What If You Married The Wrong Person? 

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I was in a previous engagement. Made the dumb mistake of buying a house together prior to marriage. The relationship was a nightmare! Left her and lost so much money, but I had the biggest smile on my face! Now I sit and think that if I hadn’t left, I would have never met my beautiful wife!

WOW! I am in tears.😢 After 28 years in the wrong marriage, I got divorced. I knew more than 10 years before I ended it, that it was over. Thank you for this; I must share.

You spoke nothing but the truth. "People secretly are in miserable marriages." Great video!

People don't talk about this topic enough...refreshing to hear such a similar situation. You do everything and it just doesn't work. Let it go, heal and live in truth. Life is too short ....God didn't put a lot of these marriages together. Do the work necessary and free yourself

No matter the age there's love after a divorce!

After being married and now divorced. We often say we married the wrong person.. from experience I’ll say this.... you married the wrong person for you. Doesn’t mean their wrong for someone else.

That pressure is so real!! We are told marriage is hard work... it shouldn’t be miserable, it’s effort, it shouldnt be suffering and hard work all the time, I felt obligated to go through with the wedding because a lot of people were there and I didn’t want to let them down, I felt obligated because we had a child and my family said stay and make it work for my family... I was loyal even though I wasn’t happy. I knew going into the relationship we weren’t supposed to be long term.. every time we broke up I felt bad because “I was breaking up the family” and went back... we were totally opposite and I went to counseling before the wedding and I told the counselor well opposites attract right? She said they do, but ppl with like interests and similarities stay together... I was like well 😩 now what.. there was a lot of pressure to MAKE it work.. my mom always said if it don’t fit don’t force it... I absolutely commend people who say no to marriage proposals because they just know it won’t work or to men who’ve been with good women but don’t propose because they know that woman isn’t his wife... I wasn’t strong enough to say no although I know it wasn’t supposed to be. And it doesn’t mean my ex was a horrible person.. we were not compatible.. and I forced something that wasn’t supposed to fit. Wishing him future love and happiness and partnership with someone that’s for him. Everything you said resonates... everything!!

This spoke to me. This was me from age 20- just before my 29th birthday. I literally felt drained trying to make it work. As soon as i left i felt lighter and motivated. I'm now 30 and training in a new career!

God doesn't want us to be miserable. Peace, joy and forgiveness. This forgiveness from ourselves for ourselves. God forgave us already.

This is so true! I knew within the first 6 months, but because we had spent so much on the wedding I stayed and hoped it would get better and it never did. Married 6 years and finally got the strength to leave. Thank God my son is just a toddler.

I waited for the kids to grow up and started over . It’s amazing how much pressure you learn to live under but once your free and your healing comes 🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊

Your story relates so much like mine, i was married at 21, had 2 children and never felt fullfiled inside! 10 years later, I decided to divorce a year ago and everyone is so much happier, we can actually communicate better and our kids 3 and 6 years old our happier without parents arguing all the time! It was for the better. Thank you for this video, I know I’m not alone!

My heart is breaking right now because I know you are telling the truth

Listening on 8/2020 and is so real, I wait for 20 years, feeling guilty for the decision of divorce, but now after 11 years of being divorce, I thank God for the decision, not caring what people thinks but to really cares what God want for me, respect and self esteem. Waiting for the one God have for me.

I left my ex fiancé and that was the best(not one of) decision of my life! I dodged such a huge bullet and I would have never met the amazing women I’m with now!

This is the realest I've listened to about marriage. Others make you feel that your first marriage should be your forever when in fact it wasn't from God and there's nothing wrong with that. Sometimes people don't reveal themselves until marriage.

People make mistakes and God knows this. If a person bought a bad car, how many of you would keep pouring money and time into trying to fix something that is simply unfixable? I'm not saying to not try to fix the marriage, but at some point, if the two parties can't live in peace, move on.

I admit I have made a mistake.....I am not happy.....Thank you so much for your words of wisdom

It be the devil trying to get you to want to stay in a bad relationship. Also the devil wants you to feel ashamed about you being single in your season.

I needed this. Thank you for your honesty. Trying to leave. Moved out in 6 months of marriage trying to divorce soon while it's 11 months marriage

Totally agree. I married at 21 and now looking back after 29 years , I would have made different choices.

So glad to hear this testimony, for I felt so guilty after my divorce. You ask yourself what I should’ve, would’ve, could’ve done differently because of my faith also.. thank you so much for sharing. Confirming I did do the right thing. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

I got myself out of that toxic relationship it took me 9 Year's and I have 2 kid's but I'm so glad I didn't get married to they father because that was the wrong person and I hate it took me so long to get out but when that soul thes is real but now i got a wonderful God fearing man I'm with now he's my soulmate and the one that God sent to me and my life is better than ever before and I thank him everyday for sending him my way..

I needed to hear this. I am going through this right now. I was married at 23 years old and I knew within the first year that it was not for me. Then five years in I wanted to divorce but because I was in Church I decided to stay and stick it out. Now going into 22 years married and discovered a while back that my husband is a covert narc. I always felt that something was wrong with him but did not know what it was.

Ultimately people ignore the spirit telling them No! Most people put themselves together then God!

Rebecca this was the one I absolutely needed. It felt like the truth was staring me in the mirror and I needed to just acknowledge and be okay with that. THANK YOU

😢😢😢 you don’t know how much I needed to hear this..thank you

When you changed the camera around and said the light was making you look dark, I felt God put it on my heart to tell you that you are beautiful and dark is beautiful 💗✌🏼 It's ok to look dark 😊💕

Your story is also my testimony. At 37yrs old I am now starting over again after surviving a very toxic 13 yr marriage with two kids. Thank God for second chances and a peace of mind 🙌

I needed to hear this. I married the guy I had my first relationship with at the age of 14. And because I was nieve and not my own individual I agreed and went along with everything he said and did. Now that I ask questions and highlight behaviors it's always a quarrel. I used to be able to talk to him about anything, now he blows up on me. And whenever we're talking/ quarreling about an issue he is always telling me I'm wrong and crazy and the newest title is I'm wicked, and changing the topic. He fails to see my point of view in anything only his logical reasons matter. When I asked if he will go to counseling he said if I have a problem let me go fix myself. I'm now 33years with 2 children and seriously considering divorce.

This is exactly my story! Got married at 23 to my wife who was 22. I had only dated one persons and she never dated anyone. We are 10 years into marriage with 2 children And are at a point where the relationship needs to be ended. I believe both of us are too afraid and not ready to deal with that. Sex and intimacy have been an issue since day one and in pre-marriage counseling sex was never addressed other than her saying “it will be fine once we are married.”

This is meant for me with every word God gave you here. Thankyou

But think of all the people that marry the wrong person but have nowhere to go. They can't afford to move out/lose the house. They put everything into the marriage. What do they do now?

Thank you so much for this video! Just recently got married less than 1 month ago and it is all wrong

What if you can’t divorce due to finances? I feel so trapped 😢

Thank you soooooo much Rebecca! This message really encouraged and touched me! I am now looking forward to the future and expectant of fruitfulness that will enter my life!!

7 yrs.. I've tried everything.. I've given everything.. I'm ready to pull the plug.

Wow! I literally searched for this question and listening to you makes me feel so good; because I'm in that situation right now! And you literally explained how I feel. I've been feeling so guilty about having to walk away but I can say, this gives me so much courage and confidence. I have felt really understood from this. Thank you so much dearie. Bless you ❤️

I can relate to this because I'm presently in a similar situation, where I'm married to someone that's totally out of frequency with me. Obviously I never dated her, never knew her in the past cos I was woking abroad. she was suggested by my sister and I bought into the idea of marrying her seeing she was tall and beautiful. Finally I met her and in a flash got married to her. Later I found out she's empty headed and completely useless to my journey in life. I'm a christian and I do not believe in divorce but my fear is how I'm going to navigate life with this sort of person.

I agree with much of what you said from experience, but also the way we are raising our children. They should be more solid in who they are before they turn 30.

Have been in the wrong marriage for 2 years with a kid but I find it so difficult to move on

Rebecca...I'm so happy for you GOD is good

Love watching this video. Just reminds me that I was right about leaving that clown. You'll be sick with cancer or something fooling around with these energy zappers. Hallelujah for good marriages.

God should be left out of the discussion of divorce. God is against it period. All this talk about God not "putting this marriage together" is erroneous because while God instituted marriage, he does not cosmically play matchmaker to suite compatibility. He only said don't yoke yourself with unbelievers. It sucks for people to be in a bad marriage, but we made the choice. Compatibility is something that you vet for in the beginning of getting to know the person your going to marry. And if u marry that person, there had to be compatibility right? If not, then what was it? A lot of people get married in a broken and unhealed state and will marry someone they know that has undesirable characteristics that they cannot rock with in the long run, but they still go ahead and do it. Guess what? That was your decision! So don't come later with the God talk of him not putting it together and then want to divorce based on your poor choice. Leave God out of it. He gave us discernment for a reason. Tap into that and use it.

In this situation right now.. Lord Jesus

The only security is non-marrying..,

Wow......Its been 8 years.....😢😢

God lam crying stayed for almost 30 years with to kids i married in my 20s please make up your mind now

What to get out,no income ,no where to go

"Love letters to my son" my book, check it out.

my dad is in the process of divorcing my mum, but its causing a lot of tension in the congregation, my dad is feeling really ashamed but he knows he can't stay married with my mum. is there anything in the bible that says when divorce is okay other than for adultery?

Omg your video discribed my life and my marriage..... 16 years of marriage and it's not working.... I searched for Christian counseling to save my marriage......and SHE puts me as a bad husband putting the dirty laundry out..... instead, I was talking with "pastors" to save my marriage..... no intimacy, no Sex, no congruent future plans together or same future plans..... we sleep separately (she says God hates remarriage and divorxe) you cannot leave me God hates divorce and what God has United no man no one can separate it..... not to mention that she is completely into end time propheciies madnes do not plan for anything or do not send your kids to school because we are all going to die and explode.......and Doom and Gloom END times disaster no hopes for anything no plans for anything just hold food AND WATER for the END.... She even lifted her hand and HIT me many times...... The ens of your video just killed me.... There is HOPE....... Yahshua help me .......

You got lucky. My ex and I split up after 9 years of marriage and 2 kids(6 and 3).He got into a relationship with someone with a 4 year old. Had a child with her and after a couple of years the relationship ended. We were not compatible but they shared similar interests. They were soulmates. So it proves that a failed marriage is not just a matter of marrying the wrong person.

You are talking about my life....OMG.....

Never married yet..I'm 65 yrs. Old and I feel great..would love to marry but waiting on God First...He hasn't told me anything yet and I am waiting on direction..I love my independence...but Its important that he loves God before loving me...I will be 66 in July and I'm not worried...I'm happy being single most days but my life is in the Lords hand....People wonder how I do it...staying single....I ask God to crucify My flesh and he has for years and I am a proud Christian single and I look good and stay busy...How to meet u in Chgo...

Just cause a person is unhappy in a marriage is not enough for divorce.. Now you are saying to the world that your set of standards are above GODs standards.. emotions can lie and lead you the wrong way.. GOD has never lead anyone into destruction, mankind’s thinking has. BE VERY CAREFUL sister what you say to the public. You might mislead someone to lean on their own thinking instead of GODs thinking..

So true. This is so good ‼️

Thank you!

At this rate all marriages are doomed then justify it by saying the will of god to remarry smh. You just wanted somebody else

I needed this video God bless you!

I don't understand. How do u marry the wrong person? Did u not vet them properly before marriage? Outside of your partner cheating, or having an addiction, I don't understand. Prior to marriage, did yall agree on how to spend money, how many kids to have and how to raise them, how to treat the in laws and religion? If u agreed on these 5 things (fidelity, money, in laws, kids and religion), then what else could there be (other than addiction and abuse)?

Thank you for making me feel better in the world full of the "red pill/blue pill" opinion.

Rebecca Lynn Pope, thank you for sharing, this was meant for me.

I agree 100%.

I felt this❤️thankyou

Hi Jane ~ how many days a week do I do this workout and shall I have a rest day every other day or only on the weekends? Thank you!

Marriage is a great deal for women. Either way you win financially

By the how old are you now in 2020 Rebecca??. Just curious!! From Reading, UK.......you really inspire me in taking some tough actions in my Life.

Sometimes cute "good guys" say they married the wrong person to seduce you into feeling ok about having an affair with them. It is horrible.

Glad your satisfied, at peace and happy now...

My sister as a divorcee myself with three children from that marriage I find it strange that as believers if it's safe to assume you and first husband went to premarital counseling before you said I do if so how come you didn't realize he wasn't good for you then, basically GODS law and word never changes unless of fornication which is adultry for married couple there is no excuse for divorce, not being happy does not apply and to sit on the internet space and make GODS word to be a lie is heresy and in my opinion you need to repent cause in my view based off what you said you may have become a stumbling block to viewers who just heard this feed, I pray and hope my wife doesn't hear this type of foolishness to give her the excuse that you are giving the people on the internet. Be bless in the LORD just my view

U R THE HOPE GOD BLESS U!!![999]

🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼Thank you

I did it 3 times. But l was a pagan. We men can be so stupid..lol

Thanks

I’m late but watching a lot of your videos! Idk Rebecca, I am very late on finding my match! I’m 34 now. I think it is too late tbh!

Ok now do a video that you spend as much time talking about right marriages 💑 signs of compatibility and being equally yoked

So true

Interesting, MANY who marry already know that going down the aisle 'this shit ain't gon work, what da fugg am I doing' but you've made all these gastronomical high-priced wedding plans...so very sad. IF we stop making marriage out to be some kind of prize or reward, maybe we will stop fantasizing, romanticizing and WORSHIPPING marriage. This is what happens when you make marriage YOUR IDOL...and we know how God feels about idolatry, don't we? Good luck to everyone. Life is hard enough and filled with enough challenges. Stop listening to folks telling you YOU NEED TO BE MARRIED. Nothing is wrong with marriage. Nothing is wrong with a shoe either...except when it is not the right size: too big, too small, does your feet nor your NO GOOD. IJS.....

I knew 3-4 months in. 3 kids, 15 years after I was drained, exhausted and severely damaged. It's been 10 years later and I am still healing.

I knew the day I got married that I was making a terrible mistake but I did it anyway and I will always regret it

I hear that a lot of married couples knew they shouldn’t have been married to their spouse at the alter or a few months into the marriage. I just got divorced this year. I pray I find the love and peace that God intended Marriage to be.

Wow this spoke to my soul I can't believe it. I'm 30 as well now and going through my own divorce after 3 years of marriage. Being married was a choice that I made from having a child with my 6 year best friend at the time. I didn't want our kid to be out of wedlock so I felt it was the right thing to do. However I knew from a few months of living with each other for the 1st time that something was really wrong. And that wrong feeling carried on the whole 3 years. As crazy as it sounds I'm grateful for my experience because I've learned a lot and I'm a much better person going forward.

So glad I found this. This gave me the clarity that I needed on letting a marriage go that has been very depressing. I am not happy and it hasn’t been a year yet, which will be next month. However, at 32, I refuse to go another year or even ten years miserable. Thank you for blessing us with your story.

Interestingly maybe you had to spend that 10 years in that relationship because you would have never accomplished what you’ve accomplished and would have not known how good this second relationship is. I’d say for women 30+ and men 35+ based on what I’ve seen around me.

I stayed in a relationship after he cheated got married, married for ten years he cheated again I divorced last August I'm glad and I'm free God Bless.

When I filed for divorce, my ex mother in law was upset that I wanted to divorce her son. I wasn't happy because of his infidelity and now he has no contact with my daughters and he married his mistress. (I also married at a young age-24)

My first marriage ended because I knew going in that we weren’t the right fit for one another. There was absolutely nothing that I could do to change him. It was difficult at first, but I do not regret leaving the marriage. My 2nd husband was a much better fit and we built a great life together before he passed 2 years ago.

one day I realized,"why am I looking to someone else to make me happy? How am I honoring God by sitting and simmering in misery and bitterness?" '

This message was meant for me. 13 years in a marriage I should've ended year 2.

" I knew going in, going down the aisle, 2 years in, etc... it was a mistake" I have heard this sooooo many MANY times.

Thank you for this honest and transparent conversation, Mrs. Pope. There are a lot of people (quiet as it's kept) who have married the wrong person and are trying to "stick it out" despite the major issues and the fact that they are incompatible.

This is great because churches are teaching that one has to stay.... People are living in such insanity, unhappiness, and pure hell in some circumstances. Being in these circumstances brings a delay in the way one should be going.... God never said we are suppose to live like. Sometimes people are goaded into staying and living in the pressure and demands,,,, God help if youre from a family who is rooted in ministry..OMG...them the other dynamic of "appearances" come into play... People need this...People are being delayed for no reason when one needs to get OUT....It's between yourself and God. People don't have to live with that and they aren't walking in the other shoes...

This is the realest video regarding divorce from a Christian woman I’ve seen after watching about 50 videos. Thank you 🙏🏽

I received this message. Been there and working on me so I will be ready again for the marriage I’m supposed to be in.

I was 25 when I got married and I knew after the honeymoon, I made a poor choice. The red flags appeared before I was married. I'm now divorced and a single mom to 4 kids. Much better off.

This video hit hard for those of us on the edge.

I can relate. I married at 25 to my college sweetheart right after finishing graduate school. I saw the signs before marriage during premarital counseling but ignored them since we had been together 7 yrs. After a few months in, I knew it was not going to work. I stayed for 3 years. Luckily, we did not have kids. I sold our home before leaving, and so we had no financial ties. No regrets in divorcing.

My last relationship lasted 16 years should have left sooner unfortunately he pass away suddenly while in the relationship it was a sad day of my life but I wouldn’t have find the man who I’m suppose to be with and who is open to marriage It was devastating the relationship ended in tragedy. God definitely had something better for me, I believe things happen for a reason. Im in a happy space with my new man with a plan. Thank you for sharing a plan. I own this ❤️