Love all of this, Andrea. Every single thing you talked about is so real and so true…and exactly how I feel most days as well. Something you said about dreams and how our dreams change as we evolve and grow up. Thank you so much for those wise words. I never thought of it that way…and the last couple years have started to feel like all my dreams are passing me by…but really, I have new dreams now. Your videos are always my comfort and cozy safe place…and I can’t thank you enough for sharing. 🧡 Amber
Hello 👋🏾 From a fellow Andrea, who is also 43, AND is super close to her mom. Thank you for this video!!! I totally felt seen!! AND thank you for your vulnerability. Your videos have been a joy to watch!! So happy I stumbled upon your channel!! Happy Monday 😊🌻💗
Hello fellow Andrea! I love how much we have in common lol. :) I'm so glad the video resonated. You are not alone. Thank you for this comment, it helps me feel less alone as well. :)
Hey Andrea. I have been going through a bit of a tough time lately, but catching up with your latest videos have been helping me a great deal. So just wanted to send a big THANK YOU & HUGS ❤
Hi! I am currently at the tail end of my 20's (I turn 30 in April) and I have to say that the last few years of my 20's brought about SO much change and growth. I am confident in who I am. I know what I deserve, and I won't accept anything less. I finally realized just how finite time is and made the leap to start pursuing my dream of being a published author and posting regularly on RU-vid. I am going into this next decade of my life with a clear mind, and a hopeful heart! Thank you for sharing life in your 40's! I have been loving these glimpses into your thoughts surrounding age and all of the things that come with it (good and bad)! Also, congrats on your upcoming release! So happy for you! :)
I'm so glad you're realizing all these things before turning 30. It took me way too long to learn some of these things. I'm so excited to see how your channel grows over the coming year! And thank you! I'm so excited for this book launch. :)
Your issues sound very similar to my initial perimenapause symptoms. I'm about 6 years older, but those symptoms started at around 44 and before there were changes in my cycle. A good gyno is the best thing! I hope you find answers. Love your favourite things. I absolutely love being in my 40s and cant wait for my 50s. Live is just getting better and better 😊❤
That's why I'm concerned. My cycle hasn't changed but my brain fog and my anxiety are getting worse even though I'm actually on a good sleep schedule, getting daily exercise, eating well, etc. I will keep you all updated as I get new doctors and hopefully more information. :) I love that you're enjoying your 40s. That's how I want to feel over the next several years. And when I get to 50 I want to be excited and not anxious.
Wise decision to find a new doctor. I'm 59 now (and quite happy with it!), but I went through menopause early. Sudden, severe symptoms started when I was still 41, brain fog being a big one. About 5 months later, I was done. My doctors refused to believe me, but hormonal tests proved I was completely post-menopausal at just past 42. So yes, it's definitely possible that's what's happening with your body. Also, I love the Great British Baking Show, too! 🍰🍩🍪🎂 It's a nice, cozy way to relax, along with snuggling up with a good book. 📚 Btw, I enjoy your long, rambly vlogs. ☺️☁️🌬️⛅🌬️🌤️🌞 ~ Kim
It was such a horrible appointment. I need a new doctor for sure. My brain fog and my anxiety have gotten really bad, worse than ever. But other things are totally normal, especially my cycle. But I worry that the brain fog and anxiety are the first symptoms of bigger things changing and I don't want to just ignore them like my current doctor seems to. The Great British Baking Show makes me so happy, it really is the ultimate cozy watch. And thank you so much Kim, I'm thrilled that you enjoy the long rambly vlogs. :)
☁Thank you so much for this video, Andrea! It couldn't have come at a better time :) As you know, I'm 43 (soon to be 44 in December, yay) so I needed this ego boost as I'll admit, getting older is scary and life hasn't been doing me any favours recently. But this vlog made me laugh, made me cry, made me think, made me grateful, and made me realise that life in my 40s is a privilege and a blessing. When I was in my 20s and 30s, life was all about QUANTITY: More friends, more followers, more likes, more handbags, more, more, more. An insatiable desire to fill every nook and cranny with material things, people, and experiences. I'm guessing it's because you have more life expectancy in your 20s and 30s. Furthermore, I was SO obsessed with finding my soulmate, everything I did was because of that goal and I was chronic about it that everything else took a back seat (I'm totally exposing myself here but whatever). Now, in my 40s, life is all about QUALITY: Less is more and the simpler things in life are treasured. I have less friends but I'm way happier. I have less things but I'm more fulfilled. I spend my days walking my 4 month old niece around showing her the (white) butterflies, hummingbirds, and birds outside my window - it's great! Once my 6 year old nephew comes home from school and I finish my remote work we play Legos, Hot Wheels, or Avengers action figures; other days we draw or paint. It's the best thing in the world. Is it the way I thought my life would be? No, I thought I'd be doing this stuff with my husband and my own kids but that's not how it turned out and that's okay. I can still have those things but it won't be as I imagined when I was dreaming about them as a teenager or in my 20s and 30s. I also don't let things bother me like they used to. My sister just had her 38th birthday last week Friday (October 19th) and she fusses over little things and I told her, "Wait until you turn 40, you won't care about any of this!"
Right there with you on not caring as much what people think about me as I get older. It's so freeing. I'm so tired of doctors who act like this! I had gained weight at my last check-up, and my doctor got a tone in her voice and said, "so what happened?" followed by, "what are you going to do about it?"
It's so freeing! And talking about people who's opinions I don't care about, sounds like both of our doctors are on that list. I can't believe yours said that. Mine basically implied the same thing. I gained a few pounds (always happens in the summer since I'm not as active and not hiking) but still, it could also just be normal fluctuation. Instead she had the gall to recommend that I exercise for 30 minutes 5 days a week without even asking what I'm currently doing. I wanted to snap back "I walk 40 minutes a day 6-7 days a week" but I don't think it would have made a difference.
@@AndreaJSeverson I really need to find a new doctor. The place I've always gone is a revolving door so the good ones leave just as you're developing a relationship. Switching and moving to a new place is such a hassle, though. I hope we both find ourselves new ones who know how to listen and be kind.
The amount of anger I felt when you said your doctor shut you down about perimenopause when we LITERALLY can start anytime from mid-30s on up. I was 38 when mine started! I'm 42 now and the amount of brain fog and possibly undiagnosed ADHD it's kicked up is madness. It's like my whole life is falling apart (and I can't take HRT due to being a blood clot risk so I'm trying to manage with supplements and lifestyle changes). I bet you anything it's perimenopause for you. I'm glad you're looking for a new doctor.
I was so shocked in the appointment. Her immediate dismissal just made me shut down completely. I just wanted to get out of there. When I got my test results back I realized she didn't even test any of my hormones. Right now anxiety and brain fog are the main symptoms that are getting significantly worse, everything else seems normal still. But I'm still now suspicious that it's the onset of perimenopause so I want to find a doctor who's willing to actually listen to me. And thank you for this comment. Hearing that you were angry hearing about her reaction makes me feel validated in my own anger and frustration.
I'm so glad you know what you deserve. Was there was a specific moment when that clarity hit for you? I'm not in my forties quite yet, but I definitely feel a stronger sense of what I want rather than what I'm "supposed to" want than I did when I was in my twenties and earlier thirties. There are so many things people equate with "success" that are not as fulfilling as they promise to be.
The clarity of knowing what I deserved totally hit after the end of my last relationship. I was blindsided by it and when looking through the wreckage of it I saw all the missed red flags in the little ways I was mistreated. Now I know what I deserve and want and I won't accept anything less, even if it means I'm single forever. The clarity in all of that has led to a better understanding of what I want overall and how I want to live my life. Gradually giving up on doing what I'm "supposed to" has been a huge part of that.
Hmmm, ... Totally Agree 100% re : ''find a New Doctor'' !!! : ) Glad to hear your thoughts / New 'take' on your approaches etc : ) Exciting !! Happppy 4U ! HAGD / ''clouds'' : ) End of video Contestant [cute-silly-light lol]
I am who I am. By our 40s and 50s we're not exactly going to change to be what other people want. So they can either accept it or move on to someone else lol.
