I like how the teacher didn't punish him too. The kids gotta learn the harsh way sometimes. Like how parents bite their biting kids back. I saw my cosin punching her brother, he bullied his younger sister. When he started crying I asked Why are you crying. He said Because she hit me. I answered: You punched her first. If you can punch her, she can kick your ass too. Needless to say, he didn't throw hands at his sis again 😂 He knew she's going to fight back
That's what I was thinking?? Like it seemed like the teachers were watching the bully push the guy around cause otherwise he would've gotten trouble for punching for no reason, yet they didn't stop the bully?
I have worked in early child care for several years now, from the sound of the story, the bully was not pushing the other child hard enough for him to fall over. Personally I would have backed up the child who was talking to the bully on the floor, trying to stop him verbally before stepping inbetween him and the child. Also we do not know the full context of everything that was happening, the teacher and aide could very well have been preoccupied, I can't tell you how many times I've turned to help a kid with something for like 3 seconds only to turn around and see my assigned kid yelling/crying. Another thing to consider is that teachers and aides are very, *_very_* rarely allowed to even touch children anymore. Most aides & teachers have to be crisis trained now and are only allowed to grab children if it is _"absolutely necessary"_ (i.e. they are a severe physical danger to themselves or other people and must be restrained). Any physical touch is heavily documented now, even something as simple as grabbing a child's arm can land you in trouble with administration. You can thank the lawsuits for this btw.. (also if it wasn't apparent, this is from an American schooling perspective)
Not all playground bullying have to be meditated by adults. If the kids can figure it out themselves that's good. Since the teacher could tell everything word by word they and the kid's aid were probably watching to intervene if needed. And ultimately the whole thing obviously didn't need an intervention cause the kid could stand up for himself.
I'm a kindergarten teacher and I try not to get involved too fast. Not because I don't want to, but because some kids want to handle stuff themselves, so if they show no sign of distress and manage to hold their own- like the kid that was being talked about here- I wait and see what happens. When they need help, you can tell. Also, you don't know the kid at all. Some kids at our day care FREAK OUT if you do something for them that they didn't ask you for. The dad doesn't seem concerned about the teachers not doing anything, and he knows his kid best, so it seems to be fine.
My parents were called when i was threatened for suspension for calling the police. I was in grade 7, being bullied physically for 2 months and the staff were doing nothing. Also it qasnt just being shoved n shit, let me give a few examples... I was pushed and pinned against a brick wall, they smashed my head against it a few times until i passed out, i woke up under the bagracks and blood down my face when it was night. They'd all grab me and kick the shit out of me, pull my hair out, cut my wrists with scissors, and sometimes literally tie me up and gag me. I called the police, the HOY (head of year) for my year level told them it was a prank call and sent them away then threatened me with suspension, threatened ME and i went home crying and scared for my life. Anyone wanna know what school this is..? Sunshine Beach State High in Queensland, Australia. I left not even halfway throughout term 2 year 8 and got homeschooled for the rest of the year and the next one. Year 7 for me at that school was 2021..
I'm pretty sure that was one of the reasons why she didn't. Especially because the lil badass has autism and a disability (deafness in case you missed it).
I had a similar situation myself Honestly most likely the actual reason is because they know the kid wouldn't initiate, only retaliate I was the quiet kid who just sat there reading Had a day where some guy was throwing bits of his lunch at me. Breaking off bits of the plastic fork and such I ignored it and kept reading Then he threw the lunch tray (an alluminum foil type thing, not solid) at me, which hit me in the chest and landed in my lap (didn't hurt thankfully) I picked it up and threw it back. Bounced off his head He flips, teachers get involved. He gets told to leave the lunch room. I got told to go back to what i was doing. They knew I wouldn't just randomly throw shit. I sit and read. Did it every day for 4 years. He was the one being a shit and got punished for it. Never happened again
Boy, that sure is a funny way to say, “My disabled child’s teacher allows bullies to do whatever they want and simply stands by and watches as they actively try to cause harm to others.”
@@totitelevisionshowexactly this. I have worked with preschoolers and unless there was a physical fight (ie: active punching from both sides) I didn’t get involved if I thought the kids could work it out. When I did that there was less one sided aggression. Letting mean kids get hit and then punishing them for instigating (while also teaching them that word even if they can’t pronounce it) stopped them from doing it to other kids because they realized they weren’t the strongest on the playground and kids didn’t wanna be friends with them cuz they were mean. If you’re teaching kids how to interact with other kids you have to let them learn conflict resolution, which doesn’t always happen with words.
I have a nonverbal autistic 6yo. If his teacher told me that while laughing, we would be in the principal's office before she could hang up. Its not funny especially if they are deaf and concentrating on stacking blocks. Thats like you getting sucker punched from behind. Oh so funny! Gtfooh.
The pure fact that he would get in trouble as in the victim not the bully is just dumb if you get hit first or bullied for entire year now in D’s or from first grade to fifth teachers will bring much be asleep, but the moment you fight back they are up your butt
Reminds me of a story I mom told me of when I was at the park. A kid kept putting wood chips down my shirt. I tried to walk away from him and play somewhere else, but he kept following and pour wood chips down my shirt. Fed up I grabbed a handful of wood chips and did the same to him then punched him in the face. 😊 *My mom grabbed me and we ran away*
I have something similar I was in daycare playing with a Tonka fire truck (if anybody knows anything about Tonka, they know that theyre usually made of metal), and there was a bully who took my fire truck, went over and played with the fire truck by himself. I didnt let it slide, so i grabbed the firetruck back, hit him on the head with the firetruck, and went back to my spot to play with it while the bully was crying. I did get called on, but my dad didn't punish me
There used to be a few more teachers like that around. My great aunt tells a story about how when she was in school there was a boy behind her that would pull her hair. She told the teacher and the teacher said next time it happened to hit him and my great aunt did. Didn't get in trouble either
I heard a similar story about a younger cousin of mine. Basically that child was trained to fight from very little. In school he was bullied for some reason. Probably because he was in a school for smart rich children. And he was only smart and athletic. One day his bullies wanted to do something to one of his friends. But he knocked them out with a few punches in less than 20 seconds. Well the rich parents didn't even care enough to do something about it. My uncle said he nearly shat his pants. Basically my cousin got awarded with a one week suspension and wasn't bullied anymore.
My grandma got called into my uncles school when she was a mom and they called her and told her that he escaped from the playground because he threw sand at another kids eyes and thought he was going to get in big trouble so he ran away
I’m happy the little little boy stood up for himself :-) but it seems strange to me that the teacher is cracking up over students hitting each other even if it’s deserved
My odd experience was different, I was at the school when the principal said my son had been walking down the hall humming a Classical music tune. I just responded "uh huh". We had classical music playing at home often, so no surprise. Son is now a musician who hosts a classic music program on a public radio station.
I asked my mum this question. She said it was when my school called her and told her that I had a basketball game that had been moved to the week after. I was so confused because she told me I was in eighth grade when she got that call. I stopped playing basketball in fourth grade 😂
When my older sister was in kindergarten, my mom got a call from the school about a drawing of hello kitty. When my mom got to the school and saw the drawing, it was a drawing of hello kitties stomach. My mom asked what time she drew this, the teacher replied "20 minutes before lunch". Then my mom asked if she was hungry. My sister was hungry, and because she didn't know how to communicate that, she drew a picture of hello kitties stomach
One single mistake for the teacher, she didn’t do anything about the kid pushing him, the teacher should’ve told the kid to not push him, and she could’ve prevented a kid from getting hurt
My parents got a call from the school cop because they were doing drug checks with the dog and the dog alerted to my bag. (Apparently inhalers make drug dogs alert) But once the cop explained the issue my parents weren’t mad at all
My math teacher used to have small breaks, me not having a phone, once got in trouble for having a stick, a fickong stick, she then said "get your phone" were calling your parents 😅😂
When I was in kindergarten I had a friend who was a guy (I’m a girl) and we used to be basically inseparable. I wanted to be with him and he wanted to be with me but our individual friends wanted to be with their friend. So what needed happening was the whole class played together, the teachers called our mom and said that this was the first time they had seen anything like this. They also called because the same guy got on his knee and kissed my hand…bet that was a fun conversation for our parents. 😂
here's the thing. some kids with adhd or autism are taught there has to be 3 offenses, like 3 times ignoring when a boundary is being told either by the kid or the kid's friend or teacher or someone else who knows they don't like it, before they're allowed to react and give consequences. the thing is, some teachers don't understand their actual need to smack back when the offender doesn't stop after being told, and sometimes parents don't understand either. I was basically *told* not to let people walk all over me but also told not to do anything myself and go to an adult for help. being *told* no by the student doesn't work, why would being told no by the teacher? autistic people *need* to be allowed to act out consequences when words don't work, because otherwise, you're just teaching them they're not allowed to have boundaries but everyone else are.
And this is why the teachers sat back with popcorn. Because what better way to teach “actions have consequences” to a bully then to let the victim round on them.
I got in trouble my first day of kindergarten. I was on the bus & a 5th grade bus patrol told me to move spots & I refused than I called him a “poopy hiney hole”.😂🤷🏼♀️ I was sent to the principals office & my Mom was called & told of the incident.
That's the problem. They do nothing about bullying, until the victim pushes back. Then both get in trouble, because fighting isn't allowed. I would sue the school, if they punished my child for defending themselves.
My mother was once contacted by the school to be told that my brother was picking up chairs, throwing them around and swinging on fellow students. When she tried it was him: Mom: John? John Doe? Teacher: No. John Smith. Mom: that ain't my kid.
I was once called to school because my7 year old and her friends were all talking about serial killers. And criminal profiling. After the school counselor yelled at us parents for introducing that to our kids, I asked the kids some questions. Like where did they learn that? They watched Criminal Minds at a sleepover. For some reason, the counselor tried to end things at this point. Why? The girls all spent a night at a friend's birthday sleepover. Where the mom gave them express permission to watch the show. That girl' mother was, of course, the counselor who said we were bad parents.
I’ll tell this story for my parents. My brother is autistic, high functioning. He was bullied in school, and I guess had enough one day. I wasn’t there for this and I don’t remember much at the time, but apparently he was getting bullied and swung his lunchbox at the kid. It was a full on lunchbox wielding duel. My mom was not amused but my dad could not stop laughing. 15 years later, my dad makes a lunchbox mace with a shield and hangs it on the wall in honor of my brother.
My son was going to his Doctor's appointment with my wife while I was deployed, my son is a head and shoulders taller then other kids his age so he tends to stand out when with his peers but as he was by himself at the Doctor's Office he just looked older then he was. Another kid roughly my son's size apparently tried to pick on him with my wife and his mother telling the kid to knock it off. The kid apparently tried hitting my wife which led to my son punching the kid squarely in the chest making him gasp for air. He yelled "Daddy said I need to protect mommy till he gets home! You leave her alone!" Turns out the little Heathen was some Officer's kid so when I get called in to my DH office to be told of what happened I couldnt help but feel pride!
My mom has a good one about my brother! Someone purposely flooded the boys bathroom on the first floor of our school by stuffing the sinks with wads of paper towels and running all the taps. The principal went to each class telling all the boys to write notes and tell them if they knew anything and it would be kept confidential. Most kids wrote "I don't know anything" and left it there. My brother wrote a full letter, becoming a detective who determined which classes were more likely to contain the culprit and provides "clews" (yes, this gives you an idea how old he was). The principal called my mom laughing hysterically and arranged for my mom to get the original note to keep. I think my mom still has it after 20 years lol
If my words won’t work, my fist sure will!” Said by 5yo me in front of the whole church congregation. A boy was bothering me while we sung. his mother tried to scold me;I laughed @ her son
My daughter has epilepsy. The office lady, i guess she was new. Called me. Telling me i have to come and pick up my daughter before she infects the other kids with her illness. I was just laughing. And told her does she know what epilepsy is.
When I was little (maybe kindergarten or grade one) the teacher straight up emailed my mom asking if we were doing okay financially. My mom was a little perplexed on why she would be asking that. The teachers had become concerned on how much mashed potatoes I brought for lunch. Not knowing I packed my own lunches and they were leftovers from supper we had the night before. I would just sit contently and not talk to anyone until I finished a container bigger then my head full of mashed potatoes. I was one weird kid.
My middle and high school called my mom at the end of the years when they went through all the students Chromebooks to wipe them and when they checked my Google docs they found the books I was writing and called my mom. The first question they asked was "are you safe at home?" And my mom and I just died laughing and when mom asked what it was about they responded "well we found her writing..." and we didn't give em the chance to finish before we started laughing again cause I'd been very vocal to Mt kin that I was trying to write stories and using them to vent my frustration. Yeah they didn't call us in the years after
The fact that nobody was around Is ridiculous. It really shows how much that school cares when they say "Oh, if this was a non disabled student, they'd be in trouble". If you as a teacher don't do your job to supervise. The students should not get in trouble for standing up for themselves, disabled or not.
Mine was my son did not like peanut products. He was only 3 and cared little for certain foods. His teacher smeared peanut putter on his lips jokingly and thought it was funny. It wasn’t funny when he went into shock. He’s all well now but I was livid.
This is the most fakest story I ever heard, but damn I wish it were real! The teacher and principal didn't suspended the kid for defending himself. Teachers would normally wont bat an eye when kids are getting bullied, but when the kid fights back, THEY were the ones getting introuble!
I had a similar ish thing happen to me. This was from reception, so it's very vague to me, but i remember this kid called Jack who liked to tackle people. He once did it to me, and after a few times of asking him to get off (which he lf course didn’t) i bit his hand between the thumb and the 1st. He got up and ran off while i calmly stood up. Possibly dusted myself off as it was outside and walked to this wooden car thing where i pretended to drive it.
when i was in 5th grade i was playing tag with a few friends, i ended up tripping on my shoe lace while running and skid across the concrete and tore my knee open. i didn't really feel anything from the adrenaline so i just walked to the nurses office by myself after my friend put a piece of gauze over my knee. the nurse took one look at me and called my mom in a panic. the first thing she said is "do i have consent to put a bandaid on your kid?" mind you, this was in 2016.
Believe it or not, this is a VERY necessary lesson thats better learned in childhood than adulthood, NOW that kid will always think twice before provoking the innocent for fun or hate or whatever, cause doing that as an adult can cost you so much more than temporary pain and shock 😂
For the people who will inevitably claim this story is false: I, a person with autism, once tackled a girl while we were both sitting on the rug for math class because she stole my book while we were supposed to be working on the problems together. I didn't even like math. I just knew that we had a job to do, she wasn't listening to me, and I needed it back. I was like... 7/8 at the time. And only until years later when i was a full fledged adult did i learn that my teacher not only saw the whole thing but called my mom about it to let her know what happened and that i wasn't being punished for it lmao. My mom still swears that the teachers exact words were that she didn't think I "meant to do it" But i did. I meant to do it.
Badass. On a similar note, I used to get bullied in preschool by this girl. I obviously couldn’t hit back but she’d push me down the slide and shit. One day I dumped milk on her head at lunch, my parents had to pretend to be mad but they didn’t care. The teachers never cared when my parents complained about my black eyes so too bad
The way I would go after those teachers just watching and laughing while my autistic deaf son gets bullied is a level of rage unmatched even by John Wick himself.
I have had this happen. I work with toddlers btw 1 year olds. This particular child is almost 2 and she is very smart and speaks very well. Another child kept hitting and pushing her so as her teacher I moved the other child. This happened several times even after the other was a child was sat in a highchair for a moment to redirect and calm down..the kid was determined and the moment she could she ran right back to the other child who was very tired of this; she slapped the other girl screaming very loud to stop. The other girl got the hint and left her alone. Also, we didn't just watch we did intervene and redirect. We separated the two several times but for some reason, the little girl was determined to bother her and wouldn't stop.
