Dr Clare Weeks wrote in the 60' s about FACING the fear. She wrote " face the tiger, and thow away the gun " ! Wise words have now have scientific basis.
I do Everything I can..the Best I Can. I WAS a people pleasing..God-Fearing..perfectionist. My main problem is Tension..so I use my mantra..”Relax..Breathe..I am Okay.” All of our emotions are Okay..Be Aware..just don’t dwell There! 😊❤
I wasn’t expecting that. I thought the one word would be SAFE. Confronting is an emotionally laden word that I find triggering. I wonder how many others had the same reaction? Facing is a more neutral word that I feel happy to act on. It feels more empowering and less messy than “confronting”.
Yes use that word as well - facing- it’s the same thing really. Fear of confronting or fear of conflict are major things I see in people with these conditions. Something we want to address and something I had to address in myself for healing
@@thepainpt Curious - say I identify with what you're explaining (I do have chronic pain and I'm more and more aware that it's tied to emotional learning/trauma) - would activities like martial arts - where "conflict" is the whole premise - be generally useful in reducing the chronic pains and fear/avoidance associated with them?
This message is so important! Avoidance has been the primary word. I’ve been concerned with over the last year, and I’ve gotten a lot better through leaning into things that I was avoiding. Claire Weekes books really helped me with this.
This is really the lesson of living life, applying this exact construct to anxiety and other mental health challenges gets the same “healing” outcome, thanks for sharing!
Very helpful video, thanks so much! Along with MBS symptoms I’ve developed a hyper vigilance about my health in general, totally unrelated to my symptoms. Fears. This helps in knowing how to deal and work with those… confrontation. Taking control.
Sometimes fear is telling us not to do something because it's genuinely not in our best interests. I like to reflect on whether the activity or experience is in alignment with my core values. If it is and im still fearful thats OK and I'll try and just lean into that. If its not in alignment then my fear is probably justified. Not feeling fear (or any emotion) is a form of disassociation and therefore bad for our wellbeing.
As long as your symptoms are not coming from a structural damage and a doctor tells you everything is ok. That’s my problem right there , for me personally I feel like I’m stuck in this massive loop of denial , I have grown into health anxiety to the Max primarily due to this stupid Covid vaccine I took. So many people with all the same symptoms and also struggling through that no tests show any issues because all of these issues seem to be neurological which show up as invincible symptoms. So going through the thought process of ruling out all structural damage first is not as easy to do through these weird times with all the crap given to us. Either way your message is spot on , it’s hard as hell to do but it’s spot on and I appreciate your videos. Thank you
How are you doing? Hope you are doing well. I know a woman who suffered many issues after P vac and all the tests were clear... It seems she is getting better now... Keep positive, I believe this mind body work can help you...
Yes you don’t want to push you want to ease forward gently but consistently while you handle the reactions from the brain and build yourself up day by day week by week. If you push really hard, you’ll get a strong reaction its still nothing wrong with it its just that it becomes harder to handle
What if we don't know yet? I am awaiting MRI results and the other symptom that is seriously messing with me is extreme body heaviness and a sense of disconnect from my neck to my arms. I realize some of this can be anxiety but I also have a rare adult human growth hormone deficiency as well as Hashimoto's, thyroid etc. I have no idea if these current symptoms are from something new and worse or more of my current/usual. I BELIEVE this entirely but am SO damned afraid of my fear.
Have you seen this cause fear of being alone? Because I feared symptoms not knowing what was causing them for so long, I developed a fear of being alone. I am pushing hard to get past it because I have kids and my husband has to work at night. So I’m better at night during the night than during the day.
So I have IBS C. 2 years now. What am I doing wrong? I think I’m welcoming it? I mean I’m certainly not anxious because I have meds to help me continue bathroom but that’s it… I need a pill to go to bathroom. 😢 I’m more angry that brain lost its ability to do something that’s like breathing…. Ugh
Does this approach with dizziness upon standing? It improves a lot when I start moving around, but I anticipate the wooziness and jelly legs and it scares me. Im finding myself putting off standing up/getting up.
How is Claudia in one of your last videos for burning mouth? Can I reach out to her? I’m just struggling so much and I see she also feared food…I want to ask her some questions in that part of it. Can I email her?
Walking is still a challenge. Now that the pain has dropped I challenge myself to walk (without a stick) from garage to house. I can do it, but its clumsy. The bigger issue is when working physically. I am clearing brush. Using Chainsaw. I am not fearful of symptoms, I am afraid I will fall due to poor footing. In this example, is using a stick to maintain balance OK? I never had a problem with footing pre-TMS. I simply cannot fall while handling a running chainsaw.
Yes, you can use a stick if you’re having balance issues. See if you can work to regain your balance and strength and also Face the fear that would come with that as well and add to or cause your imbalance.
I love your videos but this one is the most difficult to take in. You tell us to confront avoidance behaviours. But how? To what extent. In his book "The way out" Alan Gordan writes that avoidance behaviours are just fine and to build up doing new activities etc gradually. Challenge your triggers but in a gentle way. This was wonderfully reassuring. I don't understand your approach or what it would mean on a day to day basis?
In early stages of confronting fear or graded exposure you might be at a stage of simply watching videos of an activity (for me it was typing on the computer). That was enough to trigger anxiety. And then you can use somatic tracking or other tools to work with the anxiety
I am in pain till morning to night. I drink all day to stop the pain. I just want to die. Nothing works for me. I hate waking up in the morning the pain starts again.
