I'm going to interpret your statement of "opposite experience" as your dad wanting you to go to film school, but you instead wanted to go to law school.
What was that line... "That's what I love about these high-school girls, man. I get older, but the Girls stay the same age." Don't think that one aged to well 😂
or some parents just know their kids are shit at acting and want them to be able to get a job after they graduate from an expensive degree mill and daycare service
@@tropingreenhorn that's true, but also some parents don't actually tell their kids they're bad at something, so instead it comes off as their parents trying to prevent them from doing something they're passionate about. Generally I think if a kid thinks they're good at something when they're not, that's usually the parents fault
@Delete Me Again Fgtz Asian Culture is soooooo much more than that though. Just liek every culture theres beautiful traditions and customs. …And also some not so beautiful parts
Matthew ISN'T saying "Beep, beep, beep." He is saying, "Beat, beat, beat." Beat is what a screenwriter writes in a screenplay when there is a pause! Actors also use it when referring to the same thing!
your not wrong i have a hatd time in my shittiest dad who is willing to laugh at me if i ever get sick and wanted me to die faster 😭😭😭 man i wish i was never born on this shite family
My son: I wanna be a chef. I enjoy being a cook, I wanna get better at it and do something with it for real. Me: Well... ... ... do it! They offer classes here at the college for the certs you need. Less than a week later he got a job at one of the nicer restaurants. Kid is on his way and I couldn't be prouder of him.
This is a conversation that all young men have with their dad, with drastically different results. Sometimes I wish I could go back in time and have that same conversation again. I find solace in the fact that its never to late to start ones own journey. Some things were never meant to be.
Since I was young, my father always told me I could be anything I could want to be, an astronaut , a firefighter, or even the President. “Just work hard and don’t do things you will regret”. 12 or 13 years later, I’m taking my last semester of Electrical Engineering, with a job under NASA waiting for me as soon as I graduate
@@cristianmarmolejo8725 same, my dad always said that he didn't care whatever subject I chose, as long as I did good in it, so in 11th grade I took commerce instead of science. He tried to persuade me for a few days but eventually resorted to beatinh me with a belt. Fractured my finger. Gave me death threats. I still did not accept and he was like, Ah wtf. He allowed me to take whatever subject I was interested in, as long as I took science.
Not exactly because some choices would land their kids in debt or jobless. I will firmly assert my opinion into the conversation if they are trying to choose a profession that is basically a dead end. Being a decent parent is knowing when to speak up and when to let your kids make their own decisions.
@@texasdad2372 I don't think there's anyone out there thinking that working at macdonalds is a career profession. It's a job obviously but that's about it.
No kidding. Instead of helping me to achieve my goals, my parents gave me career advice based on what they would do in my place...for the next thirty years. It is only recently that they gave up, when it was obvious that I didn't want to go into their profession. SMH.
That's what I like about these film school girls. I get older, they stay the same age. Yes they do. * Law school girls on the other hand tend to get older.
I did a play in the 9th grade. First play ever, I was the lead. My dad came to see it. First thing he said when I finished and saw him was, “you were really good, but you could never do that for a living”. Ruined any hope I ever had of making that a career.
Daaaaaaamn, how one little thing can change EVERYTHING. Imagine, "you were really good. If this is something you want to pursue.. work even HARDER AT IT!"
What a bizarre thing to say though. Like, feels like he can’t really have meant the compliment if it’s followed by such a caveat. Unless he knew something more essential about you that he thought would be incompatible with acting?
I wish my parents were like that. I wish they were understanding to the career path I wanted to choose. I'm currently pursuing it on my own but it's been so much tougher.
If matt was committed to being a lawyer, he wouldve been an awesome lawyer too..hes played one several times lol..he was great...his heart wasn't into actually being one tho
@@hawks7775 being a good lawyer is all about knowing the procedures and having a right tactic. Looking great as one is minor if you can do the former and irrelevant if you can't
I think it’s more of the fact his dad had faith in his son and his parenting up to this point. Ultimately it’s his choice. Personally for me parenting four kids (teenagers now) I wanted my kids to have a voice, speak with confidence and no matter what be able to support yourself when choosing a career path. That is implied equally to my daughter and my 3 sons. I want my sons to achieve success on what they want, not a Fictitious wife and kids. In life you need to make yourself happy and do what is right for you.
This hit home! I just had a similar experience to this and am currently being met with open arms and embrace. I was terminated because I refused to sign an agreement that would have trapped me with a sinking ship. I'm the guy who quits before he gets fired so allowing this to happen and play out was life changing for me. Before I was terminated I decided I would start my own business and continue taking care of my customers because I care about them and want to continue taking care of them. I have been met with open arms everywhere I've been throughout the process. Breaking the mold of what was and molding my own future for myself, my family and those around me is what I care about. I am forever grateful for the support I have received and will receive moving forward. Jordan Peterson... Keep up the great work.
…not every parent, I left working for my Dad and he said he wouldn’t support me, shouted at me in the street and when I blocked him, he told everyone in the family and friends that I was ungrateful and didn’t deserve the perfect parent like him. Anyways enjoy your day people 🤞
The last thing my parents want is me breaking from the mold and going my way. My dad is a mathematician and physicist and want every one of his 5 sons to be the same..I told him that is the very opposite of what I want to do but he is trying to convince me to reconsider it every time I tell him.
I swear this is what happened with me, when I switched from maths to software engineering, I made sure I researched and found my pathway then confidently went to my dad and explained exactly what I was going to do and he just let me do it 😊 he saw that I was willing to put my everything into it and let me do my thing
I wish my parents were like that. They've squashed everything I've ever tried to do. Its taken me 50 years to finally break free from needing their approval or love.
And there was my dad encouraging me by saying 'if you get a university degree I will bark throghout the neighborhood.' Really supportive and encouraging, yes.
we need more supportive parents like this. it absolutely SUCKS having parents who think you need to get a “normal” job…i just finished my first year of college for finance and it breaks my heart every day thinking of all the creative things i could be doing instead
man its never too late to start again, remember a lot of people were broke or not succesfull at all in their late 20s/30s, but made it big in later on, just keep trying, consistency and WILLPOWER will get you anywhere, make a side hustle and pursue your happiness man good luck
my parents told me I had to go to college or i'd end up with a bad life. I wanted to work a year before choosing to do so but they said the moment I'd be working, i'd never stop. Worst decision was to listen to them back then and not follow my own path0'
This is my approach to almost everything in life, being confident in my thoughts and not tip toeing my way through it. It's the difference of throwing your opinion and thoughts right at someone's face and slowly splashing them with those thoughts and opinions
My kids already know I'll support them in whatever career choice they make, unless it's a drug dealer, prostitute/stripper or some other illegal and/or immoral choice
Going their own way implies there's a way that's not their own. So a parent who hadn't planned a way ahead of time wouldn't call what their child would do their own way
Love how successful people tell their story if they became successful. Millions of the exact same conversation for others ended up with them being a server at a local bar or unemployment line…
You don't get it... This is about how you let your child does whatever the fuck he wants in life because that is the only way you are supposed to raise your kids. Let them have and do the fuck they want, be supportive in their life choices, always. Bring up your advices and your opinion as well but you DONT have the last word as what their final choice is What if it doesnt work out? Well, change your direction and purchase some other dream. But as a parent, still be supportive. And you dont have to be a goddamn Hollywood superstar to be successful in acting or drama. Anyway, just let people do the fuck they like.
@@UFOJo974 you can't let your children do what ever they want because then you'd be an incompetent parent, you have to subtly make choices for them until they learn to make informed decisions (e.i they get old enough)
Honestly I’m thinking about how different this anecdote would be if he hadn’t been massively successful. How many kids went to film school and now live in poverty because there was no jobs? This was not good advice
@@HenryPaulThe3rd The film industry is extremely competitive, and that’s when it is important for parents to be honest with their kids about whether they have what it takes. Just because you like editing or directing or acting doesn’t mean you can do them well.
I was always afraid of when I would tell my parents this, they would pepper me with questions about the logistics of it, and I would just kind of freeze up because they know I do that when they ask those questions. Was hard to do things my own way when I let my parents know.
@@grantarmbruster6591 well the questions are more rapid fire without me having a chance to answer. And they would rush me into answering off the top of my head. More like that. It just seemed they wanted to psyche me out when asking these questions. When this happens I usually close off because I take that as hostility, because it doesn’t need to happen like that.
@@josephjackson1956 yes pretty much how my boss asked questions and I better have the answers. But I'm willing to concede your parents might be wrong if you're willing to see that you might be and if they be wrong to have a little Grace cuz I'm sure your parents have had Grace with you in the past
@@josephjackson1956 yeah, I had the same experience and so do many others at the end it left me afraid and unwilling to try anything. The way to overcome that is not trying to prove anything to anyone. The only one you need to prove anything to is yourself. Take it and run with it. You may change ur mind about something’s or discover something else better but at least I did it your way and eventually you’ll find what ur looking for but you’ll never be able to do that if u don’t give ur self a chance and go for it! 😊👍🏽
The operative phrase was "don't half-ass it.' My son's 36 and at the top of his career in his chosen field. Those words are exactly what I told him on any new endeavors from baseball to skateboarding and street hockey. That's why fathers are so important to a child's development.
You have both a formal education and life skills education. Jordan teaches the latter but if you want a good career/job you need to focus on the former. If I were you I would prioritise your schooling first and make as many friends as possible while you are there. Limit the Jordan Peterson education because he just overcomplicates life.
That's because school does not teach you wisdom. Can't blame them - most people are not wise. Hopefully more and more people like Dr. Peterson will come out to teach these kinds of things, so our culture can see how important wisdom really is. The current system is not built for humans; its built for numbers ultimately.
@King White Knight Basic stuff, sure. But how many people actually remember anything in high school? Actually, how many people actually paid attention in school at all? When it's one or two people, sure I can give you the benefit of the doubt, but when it's on a cultural level like this, is that really an individuals fault completely or a systemic problem?
I have 2 teenagers, a 16 yr old boy and a 14 yr old girl. They couldn't be any more different. I love my role as their mother. I have worked very hard setting up a strong foundation with my kids. I hope that when the moment comes I will be just as receptive to my children as his father was.
I ran up to my dad after learning the whole script and acting in a play at 10 yo and told him, "I know what I want to do when I grow up daddy! I want to be an actor!" The only thing I was ever excited about. He said, "No! It's too competitive and you can't make any money at it!" Then he turned to another parent and laughed. What I heard was, " You're not good enough to compete and you have to do things to make money at it, regardless if you even enjoy it." He and my mom spent the next twelve years trying to inspire me to get into some other occupation that I would never even consider because I would think, "If I like it I can't make any money at it and if I don't like it I still can't make any money at it because I won't put the effort at it. So, now...I failed at my whole life. Just think if he would have said, "It's very competitive and it's hard to make money at it. But, if you're will to learn another occupation to support yourself until you become successful, then go ahead." I would have learned multiple occupations.
Not always, you would think a guy is sexist and violent if talks s**t about his mom, but what if his mom was a completely monster? I can tell about a person by the way they act in life.
Exactly happened with me. Mid-way final year of school, I went to my dad and said "Dad, I want to do physics" "Are you sure?" "Yes" "I'll support you. If you are sure about it, do whatever you want" Every family needs this two way belief and support
Man, all I ever got from my jackass stepdad was being called worthless several times a day and almost every day being told I’ll never amount to shit, and that I’ll never hold a job.
@@pamelajohnson7813 never really got him to admit anything. Life hasn’t worked out half as well as it could have. I’m stuck in a shitty apartment with some dumbass roommates, I’ve been single for the past 5 years, which is really starting to get to me. I don’t think I can blame that all on them, but it would’ve been nice if my mom and stepdad would’ve actually taught me how to govern my life, instead of just using me for chores and beating me and calling me worthless and stupid when I didn’t get one thing done perfectly. I ran away from home the night I graduated high school at 17, and my life hasn’t exactly gone well since then.
Not every parent wants to hear this, some parents don’t ever want their child to go their own way, they want their child to follow a path they set out for them
100% It’s like they’re trying to force the life they wanted to have on their kids… that’s what a lot of people think parenting is: a second chance at life
No matter what direction I chose I did not receive that encouragement. Being a parent isn't the most difficult job like people claim, however it is the easiest job to fail, that failure will have a massive impact on the child and most likely not be noticable until years later. Parenting isnt the hardest job but it's an incredibly high stakes job.
Lived a similar moment when I decided to drop out of uni to learn artificial intelligence through online courses and other non-traditional means. It was a great point in my life, a change sorely needed after I'd been stagnant for many years. One of the best choices I've ever made. I still would like to get a degree and complete my formal education someday, but back then it wasn't my path forward.
Mr. Matt is one of my ALL TIME FAVORITE PEOPLE! Even though I’ve only been privileged to him on screen, I’ve always knew he was the real deal. After this video, my thoughts have been confirmed. That is why I hope he will run for office. At 71, I not only possess the knowledge but to say what I know to be true; I possess the wisdom to say what I say is true..... “Alright-alright-alright!”
I really enjoyed Mathew’s Book. Especially as it was the audiobook and he narrated it himself. “GreenLight”, goes further into detail about how he got to where he is and his experiences in life. The little twists of fate that he refers to as “GreenLights”. I’d recommend to any Fan. Edit: and yes, there is a section about the infamous “Alright, Alright, Alriiiight” and how it very accidentally/ unintentionally became his catchphrase.
If anyone has not read his book, I highly recommend it, it's pretty good. I actually listened the audiobook in audible with the free book you get in the registration. The best part is that he himself reads it. Pretty good stuff!
Alot of parents when they hear their child wants to break the mold get irrationally angry on account of wanting to force their child to live a life they never could
@@johnharrison5656 yeah! So that means if you just do exactly as I say you can be successful nevermind that I'm a fucking failure. because in this meaningles fucking world the only thing that matters is being successful, why would you want to continue your meaningless existence being happy with being able to work for what you want instead of just being successful, and by that I mean live the life I want to live and therefore you have to live because it's so impossible to be famous, as if success is the only thing anyone wants. I'd rather embrace the meaninglessness of the reality we live in and do whatever the fuck I want instead of being a hollow puppet for someone else's life, so yeah! Let's just be successful as if you have more of a chance being successful than you do being famous. I choose to be happy in pursuit of what I want, even if never achieved, than yearning for a life I rejected the thought of because my parents who say they "know best" despite having never made it to where they're telling me to, told me to
@@coffinmyface4237 I’m 42 and have 4 children, the oldest of which is fixing to be twenty so I can definitely understand your frustration. I have always supported my kids in whatever they wanted to do and encourage them to be better than me, regardless of what it is so I can also empathize with your parents. They just want you to be better than them, not for their benefit but for yours. Adults have lived life and know what’s achievable within their own socioeconomic class and most likely, know what it takes to elevate that status and what happens when you don’t follow the path “THEY” think leads to success. Everyone has different ambitions and success is realizing what those ambitions are, going after them and achieving said ambitions! For one person it’s making a million dollars a year and for another it’s living a simple life and for another it’s being a stay at home mom raising 3 kids. If you don’t live the life you want I can assure you that by they time you’re my age you will have regrets. With that being said, definitely have a backup plan in case it doesn’t work out and if it doesn’t, at least you tried.
@@johnharrison5656 you do realize that parents aren't all caring right? Some are simply controlling. I'm not saying that telling your child what you think is best for them is bad, I'm saying forcing them to live a life you couldn't is.
@@coffinmyface4237 By force, do you mean something like, yelling at you to go to a college of their choice, threatening to cut you off financially and disown you if you don’t go to the college of their choice or something worse? Just trying to see what you mean by force because that is a strong word and you cannot FORCE anybody to do anything when they are of age and really shouldn’t do it when they are younger unless it’s to keep them from causing bodily harm or damage!
Lmao, the last time I tried to "break out of my shell and face the world" I got told that I was naive, not ready, and most "importantly" that I was gonna ✨die alone and broke✨. Such "encouraging" words, if I might say so myself. This is why I don't get why my friends tell me that I'm so lucky to have parents like mine. I mean, if want someone who will belittle your feelings and discourage you from chasing your dreams in the disguise of "testing you if you're ready for the world" kind of speech, then they can have them if they want them so bad. Heck my mom tried to disown me just cuz I was "acting different" (ma that's called ✨pUbErTyY✨)
