The bit about the wedding around the 3:00 mark: That's a HUGE reason why I have never really tried to plan a dream wedding. If/when I get married, I want my future husband to be involved since it's his day too! He might even have better ideas than I've had!
10:47 As a female, I agree so much. I want to be friendly to men without it being seen as a sexual advancement. I just want to have male friends. I'm not interested in dating you, tyvm. I also don't like how families will see opposite-sex friendships as relationships. It's weird, discomforting, and sometimes creepy and gross. Even opposite-sex siblings who are friendly with each other will be seen as couples by some people... Let's not forget that time the kiss cam focused on two siblings and the dude had to bring a "that's my sister" sign. Let men and women be friends, please.
It's a vicious cycle. Men only receive affection if it's romantic, so they assume any affection is romantic. In turn, this scares women off of showing affection platonically to avoid being misinterpreted, causing men to only receive affection if it's romantic.
SAME! I’m a male, but it’s hard to approach girls without them thinking that I want to date them. In reality, like you said, I just want to be their friend. It’s sad that you can’t approach the other gender without them thinking you want to date them.
And if two girls get along, they should allowed to be friends and not assumed to be lesbians or pushed into becoming such a relationship! It shouldn't be forced for representation sake either. It always feels bad and Insincere. Some people have better relationships when they _aren't_ forced into the commitment of being a couple.
And then blame the man and everyone jumps on him instead of asking for proof.Legit just saw a comment section full of women being mad men investigate abuse cases and get both sides of the story when a womans the victim instead if immediatley beating the abuser up
Yeah, I’m a boxer, been doing it for a while. And I recently asked a girl out, everyone at my school knows I box, so when she slapped me, I had to laugh it off. Cause I’m also not frail looking, the slap hurt more emotionally than physically, but still, no one really cared
One massive gender-based double-standard that infuriates me to no end is how if a husband and wife have gotten a divorce and if there's children involved, that in the rare instances that the father has physical custody of the child/children and the wife's supposed to make payments for child support they're likely to pay less than the man and if they'd missed a payment, they'd essentially get a slap on the wrist and told "Don't Do That Again", whereas, if a man had to pay child support, his payments would be significantly higher than his former spouse's payments would've been if he had physical custody and if he'd missed a payment he'd get jail time and the same applies to alimony
Yeah and when people see a dude that got full custody people are always like: his wife is dead, he'd must done something to her(never in case where woman have full custody) or how cruel he is for keeping kids away from their mother(when woman is doing that people don't think she's cruel, she's protecting them or something). People rarely assume that woman could simply abandonded her family
6:18 yeah single father while in my 20s and had something similar happen to me playing with my kids at the park being an absolute goof ball with them spraying me as other kids come to help "defeat the monster" .. then two of the other kids mothers came up yelling at me asking me who I was where are those kids mothers how dare I let my kids make friends with other kids while they work together to blast me with a water cannon
My grandmother has a habit of complimenting me, a man, in a way that almost comes across as flirting. She’ll say stuff like, “If I were your age, I’d chase you down the street to get you to date me,” and “In another life I’d wish for you to be my boyfriend.” Obviously these comments make me incredibly uncomfortable, but my family tells me to just go along with it, saying that she’s just having a little fun with me and that she’s old and I should feel flattered. Change up the genders in this scenario and I’m pretty sure that my grandmother would never be allowed to see me again.
no thats just weird your family should be ashamed they allowed themselves to be this stupid. I would call your grandmother out for being a weirdo and then refuse to visit if you could
As a male I can't/shouldn't have cute things. I recentely bought a phone charm with the theme of Anya Forger from Spy x Family. I adore her, like the rest of her family (her father Loid, her mother Yor and her dog Bond) and she always make me smile/laugh. Also I asked to have one with small pearls, which were white, pink and a black shaped knot one, just like her. When my mother saw it asked me "is it a bit too femenine for you?" I explained that it's just in theme with the character and if I saw someone mocking me for this, I would speak with my fists. I mean why can't someone have something they like without being bothered every 5 seconds? How frustrating.
5:23 Gonna have to disagree. Many male band members and singers deal with constant harassment, stalking, and sexualization from fans, mainly from female fans. It's particularly notable behavior in bands that have alternative (metal, rock n roll, punk) and/or pop music. Panic! at the Disco, Twenty One Pilots, Justin Beiber, Maroon 5, and Shawn Mendez are just some examples of male artists that have been taken advantage of. It's just not taken as seriously or even represented enough. Many male singers also get flashed and touched by fans, and while many may enjoy it, they don't see it as the predatory behavior it is. Female artists who are flashed or touched by fans call it out for what it is- assault. But we haven't shared that advocacy for men yet so they won't even see assault when it happens to them because sexual abuse has become so pointlessly gendered. If we did more to represent men in all fields who are sexually abused, we'd see them call out their abuses more. But instead, they're brainwashed to "enjoy" it and "man up". On a side note, I'd love to see more representation for female band members, especially in the rock and metal genres. Girls who shred are amazing and deserve the appreciation. Yes, believe it or not, women can also play kickass instruments.
I’m glad someone pointed it out. However, it is true that women are far less likely to be seen as a member of the band if they aren’t on the stage or SUPER well-known.
@@heatfromsapphire That is true. But I was simply adding nuance that male band members aren't suddenly more privileged, and I highlighted the sexual abuses many of them often face but go unreported. I wasn't focused on the topic of recognition of female band members.
I've always confounded people who buy into "gender norms". As a kid I was in ballet (total "supposed" girly thing to do) but I was also in kick boxing. My mom always just rolled her eyes when people commented and just told me to keep confusing the idiots of the world.
1:29 That also sounds like a double standard of people refusing to see dads as parents... Also 1:34 It's not a "little big of a stigma", it's a lot. Stay at home fathers aren't recognized or appreciated. I don't even think paternity leave for fathers exists.
Dad here when my ex had my daughter I only had 1 day off because birth and drive my ex home with our daughter... When I got on the floor the manager just flatly told me I used one of my sickies (sick leave) and no one really cared i was a new dad (no congratulations and such besides one work mate ) however when I my ex got back after her paid mat leave she had a little party thrown with a company gift and was showered in congratulations ect ....
think there are no paternity leaves for me because they are not physically inept in any way, though they should still have a leave for as long as the wife, so they can be there for their wives during that time In life.
@@BananaMuffins-io7ed Paternity leave for fathers definitely exists - here in Germany. You're doing the same thing with nationality: the internet is not just for Americans, dammit!
@@KaiHenningsen Good for Germany. But nobody said the internet is just for Americans because I'm literally not an American. Just because paternity leave for fathers exists in one place doesn't mean it's the same all over.
That woman cant be abusive, yes they can. I have seen people laugh at men being abused by a woman smack, hit, bite, kick, talk down to men. Women have all the resources after a domestic relationship men have nothing. Men are often told they have to pay child support and spousal support to their abuser. In the rare instance they get custody nothing happens to the women.
I have multiple stories being a female with short hair (idrc if you call me a boy btw) 1. One year there was a boy in my class with long hair and I with short hair, we both happened to be going to the washroom(s) at the same time and we passed a teacher who said “Hi ladies” we both gave a each other a look of “what?” 2. I was on a all girls soccer team for my school and we were in the middle of a game (I was goalie) and a kid and his team who all looked to be in grade 1 or 2 walked behind my net and one asked me “are you the only boy on you team” I stared down at him while also trying to focus and said “I’m a girl”
13:35 unfortunately family doesn't mean much in this case. I'm not allowed to stay at my sister's house while visiting because they're worried "I might do something to my nephews" since I'm a young male and somehow me being gay means I'm more likely to do it as well...
4:12. Having been in a band before, though I am male not female, I can say that women can play instruments just as well, if even better, than men, and just because they are female it doesnt mean thay cannot play instruments.
The last story is my double-standard-ish issue. Men are expected to get "hints". No we don't. Most of us are absolutely clueless about any of that. Just say that you like us and offer us your number. We gesture will be greatly appreciated and will not be soon forgotten.
When a man is broke, he is a lazy bum with no job and should get a life, but when a woman is all those things she's a poor innocent little flower that has gone through so much and needs all the support in the world now.
I dunno, I feel like at the very least the woman does need some sort of (probably financial) support. It’s just that the men in that circumstance do too. Could be wrong though, I guess it depends on the situation
Stay at home parenting isn't strictly easy in every sense, and you still need breaks from both parenting and the household. Buuut, it is way easier than most jobs. Both me and my wife have at some point been stay at home parents. The biggest danger is getting too comfortable or if you build frustration during challenging times and don't get a break every now and then. Regardless of the task, if it is 24/7, you can feel a bit trapped. Even with a stay at home parent involved you should do like an 80/20 kind of division so both parties get a breather regardless. I've worked more than full time while studying full time and I still had a routine for keeping the house in order and activities with the kids and dog. Clear communication helps. While I didn't expect my wife to do everything around the house, I certainly considered her in charge of getting most home life things done. As I considered myself in charge of getting necessary and recommended home life things done while I was stay at home. Do things as a couple. Take walks together, vent, play games, watch shows together and have bedroom fun. When things get stressful it is even more important to keep up with these things and that you both help to make the life of your partner better.
I was at the store with my now ex-girlfriend's daughter once. This lady got it in her head that I was kidnapper and confronted me at one point to which I politely told her to leave us alone. She proceeded to follow us around the store and was on the phone - presumably with the cops - at one point before she suddenly bum rushes me from behind trying to snatch my gf's little girl from out of my arm. Long story short/TL,DR she wound up getting hit and catching a bow to the face/jaw. Apparently her 11 or 12 yo kid was there with her too and they saw this whole thing go down at which point they began to wail like a banshee thinking I just killed their mom. She was fine and the police arrived barely 30 seconds later (talk about crap timing). Fortunately the store manager had seen the initial confrontation and already knew who I was because I actually graduated high school with his eldest son who was also a friend of mine, and their brand new fancy store surveillance system caught EVERYTHING in excruciating detail. The woman was hurling all sorts of ridiculous accusations my way until the police came out from the security office and told her they saw exactly what happened. That's when she got reeeaaal silent. She was charged with two counts of assault (for myself and my gf's kid), attempted kidnapping, and disorderly conduct and then promptly arrested on-scene. They said she was lucky they were able to get ahold of her kid's dad too because if not they probably would have called CPS... The woman started acting all hysterical again and still swearing up and down that I was a kidnapper and a pedo and what have you, claiming that I'm a woman beater and shit. It was a real nightmare at the time but looking back kinda funny too honestly. She ended up having one of the assault charges and attempted kidnapping dropped but pled "no contest" to the other assault charge and disorderly conduct (which is basically pleading guilty simply by another name). She had to pay a whole bunch of fines and serve a bunch of community service with like two years of probation on top of it. She's lucky I wasn't petty about it and didn't sue the pants off her ass because I absolutely could have... Other than that though I did experience quite a bit of misandry/male sexism when worling on my internship and clinical hours for a veterinary technician program. I was the only guy at this particular clinic and a lot of the clients either thought it was weird or they like wouldn't trust me to do anything. Fortunately for me though the head tech was super sweet and she was actually pretty protective of me, so whenever a client would start acting shitty or make some snide comment about me being a dude or not trusting me because of that or whatever, she was always really quick to jump in and defend me every single time. There was this one lady who was particularly mean about it and she was being super sexist and totally out of line, and she ended up getting kicked out and banned from the clinic permanently. The head tech basically told her that we'd finish up with the appointment (since we were in the middle of administering treatment to her cat), but then she'd have to leave immediately when we were done and that she would have to find another veterinary care provider in the future because she wouldn't be allowed back in the building ever again. I felt really bad about it afterward and I told the head tech that she didn't have to do all that, but she stood firm and insisted that she simply would not tolerate any abuse towards her staff no matter what. She also said that she always hated that lady anyway so it was some "good riddance" as far she was concerned lol. Anyhow yeah as a guy I've definitely experienced quite a few of those absurd sexist double standards and the common biases often held towards men based solely on the fact that they're male.
The wedding thing. Future wife and I went to a wedding galla event to see what was available in our area. Buckle up this may be a rant. 😅 Ok. So just at the door. We both registered. She got signed in and given a huge button "Bride to Be" to wear amd no charge. I got signed in and was told to pay $35.00. Also. No button. She and her mother were whisked away with the tour that was being formed by a lady with a clipboard. While I was just standing there. After they started the grand tour. I slipped out and went from one end of the exhibition to the other. Taking in the sights, booths and services offered. I noted that there were only 2 Booths for men. The first was a hasty single table from Sun Ray Cleaners for Tuxedo Rentals and the other a make shift bar. I went up to the Sun Ray table and spoke with the lady behind the table. Before she could offer any of her pinted materiels. I said the following. "I do electrical work and have been behind your counter". In the back where you conduct "business" its filthy and staffed with felons. At no point would I accept anything you have to offer". She was mortified and left standing there as I went to leave. She tried to stop me and apologize but then said. "A Tuxedo is a a uniform for those that park the Bentley at Royal weddings. Do you really expect me to wear that on my day of days?" Again a very worried look upon her face. But I simply turned off and left that convention completely. Side note about ring selection for male wedding bands. Men have been working with metal as long as we have had a written language. So to only have so simplistic ones on offer that look like a cut off section of stock pipe is itself an insult.
I have a lot of medical problems, so I get sent home from school a lot, and despite the fact that I've been saying for years that the nurse should call my dad, she always calls my mom instead context: my mom is a therapist, and can almost never answer the phone. my dad is a grocery merchandiser for a grocery store chain, and can almost always answer the phone. the nurse also has the option of calling my grandma, who is retired and lives less than a minute from my house. this has been an issue for my entire school "career" (idk what to call it), and I'm a fucking junior in high school
Over 2 years ago I took a contract while in nursing school to help out at a local special needs preschool. There was this girl and she asked me to sit next to her, she was showing me her art she did. I just said things like “wow cool You’re such an artist!” Things you would tell a 4 year old. The class para called her and said “Abbey come sit with me” and stared daggers at me. I finished my shift and cancelled my contract and I told them why. Since I terminated early I’m illegible for rehire to that position. Even if they offered me a spot, I would never go back. The funny thing? The principal/director is male.
Also relevant story Me and my girlfriend got into a fight about 2 2 1/2 weeksafter we were both in a car crash. Our neighbors called the cops (we were shouting very loudly) The cops showed up, saw both me and my girlfriend with bruises and small cuts from the crash and decided I was hurting her/SAing her. I got cuffed by one guy while the other one points his tazer at me. They took me to the station and I get put in a cell. I am freaking the hell out by now so yeah. After a few hours they come in and let me out. Turns out my girlfriend, after having realised what the cops though, started yelling at them that I hadn't touched her and showed them pictures of us after the crash and how the bruising they thought were from me hitting her in the face were actually from a car crash... it still took her about 9 hours of to convince them to let me go. I really don't blame the cops here, I can understand how they came to that conclusion, but 9 HOURS, for a crime that everyone involved including the victim denies ever happening and there being substantial proof of it being no one's fault... idk I'm just still so angry about it. To end this rantathon on a happy note, if you ever read this lola, I really love you, and I'll always love you❤❤❤
Double standards (if you can count this as one) I utterly hate is how women just assume all men are terrible people, but expect them to treat those women like utter goddesses when they clearly don't deserve it
