What If We Want A Child So Bad But We Can't? 

my friend.. dia x pernah period langsung and hormone dia x balance. dia dah kawin for almost 5 years and dia nak sangat sangat ada anak sampai dia ada makan ubat hormone and dia ada buat juga ivf tapi most doctors said “ you memang x boleh pregnant. impossible.” and guess what… she proves the doctor wrong! Dia baru je melahirkan and sekarang tengah berpantang! so pls, do not give up. Rezeki ni semua datang dari Allah. Nothing is impossible 💕

I have been married for almost 4 years. for us both of us have a problem.. we are both the youngest in the family & rapat sangat dengan anak2 buah, anak anak buah even called us mama & papa T__T we have been go to a few doctors & many told that the only solution is ivf, but we are not ready to going through it emotionally & physically. but deep inside we believe that our baby is still in heaven & waiting to go into our life T_T Saya nak minta tolong doakan saya dan suami agar kami juga dikurniakan rezeki zuriat

Masyallah… resonate sangat2 with todays topic. We have been TTC for 11years now. Agree sgt2 we TTC couple is truly happy for those who is given the rezeki but at the same time, the turmoil in us is also something truly difficult for us to go through! more of this should be shared and spoken out about. TTC is a topic that is rarely talked about in our community. May Allah swt give both you couples and all other couples who are TTC kekuatan to go through the challenges ahead.

I'm not even married but your story make me sobbing bad, my dooa the best for you, INSHALLAH ❤

I've only been married for 1 year plus (this year will be my second year). At first, we wanted to hold first on the child as we want to have our own honeymoon phase, and I was not thinking of having a child so soon too. But then, at the end of last year which was on November. I wanted a child soooo bad. So, me and my husband has been trying to conceive ever since and I was quite surprise that... getting pregnant is actually not easy 😟 I started to feel so down. Felt so bad abt myself, and the topic about having kids is a very sensitive topic to me. I'm glad i listened to this podcast, thank you so much for sharing. I know Allah is still testing us, and because of that i know Allah really do care for us. In sha Allah one day, Allah will give me that rezeki. I start to put this sentence "selalu bersangka baik dengan Allah" as my everyday note and believe. Thank you again for the sharing and inspiring me to keep moving and trust the journey. Love from Malaysia 🥰

Ive met a mom that had tried and waited for 11 years for her first. I also have a cousin that tried for 9 years to finally have their first. They told me that they just had to keep trying, keep having faith in Allah and redha. May Allah ease your affairs and may you be blessed with many2 children insyaAllah.

Ya Allah. This podcast really meant something and really did change my perspective in seeing things. Just so you know that i've been listening to your podcast about marriage before i got married. You two even noticed me in TikTok live & comments and even wished me tahniah & goodluck for my wedding haritu. My husband & I got married young, i recently lost my job just right after i got married because of the airline that i worked with suddenly shut down. But Alhamdulillah, my husband still has a stable job. We don't even have our own house yet, currently living at my mom's house. And we've always talked about how we want to wait until we're financially stable enough to start planning for a baby. I am now married for 3 months already, lepas kahwin, i terus pergi buat lesen kereta because i still don't have one yet & i still don't know how to drive, so that i am able to find a job and is able to drive myself to work once i dah ada lesen kereta. But then, baru je lepas lulus ujian computer lesen memandu, i found out i was pregnant, of course we're both happy but deep inside i am scared and a little part of me says that i am actually not ready for this, i had plans but i have to pause every plan that i've had in my mind. I am two months into my pregnancy, of course hari2 i bersyukur & berdoa supaya baby ni sihat, and i know i will love this baby so much but there are times where i think about how much my life would change after having a child and how much responsibilities there are, and i fear that i might not be ready. After listening to your podcast, All of you ajar i untuk lebih LEBIH lagi bersyukur, sebab betul lah rezeki datang dalm banyak bentuk, some dah ada rumah sendiri, ada stable jobs, dah kaya, etc. And for me, even when i tak dapat lagi rezeki yang i plan in my mind, Allah masih limpahkan rezeki dalam bentuk2 lain, syukur Alhamdulillah. Thank you guys, semoga korang sentiasa tergolong dalam orang2 yang beriman, dipermudahkan urusan & dimurahkan rezeki. Podcast macam ni lah yang netizen kat Malaysia perlukan, beneficial for everyone.

Ada satu cerita from my circle of friends. Anak 4orang. Alhamdulillah smua kerja bagus dn sudh berkahwin. Takdir Allah SWT. Suami mninggal.. dan si ibu jatuh sakit selepas beberapa tahun kemudian. Harta bnyak. Tapi.. beliau trpaksa tnggal di rumah orang tua sbb anak2 sibuk kerja tak ada siapa jaga. Takdir Allah SWT jugak..si ibu mninggal di rumah orang tua trsebut baru beberapa bulan lepas. … Moral of the story: I always said to sape2 yg blom allah kurniakn rezeki zuriat kturunn… Sntiasa sebut “Alhamdulillah” sbb kamu tak ada dosa dgn anak2. Meanwhile, kami yg ada anak2 kami bnyk dosa dgn mereka dan mereka juga berbuat dosa dgn kami. Semua terletak pada ujian yg allah berikan. … Kepada yg sudah jadi ibubapa..Alhamdulillah Tahniah..didiklah anak2 dgn ilmu agama, adab & akhlak. .. Kepada yg blum dikurniakan rezeki ada anak. Saya doakan kalian akan diberi rezeki zuriat keturunan soleh&solehah pada masa yg tepat seperti janji Allah. Allahumma Aminn.

My wife and I are currently in our six years in marriage, still waiting for our first. What a journey we had, been filled with happiness and emotional turmoil. Draining our savings and even sell the house just to afford treatment and unfortunately went through depression. Despite it all, alhamdulillah for this journey. Thank you so much for your podcasts, I’ve been following your podcasts for quite some time. I find them inspiring and uplifting, keeping me moving forward. Thank you and thank you so much. Love from Malaysia ❤

We're in the same shoes n im crying so much. This is not an easy journey but i believe Allah Maha Baik. One fine day. After we go thru frustration of unsuccessful ivf, we took a rest. What im trying to do now is to live my life to the fullest and i want to prepare myself to be ready. "Barulah Allah yakin nk bg kita tanggung jawab"(I don't know if it is good or not to say this) but this is what im telling myself. I need to be a good version of me by not focusing on zuriat only but my connection with Allah, manusia, sedekah n with other form of nikmat yg Dia bg. We need to change our point of view of this test n we will see the beauty of it. insyaAllah ❤

😭😭😭😭😭 MashaAllah. Sedihnye!! U all stay strong k? I will always doakan both couple to get a chance to be a parents soon

Allahurabbi. Banyak ye airmata aku turun tgk content ni. Moga Allah hadirkan rezeki zuriat yg soleh dan solehah utk kita para ttc pada tahun ini. Aamiin ya mujib 🤲🏻🤍. Kite semua kuat 🫂. #ttc3years

I also have 1 friend, her husband just like raihan also kena makan ubat doktor and husb dy ada makan madu khalta .then they go spend money for ivf then before the last step kuasa Allah, my friend got pregnant naturally. Alhamdulillah, bila kita redha and just follow the flow Allah terus bagi. Allah bagi di waktu yg tepat. While me still not yet, ttc 3 years. Sy doakan untuk semua para ttc just like me dikurniakan zuriat anak yg soleh dan solehah. Yakin dengan Allah

Sy dan suami pon masih TTC after ank prtama kami mninggal dlm kndungn thn 2021. Sometimes at that point dtg trlintas, if Aku xdpt bg suami anak redha ke Aku utk bg suami kawin lain. Tapi suami slalu positif dn bg kata2 smngt utk Terus cuba

We’ll get our angel this year. Keep believing ❤️🌸

The bestttt episode so far . Selalunya , kita x nampak perspective of man . What they are truly feel when they are broke inside . Btw, pleaseee provide a tissue kt atas mejaaa tuuu haahaahah i mcm nk bgi je tissue tu dekat guest !! 😂

This podcast had me crying at " Alhamdulillah anak kau sakit".. im been TTC for 2.5 y++ before...lama jugaa nak tunggu tu. Tapi skrg bila ada anak, sakit pun kadang questioned takdir kenapa anak aku selalu sakit? Kenapa asyik aku jek EL?Kenapa laaa tak bersyukuur.. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭.

Mashallah, my heart goes to all of u especially Fara. I may not be in ur predicament but ujian kita berbeza-beza tapi matlamat dia cuma 1, that is to 'yakin' with takdir Allah. And kalau dia rasa it is good for us, Allah akan beri pada kita. And if it is not, then either blm masanya, atau ditunda or Allah nak gantikan dgn yg lagi baik. And blajar untuk bersyukur dengan segalanya, even the little things. Inshallah. Saya doa Allah akan kurniakan Yanto and wifey zuriat di tahun 2024. Begutu jugak Raihan and wifey, semoga Allah kurniakan cahaya mata di tahun 2024. Inshallah Allahuma ameen 🤲🥰

Hi. Just a suggestion probably you guys could invite Dawn Prima Ria couple to share her IVF stories 🎉

mulut ckp yakin,redha tp klu da ddk kt tmpt TTC smua tu x mudah..

I love the amount of vulnerability is shown in this video. I cried through this podcast all the way. I can't imagine how tough this must be for you guys. May Allah grant you all ease and happiness in building a good family one day. Ameen ❤️ Bless you❤️

i feel u but keep doa..insyaAllah..Allah know us better..

It is my first time to see this podcast and I am crying also sebab rasa benda yg sama tpy myself berada dlm posisi bila nak kawin. Why i still belum ada rezeki nak berjumpa dgn jodoh. Tapi i am okayyy 😢😊 semoga allah kurniakan kalian zuriat soleh dan solehah. Doakan saya juga semoga dipertemukan dgn jodoh yg soleh ❤

InsyaAllah one day u guys will have it. I myself, face it as im having problem with menses just come once yearly or never come at all but after 5 yrs waiting, Alhamdullillah i was given not 1 but 3(1-2 yrs apart) even without menses. Even dr says tht i cant have but dengan kuasa Allah, Alhamdullillah. Saya doakan u all out there who go thru this akan dikurniakan jua suatu hari nnti.

semoga kita semua yg menanti zuriat di kurniakan zuriat yg soleh solehah one day hug 🫂 each other now 🥹 I nangis the whole vd 😞 I feel you guys so much & baru I faham kenapa husb I excited & always expecting a pregnancy every month 😞

Im not even married yet but when i saw this, i keep on cry. May allah grant you a beautiful son and daughter, aamiin aamiin ❤️❤️❤️😭😭😭

Assalamualaikum. Mohon semua doakan untuk saya juga yang masih belum dikurniakan anak. perancangan Allah hebat. Mungkin ada hikmah yang menanti.

Mulut jahat biasanya datang dari si ibu² ( tak kisah la yg ibu muda/tua). Sampai hati sakitkan hati wanita lain dgn lisan dan perbuatan mereka walaupun punca tu datang dari para suami yg tak bekerjasama/ tidak subur. Lain penerimaan masyarakat terhadap wanita tak subur dengan lelaki tak subur.kalau dua2 sihat dan hubungan suami isteri tu baik je, cari lagi isu untuk sakitkan hati pasangan ttc ni. Contoh: "Untung la takde tanggungjawab, nak buat apa pun tak de yang ganggu. Ada duit je". Mungkin la kan si ibu² ni fikir, rezeki yg tuhan pinjamkan kepada mereka tu ,kekal milik mereka . Saya ttc tahun ke 6. Semakin lama keinginan tu makin tiada.

Terbaik…good sharing..just yakin dengan rezeki Allah SWT.. The day will come.. just dont stop usaha doa dan tawakal…ive been through this situation for the past 5 years with my wife..and finally this year my daughter was born… rezeki Allah tu akan tiba x lambat, x cepat tapi tepat pada masanya…Semoga dipermudahkan urusan dan dimurahkan rezeki utk menimang cahaya mata..aminnn

I love your podcast ! This episode really make me in tears 😢 Its so hard for being a TTC for 2 years . Memang senang cakap, suruh yakin dan sabar. Tapi nak act tu memang susah. Thank you for the podcast ! I feel so relieved 😊 Feels so comfort like friends talking about the same problems ❤

i’m not even married or ttc but this podcast made me cry. semoga Allah SWT permudahkan urusan for you guys.

I cried badly during this podcast😭😭😭 even my hingus keep keluar😭😭😭😭 i also ttc for 3 yearsss

Is not like we not happy for others, kita just feel jealous and asking ourself why.. why org lain senang je ada baby and yet we trying we not giving the chance yet😢

I always tell myself "Allah knows, Allah listens, Allah sees". He will give at the right time. I have my 1st at the age of 25 now he is 12 and wanting to have brother/sister. Trying for 6years now, went for all sorts of tests, injections, really took a toll on my mental & emotional health. I have a friend who have been trying for 12 years now and still trying. ALLAH KNOWS BEST. Teruskan usaha, doa jangan putus, solat malam, mengadu pd Allah, solat hajat, sedekah inshaa Allah, Allah akan hadirkan permata yg dinanti❤

This podcast makes me look this life into different perspective. I'm reading the comments here, too. Not yet married, but I wanted too. Just like you guys said, Yakin dan syukur itu susah. Selepas banyak kali mencuba, berapa banyak peratus keyakinan itu tinggal? Syukur itu paling susah. Dengan pelbagai nikmat yang Allah dah bagi, cuma bila Dia tidak memberikan perkara yang paling kita inginkan, terus, segala nikmat yang diberi itu, ditolak ketepi. Allahu! Sayalah tu. Mendengar podcast dan membaca komen-komen, terus membuatkan saya tersedar! Buat Fara & husband, Raihan & wife, dan mereka yang menempuh ujian, semoga Allah kurniakan kesabaran yang tinggi. Semoga Allah mekarkan kasih sayang antara kalian dan sampai saat Allah membenarkan, kuatkan yakin. Amin Ya Allah.

May both of you and raihan-doa for you all..May allah make you become parents one day as I also experience the pain..I and my wife got my first son after 5 year iui den after 7 year later we tried 3 time ivf to get second daughter..dont give up hope and stay united with each other for this marriage journey..may Allah ease your worries in this life.

I have been married for 12 years. Alhamdullilah. Had many pregnancies but all resulted in miscarriages. Just keep faith that Allah is the best planner of all. I keep telling myself it is ok - Allah knows best even though I am broken. But yes He knows and come what may, it will eventually work out. In shaa Allah.

Berair mata… Teringat cousin dah 10 tahun kahwin and adiknya pun dah masuk tahun ke 5 masih belum dikurniakan anak. Semoga tahun 2024 ni mereka dikurniakan anak. Aminn..

Pleaseee do the next episode for this topic with raihan wife also...

I am crying. 😢

Im ttc 8 my at 2024, pernah keguguran time 4y marriage, so now saya masih mencuba mencuba, dan now i have diabetis so doc kata susah sgt2 nak prgnant, lagi hancur remuk, mohon semua doakan saya😭😭😭,

What if the problem actually from your wife? Would u stay or find someone else?

Really love this topic atleast can relief my feelings towards how badly i wanted a kids for my marriage. This month we both already 7years of waiting & still waiting & YAKIN. Rezeki Allah sangatttttt luas ibarat laut yang penuh dengan ikan. & we both will never choose to die because of lapar. Semoga ALLAH MAHA BAIK beri kesempatan buat Yanto & Fara. Raihan & Wife. Myself & husband untuk merasai nikmat sebagai parent in this world. Keep strong, We cried a lot already. Big hugs for you guys & all ttc couple. Love you guys. I will keep support OUTSIDEIN. Love from malaysia 🥰

Siapa Ya guest ni?

This podcast reminded me of Ali Imran 3:35. Where the wife of Imran (Maryam AS's mother) was praying to Allah, to dedicate whatever was in her womb to Allah. An ustazah used to share, actually she had waited for so long and she did not know that she was already pregnant at that time. She just made the dua, with full reliance on Allah, that she really wanted a child and she would dedicate her/him to Allah. MasyaAllah! May the moment of grief that all the TTC couples are experiencing would be rewarded in abundance. May Allah grant you guys beautiful children. Aameen ❤

I totally agree with them.. Its actually very easy to say and its very hard for those individuals going through this.. I work in this line for close to 20 yrs and I see loads of similar cases.. Every time i have patients like this, i will always give them encouragements... It will nt work easily instantly but you really have to have faith ,patiemce and keyakinan.. Its very hurting at times when we see cases that dont succeed. But miracles happen... I have patients that only after 10yrs even 15 yrs to get a baby... The main thing is nvr give up and support from each other is crutial .. Insyallah i doakan you guys have miracles happen insyallah soon... ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ always stay positive guys!!

Sedap lah bunyi mic semua, mcm smooth. Mic apa tu?

whats an emotional episode 😭 full of tears.....

For the ending of the podcast - InshAllah may Allah give the rezeki at the perfect time ameen ameen ameen

tiktok brings me here ❤

episode ni best sangat dengan guest dan host yg sama ii feel the urge to get kids tu 😢 i yang belum kahwin pun ikut nangis sekali, terima kasih outside in 🎉

Allah know when d time is right. We've been waiting 6 yrs. n now we have 2 kids. Alhamdulillah ❤

Thank you for sharing this tender moment with us. May Allah ease your journey and give you hikmah n barakah in everything you go through.

Smg Allah mengurniakan kalian zuriat yg soleh dan soleha.. aamin ❤️

Understand so much 😢

Saw someone repost this podcast on twitter and it really touched my heart❤

❤ semoga Allah mengurniakan rezeki zuriat

i cried

Im crying 😭

crying😢..

😢

MashaAllah....me and my husband went tru same journey. We married at 33, same age on 2017. Yes a bit late. But its jodoh..alhamdulilah.. since then we been trying. After 1 year we went to see Doctor get consult and do tests . We been to 3 Dr from 2018 , and did our first IUI on 2020, alhamdulilah, got positive results, but only last for 8weeks. Sad but feel happy at same time cause we know we can try again and it is possible for us. Apr 2021 we tried again, alhamdulilah he is 26month now. What I can share is, be supportive with each other. Share our thoughts with partner. Get understanding ,and be on same page , even just 2 of us until end, we will cherish it. Most improtant....husnuzon. bersangka baik dengan Allah..Allah know when is the best time ,when is the right time. Just have faith and husnuzon. Be happy to others, and keep praying. Of couse I always pray for anyone and everyone who is on TTC journey. ❤❤❤

I'm crying so bad rn. Banjir sudah 🥹