I've always called that defence mode, 'rabbit ' mode, glad to know it's an actual thing! Rabbit because of how scitterish rabbits can be, always on alert.
My 18 year old son has Aspergers he is easily overwhelmed. I really wish he would make friends or find a girlfriend. He loves Video Games and wants to be a software developer. I love him sooo much!
Black Girl Magic my nephew is exactly the same and makes his mom go everywhere with him and won’t make friends. I’ve tried asking her to look into this and she refuses to.
My friend Louisa is aspergic and I love her. She Is so lovely and aspergers is something to be proud of because with Louisa, her quirkiness and aspergic aspects are what makes her so amazing. Stay strong Louisa. Stay strong everyone
Aspergers, for me, is being handed a six digit phone number on a scrap of paper, and seeing PURELY from maths instinct that it is a prime, and not being able to say what month it is. . . . . . . on the same day.
Well i have been diagnosed with asperger syndrome but with time and determination, i got rid of all my obsessive compulisive disorders (and i had a lot) and I'm now more sociable than most even if it don't help, it is possible to get rid of most of the negative effects, or at least the visibles ones
I really enjoy watching your vids everything now makes sense and your clear to the point with topics you discuss. I have Aspergers myself. Also liked your facebook page. ;)
Concerned Mother of Three , l am right here beside you. One half-day of high scbool left for my senior son, and he is short 1/2 credit. We don't know if he'll graduate in 2 days. Contacted all teachers for years trying to educate them about how to navigate the "Elephant in the room" who is defiant, "lazy", "disrespectful", won't turn in assignments, etc. This is a new type of brain function on such a gigantic scale, and our personal experience is through no fault of their own, that teachers have no clue in generating positive outcomes. Our home is not a happy place tonight. Burning down the house and other creative ways to deal with the unbearable, unimaginable and insurmountable load of stress our kids shoulder shreads a mothers' heart on a daily basis. l hear you. l was blessed to have found Asperger Experts two weeks ago. l LISTENED tonight (while l very fervently stormed heaven for peace to saturate every cell of my son's being). l have hope. l have introduced my family as well as our son to AE's videos and information. We don't know what will be the "thing" that causes the shift in his heart to give up and trust in one more therapist or program or therapy or series of tests. l hope that we can tap into something that will clear a pathway for our son to climb up and out of the deep hole he feels trapped in. l'm encouraging you to know that you are not alone. The resources from this group are the simplest and most concise l've come across. We are all in this together! ♡
Renee Baranek I have ocd on top of autism I'm 33. The ocd could be bad by this age. This may be your sons issue. Its very difficult to get diagnosed or proper services. He needs someone who understands him. I am praying for him now.
My son has anger issues as well. I feel it is a reaction to an extreme level of anxiety and frustration. We are working to help him identify the emotion and then replace the anger with a more appropriate,response. Not that it isn’t ok to become angry but how you act on the anger is what needs to be reframed.
I had to tell my counselor and psychiatrist that I believe im on the spectrum and don't separately suffer from light, hearing, and pressure (touch) sensory issues, bad eye contact, speaking too loud, extreme picky eating, OCD, bipolar 1, anxiety, dyslexia, extreme phobias, and memory issues/brain fog. It's ALL explained by Asperger's (ASD). They told me they don't know much about ASD, but "let's continue your Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. IT'S NOT FOCUSED ON WHAT I NEED HELP WITH 😆.
It's strange because I don't have any of the "cons" described in these videos with Asperger's, but I still have a concerning amount of the "traits" and "symptoms". I don't have real issue with social interaction or being in large gatherings where the social element can be overwhelming and yet I have difficulty looking people in the eyes, I find myself saying I'm "honest or trying to be helpful" when others say I'm "blunt, rude, or giving unwanted advice", there's the social disconnect of not really thinking the same way others do, and listening to videos describing other traits feels like someone is describing me almost to a T. Is it possible I don't have Asperger's and I'm just weirdly similar in most aspects or is it safe to assume I'm just fortunate to not have or have learned to deal with the social elements without recognizing if I had them to begin with?
Hi, I am diagnosed with Aspergers syndrome, I was diagnosed when I was 16 years old, this was because my mentor/teacher thought I was too talented to be studying in that special class, however I have been diagnosed when I was very young with autism and something in swedish, not sure what it is called but it said something about late development or something like that. I have however never had meltdowns, or shutdowns, am I still autistic?
Vagal tone. Referring to the vagus nerver . check out www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-athletes-way/201302/the-neurobiology-grace-under-pressure%3famp
"Unable to connect" is a really poor choice of words because a lot of Aspergers do connect socially, just with a lot more struggles and difficulties than neurotypical individuals, due notably to their difficulties in learning social codes/rules/appropriate behaviours.
Lucas Voclere i think he is talking about more extreme cases of aspergers rather then the more mild, more mild cases have worked into being less defensive
Lol like me focusing on youtube 24/7 lol and my mum is like you need to get off your phone of computer and im like i dont care im too tired to help you ...
I got diagnosed with Aspergers two weeks ago so this video helped me understand it. I also have ADHD, OCD, and anxiety and the over sensory causes half of my anxiety attacks. Thanks for breaking it down!
Hey Sam, thanks for your comment! So glad you found this helpful :) We have a free guide for people on our email list about how to handle those stressful moments. You might find it helpful as well! Here's the link: www.aspergerexperts.com/go/bewiththat-join/
Everyday for me is like war, every battle I learn something new, I blend in as much as I can, and I love to be alone, I don't have many Friends, but the ones I have I know I can trust them until they fail to me, life goes on anyway, and there's a world to discover and I try to get the best out of it
I agree, and because of most of my explanations are quite elaborate, and my obsession with words meant that people often struggle to understand me and they either walk away or hit me
I beg to differ. Aspies don't overwhelm others with "logic". What happens is that the long-winded, pedantic, uninterrupted, and often dull (to the listener) diatribe of FACTS is disturbing and irritating to the so-named Neurotypicals. I know. I've been with an Aspie male for over 2 years. We're ending our relationship because of his 1. refusal to find out for sure if he has it 2. his absolute inability to express emotion and feelings 3. his inadequacy in bed 4. his inability to carry on a flowing, reciprocal conversation 5. his utter stubbornness and 6. but not the last is his obsession with his "special interests". He is mean, cruel, inconsiderate and insensitive. Aspie through and through. He does have good points but the Aspie characteristics far outweigh his gardening abilities and his nice big house. Screw that. Give me a tent and I'd be happier. Edit: Oh by the way, he has what appears to be mild OCD, ADHD, ticks and twitches, and adheres to a rigid daily routine on his workdays. Also has funny habits. Has 6 pair of women's underpants, is a hoarder and a clutterer, and there is awful squalor in parts of the house, i.e. the garage, the basement, the cold storage room, and the unused bathroom. Ugh.
@@cjb128 "cruel, inconsiderate, and insensitive" Kind of like going into a comment section full of aspies to tell them how horrible they are for having the same condition as your ex.
@@MrAlex731 No. Don’t take it out of context. She is describing HER boyfriend and only him. His Aspie ways varies from others. I don’t take offense from her comment. People need to stop taking EVERYTHING personal, specially online. My brother can be those things she mentioned on top of being super loving and emotional at times. We cry together for just how much we love each other.💓 But he lacks enthusiasm and that can be frustrating but that is why I’m here. To read everyone’s personal experiences. Peace!
If I fit every single symptom of Aspergers I've ever found in the internet, passed every Autism quiz on the internet, is it safe to say I have Aspergers?
Probably, but you don't want to self-diagnose. Go to a doctor. I'm in the same boat; I've been doing research about High Functioning Autism and Asperger's over the last couple months, and I'm pretty sure I'm in there somewhere. I plan on seeing a therapist sometime in the near (hopefully) future for it. As a 33 year old, it's a bit of a shock to realize I may have something like this. But it fits so amazingly well.
Even if for example you were not diagnosed with Aspergers there are still a lot of things that would help you if you were to read up about it and buy some books. The book I can highly recommend is called Neuro tribes.....
If you fit every symptom, you would be the first I've heard of. We vary a lot. Some of us are like Rainman, some of us have goldfish memories. Both are Autistic traits, obviously you can't have both of those traits. Same deal with dyslexic and hyperlexic. I'll do an Aspie answer to your question, just for a giggle; It doesn't appear to be dangerous.
I'm 20 yr old who has just been told he has aspergers and for the first time ever I feel like I'm not alone in being the way I am and understand that they're is a reason I am the way I am I'm not just a how I am for no reason hearing people talk about all the symptoms that I have makes me feel so much less alone in being the way I am.
Wow, you're amazing. And do you have mild strabismus? I have strabismus and aspergers and I've been doing a lot of research on the connection. I've learned so much from these videos.
I’m almost 31, and I still don’t know much about myself. When I was diagnosed at 14, not much was made available for us for treatment. 15 years later I still struggle and am finally getting help. This video has helped immensely.
The best short explanation of how I personally feel. I've watched dozens of youtube videos and I like how short and to the point this one is. Good job.
i was thinking before that i'm just a selfish wounded person, who's trying to avoid any people, except a few, and who is like granny from the birth - the same things, routine, and a little bit crazy - literally (:D) - 'cause so in one thing, or a few of things, sometimes that causes like 'genius' thoughts, sometimes... well, not good. (And the last was pretty much always), but when i really started to try to draw to God - 'craziness' of 'genius' are met more times than the 'not good'. Thanks God!!!!!!!!! :D God Bless you! :)
you are great! Thank you for explanation, will try to explain it to my mom (i'm a girl, 21 year old), ive just found out that recently, and that explains the whoooole strange things i was doing (which are not strange for me, but for others, and i didn't know why before), so, she's like soooo upset, was crying, ... ehh. it was like pretty hard to explain things to her or to people, ehhh. she believes only when someone else tells her smth. (
Great video, although...since the term is not recognized anymore, now psychiatrists could wrongly label you as schizoaffective or something else and treat you as delusional even if in the past you were diagnosed.
How does an adult get a diagnosis for Autism. I show almost all the symptoms, Aspergers pretty well explains why I'm the way I am. I will check your website for information.
Claydood don't even try. Its not worth it. There are no support services so there is zero point to getting an adult autism diagnosis. No one will believe you wether you have a an official diagnosis or not. It is up to you and what you believe about your self. All you can do is educate yourself and take good care of your health. Good luck.
Aspergers people have veey low Emotional intelligence ...tend to be selfish and can't understans or seem to care about the feelings of those around them...even if its mild...it sucks!!!
Completely false. I'm so sick of these complete lies about how there's no empathy from us. See you kidding me? We FEEL so much but don't know how to express it so we meltdown over these feelings you all say we don't have. Interesting. And that's "selfish" of us. I know.... Right? Wtf dude
I was recently diagnosed last year and I am slowly accepting it. I am getting help for it slowly as well . the diagnoses at least explains a lot about why I failed in so many ways.
Clintos Johnson I can't put my self in your shoes, but I assure you the more you learn about it the more you can cope. My 19 year old son has, as I suspect you do, a very mild (disguised almost) form of asperger and he was diagnosed only at fourteen when he started to become depressive. and that happened because he used to think that all his inadequacies were his fault, because he suffered bullying, etc. Right now my job is to make him understand that he must relearn how to do whatever makes him happy, and that's where you'll find your place, your friends and your vocation. PEASE REMEMBER: 1- Autism is hereditary... so... 2- THERE ARE NO NORMAL PEOPLE, if you look closely at those who claim they are you'll find that they're the most abnormal ones. 3- Even though I'm neurotypic I always thought, acted and behaved out of the box, so I was an outcast, it was only when I dedicated myself to my own interests that I was able to find real friends. 4- Read #2 over and over again.
