What It Feels Like To Be A Woman Diagnosed With ADHD Later In Life 

As a woman myself who was diagnosed at the age of 21 (I am 23 now) I have to say it is very intense. For me, I always was told I was hyper, forgetful, lazy. No one warns you about the process it takes to accept that you are hyper , you are forgetful, but you are not lazy. In fact, you try every second of the day just to get up. I sleep with black out curtains due to the sensory of the sun in the morning. I drink the same coffee the same way because it’s my “schedule” I have made. I’ve gotten much better at treating myself better. I have a loving husband who tries so hard for me. I don’t know what I’d do without him. More importantly finding God saved me. I hope anyone who sees this just know human to human I love you, and I support you! Sincerely internet friends ❤

Yessss!!! Except ppl think I’m dumb when they don’t realize my brain is faster and it just resolved one issue and moved on to the next.

Anyone else cried watching this?

"It's not because I don't care, I care about everything, even the small things. I just can't focus on one thing at a time like you." That hit me hard. I'm 32 and was never diagnosed with ADHD, only depression. But I feel that it became worse in the last years for me to focus. I hope everyone gets a good treatment or finds their own ways out or strategies to deal with that. We all deserve to be happy ❤

I was diagnosed at 39 years old and at 41 feel even more like 2 toddlers in a trench coat trying to scam everyone into thinking I’m a functional adult. When my partner brought up the idea of us being parents, I had no idea how to explain to him that I have no business taking on a responsibility for another person when I can barely do the bare minimum for myself…😂until I couldn’t get my meds for 2 weeks. So far only he and my doctors know. I still haven’t told my family about my diagnosis. I never felt comfortable talking about my thoughts and feelings to them, not after so many times of “what’s wrong with you?!?” yelled at me when growing up. Thank you for showing what it’s like and how we struggle with it.

Amazing job capturing something so important that a lot of us deal with daily!

I’m so glad its recognized by a male dr and he puts this kind of content out there for women AMAZING 👏🏽thank you so much❤❤

I could watch this over and over again… everything about it was me… the overlapping voices, the masking in relationships, the not sleeping so I could have my time and my space, forgetting things, the zoning out, the distancing for fear of not being accepted or just actually not being accepted, heck even what she was wearing looked like what I would wear because I just couldn’t be bothered to try to wear what others thought was “more appropriate for my age”. I get so tired of masking 23 hours a day and barely having an hour to be me. Even my dreams race like I’m still awake in the real world and my mind is never at ease. Everything was me except for the very last part, because every relationship I’ve had has failed. I either get tired of dealing with the masking, or the trying to put out fires before they start, or the explaining the way I am, etc. After the failure of my most recent relationship, I got diagnosed with ADHD. Adderall changed my life. I feel normal mostly. I still struggle but it’s not the catastrophic feeling of struggle I once felt. Yet, it’s almost like now I’m 1000x more hesitant to get to know anyone. I wish our people could understand that this isn’t just some “quirky” personality trait or something we can put away at certain times that just happens to come out once in a while. I wish people could understand that ❤ thank you Dr. Kojo for making us feel seen and heard 🙏 this short film was everything

Diagnosed at 56. I felt embarrassed to even be considering treatment at this stage in life, but I’m so happy that I did. Now if only my drugs had better availability-the anxiety of not being able to get my meds from month to month is nearly as bad as the diagnosis alone!

Your channel is among those that have convinced me to go in for a screening. This short film describes an experience I haven't articulated in over 30 years on this planet. I wish my parents had caught on why I was the way that I was, because in retrospect I don't know how anyone could have missed I wasn't okay.

This captures the feeling so well!

I feel seen.. I was diagnosed AUDHD at 36.. 14 months later, I am still learning to unmask..

All the things it says undiagnosed ADHD in adult women causes, I've struggled with for decades. I'm still sorting my way through what feels like the rubble of my 40 years on earth, trying to figure out what was real and what wasn't. Ya know?

So true. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 49 & ASD at 51.

Wow ! Story of my life ! Thank you for making this public.

THANK FOR CLEAR Video" What IS LIVING with Adhd🤝🤝

Felt this so deeply....diagnosed at 46. #audhd

Diagnosed at 37. I feel like you went in my head and made this except I’m single with kids so I’m still really struggling. At least I know why now though.

Ok but is anyone else hung up on the fruit imagery? Because lemme tell you, I almost tuned her out hyperfixating on it and my OCD wants to sort things now

Diagnosed at 46 it made so much sense when I stopped being in survival mode it’s like I had to re learn how to live with the ADHD because no more masking

I love this so much! I feel seen... ❤😢❤

im in midlife, and diagnosed 5 years ago, or so... my boyfriend of 14 years and i just broke up, because he doesnt get my brain, and im incredibly sad. im not sure i would ever meet someone that gets me.

Thank you so much for everyone’s work on this…I feel so seen and safe and heard watching this. It means so much. ❤❤❤

😭 Thank you.

Wish this was available years ago when people would talk i couldn't hear them. No matter how I tried, it was Charlie Brown....blah blah blah😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Cool mini film!

holyyyyy shit i relate to this.