What Happened to a Mother’s Love? Tokyo Toni Publicly Shames Blac Chyna 

Do you believe you should honor your parents no matter what?

PSA: it’s okay to break up with a toxic parent.

I can and can't believe Loni's mother kicked her out over her boyfriend. This is so prevalent in the black community. Now loni is successful and paying for her mothers housing. That's what you call forgiveness.

I’m glad Loni forgave her mother, but even with understanding, a 16 year old should not be kicked out for a man

People like to quote the Bible where it says "children honor thy father and mother", which is true, however people especially parents like to skip over the next verse where its also says "fathers (parents) do not provoke your children unto wrath". It goes both ways

*I love what Adrienne said. Sometimes you have to honor your parents from a distance.*

Loni your mother was wrong!! Point blank period that's so horribly SAD!!

Ummmmmmm! What Loni revealed is EXTREMELY sad. It sounds like she’s saying her mother kicked her out at 16 because she was jealous of her being around her new boyfriend. Wow! She tried to laugh it off but that’s disgusting. I’m A and Garcelle at 5:36 😬😬😬

Tokyo Toni is vile. This is not the first time she's done this. I am no Blac Chyna fan, but I wouldn't wish this humiliation on her or anyone else. Just because you're a parent doesn't make you a true mom or dad.

I think Loni is subconsciously still suffering from trauma and laughs away her pain so she doesn't have to deal with it. The first thing she said was, "I was 16 and skinny walking around the house so I understand". NO LONI, your "Mom" fucked up!!

I'm not sure how Loni could honor her mother after kicking her out at 16 for a boyfriend. Honoring your parent is fine, but it's also ok to call them out on their bullshit, being a parent doesn't give them this shield from being called out.

Lonnie, sending you prayers. But your mother had no excuse to through out a 16 year old. Shout out to Tasha K🍷🍷🍷

Older ppl don't wanna be called out by younger ppl. When u point out their fkd up ways they wanna cry disrespect.

What Loni’s mom is literally against the law. Her LEGAL RESPONSIBILITY is to take care of the child SHE BROUGHT into the world. Like she can’t just wake up and decide she’s tired of taking care of her own child. She could’ve waiting at least till you were 18. Absolutely trifling😔

The fact that Loni normalized her traumatic experience is scary. I feel for her. Wow.

Ugh Lonnie No Ma’am. That isn’t an excuse , good girl or not, that was your mother, kids come first. Not ok. We need to stop excusing bad behavior just because oh she was young, she was tired. (Same for dads too)

Loni: Your mother was DEAD WRONG!!!!! How DARE she reject her teen daughter for a BOYfriend! SMH

The Bible says honor your mother and father and it also tells fathers to not provoke their children to anger but to bring them up in discipline and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4

Ade it's not a matter of IF you have kids, it's a matter of WHEN you have kids. Definitely sending prayers💓💓💓

Blac is living a life that Tokyo Toni has always wanted to live She's jealous

In all honesty that’s so sad how Lonis mother kicked her out, it’s crazy how strong Loni is, and how she’s not upset with her! If my mother kicked me out at 15 I would be so upset, that’s not right her mother literally picked a man over her daughter

I just remembered when they were talking recently about moms treating their boys better than their daughters and Loni almost cried saying she went thru that and that’s why she’s for 2 parent households 🥺 single mothers go thru the most but I’m not throwing my kid out for a bf. If something happened to Loni, was the man worth it??!

I feel loni making excuses for her mother

I don’t know Loni. A 16 year old is still a child and if I have a baby I wont kick me kid out so I can have a good time with my boyfriend and I would never be with someone that could look at my child in a predatory way. I am so sorry Loni that this happened to you. My mom was scared to bring in another man because she was scared that something would happen to us girls and she always said if he makes you uncomfortable you tell me and I believe you. And I knew she would believe me because she also raised me to not lie about that so she knew I wouldn’t make up such a story. Nothing ever happened thank god. Loni I applaud you for forgiving her but what your mom did. That is just sad.

Loni I had six children and a single parent and sent 5 to college

just because someone gave birth to you or helped create you, that doesn't mean they're your parents. Some people don't deserve to have kids and its okay to separate yourself from your parents if its toxic

Loni talking about she understood her moms choice cause she was a skinny 16 year old, um loni you were a minor, your mom shouldn’t see you as a possible distraction or competition for her adult boyfriend. That’s beyond toxic, out of all the possible reasons to kick out a child, doing it simply because you have a new boyfriend, there’s no excuse for that. There’s no understanding you mom disposed of you for a man for no reason that’s ridiculous

I just need y’all to apologize for ever having Tokyo on the show. She’s exposed abusive, toxic behavior towards her daughter for years and y’all still gave her the time of day.

I understand better why Loni is a certain way sometimes. She been through a lot. When u don't have unconditional love from ur mother..Man this is hard in life...

No...your mother was wrong Loni. But I’m happy that you’ve risen above it🙏🏾

TOKYO is JEALOUS of her daughter Black Chyna. Unfortunately just because you're a Mom doesn't mean your a good person. She raised a daughter whose Successful. Not asking for MONEY but making her own. You as a Mom instead of Compliments you are criticizing. Shame on you.

Loni is incredible. I love my mom... but I honestly don't think I would forgive her if she kicked me out at 16 y.o. for a boyfriend.

My mother, who was the 2nd eldest and 1st girl of 13 children, went through many traumas during her childhood and some horrific such as, fgm, physical and mental abuse (brutal beatings from her father), child labor (which was considered normal back then) and had to forfeit education as she worked from the age of 6 to take care of the rest of the family, she got married off early (she chose somebody else than the selected one just to spite her father and feel like she had some type of a decision). When she raised me, she made a conscious decision to not repeat the cycle. She ran away with me when mentions of circumcision arose, she never hit me, never even yelled at me in an abusive way. When we fled our country for safety and landed in the West she made sure education was priority #1, she never forced me into the kitchen she just taught me skills, she never mentioned marriage until I started talking about it, she let me enjoy life to the fullest. She let me travel, I never had to hand in pay checks (I still splurged on her and helped financially without her asking), she let me enjoy the fruits of my own labor. I say all this to say that, although it's true that trauma scars us, it's still up to the individual to learn from their past and decide how they are going to live their lives and break generational curses with their own children. Sometimes it's too easy to let in to anger and just blame the past. And I am forever indebted and grateful for and to her, who chose otherwise and changed my life for the better.

If I was Loni I would have forgotten that was my mother

That's sick. She kicked her own kid out for a dude. There's nothing "understandable" about that.

Look at you Loni, I don't always agree with you....I am so proud of you! Picking yourself up, graduating from college ..(HBCU)...going on to be a engineer...and a career in Television...WAY TO GO👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Loni is blind about what her mom did. It's a coping mechanism... Some women don't deserve motherhood. What a horrible thing to do. I would never forgive that. That's the ultimate treason.

Loni...you tried to laugh it off but that’s sad af hun I would not be able to forgive my mother picking a random ass dude over me she’s strong af for forgiving that

TBH it’s foul of Loni’s mom to kick her young daughter out of the house because of a MAN... smh

If my mum kicked me out at such a young age I would never be able to forget or forgive her.

Okay, I get what Loni is intending to say in terms of her forgiving her mother for kicking her out when she was 16, but I really wish she wouldn't try to put that as an example of "honoring your mother". What her mother did was absolutely unacceptable, and if she wanted nothing to do with her and cut her out of her life for being toxic like that, she would have every right to do so, even biblically. We need to stop, especially within the black community, pushing this narrative that your parents can be as toxic and abusive as they want to be, and if you decide you don't want to deal with that and want nothing to do with them as a result, you are somehow disrespecting them and that God won't bless you if you don't put up and shut up with their mistreatment. honoring your parent does not mean having to take their abuse and deal with it, because the Bible also says do not provoke your children to Wrath, lest they become angry or discourage. But sadly that bible scripture is almost never mentioned when talking about parenting as a Christian. The Bible also says that if the eye causes you to sin pluck it out, and if the hand causes you to sin to cut it off. It wasn't meaning for us to mutilate ourselves, it was meaning that if we are attached To someone or something in our life that is not good for us, to get rid of it. I think that needs to be said and put out there. If you are dealing with someone, parent included, who is bad for you and toxic, you do not have to deal with it and what has happened. You do have the right to cut that relationship off If it's for your better. it was big of Loni to forgive her mom and try to have understanding for what she did, but while forgiveness is required in order for you to grow and heal , it is not required that we understand someone else's perspective when they do you dirty and let them in for more.

I don't agree with Adrienne about honoring parents even from a distance especially if there is a level of toxicity to the relationship that the child should not have to continue to engage with. Sometimes you have to cut off contact completely with a parent for the sake of your own well being and move on with your life and leave them behind. I saw it with my mom who up until the day she died was a better parent to me and my brothers than what she had growing up because she was determined to break the cycle of abuse and neglect she experienced which was heartbreaking to have an understanding about

Wow. That’s sad that Lonis mom did that to her and she never resented her for doing that.!! Proud of Loni for being the bigger person and going on w her life.

How did they just glide over Loni's mom kicking her out at 16?? Bruh that's heavy.

It is alright to let go of parent daughter relationship when it comes to toxic relationship between two people.

Loni only forgave her mom because she believes that she turned out fine and became successful despite what her mom did so she's conditioned herself to believe that what her mom did to her was "necessary" for her growth and for her to have attained the success that she has. This is a tactic used by a lot of people who go through traumatic experiences to help them cope with what happened to them. You convince yourself that what happened to you helped you in some way and was something you "needed" to go through. Also, Loni's statement about how she was thin when her mom kicked her out would seem to suggest that her mom was threatened by her because she was thin and she would have been an attractive young female in the boyfriend's eyes. I wonder if Loni started to gain weight and held onto it for so long because of this traumatic event. She most likely associates being skinny with abandonment. It would make sense for her to have gained weight after this event in her life. And before anyone comes at me, no, I'm not saying that all weight gain is caused by a traumatic event! But, for some people, it can be caused by a traumatic event.

Be careful about quoting the Bible "Honor Thy Mother/Father" because you are encouraging people who are and have been violated by parents to remain silent and repeat vicious cycles.

When I read her book at that moment you can feel her hurt. I understand she was suffering but giving the meal to that guy knowing her baby can’t even eat and is always hungry breaks my heart.. Not normal . Not choosing a gigolo against your daughter. That’s really messed up. I wouldn’t forgive her. And the Bible enable that kind of behavior. It’s your right to move on from your blood if they cause you more trauma than people not related to you. Insane.

Loni got the deepest routed pain on this panel and she bury's it with laughter. Any therapist would call bs on her not feeling or never having felt resentment. What I'm learning is you have to leave ppl where they are. You have to accept them as they come or cut ties. Set boundaries but know that they wont change. The Mother / Daughter relationship is so unique.

This explains so much about Loni. Oh Loni, your mom was wrong. My heart breaks for 16 year old Loni.

Loni is so strong, my gosh. Her mother did her wrong. I couldn’t forgive my moms for choosing a man over me.

If we're going to quote the Bible, we need to quote all of it. Abusive parents love quoting the verse, Honor your father and mother, yet they forget to quote the verse that says, Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. Using the Bible to manipulate anyone into staying in an abusive relationship is a gross tactic. The Bible also says a man's enemies will be the members of his own household. The people in your household; parents in Loni's case who have a responsibility to raise you can do a lot of damage. Living with a savior complex like Loni is and accepting what you wouldn't otherwise accept because you want to show how good of a person you are is sad.

Let me tell you something that is a harsh reality. Not all mother's love their daughters they see them as competition.(especially when they hit puberty) Some mother's use their power to mess with their children. They gaslight them with their thoughts and other things just like the movie called Gaslight. They love breaking thier daughters boundaries they love control. The narcissistic mother loves fear mongering to gain control over a person. They love playing mind games especially the covert mother. If you were raised by this mother you were not loved you must must love yourself to heal.(you will not get that love from them)

What Loni revealed is pretty toxic and sad. I hope she has/is talking to her therapist about that. Because saying you don’t resent it at all seems not 100% true. She can get over it and that is healthy but engaging with her 16-year-old self and what her mother did is healthy for healing from the trauma. She doesn’t have to reveal her process but since she revealed the story it’s up for peoples opinions.

Tokyo the type to sue her daughter claiming she stole her style

Loni “ I was 16 and the smallest I’ve ever been.” What?!?! Let me tell you right now, if your mother is jealous of you over a sexual partner or for any reason, that is a HUGE problem! If you can not trust a situation with your 16 year old daughter being around your man, it’s your mans fault!! Something is wrong with him !

Omg imagine kicking your child out for a boyfriend. Must be hurtful. That is crazy. Loni is amazing

Lonnie that isn't right. That is not normal and please don't normalize a mother kicking out a daughter at 16 for a man. She was still your mother first and foremost! I am glad you forgave her and your successful but there are young Impressionable watching you. With love.

What is WRONG with the World is BILLIONS of people believe they are God… Also Known As PARENTS. Yet, they don’t possess Agape, Wisdom, Discernment, Grace, and Mercy. A child or others “calling parents out” is God reminding them to do better by HIS Child(ren). Parents ARE NOT God.

Man I felt Jeannie's point so much. My mom is a immigrant and we have that same relationship and all I want is to go to therapy with her but she's not open to it either smh Loni's story is so sad but so common its sad how much we tolerate because someones blood.

That’s why I love Kardashians, no matter what they all stick together and stand up for each other! Unlike Chyna’s mother!

Jeanie always coming through with the facts

It's unbelievable how much we learn about each of the co-hosts despite listening to them for years. It really broke my heart to hear about what Loni said. There's absolutely no excuse for a mother to put her well-behaved 16 year old girl out, that too for a man???!! How does that make sense? I wish they could have talked about that a bit more but Loni may have only wanted to share that much. I pray that Loni's soul can heal and for all the young girls whose mother's neglect them like that. This really proves that no one ever knows what really has happened in someone else's life. We love you, Loni ♥️

From Kansas, I was without water for 3 day. Temperatures in the negatives, but this show took my mind off it!

Everybody looks GOOD today!!!

We somewhat touched on this conversation before about what shouldn’t happen when it comes to family things that happen amongst family members privately and become public... I honestly think in this particular case... Blac Chyna whole platform is built off of being unapologetically herself and real... I mean this to me is not news that her mother is being kind of toxic towards her... when she did her reality show on Zeus I believe it showed how bad their relationship is... not only that I think even during therapy sessions we seen that her mother didn’t really take accountability or even own any of her wrongdoings as a mother... to me children emulate or become who they are because of their parents and that can be good or end up bad... and seeing that they have tried working on their relationship and see that they are ina space where her mother feels talking about her in this manner just isn’t right to me... I feel for anyone who has parents that belittle them or speak ill of them... I think at some point when you’re an adult you have to choose to just move on once it feels like trying to make it work just isn’t working any more... you can wish them well , you can pray and hope for the best & just love from a far!

Firts mama mai did not believe jeannie and now lonie's story...wow..both women you are strong🙏😘

this helped me a ton. I get a stomach ache when I go to visit my mom. I want to but the moment I step in her house I regret it. she makes me feel so unwanted.

Loni making excuses for her moma there's no way I'm kicking my child out for a man

Jennie you are preaching 👏 to me!! I do think this is also correlated with race. I have so much negative feelings towards my mother but she lives with me.

Love how A was able to expand on her point, which then let Loni and Garcelle understand her point! These ladies are so present and listening to each other!

Everything Jeannie said at the end is so true 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

You can see who went to therapy just from this segment. Not shaming those who haven’t went but it’s okay to be mad at a parent for mistreating and abusing you like Tokyo Toni is doing. That anger is a healthy part of the grieving process. I’m so proud of Jeannie for seeking therapy and also for the other cohosts who are advocating for it.

I wonder if Loni’s mom kicked her out because she was scared her boyfriend would make a move on her daughter.

As a divorced mom I never moved a man in or put my kids out over a man. I don’t get it.....kids don’t ask to come here.....we bring them here.

Loni really has been killin the fashion game during the quarantine

Loni, don’t justify your mother’s actions.

Summing up lonis statement. What I heard her say was. She was sixteen, she was at her "smallest". She can't be talking about age because she stated multiple times she was sixteen. So one will assume she's speaking on her body. Her mother had a new boyfriend and moved him in. Her mother wanted her freedom with her boyfriend and didn't want Loni there. Why? Why would she mention her body in this statement? No matter what you should never choose a man/woman over your child. I can understand if Loni was 18 and over but 16? This happens so much in the Black community.

I am sorry but as a single mom there is no way I will put my daughter out for a MAN. no way in hell. I was living with 30 dollars a week with my daughter of 4 when I got a divorce. But I chose my daughter and her health above anything else. 7 years later we are doing great. I am sorry Loni I don't get your mother.

Thank you so much for sincerely sharing your stories ladies! I have been and still struggle with this for years now.. having open conversations like this with women who share similar stories about their mothers, really does feel like therapy.

Yesss Jeannie!! The facts!!! Understanding where they came from can really help you to understand your parents perspective!

So ironic, my mom and I recently went through something that had to do with this conversation, I'm going to share this with her and see what she thinks, as well as the therapy! The Real is always coming through right on time 💯👯🏽‍♀️

Out of the 6 years i've watched this show, i have never seen Loni reveal that wow that must have been hard. She loves her mother deeply so I guess she really did forgive her but there is no excuse.

I'm sorry but I do NOT like the parenting culture in the Black community whether in America, Africa, or Europe.

Jeannie totally forgot about this topic 😂 hope her and mama Mai work it out

Loni is making excuses for her mother

more topics and conversations like this pls! i miss the old girl chats when they used to open up about their childhood, young adulthood, family/friends problems, mistakes, etc.

Loni looks so pretty.

Everybody else in America:🥶❄️😰 Me in Florida:🥵👀🏖 But besides the weather. No matter what you go through with your family I don’t think it should be aired out on social media like what Chyna’s mother did

Blac Chyna's mom is controlling. Chyna is taking care of her but it seems like it is still not enough. She needs help.

I watched an episode of Black China's and it was her and her mother fighting and she said some things that I couldn't next to. I personally feel like her mom is disgusting. Mom is not helping herself bashing her daughter and saying hurtful things about her.

The mom/daughter dynamic might and can be tricky if the constitution of such relation was shaken from the start. That does not make it ok to disrespect em. I also would say expressing, setting clear boundaries isn't a demonstration of lack of respect rather self-respect and the need to create a space for conversation without any lines being overstep when tensions are high or misinterpretations into what is being said versus complete honesty. I've come to believe the hugest and most often mistake (parent/child) when communicating is the unrealistic expectations and the perception of a mom has in fulfilling her role in the child's life. Establishing a healthy dynamic would factor in past childhood experiences of what was seen as the example and how they know, esteem the child.

What Loni's mom did to her makes me so angry!

Loni always looks so fly

I’m from Texas and still watching thank you ladies 🙏🏽🙌🏽❤️♥️😍🥺

Who the hell kicks their 16 year old daughter out for a boyfriend, that was temporary?? I would never forgive my mom if she did that

I understand why everyone is upset about what Loni revealed, however, I think Loni might have witnessed how her mother longed to have a partner (possibly) and maybe it made her mother miserable/lonely. Maybe that is why Loni found it within herself to forgive her mother.

This is why I don’t live by the Bible anymore...Loni literally just said her MOTHER kicked her out at 16 for a man... that’s despicable, irresponsible, and dishonorable and Loni still justifies it. That’s disgusting, parents aren’t entitled to be honored they have to earn it just like they make their kids do. Don’t have kids if ur gonna treat them like pests & burdens! YOU brought them here

Loni... please don’t try to normalize what your mom did. She could not of been more wrong. You were 16 and a child... I don’t care if you were skinny and attractive and she went her whole life without a boyfriend... her child should of came first. That’s truly sad.... your mom should be ashamed.

Black people are so steeped in trauma it is exceptional to find anyone who isn't. The mother-daughter situations described by Loni, Jeannie and Adrienne are typical tropes displayed in many minority disassembled communities. Some mothers can be so toxic yet if you peel back the layers far enough you can find some redemptive quality to explain away their negativity. For your own health and wellness though it is ok to prioritise yourself to ensure your survival and happiness even it it means not continuing to pay homage to an icon for the most part only out of obligation and not love or respect. Yes you must practise forgiveness and show empathy but always recognise that no matter the generation it is incumbent on everyone to make themselves happy since life has burdens and trials; peaks and valleys. This is a topic that deserves more discourse: mother misogyny.