What if the same Position DATE each other? | LGBTQ+ 

As a bi female it's honestly so difficult to know if another girl is straight lesbian Or bi

I had no idea Jihoo was a girl at first hahaha, i was so surprised when i saw the comments. She's extremely handsome and well built.

She is so handsome

Hello, I'm Jihoo(jihu) from this video. In Korea, there are times when it is divided by appearance, but usually, butch and femme are divided according to sexual taste. What does it mean in other countries? In fact, it is difficult to define everyone in this dichotomous way. Lesbian and gay are just people who love people after all.

I think Jihoo made all our hearts flutter 😳😳😳

Femme and butch are terms that have nothing to do with bed preferences. It’s only about the appearance of a person. A butch person looks more “masculine” where as a femme - from the French word which means woman - often has long hair and looks like the traditional image someone would have of femininity.

I find human sexuality endlessly fascinating. The gradations, variations, fluidity are all wonderful. None of it bothers, it's all interesting to me so I don't get homophobia, transphobia, hate of any kind. I want everyone to be proud and happy about who they are! And sex is really a small part of the whole thing. It's about who you feel close to, who "gets" you, who you respect, love, and support. Every single one of us deserves love and respect!

Yeah. I’d let her do anything to me 💀💀 she definitely would win.

as i’m a bi it was really interesting to listen, but in my opinion there’s something incorrect about top or bottom positions in sex. or rather their appearance. i don’t know if it’s very obvious and so easy to recognise who is give or take in korea, but when some curious people ask me and my partner about our positions they literally think that my girlfriend is top. we both are feminine, but my features look like more gently(?). and then they’re realize that they were wrong, because in our sexual life i’m 100% top. what I'm getting at is that no one needs to judge who takes an active or passive role in a relationships that don’t involve you. it’s just a sex, which doesn’t intersect with people’s appearance

When she turned and said I'm confident that I'll win.... I fell in love!

The crush he had on her when he thought she was a guy was so evident throughout the video 🤣 cute.

RU-vid you’re doing great keep going… With no joke this video can be very interesting for young lesbians and gay person who’s trying to build themselves. No drama, no complexity, only good conversation and information ❤️

Dookyun is so relatable when he said "Oh, he looks like a top...I want to be a bottom today." 😂

All the BL fujoshis need to watch this video. They all think every gay couple is just seme/uke (top/bottom), when in reality that's far from the case.

This video was so informative and interesting! They both explained themself really well! Thank you SHINE TEEN for this kind of videos!~

Ig sk's lesbian and gay culture is wildly different from the west bc here wlw use top and bottom and a femme is not necessarily a bottom and masc presenting/butch are not always top... most couples in long term relationships will usually be vers regardless of how they present

여자분인데 잘생겼다~~ 썸네일 보고 남자분인줄 알았음....와~~존잘 하면서 감탄했는데....여자분이셨네...ㅎ~ 여자들한테 인기 많았을듯...여자들은 저렇게 보이쉬한 스타일 많이 좋아함~~

Ahhhh she’s so attractive 🥺 She definitely made my heart flutter when she said she was confident she would win 🤣

I can seriously go lesbian for her. Like 100% seriously

Love how open and honest they are, heartwarming

One of my favorite couple channels I follow on here are a top/top couple. They've been together for a few years now. I feel like you can make it work somehow for someone you really love. I do know it takes a lot of communication, but it is possible. Edit: Totally forgot to add the channel name! They're the ALLBBANG couple here on RU-vid. They've talked about it in livestreams before. I love them. ☺

Omg there should be a warning for hetero girls in all videos with Jihoo that it's dangerous to watch cuz you may become "bi" xD Such a great charisma! Falling for her instantly. 🥰 Dookyun is so nice too! ❤️ Where do you find all these sweet, adorable, sunshine-like people? I'm always smiling when watching.

i loved this, they are both so funny!😂😂 hahahha and i learnt a lot too!! i didn't know girls also had top + bottom "roles" 🤯

So a top(les) and verse(gay guy) Nice to see us girls represent the diversity in ourselves! Yo go girl!

me being a bisexual switch: interesting information

I like this kind of topic and the flow of their convo is spontaneous and informative at the same time

OMG ...her confidence is on another level 🔥🔥🔥🔥...when she says " I'm confident that I'll win "..... Im not bi but after knowing her confidence literally gives me Butterflies 🦋🦋🦋

I wouldn’t know she’s a girl until I’d hear her voice 😂 she’s very handsome.

this was interesting to watch. in my opinion is when you really like someone you'll find a common ground and work it out. rather than calling someone strict top or bottom i think pleasure roles have fluidity just like sexuality, they can change. You can bend. there's a 70% chance, always.

I might have fallen in love with Jihoo, oh dear Lord If she was next to me I'd 100% become a teenage girl that's all flustered when someone as beautiful as her is close

I love her charisma!!!!! Thank you for the video Shine Teen! Keep going!

It was nice to see people being so honest about their sexuality!! Great job.

If she didn't speak.. I would definitely thought she's a boy...😭😭😭 Why so handsome 💕

Justice for femme tops!!!

i giggled outrageously

Dookyun has such an outgoing personality!! But so respectful at the same time! They fit so well as friends!!

My straight ass is falling for this lesbian girl. She is so handsome. I thought both are man until i listen her voice. Even she is more manly than the man sitting next to her. ❤️❤️My crush

왼쪽분 보고 민서공이인줄 알고 들어왔어요..

She look like actor park bogum 😂

For those talking and commenting about them using femme and butch to describe sexual positions; please be understanding that the actual KOREAN LANGUAGE doesn't have any integrated/created new words to describe people of minorities like the LGBT+. For now they stick to using western and English words which can at times get lost in translation but the communities there learn to adapt. It also depends on the country and the culture how words can be differently defined. Korea is still a conservative country but we're starting to see movement. Please be kind and understanding :)

Man, when that girl said she was confident that she'd end up on top, my heart fluttered. All I need is someone to actually come on to me and I'll swing whichever way they'd prefer. (Obviously if I found them attractive that is)

This made me feel emotional and feel the vibe of love

Jihoo has me blushing like crazy 🤭🤭🤭🤭😍

I'm a straight woman but also parent to a bi teenager. This has helped me understand a little more about them and their preferences and choices. Thank you!

와 진짜 박보검 닮으셨다

She has so much charm idk I too would stop thinking with her presence

I looooveed this video!!! It’s so wonderful to see such an open and interesting topic being talked about on these popular channels! And I may have fallen in love with Jihoo just a little bit! She’s totally my style hehehe 😍🏳️‍🌈

The guy seems so chill and nice to be around!!

jihoo would give me gay panic if i make eye contact with her 😂

Omg Jihoo is so handsome cool and mature I'd date her in a heart beat like she's is so soso cool I'd feel like she'd sweep me off my feet easily

Dookyun's English is so good

I agree with him, she's very handsome 😂

actually the butch and femme are just terms related to appearance only and not for sexual position preference, with butch in masculine sense and femme in feminine sense. i think those terms being related to sexual position might be highly caused by internalised homophobia and heteronormativity where people tend to view a "normal" pair of lover with one being masc/the man/the top and the other one being the fem/the girl/the bottom. and i think it's the time for us to change this stigma

At first glance I thought both of them are men till she said she is a lisbian, I paused and went back to find out if I heard correctly, I am surprised she looks so much like a man. 💜

They're both such a delight! brb, gonna watch every video they're in

I've always thought I am a hetero girl till I saw her...

Don't mind the boring comments, it's very important that Korea gives more space and discusses LGBT issues. Thanks!

*"I BE TOP!"* *"NO, ITS ME!"* *fights in a gay way.*

Okay so we all just collectively fell in love with Jihu right? Yeah absolutely

여자분 여중여고 다녔으면 학교다닐 때도 인기 진짜 많았을 듯 헤테로 여자애들도 좋아할 상 걍 존잘러야ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ

as a young lesbian myself , this was so informative thank you!

Jihoo looks so handsome and cool I love her💜💜 and Dookyun looks amazing 🥰

박보검 친척인줄...... 이목구비 주차가 아주 잘되셨네요.....

The way I laughed when I saw this 💀

In the US, most lesbians do both. We call them "switches." Although there are some people who favor giving or taking, they still do both. We do have people who only give or only take, but there's a negative connotation with that and only very specific people will be satisfied with that kind of relationship. We call them, 'Stone Butch' for those who only ever give, and 'Pillow Princess' for those who only take. Though these days butch/femme has no real indication on who is going to be more giving. A lot (a lot, a lot) of women want to be 'topped' a dominant femme- for example. Also it has no indication on who they're going to be attracted to. You might see butchxbutch or femmexfemme. There's also more ways to present masculine/femininity than butch vs femme. We've got studs(traditionally black mascs), chapstick lesbians, lipstick lesbians, soft butch (futch), high femme, and other more specific aesthetic stereotypes like 'cottage core lesbians.' Even all those don't really cover the nuances between lesbian couples. We're just girls who like girls!

I guess Jihoo is talking about the dating experience in Korea for lesbians but it’s not like that everywhere. I’ve seen butch x butch and femme x femme. Also lesbian sex is versatile and fluid too for a lot of people. I think it depends on how comfortable people are. I think maybe if I was younger I would only be okay with receiving but now that I’m older I think it depends on the situation or the day. I would prefer to be with someone who is also comfortable with different things.

남자분 끼탑이신듯ㅋㅋ 여자분은 첨에 박보검인줄ㅎㅎ

Well whatever it is. All I know is that I love y'all both, your reactions had me smiling through the entire time while watching you. Made my day. ❤️😍

It is interesting how this is not discussed for heterosexual couples. As a women I have always struggled with taking the "submissive" or "being made love to" role. I am a "top heterosexual female" if such a think exists. I like to set the pace, be the active partner, I am the sort to kiss with my eyes open so I can see my partners reaction, and I like to have a certain level of aggression in leading. I don't really like to be pursued, or cornered and it takes a long time of sexual trust and confidence to let myself be "made love to". I think even in straight relationships the dynamic of desire can be quite varied and conflicting and it is precisely incompatibilities of this sort that can kill a relationship. A too domineering male can be a real of putter for me, it becomes competitive rather than generous. So I don't think these issues are limited to the gay community and most certainly in my experience you cannot tell a persons sexual preferences and behaviours in bed from their appeareance in the majority of cases so there is a lot of give and take adjustment if you like them to get to know what will work for both parties. Trust and affection are a huge part of that equation.

I love the term "Give and take" lol

Anyway I'm so surprised that so many people can't recognize Jihoo in first glance that she is a female LOL Maybe I'm growing in urban areas in Malaysia and also a high Chinese descendants populated area person, so I have seeing tonnes of people from various types of appearance from super long hair men to super short shaved undercut chic cool ladies since I was in my primary school, and I watched tonnes of Hong Kong TVB Cantonese language dramas plus Taiwanese idol dramas and also some China dramas and also Japanese dramas, not to forget about Mando-pop industry singer and variety shows celebrity hosts. Still remember iconic chic short hairstyle of Tavia Yeung in the Hong Kong TVB drama ' The Hippocratic Crush ', Gui Lun-Mei (Taiwanese actress), Faye Wong (China-Hong Kong singer), Hai Qing (China actress), Sun Li (China actress), Amber Kuo (Taiwanese singer and actress), Pauline Lan (Taiwanese celebrity host), and so much more, even American beauty makeup RU-vidr like Alexandra Anele has really masculine feature but so much chic and cool badass vibe, she looks stunning always =O Y'all could possible see there are so much gorgeous ladies in super cropped hairstyles that I wish to try out one day (of course, after the pandemic please), even hairdresser celebrities like Kenneth Siu (Hong Konger hairdresser based in Australia), Sanja Carica Karasman (Croatian hairstylist based in Slovenia), Rene from the Women's barbershop HFDZK (based in Netherland), Maksim Nikitochkin (based in Ukraine). They all deliver stunning cropped short hairstyles for female customers!

the idea of femme equals bottom and masculine being top is rooted from the heteropatriarchial mentality. Bed positions are not strictly related to your gender identity and presentation

Both of are them are so cute that i don't even want to read the subtitles to understand what they're speaking. I can't stop looking at their pretty faces 😍😍😍😍

She is so gorgeous

From personal experience, you can never know about a person's sex life/sexuality just by looking at them.

I am bi sexual and I am in love with Ji Hoo. So handsome and charming

Love is Love. It doesnt matter if they are butch or femme, top or bottom. When two people fall in love they will work it out within their own self and how it feels comfortable. Anyone who finds a life partner and gets to feel that special love and devotion. So happy for you.

민서공이인줄 알았어요

She's so handsome... literally so much..🤧

지후 언니 진짜 개 멋있음

Omggg hahhah I *smiled* a lot while watching this Q&A🤣 I’ve learned a lot lol it was so fun❤️ *they r both handsome* 😩🫶🏻

They are both very charismatic and cool, I learned a lot today on this topic. I hope I can see them both again in other videos, they have good chemistry together and it was nice discussion.

I'm a lesbian. I identify as an AG Fem and I am NOT a bottom!! Top & bottom do not apply to the lesbian world. There are women who are touch me nots and others that are pillow princesses tho.

When I see the thumb nail I was like - oh he's so handsome.. gotta watch it.. When she starts speaking - annoseyah I'm ji Hoo- I was like - 👀👀👀

여자분 박보검 닮았어요!왜케 잘생김?ㄷㄷ

I love them both! Their personalities shine! ❤

i feel good that they're comfortable.

민서공이 인줄 ㅋㅋㅋ

Jihoo: I'm confident that I'll win. Me, a lesbian, immediately flustered: oh... you sure would

게이인데 이영상에선 여자가 더좋네요 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ이영상에서만큼은 나일반인가바..

As a gay person whose love language is physical intimacy, sexual compatibility is number one for me. This might elicit a tongue-in-cheek reaction, but I will NEVER EVER EVER top! Not today, not in a million years.

LOVE THIS!!

I LITERALLY GASP WHEN I SAW THIS ON MY FEED.

And it's because I'm bi and I do perfer men like about 65% more than women but Jihoo is not gonna let me go here

a lot of y'all in the comments really should look into wlw history. butches and femmes were the pioneers for us. it makes sense that in a country where queer culture's starting to become more prominent that these identities are what's first to emerge. it's reflective of a heteronormative society, yes, but to simply reduce these terms as "problematic" is incredibly dismissive to the older queer community and everything they did for us.

I loved them so much. They are both so cute and handsome. I'm a pan female who is more on the butch side and in a relationship with a het male (yeah lol). But thankfully he's adventurous 😏

i’m crying at how the limp wrist is universal LMAO

Jihoo, I am butch, too. But you are so shuai. 😍

She looks like an idol. Very handsome/beautiful.

Jihoo was so cool