How to nail your interview: 1. Avoid eye contact at all costs 2. Rest your feet on the interviewers desk to assert dominance 3. Wait for 20 seconds staring at them before answering to a question 4. Walk out of the room calmly after refusing to take the job
getting detached from reality made me the most confident person ive ever known lol, the key is not caring guys, your fears controlling you, if you overcome them then your anxiety is gone.. everyone is too invested in their own life, they dont care if your hair's not that good
I can vouch for this. In my younger days I used to not give 2 shits what somebody would think about me if I said this or did that, I just didn't care and every conversation/interaction I had with anyone just felt good and satisfying. These days I'm clouded by social anxiety and it's hard to enjoy being out and around people because I constantly think about how the other person is going to view me but coming across this video is reconnecting me with my past philosophy of not giving 2 shits and I have to say it feels good and thats how I know not caring really works lol. Care about what matters to you, not to them, that is the key.
@@prodmarquese Yes and no. Because even if you have no fears there is a difference in appearing confident and being arrogant. Whilist I do understand your point what someone like Don does is project confidence while not needing to be confident himself if that makes sense. There are subtle moviments you can do that swing a conversation in your favor and for someone with Don's knowledge he knows what clients want and needs.
How do you detach from reality? Imagine you are to give a presentation in front of 100 people and you are nervous and anxious as hell, your heart is beating fast, at that situation how would you do that?
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1. Sit relaxed and a little lean back that makes people come out to you. 2. Be non-reactive, and react less at times when handling pressure. 3. Speak slowly and use pauses correctly. 4. You will be okay no matter what.
She broke up with me. I told her I was grateful for the good times we shared. No begging, no pleading, go and be well. Moved on. Did us both a BIG favor. 😂
To help yourself feel fine even in heated situations: "zoom out" a bit and imagine all the life that happens around you and realize how little you mean in all that, there is nothing that's going to hurt you
Alan watts explained that quite well, " you must understand we come out of this World, not into it. Therefore we are part of the natural World like the animals, the trees and the waves of the ocean and the clouds. Now have have you ever seen a cloud that was too big or too small? Have you ever seen a cloud move in the wrong direction? The same goes for humans, in zen practice you are thought to regard yourself as a cloud moveing along in the skies..."
Realizing that no matter what happens, I'll be okay, is exactly how I survived my childhood. I used to stress so much then after so many dramatic plot twists, I realized if I survived all that, I will survive whatever else comes my way and that's when I stopped stressing as much. I hadn't really connected it with confidence before but I can see the connection now. Interesting. 🤔
Same here. I am the only one who is not afraid to speak up, regardless of their position. After you collect your guts to stand up to your parents, you have no fear standing up to anyone :)
As a practicing attorney, I often remind myself to pause while speaking with a judge or a jury. It creates suspense. But more importantly, it actually allows me to hear my own thoughts and feel my feelings. Pausing also gives the other person time to process everything I just said. I would add that confidence is a two-way street. I find that if I practice active listening when I speak with people and really make space for them, they open up and we then mutually instill confidence in one another. Confidence doesn’t always have to be a competition.
I’m an accountant and I do this when I need to process information. It’s not an act. I need to pause to think about how to consult and problem solve. Confidence comes from faith that things will work out fine. Every problem can be solved. I love the idea of slowing down to think.
With Confidence it is also to remind yourself that everyone is going through things, everyone is up in their own heads worrying about themselves. Once you realise this it is so easy to walk around with ease and assured in who you are. Everyone is human. With any scenario that scares you, ask yourself the simple question ‘What is the worst outcome that can happen from this situation’, usually it isn’t half as bad as we make it out to be! Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. Challenge yourself everyday and you will step into a Confident Person. All the love and incredible video, Thank you x
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It's about balancing when to be open and when not to be. You don't want to be telling the wrong people your weak points, but you also don't want to be a bottle that looks perfect but shatters after some time, because of the pressure it's holding. Recently I've not been balancing it properly. I've been too focused on saying the perfect thing. I've not been patient, I've been wanting instant confidence. This is cause I want to feel the same confidence I did in the past.
stealing someone else's personality and life? Wack! You'll end up like Edward Norton's character at the end of The Italian Job movie from 2003- A no originality, unconfident, LOSER that can't decide who they Actually are.
Don is not confident because he drinks. That is just pure nonsense. He is confident because he does not actually care about most of the things that shape other people. He does not care about money in the way other people does, he does not care what others think and above all he is willing to just try. Everybody knows a Don Draper. That does not mean he is a good person morality is something different.
Don Draper's confidence comes from the fact that he is a character in a TV show, and he is only written into scenes where he is, and can be, confident.
That whole.. Im going to be fine is what really does it.. And the no ducks given that comes out of rock bottom is what makes people relentlessly unegotistically authentic in every interaction..and relaxed biddy language.. That's confidence.. And it's unique to everyone.. Best to find your own rather than copy anyone partly.. Just comes off as creepy and untrustworthy.
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We need this curriculum in today's schools & make it mandatory for all students unfortunately this is something schools never teach us & as a 25 Yr old I can vouch for all adults when I say your degrees, grades & education doesn't matter if you're not able to express yourself. Until you're confident in you own skin you can never be successful.Period..!
nooo dons drapes his hand because hes confident broo he feels comfortable with himself and his environment brooo you gotta hear me out bro it’s nota cuz his last names draper brooooooo
Internal confidence can also be called *SELF-ESTEEM* - Ultimately, it boils down to mastering your own psychology and understanding that you have unlimited powers
VariableVision Absolutely! confidence isn’t something someone always radiates, it fluctuates, not everyone always feel amazing every second of every day, Don Draper definitely has had confidence at some point in his life, and may be feeling that exact way right now, it’s something you cultivate that takes time, so your answer is a bit obvious, sometimes you feel confident, sometimes not, everyone has had confidence at one point in their life
If ones self-esteem is based on the believe that one has unlimited powers, one will at some point fail and then be forced to question it. This is far from mastering ones psychology I guess... Knowing ones limits, being confident about the potentual one has and honest about all of it seems like self-esteem that is way more natural. Just my thougt on it tho..
@@Infinite_exhilaration Don Draper definitely had confidence. But I would argue his self destructive behaviour (alcoholism, serial cheating on his wife, constant lying) is rather a sign of lack of self esteem. One should not confuse self esteem with confidence. One runs much deeper and the other is more superficial and ego-centric.
VariableVision I’m a contradiction because I agree and disagree with you. You should never mix self esteem with confidence, however... people’s behavior, it changes over time, take Robert Downey Jr by example, his life was going essentially nowhere, and he made a decision to completely change the course of his life, and arguably kick started the MCU. Now... I’m not talking that big of a change, but he could of been known for binge drinking 4 months ago, and has that stigma, but 3 weeks ago, without us knowing, he made the decision to stop drinking, or drink less and less, so... it’s very difficult in my opinion to judge someone on their past behavior when change is just one decision away, and your argument may be people don’t change, and it’s a possibility like most people they are basing that statement from their own personal experience. Today he could of made a decision to change everything around. The truth is we don’t know. It’s the same as having a best friend always hung out in Highschool, you graduated, moved to a different state, visited him 3 years later, you can be a completely different person, so much so he doesn’t even recognize you
Besides what is going on under your own roof and that of your loved ones, treat life as a game and everything will be all right. That includes the position that everything will be okay no matter what. If you implement this concept, you will never get nervous, anxious, fidgety. You will be in control of yourself and the situation you are in and you won’t be afraid to put people in their place (nicely or not sometimes) when they get out of line. The world will be your oyster and the world will get out of your way of making things happen.
This is what I’ve been saying for years. Once you fall into that mindset of everything is NOT going to be ok, you literally become this. Thank you... finally someone understands what I’ve been saying.
also gotta say, the 4th tip really hits home. Specifically, love the line "...and you may begin to even look forward to the situations that stressed you out"
Today, in hopes of attracting attention from my crush, I made several jokes in class and everyone laughed including the teacher! Thanks for giving me confidence. I'm still getting there...
Taking pauses in between answering questions and making statements, then making eye contact is a hell of a powerful thing I learned. A must read is The Alabaster Girl.
No she didn't. She exhaled her cigarette smoke into his mouth. Watch that scene where he says "My name is Don." She does not exhale the smoke, but goes straight for his mouth. She is a femme fatale. It is written all over her face. Don is a sucker.
I was struggling with social anxiety for a while. I went to therapy, got it fixed, and now I've been doing these things without even knowing the "theory" behind it. It just came naturally. Old friends of mine say I'm a completely different person. And I can see it. It's really strange.
@@nykhilsandhu Honestly, fake it till you make it. Act confident even though you aren't and eventually the confidence will come to you. Also, I think a good exercise for conversation is talking to strangers online. Just talk with them. Your anxiety will basically disappear because of the anonymity. That depends on the seed of your anxiety too though. Listen, I'm not an expert. I highly suggest going to a therapist. But you have to talk freely. Don't hold anything back. And the therapist isn't there to fix your problems, he/she's there to walk you through all of this. Make you realize what's wrong with you, where it started and give you tips on how to change yourself to be better.
Yes sir that's old time medicine right there ain't no stress balls ordered from the therapist at two sessions a week but hey whatever works for you that's what counts no matter what era your from
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That's why post secondary education is important. You can go into a test not knowing what the hell it's about, fail, and it has no impact on anyone but yourself.
Good points raised but remember that this is a trained, professional actor, not naturally as shown in the movies. To be this type of confident takes a great deal more than just trying, doing or acting, but becoming that character in every way. Keep that in mind when trying, faking, doing or acting a part in front of others when such a character isn't your own natural self in everyday normal life.
I have theory about actors... not all, but some. They get so good at becoming (acting) another person they may be tempted to identify as that character in real life. And they get so good at the character that they lose themselves... sometimes intentionally. This could cause much anxiety and suffering. I'm sure we'll never really know but it might explain why in spite of fame and fortune some are secretly very unhappy people
*EVERYONE* was waiting for this one! 1. His relaxed body language 2. Don is non-reactive. 3. He doesn’t try to convince other people. 4. The belief that he will be okay, no matter what.
I've closed deals for $30,000 in the first semester selling software. I am a newb in sales talk but as I soon I take risk of trying and improving in communication I've learned and be confident to the product that I'm selling, all the embarrassment and mistakes is worth it I've learned new things in life.
No one actually acts like that in real life, and if they did, they’d be laughed at. People’s problem is that they don’t realize that life is nothing like “movies” Everyone’s so fake, everyone’s playing a character, imitating and repeating something they saw somewhere. Be confident in your authenticity, stop trying so hard, everyone can see through it, and the fact you don’t realize that is why you fail to garner respect from the people that matter.
we can all learn a thing or two ...evrybdy knows its impossible and will be weird in real life , but some aspects can be learned or tweaked to suit each ones style
The truth is somewhere inbetween. The reason it works in movies is because the tone is fixed, and all the characters are interacting within a fixed dynamic. BUT you can set (or reset) the tone of a conversation, or the mood in a room, if you know how to read it and respond *within* it's contextual limits. If you're "authentically" jumpy and nervous, you'll create a jumpy and nervous dynamic. Get 2 or 3 people to follow suit, and you've created a jumpy and nervous culture. The same is true in reverse. In other words, write your own movie.
u not a great one u wouldn't get it lol it's not about being a character, it's being who you are to the fullest extent. Great characters are made from and image of great people, not vice versa. you got it twisted lol
I watched this video a few years back and I forgot that after I applied the steps it completely changed how everyone around me viewed me seemingly overnight props to this channel
If a meeting goes badly...I walk away knowing that I'm going to be at my next opportunity soon enough. Putting too much importance on any sale is a mistake. The game is "Volume of Opportunity."
How to be confident: 1. Relaxed body language, moving freely around -standing shoulder width apart -relaxing arm on a the top of a chair -subconciously signaling others have to work for your attention -selective eye contact(situation, person) 2. Being non-reactive -being silent under pressure helps you to think the situation 3. Not trying to convince other people -frame yourself as a equal partner -willing to get rid potraying yourself confident 4. Believing I will be ok -doing things you wouldn't be okay (stepping out of comfort zone) - telling the truth even it gets you lose something - stop worrying someone else will reject because you will never reject yourself
I almost cryed at the group circle scene. Even though I've never watched that movie you made me empethize with the main character and actually feel what he felt. Amazing story telling
When you keep your word to your self you gain the mindset of knowing and trusting yourself to act /“react” as necessary in any situation, bc your body and intuition go based on how you carry yourself, and then life is more intriguing bc your body trusts your mind and vise versa so you just “do it”
Here's a study guide: 1) relaxed body language; spread yourself out; move freely around 2) people have to work for my attention; selective eye contact; piercing eye contact when earned 3) be non-reactive; pause and choose best possible options 4) don't try to convince other people; treat others as your equal; be willing to walk away, calmly 5) BELIEVE that no matter what happens, everything will turn out fine
1, Be relaxed 2. Selective eye contact 3. Don't fidget or react 4. Stay silent under pressure and let yourself take time to respond - time feels faster when you're stressed 5. Share your interest but walk away if it is not reciprocated 6. Believe that no matter what you do (socially), you will be okay (internal confidence)
@@mastyer0fReality I discovered this after my first read-through of The Upanishads. Something finally clicked and I stopped viewing the world and my experience through a lens of emotion and learned to accept all situations for what they are.
This video... I’ve seen quite a few of yours. This one really hit home for me and confidence felt and projected has not been an issue for me for decades. Well done
I'm sure it does buddy. But in the end that sounds like an excuse. An excuse that's easy to make and that I want to make. But you know what? Excuses are only gonna hurt us. I'm done living through excuses. Join me
@pim nas Why is it ridiculous? Some things haven't changed since the 60s and you can do some things even without being super handsome and having an expensive suit.
That's not the point. Don Draper is a perfect example *because* he's a character in a show. He is able to be more charismatic than a normal person would, so he's perfect for study.
So actors just pretend they are important people or somethings unimportant people, your victim number 3 that is on scene for less than 2 seconds almost getting run over by a car. Director: Car didn't come close enough we got to do a retake, is that really a way to live maybe being a stuntman isn't so great
Just be yourself. Be true to yourself and true to others. The most happy and confident people I met lives the most humble life in the villages of India. They may not have a fancy job, education or any lucrative career but they are content with themselves.
I never heard of this Draper character, but I definitely agree with that 30% figure. We do rush our own responses in fear that too much of a pause will lose our audience, but when we're the audience, we're never that demanding of the speaker.
Omar El Daouk Ragnar was always the smartest man in the room and thus he felt secure, as visionaries often are. He was a thinker among barbarians and saw value in others and was ahead a few steps.
Thank you so much I really needed this, I was just rejected and was so scared to go to school because I knew that people would confront me about it but again thank you so much!
that's right but don't get it twisted, going into investments like crypto currency/real estate or buying Assets that appreciates should be at the top list of everyone now then see how ecstatic you will be in days or months time for the decision you made today.
That's very taught full of you because I'm into some crypto investments now and it's really profitable, but will recommend you to do a background check up to ensure you're investing in a solid foundation source, to avoid blowing your account, An alternative seek guidance from some pro trader's and more to avoid loses of funds.
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Check your sources. Behaviour like Don's is only for the boss. Being too comfortable around superiours shows disrespect. Using body language that says"me has biiig territory" will infuriate superiors and alienate business partners. It is only benficial for you to get women or to discourage adversaries.
I joined an executive meeting on video one time. And you could tell the most senior person in the room cause they were the most spread out. And the most senior was so relaxed that he looked like he was uncomfortably slouching down in his chair to a point it looked unprofessional. So much posturing in the corporate world. We’re still all animals an the end of the day.
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TheOgGhost The guy said “How mastering each level can take you from being nervous to completely confident in any situation”. So it’s not just for meeting new people, it’s for any given situation.
Recently, I was accused of a crime I did not commit and arrested. Now, months later, Iam out of custody, and drowning in court drama and stress of having to defend my story of events. I realized the same thing this video points out: No matter what, I will be okay when this is all over. I may not get everything back that I want, but in the end there are two possible outcomes of my case. I could be convicted, but that doesn't matter, because I will be a better person afterwards. I could and hope to be aquitted, and that doesn't matter either, because I will still make myself a better person afterwards. The situation and the result do not matter. The only thing that ever matters is the belief that you're going to bounce back from it.
I think what we consider charisma in this video is dangerously close to toxic masculinity and the feeling of being untouchable, emotionally unreachable and hard
Look at social situations as an opportunity to show yourself and others how much you love yourself and the world. Be Honest, happy, aloof and care free. You've got nothing to prove.
Not really. Graham Stephan explained how he was a millionaire and still had no confidence. If all your confidence comes from money then it's easy to take it all away. Real confidence comes from within.
You'd believe that will help and whilst it might be true, it's not the kind of confidence you'd expect it to be. If you are a shy, non-confident guy, having lots of money is not going to magically make you confident and out-going.
Sophia Bogard lol what? I don’t think anyone who got to become president was not confident. He’s one of the most powerful people in the world, I’m sure he’s not insecure.
