always better to make your own choices, because you are the only one that has to live with the outcome.
Love is love.. regardless of culture or financial situations... if 2 can be happy.. rich or poor. But still happy in a relationship... let them be if you can not help to lift them up...
The first transgression committed by Iblis was racism when he refused to bow to Adam due to him being made of clay. As servants of Allah we should always work to remember this.
Oh yes God made Adam in his image that means God is black and Sheitan was white and that explains why his off spring that infiltrated the human gene still despises the children of the Most High the people who look like the soil of the ground the true human being
There's different soul tribes and people connect through the soul so similarity will be souls recognising eachother and nothing to do with race. I can only tolerate real love in this world
I've heard that souls recognize each other but have never heard of Soul Tribes. I like that. I'm gonna look further into that. Thank you @Nina Adams :)
@@BigPicture717 hi Magenta, I am so glad you find the concept if tribes interesting. Being multidimensional, I was able to become perceptive to the oneness of human beings as web of energy but within it each has an energetic mechanism and purpose. With this understanding we find that there is no such thing as negative and positive energy but just part of the design that comes to change and mould us... if you are interested then follow me on instagram @multidimensional_therapist Wish you a beautiful day sprinkled with magic 💫
If people thought about death more and understood that everyone ends up in dust...I think we'd understand how not smart it is to look down on other people or place people on a pedestal because they turn red when angry, purple when they bruise, pink when they blush or because they can handle the sun better than them. The level of jahiliyyah we're at...May Allah guide us. Allahumma Ameen
Shell Mufti Menk brother you said the undeniable indisputable and irrefutable truth thanks soo much for such great advice I had to learn the hard way Alhamdulillah today all praise to Allah I'm doing well
I am French and I follow your sermons which are very enriching. Would it be possible to put subtitles so that I (and us French ) can understand what you are saying please. thank you, and peace on you.
Sadly here in pakistan everyone makes fun of black ppl, everyone laughs it up and think its funny. Even if the parents are looking for someone for their son/daughter they want someone who doesn't have a dark skin colour
And the actual fact is that there are no interational marriages there are always intro rational marriages..... for beyond the epidermis we exactly all Human...
I’m glad he touched on this I know brother who was going to marry a sister and her parents Denied. And I had nothing to do it how many surah he knew out of the Quran or if he attended Jummah every week and everything to do with his skin tone.
I DISAGREE BECAUSE THERE IS A CONTRADICTION IN THE QURAN If we say that Allah created all of us equal, it contradicts multiple chapters and verses where slavery was allowed and officialized by the Allah. The Quran even gives laws about how to treat slaves . It even autorizes a man to sleep with his wive and his slaves. So I am confused about the term Equality in creation. Please let everybody comment on this question because it is causing a lot of confusion and disagreement between us here in Algeria. Wallah, c'est difficile à comprendre mes freres et soeurs. salam
For those who think they are better than a black person... I always say what make them think they are better than a black person? Seriously what. Do they have anything that a black person doesn’t or can’t have? Can they do anything a black person can’t do? What are they that a black person is not or can’t be? Whattt? When I hear things like you can’t marry a black person, sometimes it makes me laugh.😊 Personally I am black and proud to be black. There’s no one better than me bec I’m black. No one. And by the way For those who don’t know who black people are, i ll say go dig deep into history, the real history, not those narrated by the insecure ones who started or greatly parcipated in degrading the black race. My beautiful black brothers and sisters, respect and love yourselves!! If someone doesn’t want you simply bec you re black; that’s their loss!😍
That’s crazy ! African American men and women are are no different then any other person on this planet, period .Color of the skin make no difference, the character of a person is what’s important. LOVE , LOVE AND LOVE !
@@olamideobatomi8006 muslim men can marry christian and jewish women (who actually follow their faith not just christian or jew by name). Muslim women can only marry muslim men. This is because the children will take after the father’s religion and that is why its imperative the husband is a muslim.
