More like in which scenario to ask consent is the question Consent can’t be implied every time , it does become a mood-killer . Ex watching a romantic movie where things happen gradually or etc in some scenarios , consent is implied by mood many times !
@@thecapatalistpropagator_9470 there’s many ways to maneuver consent into a way that isn’t a turn off/ mood killer. Consent is very important and can prevent horrible outcomes after sex or even during it. And using movies was a bad example, that’s why they’re movies. Movies aren’t real life and the actors had consented prior.
@@mistastealyogirlll I think you don’t get my point I ain’t talking about movies I am just giving a scenario where mood is created because of the atmosphere and things happen gradually . In cases like that implying consent verbally becomes a turn-off atleast for me But whatever to each their own
@@thecapatalistpropagator_9470 something girls really like when guys are the ones asking for consent is when they say “is this okay?” or “do you mind if we...” it’s definitely not a mood killer and even a little cute and increases the tension!
Immediately when he said “Sex only lasts ten minutes” I knew they were skipping foreplay. The step is so essential to the couples intimacy , especially for the woman. Slow down not everything is a race.
This couple had issues. Her shame, his lack of recognition that skipping foreplay is not helping. Or that he's admittedly selfish and addicted to porn. Sometimes it takes time to feel comfortable with someone, but they do not seem compatible at all... at least sexually. I went through something so similar in a relationship in my early 20's.
@@lorelei7754 don’t just label them with issues you can’t diagnose them with just appearing for a minutes in this video, plus he overcame his addiction he is no addicted anymor
Not necessarilly lol, I personnaly don't need foreplay and 10 minutes is enough, everyone is different. They might want to look into it though if she cannot have orgasms
@@crystalfumes4915 Exactly everyone is different so what makes you think them skipping foreplay isn't the reason she doesn't finish ? If she can make herself finish but he can't then there is clearly a problem.
Foreplay is a made up concept - it's all just sex... and honestly it's some of the best part of sex. Why people are so keen to skip straight to PIV I'll never understand.
Shout out to the girl helping her bf with his porn addiction, it’s definitely one of those addictions that does not get talk about enough and is a serious problem
@@poocrayon4588 dude, please stop spamming the comments under all these videos with your crap. I'm sorry you see yourself as nothing more than a penis, but not every men is like you. Some men are people too. Stop projecting.
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a) AxxL, your content is nothing but earrape. It's so bad that I can't even call it cringe. It's just earrape. b) Why in the world is anyone taking advice from couples? What's working for them isn't gonna work for you
I don't even have sex ed in my country whatsoever, and the situation of the LGBT+ community is... well, terrifying. But yeah, it's good they do that, somebody has to
@@aahpuuh I suppose so but it still takes time to get to a point with someone to talk about sexual things so openly and it also takes a certain mental point to get upto to even strike up a sexual conversation
It’s just the attraction to other people, but it’s not like you would ACTUALLY have sex with them. That has been the case in my experience, at least. It’s very rare to find someone that only desires you throughout the length of your relationship if you’ve dated for a while.
It’s human nature to be sexual but I understand your anxiety about it, I used to feel the same way. But that stems from personal insecurity and it’s something you need to work on. That or find someone asexual to date
@@Gabe-z8o yeah human nature to be sexual but the desire to do it w sbd else is something different and trust me I'm working on that already it's just hard for me coz I'm my boyfriends first girlfriend
@@notWhiteFerrari I think when there is the desire to do it with sbd else there is something severely wrong in the relationship. The desire to be sexual I understand that this is human nature but like I personally don't have the desire to do it with someone else while being in a relationship so I wonder where this comes from
@@chloescheiber yes! that and it sounds like a lottt of pressure. I liked the couple’s dynamic but never being allowed to say no is an ehh from me, esp for sex
I dont think they meant that they literally have to have sex each time with no choice. It's more like they try not turn each other down and in my personal opinion that is quite healthy. As a divorce lawyer I can confidently say that a large portion of the 50% divorce rate in the country comes from woman being sexually physically and mentally unavailable for a man after having kids. I like her thoughts on relationships as it truly speaks about how one can make their partners happy and not just themselves.
3:54... when I’m in a relationship, I just don’t have the desire to be with anyone else! the thought doesn’t even enter my mind... so sorry girl, but you can’t speak for everyone!
I think it's a little absurd to say that someone who says she never wanted to have sex with someone else is a liar because when I date someone, that is because i love this person deeply, and i don't even lay my eyes on another person because my partner is all i want
I feel like the girl at 7:17 could use some professional help, I've had an awful lot of guilt and shame related to sex and therapy really made me realize that I could enjoy it fully
I related to her SO much throughout this video and therapy has helped me a lot with sex. Highly recommend it for anyone who has the means! (And if you don’t have the budget, a self help book can make a huge difference too!)
This video made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. It wasn't even about sex really, but about relationships and genuine connections. The couples were wonderful as well!
It's about prioritising your partner. Understand that their needs are over yours which actually makes the couple so much connected because they can feel the effort the other person puts in so they can give 100% without questioning if the other person will do the same.
@@joshdunham7167 but they should still be consenting, and thinking about how the other feels about not being up to it. I doesn't matter if they're dating or married that doesnt equal consent
I agree. It can be destructive because your body learns sex isn’t enjoyable sometimes. I can’t imagine my boyfriend going through with sex when I’m not feeling it. Just wait a few hours until they’re in the mood 😅
Well, one of them anyway. Seems like the guy is abit bored but doesn't know how to break up with her without destroying her. His body language seems a wee bit off. It's just a complete contrast to the last couple to speak about consent. Now they seemed the most solid. From the outside looking in anyway.
@@a-aron2276 and i mean he also said that their sex lasts 10 minutes *on a good day*.. no wonder the girl has problems finishing. I feel like he could make a better effort especially seeing how it is affecting her
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@@noelkuriakose8641 It's definitely not the same as being raped by a stranger, but might inflict the same or more pain. I think commitment/trust issues are a very common byproduct towards future relationships.
@@noelkuriakose8641 Me neither. But I know a person that has gone through a comparable situation which I described. It ruins, spoils, changes and shatters way more than one might think.
The way the girl answered about the "desire" to sleep with other people and if someone said "no" they are lying really angered me for some reason. Could not disagree with her more.
@@meganwall-watson3526 Desire is a primal thing you can't control, there are some people that don't experience it but most people do. I would much rather be in a committed relationship and I would never cheat but I'd be lying if I said I never had any desires, it's fine as long as the desire is short lived and you feel more desire for your partner.
Totally get where the guy who’s sober is coming from with the struggling with emotional connection and sex. I’m almost 10 years sober and my husband is the only man I can honestly say I have had the emotional connection sexually with. And he’s right... you can’t compare it to anything. It’s incredible.
Hmm I thought that was a bit weird too but I guess it’s a simple solution to an alternative like keeping tabs or something which sounds rigid and pedantic. Both of them seem to feel mutually about meeting their partners needs which I guess can be considered a kind of compromise and knowing them I’m sure they’d respect a few no-go days (or...even channel it 😂)...I guess it depends on their libido
The couple talking about consent, that’s a real thing. I’m a 30 something year old adult woman; I’m not okay with my partner just thinking he can have his way with me, just because we are in a relationship. It takes two to tango. My body is very much not your property!
I love how all these couples are different, yet all their relationships with each other fit the other and that they all seem very communicative with each other!
I was really surprised when the Asian women said they don't do foreplay and just get straight into it. I've tried that before and it was mighty uncomfy
The comment section here’s really...controversial? There’s two things everybody should know. First of all, every couple is different, and that’s okay. Some couples are fine with their partners doing things such as watching porn or talking to other guys/girls, other couples aren’t. It’s all about honest communication. Secondly, two adults consenting in their free time literally doesn’t affect you at all, whether that be a man/man, woman/man, woman/woman, other, etc. Just because you’re not personally gay/straight doesn’t mean you have to shame others for being that way. Again...what people do privately with their bodies doesn’t affect you at all, so don’t be concerned about it! That’s all. I hardly ever comment on videos like this but seeing the initial reaction in the comments, I just had to chime in. Thanks all and I hope you have a splendid day/night/life
Couples like the one where the women "compromises" on real cheating by flirting online never last. The guy is obviously miserable and she's obviously miserable with him - but he's the only kind of "man" who would put up with a woman who flirts with other men and bosses him around so she gets what she gets, if she wants a relationship.
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Porn ruins so many relationships (helps others too, as one couple said). I believe it ruins so many relationships because so many people have porn addictions and don’t even realize it, and once it becomes an addiction, your ideas on sex / satisfaction / intimacy just get so fucked up. I was in a relationship with someone who had a porn addiction - abs attempted going to therapy to fix the problem - but after a year and a half of so much emotional baggage I couldn’t deal with it anymore. So, I might be biased on my idea of porn within relationships, but on the other hand it’s so easy to find sources online regarding the issues that come with porn, and nothing on any clear benefits so… yeah.
That one couple: it lasts 10 minutes and we don't do any foreplay The girl from thst couple later in the video: yeah I've never gotten off from him, idk why, it's just so difficult for me, I'm so weird ?????!!?!?!!?????!!!!!!!???!!!!??? GIRL
These couples expressed so much vulnerability especially the couple speaking about sobriety and rape. They are strong people and all the relationships seem beautiful!!!
it kinda gives hope to see such couples. they seem to be so open to each other and you can feel, how much they have worked in their relationship. iI honestly hope that they are still as happy
This woman's comments at 3:02 and 3:58 really rubbed me the wrong way, and come to find out she's a sex expert. I'm not too sure about the quality of advice she's giving...seems pretty biased and narrow-minded to me.
4:00 , not everyone wants to have sex with someone else. Plenty of couples are happy having sex with their partner only and aren't wishing or desiring for someone else. That's pretty much saying your partner isn't enough.
I definitely don’t have any sexual desires towards people when I’m in a relationship. I have to have a bond with someone in order to have sexual desires for someone. The thought would make me sick otherwise.
I'm starting to know all the people in videos and i love it! The guy waiting for marige with his partner and the lady with curly hair were in two seperated middle ground videos. One talking about feminist i guess for the guy and open relationship for the lady ... I'm becoming a member ! 😅
I resonated with the Asian girl who talked about guilt when enjoying Sex. For me, it was because the messaging around sex before marriage was always around shame. It didn't even disappear with the person I was certain to get married to one day.
you know.. I can relate to what the woman said… like i feel disappointed or angry at myself because I don’t finish. I do but I don’t. It’s nice to know I’m not the only person in the world because I never talk about it because of that. So honesty knowing someone else does too makes me feel less alone and less… like I’m broken 😕
About the consent. Considering the relationship side of things only, my take on it is as follows: If you consent on doing something and change your mind later on or whatever, it's YOUR job to express that you don't like that/don't want that. Sure, you can also ask your partner if he/she is comfortable with doing this and that, but for me personally that would be "mood killer" if I had to ask about every single thing I do. We do things, she/he says "no" if he/she feels not comfortable with that and we stop - less hustle for both parties... and whether you respect that or not, that's totally different story.
For me, yes. Saying you don't consent on things that are going to happen won't hurt either. We're both adults, and you're not my mom for me to ask about permissions to do stuff - it's your job to say stop if you don't enjoy things, simple.
the girl who was sexually assaulted by her partners is unfortunately VERY misinformed…. it's not extremely rare, it’s actually a HUGE issue. and majority of SA happens with someone you already know :(
Am I the only one who thinks that the guy in the red cap is a Justin Bieber’s clone? Thanks for the video! Everyone was so nice and open, that’s very valuable!
Personally, never had the desire to sleep with anybody else, I might have thought about it, but I do not DESIRE it. It is normal to think someone else is attractive, sexy etc. , but I would never want to sleep with them. Period.
When she started talking about her past sexual trauma it was really noticeable how he quickly became aware and engaged and reassuring her with his body language 🖤
@Amazing World ask yourself what if your partner loves other people while dating you. if you're okay with it, then you should find someone who is okay with it too. if you're not okay when people do that to you but you wanna do it to your partner, get therapy.
Keywords matter online so "sex" vs "intimacy" is going to get more views 🤷🏿♀️ There's no doubt the couple who have decided to wait for intercourse have other ways of being intimate and showing deep care for other.
The question: "What is sex like?" can still be answered by people who haven't had sex yet or don't feel the need to. It's a very broad question and they have their own answers to it, and I'm glad they showed them because it shows you that it's not some "competition" to lose your virginity and that people are genuinely asexual and shouldn't be forced to conform and have sex if they do not want to. So, that's what sex is like for them, for example.
i think it was unfair for the woman to say “if you are saying you don’t desire to have sex with other people you’re lying”. some people have extremely low sex drives or only have sexual attraction to people whom they have a close bond with ..
I thought that was super weird too. Like what that's blurring the lines of consent and basically saying your partner owes you sex whenever you want it which is very much not okay at all.
As someone who was religious when I was 18-20 and was in a relationship for almost 2 years while wanting to wait for marriage. I was a virgin so Nope, I never had the desire to have sex with other people while in that relationship.
