In this video, I break down a few key ingredients of flirting: implicit attraction, playfulness, and teasing. This is for those of you who said you have no idea how to even flirt! Intro music: Church of 8 Wheels by Otis McDonald
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Honestly, I think you don't need it. Just be someone of resolute character, and if a friend is someone you find attractive both in character and spirit (and physically attractive) then communicate your interest with 100% of you owning it. Just say "yes, I am attracted to you" I don't think it has to be any more complicated than that.
I actually don't think everyone has an innate understanding of flirting. As someone with aspergers flirting is literally an alien concept to me. Like trying to decipher an alien language from a civilization that died a billion years ago.
@@killman369547being in a relationship with someone else who is asd is great! It is nerve wracking but you can just say these things ‘I love your style’ pick out something in their outfit. ‘You have beautiful eyes’ ‘I’m really interested in you/you’re really interesting’ ‘Can I hold your hand?’ ‘can I kiss you?’ being blunt is hot asf and font forget other person is also nervous! and a great first date is go to a park and bring a picnic blanket, a cooler with grapes cheese n crackers plus a bottle of wine to share. She’ll swoon!
Try a thing you haven't done three times. Once, to get over the fear of doing it. Twice, to learn how to do it. And a third time to figure out whether you like it or not.
I once flirted with a girl in high school and took the teasing too far, eventually hitting on a genuine insecurity of hers. It's often hard to see how someone you're into would be insecure because they appear so attractive to you. Thanks for the advice. Lovely video
I think Ana's advice is very subjective. I'm not into teasing at all and I wouldn't enjoy being teased, especially if it's not done in a very loving and cute way.
start complimenting people in your day to day, it’s hard but it’ll help you be more fluid when interacting with someone you’re attracted to and want to banter with. It’s helped me. Hope this little advice helps someone out there. Just remember no one knows what they’re doing so don’t put some much pressure on yourself.
My life has been a complete and total misery ever since Bigfoot stole my precious girlfriend in the middle of the night. 😒 He even took all her clothes and the T.V. 😔
4:14 "...it's more exciting to leave things unspoken than it is to flat out say it, leaving your attraction implicit..." Ah yes, the bane of my existence as someone who's always been terrible at registering indirect communication lol Informative video as always!
@@chickensalad3535 I honestly have no idea how neurotypical people are navigating relationships. I had people interact with me where I was 100% sure they are flirting and when I asked I was told I took it the wrong way. Then when I told my other neurotypical friends about this they said that they too would 100% took it as flirting. And why would you flirt with a person if you were not interested in them? If you are doing it for fun then you are just playing with their emotions, that is not fun.
More exciting for who? Direct communication is attractive. Flirting/leaving things unspoken is a horrible part of navigating mate-seeking interactions. Save it for once mutual attraction has already been established. E.g. in a relationship.
In my own case is even worse, due to a different childhood I had to develop a special sense for indirect communication, im a master of body language and "vibes", to almost everyone im incredible charming and affable but the price was too big, it overloads my mind and I ended up as an logically emotional paradox, I can't flirt or communicate my own feelings, so I am too direct and blunt towards atracttion, which is really ugly and unatractive for the oposite sex, so yeah, im so charming to everyone but the person that I like, that is making me more depressed amd do worse, how can i change tht? Therapy maybe 🥲
@@lb2696I think a bunch of girls could get that the wrong way very easily. Though I understand where she is trying to go but the wording can come off as passive aggressive with that one
You guys seem to really miss the point. Body language, tone of voice, and the context of your relationship all come into play. The line is delivered in a flirtatious tone to someone the person is already dating. It can be assumed the chemistry is already there, and the partner responds well to this type of humour. You aren't wrong that it could be received poorly. But that's the nature of flirting. It's teasing. There's a fine line between fun teasing and negative teasing, and that line shifts with every person. A good way to think of it is like banter with the boys. You can say some pretty heinous shit as fun banter. It could easily be taken wrong. But you shift your body language, the tone of your voice, and use how well you know the person to make informed gambles. The result? Light banter. Fun teasing. Just without the "wanna bang" ingredient.
I watched this expecting to learn how to flirt with my wife. Turns out we flirt near constantly and I just didn't have a good understanding of what flirting is. That's very in character. Great video, thank you.
My mom gave me the best advice. I’m autistic and very awkward with flirting. I’m telling you that you don’t have to do the extra flirting to try to manipulate someone into liking you. Just be you. She believes that flirting comes off as desperate. Approaching crushes calmly and just showing interest in them can melt their heart like that. If they like you, they will say anything and want to keep it going in order to lock you down. If they seem distant, excuse yourself from them nicely and do something else. You stand out from other people that are friendly flirting with them by being fully present with them that goes way beyond their looks. You get to know each other on a way more profound level than innocent touching and winks. Asking them a series of questions makes them feel cared for and likely develop feelings for you. Your crush will likely ask you out bc you’re not putting all that pressure and desperate energy into them. I’ve had guys like me which was always because I wasn’t so focused on getting their attention and looking up advice on flirting. When you let go, that is when love finds you.
Wow… this is amazing. I myself am also autistic and it was always weird hearing people explain flirting in ways that didn’t make sense, especially since a lot of my expression is logical and I have a hard time comprehending some emotions. This really helped spell it out, thank you so much!
I'm not autistic, but I'm traumatized and I don't like flirting at all. I don't mind being affectionate with someone that I like and letting them know, in subtle ways, that I care for them or letting them know, in a very direct way, that I'm attracted to them, but... Apart from that, I don't like folks who flirt with everyone and anyone, and who see it as a pastime. Something they engage in, regularly and compulsively, when they're bored out of their mind or bored with their empty lives. I don't take people like that seriously and I avoid them. I only show affection to someone who I really like, not to every random person just to get their attention or mess with their feelings. I find that shallow and egotistical... Seems like autistic people are naturally more my tribe because they're very genuine! :)
Im not diagnosed but Im pretty sure I have some traits. What my mom told me in high school is that I shouldn’t date because I should worry about school and now she wonders why I struggle to talk to people.
The bad thing about flirting is, it can send really mixed signals. I've had it happen recently. It's not the greatest feeling to be on the receiving end and realise that it was never going to amount to anything.
Good to learn that when someone is flirting with you is about just attraction. It's all Just for fun. Can't take it too seriously until the other person shows real intention
@@gdaymates431Like literally same. What is flirty to one person is just being friendly to another. Not being explicit == risking playing with another persons emotions, that is not fun at all!
I feel like my boundaries are really high strung. It feels offensive to ask someone on a simple, unconditional date. A woman who works at my optometrist asked me about my staycation, and I mentioned painting and renovating my house, and she said she would be happy to help me paint. I immediately thought it was odd, because I feel like I could be 25 years older than her, but maybe we both look young for our ages. Maybe she likes older men. Maybe she likes to paint! LOL. I don't know. I was too afraid to inquire about it further because I didn't want to hurt anyone or be seen as a creep. It's like I can't reconcile in my brain how to simply invite a person to spend any time together at all without feeling like I'm doing something harmful. The amazing thing is that I have always found reasons that asking people on dates is wrong, no matter the circumstances. We could be the same age and I would avoid the topic. I feel like people project so much on one date, that either it has to become physical quickly, or that they can't be themselves. I don't know. I might be on the autism spectrum. I feel like I communicate well, but don't understand others unless they are very direct.
I can relate so much! But I feel like I am recently on a very good path away from that mindset and becoming more open towards people. So I wanted to share my philosophy with you as an inspiration. Half of it you sort of mentioned already. It is trusting yourself that you don’t have bad intentions- or any intentions for that matter. I mean you know yourself, stop thinking about your intentions. The other half is trusting others that they are well capable of deciding for themselves. Like if you invite someone over and they show up, you did not steal their evening, they decided to spend it with you.
I agree but also if u follow what she says in the video, u basically have to build that flirtatious tension and it involves you risking yourself when u decide to make a move.
@@gamyp843 yeah. I agree. I think my challenges aren’t with the flirting as much as giving myself permission to relax about flirting and dating in general. I feel like a bad person for some reason. Or I feel scared of being hurt. I need to lighten up about everything. It’s probably a deeper mental health issue.
@@jmfs3497 nah I struggle with that myself. I think it comes out of being a "nice" kid growing up and doing these things feels out of character as if looking and participating in love is a "bad" thing for associating it with bad boys/ people who were better than me at the time. I've come to realize tho, that it's OK to associate these "naughty" behaviors with who I am because everyone in existence is a mixture of good and evil in different ratios. That includes me also. So if I get to puck and choose what " evil " to participate in, looking for love is one I'd pick. It's not evil, but it's helped me accept the action
I was dealt similar cards in life.. What jakenbacon5322 said is true, but changing this behavior needs a change of core beliefs (currently constantly seeking evidence for "I am a bad person(?)"). And changing beliefs is simple, but one needs to go about it at a completely unexpected angle. I cannot recommend "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk enough.
As a person who knew about what flirting is only a year ago, when I turned 27 (to my shame) and still struggles to find a girlfriend, I find this video extremely useful. For sure, it'll take a lot of practice, but at least now I see in which direction I should move. Thank you so much!:)
Brother, I'm a 27 year old who got into their first (real) relationship just a few months ago :) It does take practice and a lot of pain, self-love, and trust. You'll get there, believe in your hard work!
No worries, imo you aren’t even late (first relationship at 26 for me). I don’t know how to flirt or identify flirting, so I used dating apps because that way it’s obvious you match because you’re interested in each other lol
This makes sense as to why I've always hated flirting. As someone who has some form (workin on it) of insecure attatchment, I always read way more into passive flirty behavior than was ever there, and couldnt ever flirt without having something more behind it, due to my often overwhelming desire to not be alone with myself. Thanks!
don t forget to be flirty with people you are actually attracted to and maybe want smth with. i ve been hurt so many times by people who only played with me around while i was showing geniune interest and they kept lying.
lol i just finished doing that to some girl who wont stop texting me. she obv likes me and she is very attractive but she lives too far away. didnt tell her tho just let it drag out 😂😂😂
Sounds like you dont have a dad, brother, uncle, or another male figure give you advice about those guys. And if they did give you advice, you didnt listen.
Compliments are a great way to start flirting. You don't need to do it to someone you are attracted to to start. Start off with a friend and tell them "That shirt looks good on you" or "That's a really nice color on you"
I love Bram Stoker's Dracula(1992) so much. Espescially how while Keanu Reeves is stuggling to put on a british accent Anthony Hopkins, the most British man in the movie, is doing an over the top German accent.
Imma be honest, I've completely overlooked the aspect of "play" when it comes to flirting. It had never occurred to me that it might be fun to flirt with zero expectation, but it makes perfect sense.
I think it would've been more helpful if you gave examples of flirting before you're in a relationship. I feel like it's so much harder to flirt with people you aren't already romantically involved with, and that's what more people struggle with. The focus seemed to be almost entirely on flirting when you're already with them, when that is significantly easier. It's like giving gaming strategies, but only ones that work against the worst players or on the easiest setting.
sounds like flirting would basically be masking for me cause i’m not good with double meanings and playful jokes like that. i’m autistic so it would be hard for me to stay within those rules of flirting how you described it. i would just flat out say what i mean.
Don’t overthink it, I’m autistic too and you can try to learn to do this, if not then that’s ok as there are many lovely people who will still want the same thing as you,
I would focus on the "play" aspect of it. Infodumping is a form of flirting and some people just sit there smiling in joy when they get someone else passionately info dumping. I really liked her advice of roleplaying a forest nymph, since dressing up as james bond and roleplaying how he would do it sounds so fun... OMG MY ADHD BRAIN, I NEED TO DO THIS NOW. I also wouldn't focus too much on the "be indirect." Indirect is better, but people I have flirted with respond just fine to "I think you are cute and wanted to meet you!" There is still plenty of mystery around "what are they going to do next?!" even when being direct like that. "checking them out" is more playful/flirty, but authenticity is more important, so if you need someone who responds well to infodumping I would just give yourself permission to do it once with every person you want to date and see how they respond to it. The most common expected type of flirting that she is talking about (teasing innuendo, etc.) isn't my default, it's far more flirty for me to just go full adhd glee when I get them talking about themselves. "Models: Attractions through honesty" is the book I like the most, it calls it "Polarizing". It's strategy is that as long as you are escalating (starting at 0), respecting boundaries, and being authentic you are doing it right. Personally the 12 stages of physical intimacy did a lot for me as it makes a little game of moving up through all the steps and watching their reactions.
so helpful! really realistic and functional definitions for flirting, playfulness, teasing and attraction! have been looking for this kind of understanding and meanings to these words for years!
This is in the top 5 best vids I've seen on RU-vid about dating because the info is so well structured,so many channels just say useless information, thanks for being authentic 🙏
Flirting used to be trial and error until I realized that I shouldn’t sound desperate and like a creep. I also ONLY flirted with those closest to me and genuine crushes. But there was only one time where I actually decided to make the flirting “absolutely romantic” with this girl I was falling for. We ended up sharing a mutual romantic attraction, but instead of communicating like a proper couple, we KEPT flirting to the point where it got sexual, and that led to our relationship becoming permanently damaged. Hopefully someone sees and takes this advice: BE CAREFUL.
Thank you for this! I really love looking at archetypes as a tool to help with flirting. Also, as someone who really enjoys flirting but sometimes stresses about the outcome too much, it is helpful to be reminded that flirting is more concerned with the current moment than it is with the end goal.
I never flirt. I did find quite a number of girls attractive, but I usually supress my feeling. I don't know if this is because of emotional immaturaty, autism, social anxiety or something else. I also do not 'play games with people'. I get my fun by riding motorcycle fast and try a lot of different extreme sports, not interacting with people. Talking to people doesn't bring me joy. And I really can't understand how any of the things people normally do such as leaving things unspoken, playing cat and mouse etc... are fun and exciting.
I’m also autistic and don’t understand the whole cat and mouse thing that ppl are into. I have a coworker that always fishes for compliments and tries to flirt with me, and I kinda feel like shit whenever I can’t reciprocate. I’m wondering if a fake it til you make it approach could work but that also seems like I’d just be masking my autism really hard. I have set boundaries with her in the past but she still does it sometimes and I don’t have the heart to rehash things and potentially alienate myself even more, mostly cuz I’m getting along fine with everyone else at my workplace
Riding motorcycle fast? Amen brother same here. Car, bike, monocycle, whatever it is, going dangerously fast feels more easy and fun than going out and interacting with people
I never thought of flirting this way. Totally get it, life would be so much fun when you play it out. Thank you for such an informative and helpful video.
I'm just here to say that flirting is so much fun, especially if you have no expectations. It makes me feel good about myself and it makes them feel good about themselves (assuming reciprocation of course)
Thanks so much Ana! Really struggle with this. I like how you mentioned there:s no end goal which for me takes the pressure off lol. I've been practicing the rodbt model you talked about last year and I think it'll be interesting to combine the 2. Thanks again so much!!!!
I like the idea of flirting as playing. I've never really been interested in flirting. It's felt almost cowardly in it's indirectness. But thinking of it as verbal play makes me want to try it.
I think people especially some guys I know prefer more directness in expressing attraction, so flirting is not second nature for them. It takes practice and isn't easy for some personalities.
Unless you're flirting with someone suffering from nymphomania, it's about mutual respect and cultivating that. Mostly, good flirtation, elevates the ego and mood of the flirter. as well as the receiver. It's about seeing what languages, verbal, non-verbal, love languages -that you might have in common. Don't do anything but pay a compliment, unless he or she has an inkling of your 'value' as a potential mate and partner. Earn it, then flirt, you'll know, politely, or succeed.
I recently realized people consider me a flirt, but I don’t know how to flirt. If I like someone, I either hold it in or work with on the courage to tell them directly. I think my people pleasing ways gives people the wrong ideas about me.
Just a reminder but flirting isn't just about how to do it but also being in the right mindset for it as well. You gotta be comfortable with yourself and know your limits as well as your likes and dislikes. This may seem obvious for some but a struggle for others. Love yourself first before you try to love others.
I don’t think he embodies the jester, but Zagreus from the game Hades is a decent example of a flirtatious male character. He carries his lax, charming demeanor into every interaction no matter who he’s talking to, especially the love interests. He keeps this attitude up even when against enemies and no matter what mood he’s in, truly doing it for play.
This video gave a very eloquent and much needed insight to the once common and now forgotten art of flirting which is the intended way that men and women should interact. It is ment to be fun and not what I see most people do, which is to make over serialized or vulgar comments. Its just sad but this video definitly gave me hope for the other romantics like me out there. Also a male archetype would be Carrey Grant from any of his films (because he pretty much plays the same character lol) or my personal favorite maybe not great but Ferris Bueller
Afaik I’m not neurodivergent but I’m unable to “get” any non-literal meaning unless it’s extremely obvious. Like if someone said “I feel as if I’d eaten an elephant”, I’d obviously know it’s an exaggeration because they couldn’t have actually eaten one, but “are you sure you should be wearing that” could be genuine concern so I’d have been like “shit did I choose a bad outfit?”
I think a good male archetype could be Flynn from Tangled, someone who likes to tease and authentic to himself. I think he fits well in the jester archetype
Ana everytime I date, I flirt the most once we're together.. I always try to keep the bond strong... though I have ignored red flags and found myself with very wrong people.. I still like to flirt far after we have slept together, just to make them feel wanted always... that said, by tiny changes, my ex-wife of 20 years who is very lovely, we talk everyday.. because I still 'flirt' with her and tease her- but its more of reinforcement of our original bond; build her up, make her laugh, just for that purpose alone.. a sort of 'thank you'... Ana your example is exactly how I rib her, or others I care about. This really does work guys n gals, got let go of your ego but still the love.. Ana is right and precise.. this does work, let go, be you, be whole and be giving.
Best advice is to feel good about yourself. Have something to be proud of and know that you can do something other people can't. Flirting comes naturally if you know you are the price! 💪💪
2:42 Ok, but what if flirting isn't fun? It's kinda risky because I don't know how it would be read, and it's stressful because I'm not even sure if I'm doing it or not most of the time. I can dance when nobody is watching, but how do you flirt when nobody is watching? The more I listen to what flirting is, the less fun it sounds. All that stuff from 4:12 onwards just sounds really stressful and not fun at all
I was feeling the same way but this video gave it a funny and inocent turn to the matter. I myself feel guilty after some interactions when I don't know If I passed any boundary(without intention) , I don't know If I appeared flirty when I just wanted them to feel good, is so confusing! And when I do flirt I feel guilty aswell cause I know this ain't going nowhere so why I'm I doing it?
It’s not fun if you’re thinking too much about the outcomes. If it’s just about trying something new and playing with the process then it’s less loaded with pressure and less goal oriented
@@HerveBoisde That's a very good tip. But if you heard of one to many case where a wrong word or action lead to a loss of a job then you can't help but think about the outcome. Of course that statement of mine doesn't apply if you flirt with your wife.
Love the video and love the way you've explained flirting in a beautiful way like flirting is something beautiful, fun, and cute, which I agree, it can be. My problem is that if you are not implicit, you can't attract the girl, especially as a guy. I don't like the fact that you can never be explicit and speak what's on your mind, or on your heart, but it has to be implicated and overly, unnecessarily complicated. Also for me, the intimacy part, and having a good time and relationship part is way more fun than implicitly bartering who wants or doesn't want to kiss first, it's like wasting time for me. If both partners want to kiss then kiss! We won't live forever! Also, as I was very reserved and lonely, I didn't inherit the skills of flirting, I think I'm slightly better nowadays (when I have 27 years and never had a gf yet), but still, it's so counter-intuitive thing for me. In every other section of life, you speak your mind what you want, only in this, you have to playfully lie about your feelings back and forth for no reason. Don't get me wrong, I understand it's fun and nice, and I agree with you, it is beautiful to most people because of that tension... but not my cup of tea, and I'm forced to learn this skill.
I don't think you can speak your mind so casually in your work. I think, not sure, but hiding and being playful with the truth is a necessary skill for business
@@everab1209 Maybye it depends on occupation, in my enginieering work speaking casually about everything including our errors really helps the team to do a good job.
Hold the truth with every breath, and the little flirtations become just as truthful as the more intimate things. But just because you are truthful in one instance does not mean you will forgo all other obligations to other things. Flirtation allows for no strings attached. It is inherently less intimate than more intimate relations. I would also advise to not give your heart fully to another person in any instance; always reserve part of your heart for something greater, either yourself, or some other ideal.
Agree with most said, except about the "anticipation" part. That's where i feel like is shaped through personality. I am personaly not aroused by anticipation itself, be it intentionaly manufactured or born from doubt. To me any doubt within behaviours is a mood killer. I like people that are certain, direct and proactive. (guy here)
‘Bout to go on a date in 2 days. For me I have a bit of a “Let’s not mess up let’s get the task done.” And I do have to realize to just have fun. When it comes to dating videos I always take them with a grain of salt but this one truly helped me to unlock playfulness.
I get the point about keep flirting in a relationship, but in the context of meeting someone I have and always had a hard time understanding the relationship between flirting and being understandably stressed and concerned about the results of the interaction (rejection, is this going to work really?). Is flirting to be understood as an initial light phase before the two people start to care, or should one force oneself to be flirtatious even if caring deep down? In any case, because of stress about results, very few single persons consider flirting as the intrinsic pleasure it should be
😢 well what you are describing here is a little bit deeper. It is natural to be scared of the pain of rejection, but when it hinders your social relationships it can be a result of deeper anxiety. Maybe it's time to ask some questions about why you feel so uncomfortable and focused on the outcomes.
Personally I see it this way: When it’s someone knew or you’re unsure of their feelings towards you, flirting is a great way to test the waters. Eg: How do they act when I sit a bit closer to them ? When I touch their arm etc. Whereas when it’s someone you’re dating, it’s a way to tease and emphasize the sexual tension you both know is there. I’d say it’s less subtle than the former.
@@Em-fz5uh yes, healthy flirting is under explored, there are many subtleties, for example you can flirt jokingly with an old lady where it is just social vibing and there is no ambiguity on either side, but you could use almost the same replies you would use with a girl you are interested in, but not quite, and not with the same tone. A subtle art. A pity on the internet you find a lot of toxic manipulative material and very limited healthy education on this
@@rw5622 because in this sick world if I face that risk of rejection head on it is unlikely to just be a simple rejection, it will manifest into a smear campaign, loss of friends, community, job, etc.
Ana, in your next video would you please teach us your skin smoothing and polishing technique? Please include detailed instructions on how I would pry the barnacles off of my forehead and scrape the crusty stuff off my nose. Thank you! 😇
Try not to be overly rational/logical in emotional moments or when feelings are there. Don't think, but also listen to that little voice of reason in your head telling you to be mindful of your actions, such as safety.
There were a lot of HINTS in this video that my brain is broken but nothing really drove the point home like the Kiss The Girl scene in The Little Mermaid. I've seen that movie dozens of times and that's probably my favorite scene but I did not pay an ounce of attention to what Ariel and Eric were doing besides sitting in a boat. Boring. The main focus for me was Sebastian getting all the animals to make up a song on the fly. THAT was the meat of it. The real draw to the scene. And now, as an adult I don't understand what flirting is but if you want me to make up a song on the fly about any random topic, I got you.
Couple of tips; There two types of flirting, friendly flirting and sexual intent flirting Flirting only works if both parties are somewhat attracted to each other If the other party gives bland responses to your flirting, stop. He or she doesn’t like you If you want to have sex with the person, you eventually will have to flirt with sexual intent. If he or she responds positively, they want sex also. If not, stop. Flirting is basically teasing, kind like of playful bullying. But both parties do to each other, it’s not a one sided. If you forcing flirting, it’s not flirting. Flirting comes naturally. Flirting is basically the chase. Both parties know what they doing and enjoy the thrill of it. A married party flirt with a single party. He or she is entertaining the idea of cheating and will, depending on the other party. Or might be thinking about divorcing and saving the party they flirting with for a future relationship/booty call.
If you want to have sexual relations with a person what should be the correct path is to directly ask them, not some intensely complicated game of roundabout
Flirting is the war of a glance ❤ In an instant, we see ourselves fixing our eyes on each other’s eyes. Your beauty has spoiled you. Few resist the third second without looking away, without blushing. One second, two seconds. And I keep my posture. I know what I came for. The paused breathing thaws and leaves the mouth slightly open, releasing a sigh. The heart rises. I stand. Three seconds. I feel cold in my arms and heat in my face. All sound stopped. Four seconds that have already dilated into many. If you lose, we both lose. But neither of us surrenders. A sketch of a smile begins to form. The eyes tighten and a different glow alerts us. The smiles open. The last second is complete. Two victors emerge from the war 🎉
2:40 Wait, people flirt just for fun?? Getting someone’s hopes up for funsies is kind of cruel, isn’t it? 4:13 Wait, people *actually* enjoy that? I find all of that to be exhausting and a huge source of stress & anxiety.
Ohhhh so that's what I've been doing with my girlfriend all this time lol and why she initiates it so much... thanks for the video! Will be doing a lot more now for fun!
It's interesting that Coppola's Dracula is possibly your favorite film. I consider it so highly underrated. Coppola did absolutely genius creative things in that campy horror. Did I hear you say you're Romanian, or something like that, once?
It’s because you’re supposed to escalate the level of flirting through your behavior/words. You don’t start with touching them or something more forward. One step at a time.
