same! i never saw anything wrong with whoopi goldberg or viola davis until i made this youtube channel and unambiguous women got mad that i used them as examples of monoracial women. i was like wait whats wrong with whoopi and viola? anyway so now i try to include other DSBW on here as examples. but its like, your internalized inferiority complex isnt my problem. i wouldve never viewed my favorite actress viola davis as ugly had BW not mentioned it in my comments section.
I totally agree with you when it comes to supporting large black women's spaces. I also used to support channels like chrissie, eloho, etc., but then I had to stop because of the hate being expressed against mixed women. Im so happy I found a space where we exoticals are supported.☺💁🏽♀
They see us as the enemy bc we're the "preferences"... even when we try to tell them being fetishized by ANY group of men isn't a flex, they still act like we DESERVE to be mistreated, but want all the sympathy when THEY'RE mistreated by the same men. Smh.
I had a dark skinned black guy come up to me at work and ask me “what i’m mixed with” didnt even bother to at least ask my name or how my day was. Just interrupts my break. I just told him “i have some native indian and white in me” then he proceeded to call me pretty and say i had “good hair” . Then a Somalian lady at my job asked me if i was Somalian too 😂 Ironically enough my dad looks VERY Somalian.
LMFAO omg that reminds me of the UABM who did the same thing at that job. Didn’t even ask my name or anything until after I told him my racial background
This happened to me a couple of weeks ago when I was going home after school. I share a seat with a mono racial girl on the school bus and on that day I had my hair out. I would say my hair texture is 3c/4a and long enough where it goes down my back. She complimented my hair by saying it was nice, then proceeded to tell me that my hair is different from a black person. I asked her what she meant by that and she said that back in the day I would’ve been a house slave while she’ll be on the fields. I was taken aback by that comment but I wasn’t surprised either because when she talks about herself she basically says she’s ugly, and her hair is a hot mess because she wears “protective” styles in her head for 4-5 months. I also remember one time she asked me how mixed I was I told her I didn’t know, then she proceeded to say that I’m probably like 66% black and I must be mixed with something else. It’s gotten to the point where I don’t engage in conversations with her as often anymore because of the things she’s said to me. Lastly I remember I didn’t go to school one day so the next day when she saw me she told me that our white bus driver mistaken her for me and she said it like she was proud that he thought she was me. When I get older I plan on taking a ancestry test so I can find out how I can identify myself. I have more stories to share with you all on this channel thank you for reading my comment!
I need BP to stop bringing up house and field slaves as if they were there. Slaves went wherever they were told to. And not every LS 'straight haired' slave was related to their current masters who often sold and bought from everywhere. They act like LS slaves got their freedom before they did. Slavery is slavery. This 'you got a bigger piece of chicken den me!' has to stop.
Please protect your self if you can. I don’t want you to be paranoid but sometimes girls like her can become dangerous or sneaky. Please be aware of your surroundings ❤
I have curly reddish brown 3C/4A hair. It is shoulder length and today I decided to wear it wild and natural. I was doing errands and this older white lady stopped me and said "Your hair is gorgeous! It looks so beautiful in the sunlight !" ☺ I love being exotical!
@@ExoticalsUnited Yeah it's long overdue though! I was made to think I was ugly and weird-looking growing up (it was not until I entered puberty and boys and men started to love my looks that I began to realize they were just being jealous!) I grew up around dark-skinned black girls (mostly from the Caribbean and in my experience Caribbean blacks are the most colorist/suspicious of light skinned black and mixed people) and they dragged me so hard for my hair color, light skin and freckles. I hated myself growing up. My father (dark skinned black man) came to school and the next day the kids asked me if I had been adopted from a white family. They called me "Casper" and "white girl" and "Annie" and "white bitch." On top of that I was really smart and geeky and had the nerve to enjoy reading, care about my education and want to go to college so I was accused of "acting", sounding and wanting to be white no matter how hard I tried to fit in and be "black" whatever that means. Aww it brings tears to my eyes thinking about it. Did you have similar experiences growing up with dark skinned black girls?
Love Love LOVE this channel. My mom is black African American and my dad is white Italian American and I used to listen to BWE content bc I realized I had a lot of negative similar experiences when dating DS males. But whenever I would give my opinion in these spaces, I'd get disrespected. I was trying to form a sisterhood with some of these women & they had absolutely no sympathy. I was gravitating towards some divestment content bc I would think they'd welcome mixed race women considering they date interracially, but that definitely isn't the case. So I'm glad there are channels and spaces like this that we can relate to.
What’s also cringey is having two Black parents and people consistently asking me if I am mixed because I have the quote on quote “mixed girl look” and when I politely decline and say I have two Black parents, I’m being told idk what I am. Like you can’t win in the community, and OF course I’m not 100% from Africa but still…. What Black person in America is?!?
No offense bt if that u in the profile pic u don’t look mixed AT ALL u look black and ur darker brown ur features look completely blk so idk where u think have the “mixed girl look” even tho u a blk girl….😅😅
If that’s you in the profile picture you do not look mixed you look black af we can tell you have two black parents your not exotical your boarder line dark skin and your features are Afrocentric 💀💀
My dark skin housemate just tried to call me dark skin. I have told her multiple times and showed her pictures that I am light skin. Just because I can tan doesn't make me dark. I am naturally as light as I am in my profile picture. I am so sick of people calling me dark. That is why I use this picture for my profile. It's one of the few pictures I have without a tan. My tan is why everyone always tells me that I dont look mixed. I have a smaller nose and smaller lips than full black west africans. I have lighter skin and 3c hair. Yet they still won't admit that I look mixed.
Oh that’s just gaslighting. Most of us have been called “dark skinned” or my favorite, “brown skinned” by people trying to not let us identify our own skin tones
@@ExoticalsUnitedoooll I kinda understand cuz I’m not EXACLY lightskin I’m like light brown caramel bt some ppl do consider me light skin bt I find it funny how some blk ppl are delusional with skin tone n want to pick who they choose to be light skinned or something like they even seem jealous of us caramel tones and want to call us dark or mocha even chocolate like to humble us or something when it’s like I’m literally caramel closer to light skin it’s like they wanna darken u up on purpose cuz they don’t wanna consider u light skin or something? I can’t explain it bt I see the envy even with my complexion n how they knw damn well I’m not chocolate or “dark” bt some ppl will try n make ppl who are my skintone darker than wat we actually are
You should do a video on tyla the girl who came out with the song water, it’s very popular right now. Tyla is mixed race and from South Africa so shes colored. She hasn’t claimed blackness and she goes by being mixed but guess who is trying to put her into the black category and say she represents all black women? Black people. Tyla is very mixed passing because she is mixed or mgm. It just angers me how we finally have a mgm that identifies as such but black Americans specifically are trying to claim her and force her into the black box, and then will get mad that she becomes the preferred “face of black women” instead of a real black woman.
I’ve been watching and listening to Tyla . Do you know where they’re trying to claim her so I can research it ? Like tik tok, Instagram etc? I searched Tyla on lipstick alley to make a video but I haven’t seen anything yet
I don't think a lot of black Americans realize that "Coloured" is an actual ethnicity in South Africa and it's not something they considered bad. Trevor Noah considers himself a Coloured person. I don't like the fact that mixed people aren't given another option other than black and have to deny their loved ones who aren't.
@@hummingbirdofgumption3263 I think for black people specifically black women, they want mixed/biracial women to be grouped with them so that they can look good through our image while still demanding their image (unambiguous darkskin black women) to be put on the forefront. Then when that doesn’t happen and we are made up to be the more “palatable” black women because of our association with blackness and being mixed race, we are made out to be the bad guys! That’s why I brought up tyla because she literally is saying “I’m not black, I’m Zulu, and Indian!” But they are trying to get her to be the representation of black women, when no she is mixed race mgm!
Monoracial people don’t accept other mono-racial people I’ve been ostracized all my life. I don’t fit in neatly with other black ppl. There is so much nuance. I refer to my hair as wooly or cotton growing it out now after dealing with hormonal changes and eczema I have had to live a solitary existence because I’m not accepted by ppl who share my features. I’m happy to see some promote the mono features you mentioned but I wanted those features to be uplifted without tearing down others. To me competition is a masculine aspect that the dark skin platforms do because it’s all about the male gaze. Now when I listen to Chrissie I hear it. Decentering men is the cure for this problem because truthfully men don’t care as much about our competition they choose who they choose and if your not the one he wants nothing will get him interested men are very straight forward. I just discovered Decentering men and relationships concept and I’m doing what I can to implement it but seriously when you remove that nagging male gaze out the equation life becomes more peaceful. I like to use this acronym now W. I. T. C. H. Woman in total control of herself I’m a woman over 50 I have to find more meaning in my life than the validation of others and patriarchy is cruel to older women regardless of your complexion as you age.
I never said there wasn’t nuance . This content is for people who can relate to it. one video isn’t meant to describe an all encompassing black experience . my channel focuses on MLS people . How can I speak on the unambiguous experience if I’m not unambiguous. If the content isn’t relatable to you this may not be the community for you.
One of the biggest thing I have seen is sza, who lied about her freckles being real and her hair being real even though she wore clip ins. She did surgery to look exotic.
Im MGM mixed with Black, White, and Native American and all my life I've been assumed to be Puerto Rican, Dominican, or just half white half black. I had one white guy years ago at a bus stop ask me if I was Seminole bc of my nose. I told him he actually got it right! LOL! I'm mixed with Seminole and Cherokee...almost nobody guesses that that precisely!
I'm a conventional 80% African (65% West, 15% East and South), the other 20% European and Asian/Indigenous); only Filipinos, South Asians, and Spanish speakers really approach me.
I'm proud to be 54 % black and 27% Irish. I love my butter pecan skin and broad Ella Mai features. Since I was 4 years old people constantly ask me if my hazel brown eyes were colored contacts. In the past I been mistaken as a afro latina on multiple occasions some hisspanic people have walked up to me speaking spanish. Before the age of 10 my mono racial black mother would tell me that I'm a safe looking black. Whenever I wear afro textured hairstyles like braids people give me dirty looks and accuse me of stealing their hairstyles. Sadly when I wear braids, locs and twists people are very mean, rude,impatient and unhelpful towards me but if I wear my hair like Jan Brady I get treated in the opposite manner. I love benefiting from pretty girl privilege.
Omg same ! Whenever I wear more “black” hairstyles I actually get more animosity from black women, but when I go to curly blonde they don’t look at me anymore and humble themselves towards me sadly.
@@ExoticalsUnited 90% the time when I wear my hair in braids, or natural styles most all people responds well to it. When I wear my hair in headscarves I get the dirtiest looks. Even when I style them well and have my hair put together with it. It's annoying because I don't understand why anyone cares, it's not their head??
Idk who that woman is at 9:40 but she is very pretty. Her hair is very coarse and long. While her nose looks very pointed. But I have a feeling now when it comes to dark skin black women she probably has a lot of self hatred
Most west Africans are not Bantu, as most Bantus are from central Africa. West Africa especially from the Sahel , have a lot mixed ppl Black and Arab ... You are probably aware of the Fulani
I hear a lot of monoracials say that 25% doesn't count because African Americans are already mixed with everything when it's clearly not true except for colonial white. So, they claim Native, Asian, Euro even if there's no evidence. This is why like to include mixed women like Kimora Lee Simmons, Kamala Harris or any other mixed ethnicity to be a part of their "own" Black ethnicity as if all monoracials are black which somehow includes Korean and South Indian when it benefits them. They like to think they're exotical when they're not then get after actual exoticals for looking exotical. Make it make sense.
Most black people are not 25% European. Most of the dna test like ancestry and 23 and me include people who have any where from 1% black to 100% black and there are alot people from the north who are 25% 15% black with mostly non black ancestry. So it even and averages out. Most black people in america are very unambiguous black especially in the south where most black people live.
@@catwoman7694actually due to slavery, the average black person has between 20-25% European ancestry. Black referring to African Americans who’s ancestry stems from chattel slavery
It counts when that 25% shows in your features. They confuse me for being biracial all the time and I'm only 27% and that went straight to my complexion and facial features.
And no they do not consider Kimore or Kamalh as their own, nor Meagan Markle. They root for them at first then they tear down their features. My own dad (who has a White grandparent as well) said Kamala was Indian, PERIOD. I told him she looks like me and your niece and are we not Black?
Hi pretty girls ! I agree I use to subscribe to panels tik Tok that promoted BLK women's empowerment then when they would go take a sneak peek at my profile pic I could feel the energy shift almost immediately.. then someone would come back to panel and be like " um let me ask you this " and I'd be like uh oh ! 😢 tbh I felt hurt and outcast . But I kept coming back it felt like I was a "pick me " but for the BLK women's empowerment groups . Till I just got tired of kissing A*** and waking on egg shells it felt like I could sit at the table but not have an opinion .now I understand that if I am fetishized by the men of that sane community than I'm going to be hated or disliked from the women in that community. In other words the more that dark skin BLK men desire us the more we ought to enter into these spaces with cation if not at all . Added , I really was about the "community" till I realized the BLK men ( oh but of course ) wanted me to stay loyal to the "community" but always the BLK women would frown , smirk , gaslight , smear campaign and the list goes on ..and I think that the ONLY REASON why I never got into any real life drama with mono racial BLK women is because my great grand mother was a "colorist" and warned me early in life to be careful about who I choose to call my friends . She would literally tell me " are those girls you calling you're friends ( even cousins / family ) do they look like you ? I'd say nervously no. She's then say ", you fool you're gonna learn one day that they don't like you " it took me 40 years to finally get it and the the last few months of being in this community to see my great granny was NOT lying. Not one bit ! And yet my Nana herself was darker skinned . Who married an Irish man my great grandpa ! ❤❤❤
I always thought of myself as unambiguous black but my hair texture 4a/b warrants me getting thrown into different nationalities across the diaspora; typically Dominican,Panamanian or Somalian. Always been interesting to me… besides my hair texture I look just like everyone else in my family lol
My mom and dad are both darker than me but they both have admixture. My mom gets her dark complexion from her Afro-Puerto Rican grandmother who was a quarter Taíno. Indians always thinks she's South Asian and start speaking Hindi to her. She was to tell them, I'm the feather Indian not the Dot Indian. I love how I have so many cultures and can PASS for other cultures. I'm always getting confused for Cuban or Dominican. Nah baby, it's that Puerto Rican/Creole Magic, sprinkle that Indigenous ancestry and *chef kiss* Youse got yourself a Picasso!🇵🇷⚜️🪶😁
I'm in my 50s and I am so happy that I can relate to this content because I have been going through being asked about my ethnicity and compared to others in my own race as far as I can remember. I didn't have social media to enlighten me about how society treated me and others like me. It's comforting to know that I'm not alone and can embrace my God given features and not feel that I have to apologize for looking different from the norm.
When I got to high school people started talking about my nose, saying I have a white or Indian nose and I grew up feeling really insecure about it, but now I get praised for it. Defo featurism, thanks for pointing it out, never realised til now... When I still about it, none of my features are typically "black" and is why people stereotype me. I knew I looked a lil different but I couldn't quite put my finger on how
Wow this is such an eye opener. I’m a LS monoracial (East African) and usually have people asking me “what I am” or “where I’m from”. I usually get them to guess and most times they guess North/East Africa but other times I get crazy answers. Like this one time, this one guy said Afghanistan and I was so shocked because I never thought I looked anything other than black/african especially to non black people. In hindsight, I guess it makes sense because of my phenotype but I remember looking at him like what for guessing that.
This guy goes “What are you.” I told him Blk because I didn’t want to go into details . Then he goes “so why your hair like that if your Blk” Sir : goodbye 👋
I am multigenerationally mixed. I once had a black girl tell me that I don't look mixed and should call myself black and not mixed because Im pretty. Like wtf??
people love policing our identities. they dont want you to be able to dip yourself in and out of blackness. others want to be able to control YOUR identity based on how they feel or their self esteem levels.
This video is so true my dad has green hazel eyes and growing up he would throw bbq’s and invite his Puerto Rican friends over from the west side and they would joke and say he looked like one of them . My eyes change colors in the winter they are light hazel and in the summer mostly brown . my dad also talks about the ppl in my family like the great great great grandparents that had actual blue eyes . Technically I’m fully black (because both parents are black) but with slavey and all the mixing that came before me and the Native American heritage in my blood line ,plenty people especially on my dads side are extremely light with non traditional eye colors / features. And the crazy part is I have one brother that is “Unambiguously black” way darker than me and my other brother.
I remember being told by my UAB Haitian friend that I was not “ Offensively Black “ .. 😮 I have cinnamon, mocha skin with very small lips , small nose, and curly hair. A 65/35 African-European mix …. Usually thought to be part Indian or Indian , sometimes by Indians . I just consider myself Black .
Mixed people who care so much about skin tone and hair texture are crazy. Point blank and your family pushed your colorism on you and didn’t do a good job establishing how great it is to be mixed and didn’t have many mixed friends. And I think that’s y’all’s fault. You met mixed people to open up to and be friends with you decided not to see yourself in them. That’s on you.
Ps ..only a pretty girl would use the Brats dolls as an example of lips .😍.I sOOO love them ! I think I have lips like them the shape but not the fullness...well it's probably the main thing I get complimented on by men ( yeah I know ..lol they ain't fooling me I know why lol but besides my eyes lips are #1. ❤ oh! Still gathering data
Are you considered an exotical if you benefit from ALL of the following:Colourism,Featurism, and Texturism,because I have relatives from my country who benefits from ALL three and can pass as Arab or Hispanic .So are they considered exoticals?
I've noticed this a lot. I identify as Biracial, my mom is white and Hispanic and my dad is Black. I have auburn hair, and in the summer its very red almost like a copper tone and I have a Brown skin tone. As I've gotten older it's been hard just navigating through my identity. I get Black people telling me I'm not Black I'm mixed and I'm too "white washed" and then I have white people either make fun of me because I have interests that are "white" or I get told I'm too ghetto and Black when I speak up against white people about issues with Black communities and Biracial people. I haven't had a Black experience but I've dealt with racism from both sides and it's hard because I love my Black side and I love my white side, but I feel so out of place. Just because I am not a dark skinned Black woman doesn't mean I haven't experienced systematic racism or just general racism, because I have, and I haven't experienced an OUNCE of white privilege. It's genuinely just insane how I'm considered some sort of outcast.
What do you think of the term brown skin? I watched this other RU-vidr video and they claimed that Halle berry and Jada pinkett are brown and not light.. 😂. I was like what…
That’s exactly why I don’t use the term brown skinned on this channel. Beige is a shade of brown if you look it up . Tan is a shade of brown. Women who are jealous of light skinned privilege are trying to throw all non white passing light skins into “brown skinned”, knowing damn well that the term brown skinned is often used for DARK SKINS who are not that dark (Gabrielle union, brandy, Jennifer Hudson etc) to imply that all those women look exactly the same as Beyoncé is disingenuous. If we were all brown skinned then colorism wouldn’t even be a conversation. Also , if dark brown skin is dark skinned, why is light brown skin not light skinned? 😂
@@ExoticalsUnited exactly it’s almost like they are trying to take women that are like the jadas and Halle’s down a notch because they Pedestalize a lighter skin tone. and want to fit in that same “brown skin” phenotype.
My definition of an exotical for this channel is being mixed or looking mixed . If you fit one of those categories and relate to the content the channel is for you. 😉
Depends on your mixture. Some people from Haiti are unambiguous and others aren’t . Haiti is just the country . But if you have parents/grandparents of other races yes you would be mixed .
I am half Haitian half black American & I have features & a hair texture that shows me as Racially ambiguous ( Almond eyes, light brown eyes, lighter Carmel skin with a narrow nose, I don’t have the stereotypical broad nose, strong jawline & brown or darkskin as most Haitian’s do
@@ExoticalsUnited I think my mom is Cuban even though having Haitian roots somewhere and might have a lot of French in her since some of the French breed with our ancestors at the time during the revolution and stuff. Because of that we came out lighter even though my dad's considered unambiguous however even though we came out lighter I'm the darkest out of my 2 siblings but I'm not like dark more like a brown skin milk chocolate tone. I don't really know if I count but I know my 2 siblings do especially since they've gotten the "your not black" and other phrases used against exoticals. The only thing I've gotten was I don't act black and I'm assuming that they're saying I'm not like the regular black American due to how I'm being raised in a different cultural background
@@keirahleesha486 wait ok now that you just said that I noticed that I do range in the Carmel skin tone. I hope that's a little more descriptive I had to look it up to make sure I was right or not
