What Is Love? 

He ain’t lying about listening. We mostly listen to respond.. instead of listening to understanding

Speaking to Will's analogy: someone once said if a flower fails to bloom, the gardener does not look to change the flower, he changes its environment.

The sad reality is that a lot of us are single because the concept of love that is being sold to us in films, books and even social media is just not real life. we all have these unrealistic expectations of a significant other and aren't even ready to invest ourselves in the relationships we have. As soon as we get uncomfortable, we walk away forgetting that no one is perfect ourselves included. So if you find someone you really like being with that is ready to be there for you through the thick and thin of things then that's all you really need. Every order thing is just a bunch of fallacies. So let's just stop hurting ourselves by going after people we know we can never have that will only treat us like dirt but instead start truly recognizing the real thing when they come into our lives...

To me, the most important element of love is 'safety'. Safety from harm. Safety from lies. Safety from infidelity. Safety from humiliation. For until we feel safe with someone, we cannot be free to love with all our heart and soul.

I feel lucky to be alive on the planet at the same time Will Smith is

"There is nothing that feels better to a human being than to feel understood."

Someone said. “Don’t fall in love.” Rise in love.”

The part he said about not being capable of making someone happy is soooooo true.

I think one of the greatest things I've learned about love is that love is unselfish. You don't get anything out of love. Like Will said, love isn't an exchange. It's an undeserved gift. Love is someone slapping you in the face and you giving that person a hug. It goes beyond fairness and beyond justice but we're afraid of that kind of love because it often gives birth to abuse. It gives birth to hurt and continuous forgiveness. So we settle. We settle for desire and pleasure. We settle for the exchange because there's only so many times you can allow someone to slap you in the face. but the beauty of love is that one day when it's you who's fed up. When it's you who chooses to slap someone in the face and that person reaches out their arms and hugs you. You'll suddenly realise there's someone else out there who's just as willing to love. Just as willing to make that sacrifice. Just as willing to compromise, to listen, to understand and when you find that person then real love becomes worth it because it will never get to the point of abuse and so FEAR is removed.

“We accept the love we think we deserve”

“you can not make a person happy” Damn I felt that :(

God bless this man. I hope he finds someone that luvs him as much as he luvs her

you are a wise and inspirational person Will. “When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new.” ― The Dalai Lama

What is Love? The best answer I have ever heard was the one from the Holy Bible. "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never gives up." (citation: 1 Corinthians 13:4-8)

I always like this guy and now I understand why. He's an evolving human.

GOD is love and love Is perfect when it flows from Him down into you and finally to people around you...that's what salvation or getting saved feels like...very undescribable feeling ..imagine opening your heart to the God of the universe and his love being poured out to you

“Seek to understand before being understood” Charles Ross

Sometimes love is not only holding on, sometimes love is also letting go....

This literally needs to be taught in schools. We need a class on: Love.

Love is assaulting someone on live television for a crappy joke and forgiving yourself right after and making it only about you. That's love

Wow, the "Gardener and Flower" is a great way to explain love.

The paradigm for is gardener flower. The relationship a gardener has with a flower. The gardener wants the flower to be What it's DESIGNED to be. NOT What the gardener want it to be. What a deep revelation!!!!

Its crazy how will is so intelligent and animated

Losing that "get" mentality is gold. Love has no expectations. Most relationships have issues with devotion not love.

"If one sits still and is quiet, the foolish think of you as shy, but the educated know thee to be wise. One can gain the most, in silence."

This made me break down completely. I've been in love with my best friend from high school almost ever since we met. He had a tough upbringing but he's such a talented individual. I've always been here (8 years) to help him with his struggles, and help him become the man that God meant for him to be. I always knew he had feelings for me but earlier this week he finally told me that he loves me and he broke down all the reasons why and the reasons were in this video. 💕

Helping someone be the best version of themselves

When we think of love, we often first think of transactional love that fit our needs to be happy. But in fact real love is more like giving without expecting anything in return, and wanting the best for both.

holy crap. so much wisdom and how crazy is it that we can spread ideas like this online 🤯

“Don’t fall in love, rise in love” 🥺👏🏻

This resonated strongly with me. His thought patterns are very different

Happiness is within yourself.. You're either happy with yourself and life or you aren't,and no one can change that... You have to be happy and content with yourself and who you are before you can accept someone into your life who expands that happiness... Don't sell yourself cheap or short for someone who brings you down,adds negative drama or interrupts your happiness...Me,circa 2021.. 😁

What a wonderful world this would be if everyone was as evolved in their thinking as this

one of my teachers who's also a Catholic priest taught us this: the feeling of like is when the pleasure goes to you, love is when the pleasure is to someone else

You've gotta dance like there's nobody watching, love like you'll never be hurt, sing like there's nobody listening, and live like it's heaven on earth.

Everyone wants to be heard, but everybody can't talk at the same time. It's easier for me to consider my own experiences- where people havent listened to me because of my packaging -as a young black woman when luving people + all I want to give them is my attention. I want them to feel seen because I remember what it felt like not be heard, to be looked over. What I'm trying to say is I think that of we as a whole listened to people + gave them the kind of understanding like he said + validation that we would want I think there would be less misunderstanding regardless of the different labels + packaging we possess-the kinds that automatically create communication barriers. Then, it becomes simple to luv because you're mirroring how'd you want someone to luv you. I find it very draining at times to try to luv people when I'm not full,s so it's very necessary to take personal time for filling your cup because you want to «leave people feeling better than when you met them».

Will is one of the wisest people I've ever heard talk

Look at his eyes. You see that pain it's given by a toxic person who you try to love with all your heart.

This allows me to set a standard of how I want to be loved by other people

I read this quote, it has stuck with me a long time. " If you meet somebody and your heart pounds, your hands shake, your knee's go weak, that's Not the One. When you meet your "soul mate" you will feel calm. No anxiety No agitation. " It, with thought makes sense. Sadly, I also read this quote " I'm sorry to say this, but, those who are most worthy of love are never made happy by it." Madame de Rosemonde But with love there is always hope... and so , I will always revel in Hope.

Letting someone have the only pink Starburst That's love

When he said "Listen" - Hitch popped into mind like "Listen to what she is saying and respond"

LUV: listen, understand and validate

Love, for me, is giving someone the power to destroy you but trusting that they won't. Love is not a noun, Love is a verb!

"Love is putting someone elses' needs above your own" ~ Olaf from Frozen 1. Will never forget it.

Loving someone without wanting anything in return,thats love.

I’m 30 years old and just learned this today.

I was constantly smiling. This has genuinely validated my actions. Although I shouldn’t need validation. But thankyou Will. All my life I have helped the ones who hurt me and didn’t hurt me. Despite of their actions I have never mistreated or treated them any less than any other person. I have always treated everyone with kindness. Some people easily manipulate me into getting what they need from me but who cares. That is their actions. I remember countless nights going to sleep while telling myself how different I was and I didn’t needed to change myself in order to prevent from getting manipulated and hurt. Because if I were to be anything other than the Giver and Helper and Guide that I am to every unit of people in my life God would have made me so. This video has uplifted me in ways nobody can see. I have said this to so many people but all I got was how they found me a little too much. I loved a little too much for them to handle. Love is giving. Love is kindness. Love is sharing. I have never commented on RU-vid. But Kudos to Will. Kudos.

Love can be different things. Like I love my wife but I love my mom differently. Love is your energy towards that person.

Will Smith ages like wine ❤

“Love is really devotion to their struggle” oof hit hard

The whole “entanglement” debacle honestly proved to me that Will Smith truly knows what he is talking about here. He really knows what love is and it is evident in how he handled the whole situation in his marriage. So rare to find a man that understands love like this.

I hate that Will Smith has the perfect idea of love and its clear that he loves the right way, still gets cheated

THIS: "At it's core I think love is help. ... is a deep desire for our loved ones growth and their blossoming and their all around well being ... is giving & sharing our gifts for the purpose of nurturing and empowering & helping them create their greatest joys" Loved it!

Love is unconditional, love is in not judging the other person, love is respecting each other's opinion even if you don't agree, love is to be comfortable in silence, love is to trust completely, love is to inspire each other, love is accept the flaws and even love it, love is to correct each other not insult, love is endless, love is in you, me everyone bcz love is everywhere❤️

Will Smith inspires me everyday.

Love: is making a choice to benefit someone else.

I'm going thru my first heartbreak. My mom told me something yesterday that really spoke to me she said "Silvia just because you love him it doesn't mean he loves you" when she said that to me I couldn't help but to really think about it. You can truly go to the ends of the world for this one person but if they don't love you then nothing you do or say will make that change. I'm 23 by the way and I lived with this person, we moved to a different state and had plans for the future. Just putting it out there because some people think it's just another middle school drama.

Everyone: I want to take take take Will: Let me tell you what love is

To me love is 'safety'.Safety from harm, safety from lies, humiliation.For until we feel safe with someone,we cannot be free to love with all our hearts and soul.

Wisdom! The gardener also needs to be sure he/she loves themself while loving the flower. If not, the gardener will be looking to the flower for that love and will sometimes be disappointed to the point of heartache.

I've had open heart surgery and a lot of my friends left me bc they think I'm weak but everytime I watch your videos somehow u just make me feel better like I know there's more to life u are truly an inspiration to everyone will

when 90s wisdom meets 2019s technology

The comfort i feel in Will Smiths voice

Wow! He gave me a whole life lesson in under 10 minutes, that’s a gift in itself. I agree! This needs to definitely be taught in school!!!!

Physical attraction may be a part of love, but it's temporary ,love is permanent.

I think Will Smith is one of the wisest people on this planet along with Mike Tyson and I’d love to just be able to talk to both of them for even a minute and maybe they can share some of their wisdom with me

True Love is not definable. It’s crazy, it’s intertwined, it’s tangled up. It’s great, it’s devastating. Words can’t describe, it’s on different dimensions. That why we’re always fumbling around for it, holding on to it and trying to not need it at the same time. Good luck trying to describe it.

This is an absolutely amazing way to spend 6 minutes . Will is so right, listening is a great skill. Not many people do it well. And if you find someone that can listen well, build a friendship with them.

RU-vid has some nerve to put this on my home page rn

"We cannot make a person happy "

the fact that he takes the energy to share this … incredible and so grateful for it

Let's just appreciate how amazing Will is

Will Smith is definitely the one and unique of all people who see life as a gift and defined the meaning of living with purpose! ❤️

"Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails." --- [1 Corinthians 13:4-8 New King James Version (NKJV)]

We all seem to think of love in terms of someone or something other than us. I love you, I love this and that. To begin to define love one must first ask "Do I love myself?" If so, How do I know?" Meditate on this before you answer, don't give yourself automatic answers; and keep in mind, love is not a feeling, is not something we feel but rather a generator of feelings. Happiness, sadness, anger, anxiety are feelings. What does yourself make you feel about yourself? In other words, what do you feel when you see or think about yourself? You can't possibly understand others, love others, if don't understand yourself.

I’ve literally been saying this since a child. Love isn’t just a feeling, it’s a commitment. My mother used to always tell me, “love is what is does.” I thank you for everything you taught me. It is because of you, I am who I am. Fly High Ma, I Luv you Forever & After🕊💕👼🏽

This video/message from Will is beautiful! And to expand upon it . . . “Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.“ “God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.“ “For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” ”In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him.” “'Let it be known to you therefore, brothers, that through this man forgiveness of sins is proclaimed to you, and by him everyone who believes is freed from everything from which you could not be freed…” John 15:13 Romans 5:8 Romans 8:38 1 John 4:9 Acts 13:38-39

Love is respect. Never destroying the others to be someone and never playing a stupid game to destroy the other's feelings.

Transactional love is what Tony Robbins called it Horse-Trading love. I give you love and I expect love from you in return. Most people are indeed at level 1 and 2 of 4 Love levels. The Spiritual Partnership love concept of Gary Zukav is the best way to maintain a healthy relationship. That’s a whole another level of love. 😍 Too bad, Not many people are ready to have such a love mindset and attitude. It’s hard cuz we all have to deal with our ego and emotions, etc😬

Chapter 3 so powerful....."devotion to their struggle" "helping them to suffer less" "helping them to manage their minds and emotions".....so much to be said with all this.....

Overthinking, Fantasizing, Great expectations, Worrying too much and Doubting is what ruins *Love*

This man is so much more than what we have had the privilege of seeing!

One of my favorite videos on RU-vid. Very powerful, next level thinking on something we all strive for. The underlying prerequisite of love is to be one that exhibits those exact concepts explained in the video. Shout to Will Smith and to Love! 🙌🏾🙏🏾

Here 2 months after a break up. Watching this does make me understand life a bit more.

I needed this. Right at this moment. I needed to hear this.

Anything other than giving and nurturing this flower into their greatness “Is Not Love”

She couldn't handle real love... thank you Will

Will definitely needs to posf more often💛 Who's agree??👇🌻

“Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.” ‭‭(1 John‬ ‭4:7-8‬)

Every person has their own individual definition of what love is for them. Although I can very closely relate to Will Smith's definition, it's not all inclusive. I don't expect it to be. We are individuals. Beautiful unique... individuals. Will Smith's definition of love is beautiful and giving. I get that...I do that in relationships. I haven't had a man that is available, love me back in this beautiful way. I've discovered that as a giver I need another giver in my life. Not someone who will only receive love from me and not give love as well.

Watching this video and having a partner makes me so happy and so sad at the same time. My parents (mostly my dad) taught me that love transactional: im created to look after them, to repay them, an investment and insurance for their future.

this made me cry, good tears. His words helped me see that the "love" I got in my last relationship wasn't it

Loving someone is all about growing together and supporting each other when the times are the toughest....😍

You’re so dang intelligent! No one understands love and everyone has a different explanation and meaning to love. But you hit the nail on the head!!! 💜

He really is intuitive & willing to admit his shortcomings

Love is taking your time to listen, understand and validate people.

Title: What Is Love? me: Baby don't hurt me

Someone here doing crazy edits! I just wanna say I listen, understand and validate ya!

Love IS transactional! But the currency is virtue, adoration, consideration, empathy. Also when I help people I do it for ME. I do it because I don't want them to feel bad. I do it because I feel it needs to be and SHOULD be done. It doesn't come from outside ME.