I dont want to judge anyone, but if you are seriously considering to live in some country permanently, and you chose it as residence, I think you need to learn their language, culture, traditions, even if you both are foreigners. It's just respect to this country and the only way for you to be accepted and respected. And i'm certain the most important is not if people are treating you as foreigner or not, but if they are friendly to you. And as i can see, most people in China are friendly to foreigners even in small places where they rarely see such.
Yes, you are completely right! I am german, moved to UK and learnt english, then I lived in Paris and learned french, went to work in Italy and learnt italian and my last step was to go to Brazil where I learned portughese! As I am passioned about China and would like to visit, I am learning chinese on youtube to be able to communicate with people! Each language is an expression of the mentallity of a nation and to know the people you must be able to interact in their own language!
@fatisummer9106 I think everyone has ability to learn. Just for some people it may take longer time. And I can say from my own experience it's really not easy to move to another country, and it took me about a year to start to understand and speak well. And it's truth, "Interest is the best teacher".
@fatisummer9106 Don't you want not to be treated as a foreigner on each corner in France, and you want to be treated equally and with Love? And French just Love people who want to learn their language. Moving somewhere is not just choosing a better place to live, it's respecting their culture, language, laws and their way of life. And language is a big part of it, without it you can't immerse in their culture. So we have to learn no matter how long it takes... even though it's not easy sometimes... And language learning improves significantly cognitive functions and memory. So it's not just fun, or interest... it's also healthy and useful. : ) 🌸
Generally, girls can drink for free in nightclubs before 23:00, because the bar owner wants to attract customers. After 11 o'clock, the owner wants the girls to leave because many people drink too much, and it will be troublesome if a quarrel occurs because of the girls. It is also troublesome if they drink too much, and the security guards need to find a taxi to take them home.
As a white guy married to a Chinese woman, I can relate to the girl from Ukraine. You definitely have to get along with the family and sometimes it can be exhausting. I also cannot communicate much with my in-laws, but I actually don't see that as a very good thing. Im still trying very hard to improve my Chinese so I can communicate better with them in the future.
@@jungk0081 Sometimes I need to, but using a translator to communicate with somebody is not ideal, it’s better to learn the language if you really care
I'm married to a Chinese too but I speak Chinese because I am doing postgraduate studies here. If you're not already, enrole in a Chinese language program at a university in your city. It is intensive , and in addition to language, you also learn culture and some extracurricular activities and by the end of one year you should be advanced enough, or have the needed foundation to do independent study of the language. You'll meet other foreigners too from all backgrounds and all over the world. I am still friends with people I met in my class, (including a fellow foreigner-chinese couple). The key to thriving in China is to stop comparing it to your country, and also make friends of your own outside of family and family friends.
@@emi62507 unfortunately I’m too busy with my current college courses to also be taking Chinese, but I have been studying on my own for a year and have a solid foundation already. I can communicate basics, but really it’s gonna take me many years before I can communicate my thoughts effectively in Chinese without some language barrier. I don’t need to use Chinese for my relationship, but I do need to use it to communicate with my wife’s family. Given that we are deciding to live in the US, and my wife’s family is in China, it’s not too big of an issue at the moment. It was just challenging and a bit awkward at times when I was in China visiting them and celebrating our marriage.
@@aidanschram9652 You could take a Mandarin Course, if you are planning for rapid progress in conversation. Other and easier way, you already has the Mandarin Teacher in your home, which is Your local wife. Try to communicate in Mandarin often in home with your love ones. It will make you, more fluent in Mandarin conversation.
Someone from Brazil! How cool! This shows that Brazil is diverse. I have to go to Ukraine to find a beautiful woman like that.I have the greatest admiration for the Chinese language, culture and people!
geezes, this channel should go viral. It's down-to-earth and informative. We just back from China on a 2.5-week trip ( Guangzhou->Shanghai->Beijing->Chongqing). It's an amazing country! We were drunk every night and walked back to the hotel without any fear of getting robbed, shot, etc. Excellent beer food on the way to the hotel tool. As a foreigner, watch out for the following: The squat toilet, the silent moped zipping through on the pedestrian walkway, dudes coming up to you asking "Do you want massage" girl, angry taxi driver because your VPN is slow as fuk and you're trying to pay him/her via Alipay. For Chongqing, the "hotpot" was not for me. The "real" street food tastes much better. Otherwise, the architecture in Chongqing is simply amazing!
So from this comment I assume that people should visit the country, when they want to be drunk every day and not beeing robbed, where you can't wire money for service, otherwise you will get yelled, where men harasse women on streets with inappropriate proposals and other man says that is the best comment.
Haha you have no idea - China is still just a country of new money racist farmers pretty much. Look how they treat ethnic minorities - Still low class simple racists in China mostly
there are many western cities that are surveilled as heavily or even more than chinese cities. but it has not much effect of crime rates. maybe it's something else. like socioeconomic, cultural and collective awareness stuff.
Lool I can make a video about that. if you looking for more adventure, tinder or bumble is good, but many people look for fun tho. If look for more Chinese who never travel or been abroad, Tan tan is cool. Overall I don't recommend any of these lmao
This whole "you will never be accepted as Chinese but as a foreigner in China.", well, that's exactly what Chinese people experience in Anglosphere or other European countries.
True. So this isn't a one way street since Asians are never accepted as Americans. We get made fun of so much that we are basically outsiders. I laugh at the fact that people try to nail China for this when they also do it. Like "USA is not decent example of human rights buddy, let alone a good example."
It’s true what the girl at the end said most of the world used parents as a marriage and courting process. Some odd reason the Western countries are so against their own traditions especially in America.
As an overseas China I would agree it's the same about getting the approval of my parents. I mean, if only my parents like the girl and I don't like her then it's a no no, but if I like her but my parents don't like her then it will probably not work out either. Because in racist Anglosphere countries you and your parents are usually a lonelysphere and they are truly the people that supported you there, hence you cannot marry someone that will make them feel bad because it's not fair for them.
Девочка с украины. Я могу тебе сказать что она подумала. Мужчины которые слишком слушаются родителей непопулярны, так как считается что они не способны сами принимать решения и еще не сепарировались от семьи. Это однозначно плохо и для своей семьи я хочу быть на первом месте, а не быть второй после родителей. В конце концов не они женятся.
Wrong. It's never been that way on Earth. Men prefer tan women, women prefer white men. In Japan, reverse colorism has acted against white women, whose complexions are stigmatized as too pale or "spotted" in comparison to local Asian women.[25] In Southeast Asia, beauty ideals created by Dutch white male colonists placed brown-skinned Asian women above white women in the female beauty standard, leading to the lower socioeconomic status of blond, light-skinned women in Indonesia.[85] Bonnie Adrian writes that American culture makes white women feel inferior for having pale complexions and reddish features, and that she risked skin cancer and wrinkles trying to darken her pale skin.[22] According to 21st-century research, women in China have recently asserted tan skin as the new female beauty ideal, which they view as healthier and more attractive. According to Tai Wei Lim, Chinese women in the media now sport bronze complexions, and this is viewed as a reclamation of women's autonomy from the fading Chinese patriarchy.[23] According to a 2014 study of Swedish women in Singapore, white women are not fetishized in East Asia, but placed beneath Asian women in the beauty hierarchy. European racial characteristics such as blond hair desexualized Swedish women in Singapore, and made them feel less feminine. Furthermore, their Swedish husbands found local Taiwanese women highly attractive, contributing to the low self esteem of the Swedish women.[75] According to Erica Lorraine Williams, White women in Brazil are considered less attractive than women of color.[76] White Brazilian women have complained that foreign male sex tourists are not interested in them, and that these men prefer brown and black women over White Brazilian women.[76] For this reason, White Brazilian women struggle to compete for the money of male sex tourists.[76]
@Systems_70 LOL dude where are you getting this info from? East Asian media is all pale skin, especially China and Korea. Pale skin has always been the ideal. It's o lying until very recently in the west that it has changed. Out of curiosity, are you a dark skinned and female?
4:08 that’s definitely true that you need the parents approval! Maybe it is both positive and negative, but you aren’t marrying your parents! But also maybe, the parent are judgements, bc they want to find a good partner for their kid?
Нет но на западе если ты будешь слишком прислушаться к своим родителям - это плохо. Потому что чувак у тебя будет своя семья и мы ожидаем что она будет на первом месте. Это не значит что надо разлюбить родителей, это значит что мое мнение такое же важное или лаже важнее.
It's cultural difference. In China being men is very difficult. Men have to prove that he can take care of you. He has stable income. Let's look at this way. Animal bird insects everywhere male has to impress female. That's exactly in China. Men has to impress women.
Actually the relationship between the foreign daughter in law with the husband's parents would be good for both as seen with mixed marriages on RU-vid.
I think is quite interesting hearing some of these. I’m a brown skinned woman. I know it’s not for all but a lot of Chinese men won’t date because of their parent’s preferences. When I move there it’ll just be for peace and comfortability not to date lol
I am a brown skinned man with a Chinese wife and my sister is going to marry a (American born) Chinese guy. Not every man is the same! China has many cool and handsome guys who might like you, so don’t give up!
18:40 She contrasting her views of so many cameras to other Westerners. She doesn't feel spied on but at the same time there's a very nosey woman in the background trying to figure out what going on. 😂
I 100% agree I'm a Mexican American married to a chinese woman, she values more on her independence than her family values. However, her and I are giving as much respect as possible to the culture and values. Learning chinese is a fun challenge. Hopefully I'll be able to communicate effectively in a year from now.
What a difference between China and South Korea. When I was in China, I saw only white men/chinese women interracial couples but in South Korea I saw mainly Korean men/white women couples. I mean they're both Asian countries
That's the effect of Korean Hallyu...Korean men getting more famous because their persona and coolness that showed in Many Korean Dramas / K-drama. Not only white females, but also in many Asia, America, Europe countries, their women are big fans of Korean men or something that related to Korea (South Korea).
19:21 "You lose social credit." Is this sarcasm or not? The woman responds as if it is but there are lots of videos on China's social credit system. Is social credit program pervasive across the country?
The social credit stuff pushed by the West is nonsense. It just the usual China bashing from the West. The West has something called credit score that can affect if you can get a loan. How's that for hypocrisy.
Social Credit is a meme, but the closest analogy to reality is a Criminal Record. If you are a convicted felon then you have certain privileges restricted. Hence why the crime rate is so low.
@@jimbi-j don't marriage to foreigners... china 🇨🇳 culture different from others country.. specially language.. foreign girls always fake attitude..fake promise.. india 🇮🇳 boy know foreign girls only 3 years good and your money down..they go other china boy..so marry to china girls... pakistani girls good they never forget you easily...as a india boy.. india girls follow USA girls type now
I am a foreigner - if you see foreign person having a difficulty (for example cannot read a menu, looking lost), ask in English if they need help. Where I come from, and also in America where I live now, it is common for strangers to offer helping people but I notice this is uncommon in China. Since you seem to have good English, maybe you can try to offer to help foreigners you meet on the street (if they seem to need help, don’t just bother random people 😂)
Ok why I'm watching this , 😂 I don't know. But why our (India-China) relationship is not that good😢. Feeling really sad🥹 we love Chinese boys🥹 ok just chill babe . Maybe in another life.❤
@@x01021 but mai toh apne Himachal se bahr kabhi nhi gyi toh china kb pahunchungi , isi dukh se zindagi jiyenge bhai,🤣😂 I hope aap mujhe kisi chinese ldke se jrur milayenge ,🤣😂🙈
It's okay 👍.. I'm obsessed with china.. maybe one day I will go to China and explore china 😊. It's my dream country.. but idk why India-China relationship is not good 😢😢.
Korean girl’ English is perfect. Ukrainian’ girl needs to improve her English language skills and learn Chinese. Nobody fights or argues with in-laws even if they have disagreements.
why is the hapa in china but not dating asian.. thats weird and she has to dump on us asian men we're a lot better than other men theyre not better in any way tbh culture or not
Because majority Americans don’t save money to pass their children . They don’t believe working hard to pay for their children’s tuitions and save money to help their children to buy house for their children is necessary. For Chinese is very common and they do thaeir for the next generation and the next and next generation is the motivation and purpose in their life . If the family is well established they involve the choice of their son and daughter makes but if they are below average class , parents don’t really have much too say . In UK , Royalty don’t get married with anyone else either . Its not wrong and right. Its about culture differences
Says who? I come from a single parent household and have nearly 300k in savings at 34yrs old not including my pension, and my mother has nearly 1 mil and came from nothing. Everyone has their own priorities
@@Plez_ChillYou are more of an exception than the norm though. Whereas in China, it's a norm that parents save for their kids, which makes it unfair for kids from poorer backgrounds, because we don't get much help while all the other peers get everything from their parents. As someone who came from a poor background, I have seen too many of examples like that.
Looking for good loving long term partner..am autistic genius who is emotionally intelligent as well as has rare genetics and wants to make friends..then if lucky lover and long term relationship
One of the girls talk like western girls do not care about the financial situation of guys at all. Does anyone really believe that? I have lived in a western country for over 30 years and I can say for sure that it's not true.
Yeah you’re right, I don’t believe that either, but than again the states is very diverse is term of culture and being westernize. It’s more or less depending of the individual person of caring to the extreme or less about the financial status of the male partner. Regarding in China it’s typical that Chinese woman are looking for a strong/wealthy male partner. They are concern and uptight about a men financially status. One of the woman in the video mention that it’s common the guys comes approach and introducing their CV/ family financial situation.
@@Drew-po6ju I agree with you. So it's a specturm. From degrees of 1 to 10, perhaps most women in China is a 8 and most women in the West is a 5. But it's still just wrong and a plain lie to make it out like all women in China go after finance and all women in the West do not care about finance. I am sure everyone with a brain can understand what I am trying to point out.
Господи я ответила наверное в каждой ветке. Мне очень любопытен китай. Лол. Чтож я попробую объяснить как я это вижу. Деньги важны да. Важны с двух сторон парень не должен быть бедным (ну тут гибко. Если он умный, заботливый и красивый с этим можно жить) и не должен быть слишком богатым (не стоит ходить с ножом на перестрелку) . НО помимо денег он еще должен быть интересным человеком, с ним должно быть приятно общаться. Он должен быть умным и видеть во мне человека, а не красивую куклу. Грубо говоря с ним должно быть лучше чем него, а когда я вижу что человек настойчиво предлагает деньги я делаю вывод что это все что у него есть и жить с ним будет трудно. Ну как-то так.
I didn’t say girls don’t care about money at all, but money is not the only thing that matters in a relationship. In China, guys think if they have money they can date anyone. But it doesn’t work for me. I don’t care how much money you have. I look at the personality, humor, intellect, and the way the guy treats me at first, and money is not the most important part. I don’t care how much the guy earns, his salary has nothing to do with me, he should just have enough for the necessities (I said it but it was cut from the video). Btw I’m proudly married to a Chinese person 😅
Well I know also in Hungary no one cares at the BEGINNING of dating how poor or rich you are. It's just not a thing. You can get women to bed no problem doesn't matter if you even have a bank account. With marriage and starting a family also Hungarians care more about money. But like if you're introducing yourself with eg. how much money you make (in Hungary) all you will get is people laughing at you, and fellow men forcing you to buy them drinks.
Больше открытости, меньше попыток купить. Это отталкивает. Ну или притягивает очень определенных иностранцев. Всегда помните что вы сами по себе ценность.
I think you have a very misunderstood perception of Chinese men looking through most of it using western lenses. Like you I also grew up in the west but I lived in China for many years as an adult and really integrated myself with the locals. For one, the Chinese men that are only looking for sex on dating sites is no different than the men from western countries on dating sites. Dating sites are not an ideal solution for finding a real relationship. Most of my Chinese local friends are actually quite respectful towards western women and are serious about dating them. Also in response to your perception of most Chinese men all being super shy, that is far from the truth. When you have a population of over 1 billion people, you are going to meet all sorts of different people if you integrate yourself with them. Some of the Chinese men that I befriended are actually no different than western men when it comes to being confident and assertive.
That’s not what he was axing you he was saying could you be his girlfriend for a day and he will pay you and there’s a couple things that you can do yeah there could be two options he could be paying you like a prostitute and he doesn’t need to know you who you are or he could pay you to be his girlfriend for a day and do girlfriend things and just show his friends and family that he has a girlfriend and he doesn’t still need to know who you are because that’s what they do in Asia especially China they pay people to be like their girlfriend or their wife There’s jobs out there like that in Asia I will not just say one particular country but all around Asia they do that
all these people and answers only scrape the surface. ask some that actually know, they will tell you about real cultural differences. because the 1st 5% is just talking about "apartment, salary, which school" etc. is still the "nice stuff". but life gets pretty real after dating or marriage and then western women realize they have noting in common with Chinese men. not even topics to talk about. and that can be eye opening. ok, some are different but if you see the majority it's still pretty traditional. Guy is the head of the family and he only wants his wife to adore him, not be equal or even challenge him. Many girls saw this at first date and said no to the guy. they mostly said there are no common topics to talk about.
What's with the bashing of Chinese men? Sounds like you're trying to push an agenda. Are you even Chinese? Firstly, there are more Slavic women than Western women in Chìna. They tend to be interested and open minded to the culture and learn the language. It's very arrogant and ignorant of you to automatically assume a Chinese man and Western women have no common ground. Do individuals not have different taste in movies, music, interests, and hobbies? Many Chinese men have lived in the West or Europe, so are familiar with the cultural differences anyway. As for your "head of the family" hogwash, you have clearly not heard of the Chinese saying: Women hold up half the sky. If you are implying China is male dominated, then go and compare American politicians Chinese ones. America is dominated by males in the lesdership roles, while China has a split of men and women. Your comment is full of generalisations.
Western women have a hard time dating in SE Asia. Western women who are 4s and think they are 9s can sometimes get away with that in the west. But in SE Asia the competition is much tougher. SE Asian women are petite, feminine and supportive of men. They are not infected by the woke virus and do not talk endlessly about the patriarchy.
@AidenQiu / @PRINCEOFCN : Mate, I hate to say it, but you should really consider taking a few courses in journalism. The way you react during some of those interviews came off a bit awkward, and you tried to put things in their mouth or challenge what they say too aggressively. In some cases, you had put some of those interviewees in a rather uncomfortable position. Another thing is that you seem to cut people's statements half-way (to save time?), but you had allocated more time trying to sus out people's languages, which is not central to the discussion topic. Not shit talking you in any way, don't get me wrong - I like the content you cover, but I'm sure you would agree as I would that it's always better to be better trained and prepared than not.
Thanks a lot buddy. I don’t like to be a journalism. I like the style I’m doing now. But I definitely need to improve the entertaining part of the content, you can tell me what kind of top he would be interested to you, that will be helpful instead of telling me what to do