What it's ACTUALLY like to be the youngest child

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This video was hard for me to make if I'm being honest. It's going to be weird when my family finally sees some of the ways they have affected me due to the order of birth. But that's ok because it helps us understand each other better and grow more. It's also somewhat hard putting this video out there, simply because I know for others this isn't the way they have grown up, so their first response is going to be to throw judgment at me. But that's ok because if it helps anyone it's worth it!
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What birth order are you? What pressures have you felt from your family? How have you dealt with them? At first, my way of dealing with them was by shutting down and ignoring my feelings. That only made it worse, because it intensified my discomfort and made me feel even more of an outsider. It took years to come out of that, and it's so deep that even now I have a hard time with it.
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@asm_xox 2 года назад

As the youngest of three I would like to say I WORKED for my good grades, I WORK for my good grades, and I NEVER said the type of thing my siblings said about me. Please stop treating us like everything is handed to us on a silver platter.

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Thanks for commenting Abby!

@Squidward123-00 Год назад

True

@NyxTheRandomPerson Год назад

TRUE

@livi_raine 2 года назад

I saw an older sibling on tiktok complaining about their younger sibling thinking younger siblings have it all, and then came up with roasts to tell your younger sibling, but i hated them. Us younger siblings hate feeling like the unwanted and unplanned child, but thats what they joked about. also, since my sister was born first and probably never forgave me for "stealing her parents" she probably hates sharing them with me. i hate being the youngest :(

@livi_raine 2 года назад

also, the stereotype is that younger siblings get more privileges than the older sibling got at that age, right? its the other way around in my family. i get less privileges than my sister got at my age. it sucks and i hate it.

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Yikes. Yeah that's very true. That's so unfortunate how some others stereotype the youngest child. I wonder why they do honestly. Like do we threaten them or something? lol. I think I can say I hate being the youngest in my younger years, but I don't think I'd trade it now that I'm in my 20s. There are pros and cons, but I think the majority are oblivious to the REAL cons of being the youngest, which is why I like making these videos :) Just curious, what are your thoughts on the most recent one I made about the youngest? About what it FEELS like, just wondering :)

@user-sw9lg7xc5e 2 года назад

@Olivia T. I can totally relate to what u said, My older sibling sees me in a negative light 'cause of the stereotype younger siblings have

@aimeeevans1817 2 года назад

You sound like you actually have more of narcissistic sibling.

@you-cz5mq Год назад

Yeah I'm the youngest in my WHOLE family... and people say I'm the "favorite child" and that they will "I will die to be the youngest your mom and dad must love you! Why are you sad? You should be happy everybody would die to be the youngest! You should be more grateful!"

@DennyBlessedDCT Год назад

I'm the youngest of six and I tell people all the time that I grew up an only child. Being the youngest has had no advantages.

@oh267 2 года назад

im the youngest of 7 siblings and it's really hard. My siblings always makes me do things and my mom just hates me. I feel pressured because all of my siblings are smart/talented while im dumb and have nothing special. My family seems to ignore me a lot because they think im just a kid who knows nothing. Also my parents are kinda old, it really hurts to see my oldest sibling get married and my family is all there. I kept thinking that when i get married everyone else is busy with their own family and my parents are old or even worse dead. Now my oldest sibling is pregnant and everyone is excited cuz it's the first grandchild. What about my children probably no one will care about them cuz they are the 100th grandchildren. Whenever I'm sick, my mom will just ignore me and said oh it's just a small thing. I almost died because of that(appendix). Being the youngest is really hard it makes me feel like I don't belong here and maybe i should just die cuz no one cares about me.

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

I feel you my friend. I’ve experienced similar thoughts for the majority of my life and it’s really hard to come out on top of them. One of the things that helped me through was realizing the effect that hard times have on our lives. If I had never felt that way, or experienced the pressures there’s no way I could ever relate to you or even make this video. Hard times make us better and stronger people. I hate how overlooked I am by my family. Like don’t they even notice what I’m doing? But then I remind myself, I’m becoming someone they can’t see yet, and because it’s hard, that’s how I know it’s worth striving for. It’s not about “showing them up,” it’s about living a meaningful life and doing what’s important to you. I wasted so much of my time trying to impress or show them, instead of working on becoming my own person. A person I’m proud of. For example, right now I’m studying how to have a near perfect memory. Soon I’ll be able to memorize a deck of cards in order in a few minutes. I’m not learning this skill so at the next get together I can impress everybody. If I did that my sense of achievement would rely on their response and would never measure up to my expectations. Instead I’m choosing to do this for my own enjoyment and achievement. No one needs to know about it for me to feel accomplishment. It’s very empowering. The other thing I’ve learned is that there is a lot of good in what you mentioned. Yes many of the concerns you voiced are true and may happen. But they aren’t only negative. Take me for example. I’m the last person in our family to date. Yes, I’ve missed the train of doing something new and exciting. But I’ve also watched 5 siblings do it first and make all kinds of mistakes that I now can learn from. Now I know what not to do because they are basically my Guinea pig. It sucks I didn’t have the attention of having the first grandchild. But can you imagine the stress of raising that child when it’s literally the only one?? Everyone is watching, criticizing and forming opinions on what they would do different. They’d never seen “parenting” done that close up before. That’s stressful man. You’ve already learned so much for all these things you probably don’t even realize. You are years ahead of where you siblings were at your age and you’ll find that as you get old and pass them up, many times they will hold you back because they are afraid of loosing you, not because they don’t love you. You have things to offer the people around you you don’t see yet. In many ways this is your preparation time. For years I thought dying was the only way I could have gotten my families attention. But doing that meant I actually had nothing to offer the world which isn’t true. That’s never true no matter how much it feels like it. Wow, my bad on the long reply :) Hey if you wanna ask more questions, shoot me an email at austinschrock@yahoo.com, or contact me through my website. I know what it’s like to feel alone and I’ll help where ever I can :)

@oh267 2 года назад

@@AustinSchrock thanks. you've helped me a lot.💙 sorry for my bad english its not my first language

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

No problem! Let me know if there’s any other ways I can help

@quitsrry8223 2 года назад

I feel you :(

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Due to recent interest in this topic, I created a survey to see what the hard data was on some of these questions and how others are feeling. Feel free to offer your opinion and pass it along! s.surveyplanet.com/n8p5btif

@imliterallyjustliv 2 года назад

When my sister does anything to annoy me i react and when i tell my mom she says "well then don't react" but i don't think she realizes because shes a oldest sibling that i can't just not react, and i also would not get told a lot of things which made me feel really left out so whenever 2 people in my family are talking i always ask what about and they tell me to mind my own business

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Yeah I understand how you feel. I hope it gets better in the future!

@Blue-moon-x8o Месяц назад

I literally started crying watching this video especially the part where he read what his friend said it really hit me

@leafyveins4985 2 года назад

I'm 28 years old, youngest of 4. I told my mom last night that she doesn't need to try to do everything for me anymore (been trying to tell her that since I was 17), that I can stand on my own, and, while I will always need her, because she is my mom (a great one! Very good listener, always encourages me and always wants the best for me) and while I deeply value her opinion and input, I don't need her to "baby" me. I welcome the challenges and hardships of life to deal with as I choose, and I have proven that I can. She said, a bit tentatively because of not wanting to hurt my feelings, "I know I still act like that, and it's because... well, I suppose I see you as someone who is... breakable. But we're all breakable, aren't we?" No lie, we really do speak to each other this way lol. I told her I had been abused by a narcissist for 3 years and that didn't break me. I told her I have dealt with social and general anxiety since the age of 8, and that didn't break me. I'm here, working on my Bachelors in Environmental Science, an amazing partner, with so many hopes and dreams and love in my heart and steel in my back and fire in my veins. I said, "The only thing you could ever do to break me, the greatest disservice you could ever do for me, is by not believing in me."

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Thank you so much for sharing this Sarah! This resonates with me so well. It’s unfortunate, but many times the lens that our family views us through is a outdated one. They see us as breakable because in their minds we are still “emotional young” when in fact we have grown up. Or sometimes we can be emotional “young” because of the way they treat us. Way to step out and avoid the comfortable trap of staying where you were!

@leafyveins4985 2 года назад

@@AustinSchrock Oh man, I really needed to hear this. It is so true; there are many factors that keep us from stretching ourselves but one of the most insidious is when your own parent doesn't really want you to grow up because then you don't need them as much. And so they subconsciously do things and speak in certain ways that keep us dependent on them, even if they know it's only helping them feel needed. P.S. no hate to the parents who "baby" their adult children. I understand where they're coming from.

@alicandylover2286 2 года назад

I'm the youngest and everyone in my family treats me like I'm still there stupid baby princess and never let me get more freedom or social apps . I'm 16.

@space_monkey5662 Год назад

IKR

@FemaleSoukoku__ Год назад

Why do I see this after only one year?Cause this was REALLY needed 😃 Last day I saw a video,about how the middle child puts the younger child in their place when they're trying to get a little more wiser than them,or thinks that they're maturing more than them,or how basically they displayed the younger child just running away crying like an 'Annoying Toddler'and how the comments said things like "That's so true,they're very annoying,us middle children have to put them in their place while the older ones just sit back and watch 🙄" But that is something that hurt to much,because none of the comments talked about the fact that the youngest also wants a role in their life,and wants to try and fit in to their life,and be a little more their age,not how they see us as the annoying,spoiled,bratty child. We also want to grow and the way these stereotypes see us,is not always the truth. They have to try and look at our side,if we also have any problems,how it will, affect us,because we are all humans who deserve a loving happy life,and we always try to learn things with emotions different emotions. As the youngest I've always felt left out,but when we get to laugh at least a little together me and my siblings,I feel like I'm breathing air,like I just clicked with this new happiness,that is always hard to find with my siblings. But thank you for posting this and making everyone see that,we have our own side of emotions,and that we shouldn't be blinded by some dumb stereotypes on the Internet 😁💖

@AustinSchrock Год назад

Your so welcome! Thank you for sharing your perspective on the topic and your feedback!

@FemaleSoukoku__ Год назад

@@AustinSchrock No worries!I'm also very grateful of you,who too, on a big side of a story,without blaming at all!Making this has helped me and a lot of others!You have shared your side of the story,which told a .ot to other as well from your perspective and your experience!😁

@emilymolino6813 2 года назад

Gosh I relate to this so much. Thank you so much for speaking out about this. There can be such great pain attached to the youngest in this family dynamic .. I know there is for me.

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Thanks for commenting, my hope is to reach a larger scale of people someday and to work more directly with them

@EdwardianTailor 3 года назад

I’m going to try to take this and use it when interacting with my youngest sibling.

@AustinSchrock 3 года назад

Awesome! I'm grateful that I could help. When is that "Hi peasant" merch coming out? :)

@WonderfulWorldofAwesomeness Год назад

I think these things can be avoided if parents are super conscientious. Most aren’t

@natsu1315 Год назад

my entire life ive just felt like my voice didn’t really matter. my siblings always played together, did everything together, went through life together, stayed by each other sides the entire time, played together, and i was just the “bratty sister”. and now when i ask my siblings about it, they always say stuff like “it was a long time ago” or “that never happened” and to this day my voice never matters and im just seen as a brat. and it never changes, they always say it was a long time ago but 2 years from now they will still say that about back then, and then it keeps going on forever. honesrly ive stopped caring now

@AustinSchrock Год назад

Thanks for sharing

@a.c111 Год назад

I remember my brother’s graduation, my mum took so many photos and loved the certificate but I didn’t’t even get to attend mine.

@jacobdavila9684 2 года назад

Hi im 42 and the youngest of 4 boys. Theres an 8yr gap from my brother and i, hes always "not liked" me for takin his spotlight. So i dealt w guilt most of my life, recently i been like dude get over it im here accept it lol hes very jan brady- so back to your video, u addressed my feelings and thoughts.. thank u so much for this video, now i can work on these feelings and such. Youre awsome man, in one video uve changed my whole outlook

@declanmclean9670 Год назад

Great video, I can totally relate as a younger brother of 2 and one sister. However I can't imagine having as many older siblings as you have, I respect that. Thank you.

@AustinSchrock Год назад

Thanks for sharing!

@adamchavez999 Год назад

I am the oldest and all I can say is thankyou for making me understand my little brother who is 18 years younger than me.

@AustinSchrock Год назад

👍👍

@AustinSchrock Год назад

👍👍

@justinmyers4221 Год назад

Being the youngest for me is mostly about being the " family pet ", or " family punching bag ". I've heard the word spoiled thrown, and babied thrown my way numerous times. being stereotyped definitely sucks, and most of time leads to big blow out arguments.

@verymev Год назад

🥹❤️IM THE YOUNGEST OF FIVE AS WELL! Anyway the first point you made about following in the foot steps my pastor made a point kind of around that.

@emilymolino6813 2 года назад

Such an excellent video. Great job communicating and giving disclaimers.

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Thanks for taking the time to comment, glad it was helpful!

@antoinetterussell4717 Год назад

Thank you for this informative and we'll need video! I really need this!

@CheeseburgerEnjoyer 2 года назад

Thank you I really hate getting treated as the younger child even tho I’m a minute younger

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Haha that’s rough luck

@eternalfire580 Год назад

I grew up in a only child house hold but I have two younger brothers and without knowing them personally I am still having the time of my life just knowing about them and that I'm the oldest.

@The_Noblesse 2 года назад

For me... the stereotype is pretty much true, I would also follow my older sister footsteps cause I look up to her. Yeah. I always considered I know my sister, but sometimes when I found out something new, I question myself, do I really get to know her. But I think the competitiveness and stuff you talked about is partly because you've got a big family and huge age gap

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Very interesting, thanks for commenting. Yeah the age gap is pretty significant in my situation, I think it exaggerates the stereotypes

@iguesswellneverfindoutwhat6254 Год назад

YESSSSS FINALLY!

@okbutytho7 2 года назад

Along with the thing about not feeling accomplished sometimes my brothers pick on me and someone brings up grades and they always say that my classes are so easy because my grade is lower but I don't understand why they say this they have grade levels so what you are learning is not to hard or to easy meaning it can be just as hard for a 2nd grader to do like subtraction as it would be for like a 6th grader doing algebra. And don't ask about my age because I will not answer

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Very true. It has a lot to do with perspective, and the youngest usually get the worse end of the deal in that department. Changing that perspective can take time and can be frustrating…

@IwrsTheKing007 Год назад

9:32 sorry, but I just have to, then, not than

@mot1846 2 года назад

I have two older brothers , and they're my 13th reason 🙂

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Haha thanks for the comment :)

@GreatGrandfather9054 Год назад

Riree

@notredameandcoltsfan 2 года назад

I'm the youngest in my family and I get my sisters hand me downs, they baby the baby (me), and I've learned stuff from them. For me, it's pretty great

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Haha that’s awesome

@lillimorris1412 2 года назад

The hand me downs are one of the things that I don't like Is it just me?❤

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

I hate them. That’s why I started buying my own cloths at a young age

@CGCSr23 3 года назад

THANK YOU! I haven't found one thing that actually lets other people see the point of view of the younger sibling! All I've seen are videos and videos about how the younger siblings are whiney little brats, which could be true, yet most of us at heart are truly not like that, people have just not come to see it! So thank you!

@AustinSchrock 3 года назад

Your welcome! I'm happy to represent haha :) Should i make more content on this sort of topic?

@ApparentlyIneedauniquename 2 года назад

@@AustinSchrock yes you honestly should

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

@@ApparentlyIneedauniquename I'll be releasing another video next week about it :)

@ApparentlyIneedauniquename 2 года назад

@@AustinSchrock ok😁

@quitsrry8223 2 года назад

Ik everyone always think we always are perfect

@aimeeevans1817 2 года назад

My experience being the youngest.. I’m always wrong, walked on, a doormat to older siblings, my opinions on certain topics don’t matter, viewed as unintelligent, always criticized, called lazy, viewed as not independent (I work multiple jobs.) viewed as immature because I’m not married or have kids yet, viewed as “privileged” (even though I’m the only working woman in my family.) I also tend to be lectured. These behaviors do not go away in adulthood lol.

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

I can relate to the being lectured part lol. That's a lot, wow. The family we grow up with profoundly shape our beliefs and values, how has your experience shaped you?

@WonderfulWorldofAwesomeness Год назад

I’m 55 and my older siblings still treat me like I’m incapable of normal, adult things, even though I basically raised myself and moved out on my own (instead of just to a dorm, then back home every summer, or with a spouse, like my siblings) and paid my own rent, bought my own car, taught myself everything. Because the core family was already done and my parents were over it over by the time I came along. I consider myself a feral child.

@ZeldasMask 2 месяца назад

Always being wrong is so accurate

@caralinesummerhays3790 2 года назад

The thing about being the youngest that sucks is constantly getting looked down on. My sister gets mad at me for being so secretive when really I’m just texting but I get anxiety that she will judge me. It sucks. :(

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Yikes that’s rough!

@karev_is_my_pookie 3 месяца назад

SAME!!! My sister always is like this because she believes everything I do that is considered normal teen behavior to society is wrong.

@dude_Z900_Official 2 года назад

As the youngest, i had to fight for my food, i had to fight for my toys, i had to fight for a voice, i had to fight for my life.... not like a metaphor, thrust me life was hard, and still is

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

If you don’t mind my asking, what’s your age? And if you haven’t already I’d be curious to see what you think of the most recent video I made about being the youngest child!

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

@Sirens.Lullaby 2 года назад

I'm the younger between me n my sister but I'm the more "responsible" sibling as I help out more (they say I'm more socially capable) I was the one to do the chores and when I asked it was bc "she would argue if asked" So I honestly hate the stereotype of the youngest being "babied" and "the golden child"

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

That’s a great perspective

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

@moarmygenestayrat993 2 года назад

It's not easy being the youngest one. Out of all the family members the one who gets the most pressured is the younger ones. We have to go through alot. My parents have high expectations on me because my elder sibling could not be what they expected so now they want to control me and be strict with me. My elder sibling has the freedom to hangout, play, have fun with friends but i don't even have to freedom to step out of my house because they think that my freinds will ruin me. The only thing that my parents allow me is to go to school. I once went to play volleyball at my neighbours house because that day mom wasn't there so i thought she won't know i went to play but next day she heard about it and told me that "i will break your leg if you go out again" infront of many people. I am not a bad student, i try my best to stand out in every exam but no matter how hard i study, they always thinks i am looser and scolds me while my elder sibling doesn't even study but my parents doesn't even say a single thing to him. And when i try to speak up for myslef then my parents and sibling thinks thay i am disrespectful. Well just because you're elder then it doesn't mean that you're always correct.

@lillimorris1412 2 года назад

We basically live the same life

@lillimorris1412 2 года назад

Accept I have been homeschooling my whole life my mom said that I was spoiled when she bought me a biscuit how crazy is that

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

@latonyaadams4304 Год назад

Yes, sound like some of my experiences as being the youngest. But for some odd reason. I felt like the oldest growing up with my brothers. I never understood why high expectations were always placed on me, and very low expectations on them. I could do somethings right. But come on I'm not perfect. I failed so many times. I paid a high price too.I felt my mom was unfair. It made me go left instead of right. I didn't feel valued for being me. She never showed interest in me. I always felt alone, to do things on my own. It seemed to be about performances. Now, I know the truth. We you operate in truth, you can do great things in life. As I learn from my own weakness, I can understand her as well. Forgiveness is important.

@V0idPill0w Год назад

Dude if she Threated to assult you and break you're leg call the police-

@jameeladjohnson4167 Год назад

This subject has really been on my mind lately. I'm the youngest of 4 and my experience as being the youngest is horrible and still is to this day. I always wanted to fit in with them because they were close and I was excluded by my parents on a lot of things they got to do together because "I was too young" to do the same as them. All I really want is for my siblings to know who I am now but they still don't care. I have a family but it really doesn't feel like I do and that's what I really need right now. I'm tired of being the "black sheep" and being misunderstood because of misjudgements.

@AustinSchrock Год назад

Thanks for sharing your experience, that's powerful

@Gwaycee 9 месяцев назад

That's me exactly. I'm just exhausted.

@4NaturesStory 2 года назад

Youngest of 6 here. 5 boys 1 girl. 34-43yrs old. Treated completely different. No respect for my time or schedule, but everyone else’s is always somehow more important. Really sucks being disrespected. Now we don’t see my family much at all anymore. Sad.

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Thanks for communicating your experience. Do you see it getting better in the future? What could have been done in younger years to prevent that feeling?

@Missin_g 2 года назад

I am the youngest, i have an older brother and an older cousin who we treat like a sibling since we all grew up together. Being the youngest AND the only girl in the family is hell, i’m seen as childish and treated like a kid even tho I’m an adult- i was never included with my other “siblings” and never included in actual talks, im not here to shame the other sibling ranks, im sharing my point of view

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Unfortunately this is all to common, which I sparely why I’m making these videos (another one coming this Wednesday). How would you sum up how this makes you “feel”?

@imliterallyjustliv 2 года назад

the reason i looked for this video was because i saw so many oldest middle and youngest videos and it made me really mad because of the stereotypes they gave younger kids its not a good feeling for people to stereotype us as "spoiled youngest kids who get the most love"

@gklb_2xx7 2 года назад

this is too relatable!!! they say that being the youngest is the best but its also hard. ive felt left out. my siblings would tell stories about their middle school drama and their classmates lives. im in high school and my mom doesn't care about what happens in my classroom it may not be youngest sibling related, but its very hard to understand my siblings because theyre too old for me.

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

I can relate especially to what you said at the end, about hard to understand siblings that are older. I think that's one of the largest traits of the youngest that is overlooked. Thanks for commenting! I'm curious if you can relate to the most recent video I made about the youngest

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

@maliahsue6148 Год назад

I just hate when everyone say “oh you are so lucky to be the youngest child because you can get anything you want” but really if I want anything I would have to work for it. I really hate the youngest child stereotype or any stereotype with siblings because my family is the complete opposite. It’s just really annoying I’m so glad someone is living kinda the same life like me😢😢

@AustinSchrock Год назад

Thanks for sharing!

@Rohan-dr8bc 2 года назад

I am the younger sibling as well and it sucks… Whenever me and my brother are arguing my mom always says my brother is right just because he is 2 years older than me… And being the younger sibling means you are also a slave cuz I always have to do the chores. I mean just cuz they are elder that’s me doesn’t mean they are the king right(I don’t wanna start a fight in the comments this is just my opinion).And they also don’t take me seriously, once my mom and dad got my brother an iPad for getting 100% in maths and English exam but I got a 100% in maths, English, physics,chemistry and biology and 90%+ in other subjects and they didn’t even get me an iPod

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

You explained well what this feels like. I'm sorry it's this way, that's some of my hope for videos like this that it will show others what many youngest siblings face and how that affects them growing up. Have you seen my most recent video on what it feels like to be the youngest? I'm curious if you can relate to what I shared there.

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

@lillimorris1412 2 года назад

I am the youngest of five and the thing is that most youngest children aren't really spoiled they are just looking for attention because they are ignored I have cried myself to sleep since I was six and No one has noticed I want to live up to everyone expectations but I can't I can't be "that girl" I can't be the smart one I can't be happy I can't be beautiful I can't be funny I just can't both me and my family say that or show with their actions I have smiling depression I smile when I am having silent mental breakdowns in my room at night I smile when I am about to get I smile when I am angry I smile when I am dying inside I smile because of you my motto that I live by is "Fake it till you make it." I hate it I hate my life the only reason I haven't committed suicide is because of my friends I don't want them to blame themselves I don't want them to fall into the hands of depression I don't want them to live by that motto I don't want them to be me I wish that I had never been born I wish that people could just forget me so that they could live in peace when I do it I wish that they could live happy when I do it so whenever you next see your youngest sibling ask them how they have been get close to them and maybe just maybe they will finally have a mental breakdown and they won't smile and they will be in your arms they will be comforted they will be happy after that the youngest wants freedom the youngest want love that's why they act crazy they want your attention they want to be noticed they don't want to be the spoiled child pay attention to them

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Thank you for your comment, your not alone in feeling this way. It’s so easy to become consumed in feelings like this, but the best we can do is to keep moving forward. You got this

@lillimorris1412 2 года назад

Ok I may have been having a mental breakdown in my room when I wrote this so just so you know this isn't every single day of my life I mean it is like that a couple times a week and it used to be a few years ago but that is not how it is everyday❤

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Thanks for clarifying! That’s kinda what I figured, but it’s normal for something like that to happen so it’s ok. Sometimes we just snap and have to let it all out. I’m glad your comfortable talking about it :)

@lillimorris1412 2 года назад

Idk why but I am only comfortable talking to people that I don't know about my depression 😂

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

I completely understand that! I was the same way, and I think in some ways it’s good, because then the ones the hear can help you from a fresh perspective without all the past. That is if they actually work with you, like Counsiling

@user-7829 Год назад

I hate being the youngest sibling. They say we’re always spoiled. It can be true but really it’s the opposite for the most. I see a lot of memes of people showing the youngest sibling being ungrateful and rude with them saying younger siblings are spoiled brats and always get their way. My older sisters always judge me and leave me out. Still to this day I barely get along with my siblings and that’s because their so rude. As the youngest my siblings always make me do things for them like I’m their maid. This isn’t being dramatic at all because it’s just true. I used to even be treated like a little baby until I became 9. Thank you for this video. I haven’t seen more than 2 videos about younger siblings that aren’t about us being “spoiled little brats”

@AustinSchrock Год назад

thanks for sharing your experience

@MrJBest78 Год назад

I know this is an older video but I had to comment on the thumbnail, in that pic you drew with the youngest, it feels exactly the SAME WAY with the OLDEST! As I’m the oldest of three and I’m definitely the outcast and the scapegoat.

@AustinSchrock Год назад

Interesting!

@Esther_Danielle Год назад

As the youngest I've stepped out of there path trying to make my own trying my best to stay out of there path and it's hard I'm always weird for what I do or what I do and this is so relatable I just wish my siblings would wach this

@AustinSchrock Год назад

Thanks for your feedback!

@LocaICommenter Год назад

I’m 13 knowing I’m the youngest of 4, 2 bros and 1 sis, I’m always the one who is treated like a baby… while my dad treats my other siblings as a 20 yr old men/women.😒

@Gwaycee 9 месяцев назад

Love is the most painful experience in the world, because those I love the most hurt me the most.

@RockyAllPurpose Год назад

I can’t see it as being spoiled. I just see it that the older sibling didn’t get to see how they were being taken care of being younger but they see it on the younger sibling which makes it seem like we are very the most attention

@Foreman-pig 11 месяцев назад

As the youngest in my family my older brother teases me so much for no reason. I just don’t get why people saying the youngest are just whiny little tattletaling brats

@trevsaysthings5187 Год назад

Speaking as the youngest sibling who's lost 2 older brothers, I just want to say this was needed. I got 1 brother left who's 13 years older and it's been an uphill battle just to feel appreciated without judgement. But ill continue that fight because that's the only brother i have left

@AustinSchrock Год назад

I'm so glad to hear it!

@reassmeaychuon7766 2 года назад

Being the youngest is not easy its the hardest role in the freaking universe. Im the youngest of 6, being the youngest doesn't mean that everything is our way. Most of my older siblings look down on me just cause Im younger which is not fun being the baby of the family.

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

I hear you. If I may ask, what is the age range of the siblings?

@zannatulsneha2400 2 года назад

You're too underrated! Such a well spoken, well structured and relatable video

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Thank you so much! I want to make more videos like this if possible. Comments like this help me do that :)

@mrduck6611 2 года назад

I'm the youngest and I'm happy someone did this to tell other how it really is to be the youngest

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

If I made another video, what is something you wish I’d cover?

@HOLLIECLIFFORD 2 года назад

As the youngest both of my sister's used to make me feel terrible about myself 😕

@AnungooMunkh 8 месяцев назад

my sister got an F and she got away with it while i got a c for the first time and i got yelled at. im the youngest.

@alyssafae8878 2 года назад

damn, all these comments here are making me emotional. As the youngest, I always felt the pressure of trying to be like the older siblings because of their outstanding achievements in life. My older siblings are also often relied on with a lot of family stuffs so sometimes I get left out :(

@Killzner_Edits Год назад

I have a few reasons why it's the worst.. 1. I'm "too young" for everything while everyone else is old enough. It feels too leftout. They tell you that until you're like 17. 2. You get blamed for dumb stuff and get yelled at the most. Siblings also get away with it. 3. If you have a sister they start crap all the time and get away with it.. 4. They bully you or make unfunny jokes or annoying noises and when you tell your parents tell you to take a joke even though you know it's a joke

@lorib5398 11 месяцев назад

im the youngest. you all are my people.

@mochiilovescatslol3490 2 года назад

I’ve always felt in the shadow of my sister because she’s always done better things than me and this helped me a lot thank you truly

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Your welcome! If there’s anything you have questions on feel free to ask

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Due to recent interest in this topic, I created an anonymous survey to see what the hard data was on some of these questions and how others are feeling. Feel free to offer your opinion and pass it along! s.surveyplanet.com/n8p5btif

@Brooklynn_201 2 года назад

As the youngest child, of two older brothers, I relate to this a LOT. Especially the following part. When I was in sixth-grade, I joined band, like my elder brother did. but no one seemed to care all that much. You know sense my brother joined 2 years before me. Then I was excepted into Marching band, and again my family seemed to not have cared as much as they did when my older brother was excepted. This is one of the major reason I quit it in the same year. Thank you so much for Making a video on how it is really like as the youngest child. It's good to know that I wasn't the only one and that other youngest children also feel this kind of way too! ❤️

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

It’s good to hear that I’m not the only one as well :) thanks for the comment I appreciate it

@figure3790 2 года назад

I hate it because once you do something better than your older sibling your family isn’t impressed and doesn’t care but when your older sibling does it they care it’s always bad for the last one because your family has seen it before and they don’t care as much as they did for your older sibling

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Yeah it can definitely feel that way

@DICEBOY22 4 месяца назад

My wedding experience . Parents hate my chosen wife . Have to have the wedding in secret... At an anime convention Older brothers wedding experience . Parents love his chosen . Big ass church wedding with fancy dinner, sample snacks and suits ---- Houses Me Single floor house with 3 bedrooms and 1 bathroom in a potential flood zone that I had no choice but to pick up due to poverty Him 2 story house with 6 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms Parents Why do you have a shit house??!!😡 Me in head: yeah thanks... Its not like you focused in on him as the money child and helped figure out his career in sports... Meanwhile I play video games so apparently I'm potentialess so y'all threw me into a dishwasher job... Purposely keeping the house a single Mac household where I couldn't embrace anything in creative fields thats I wanted Constant discouragement because I'm a filthy weeb gamer and not a sports person... But okay sure... I'm the bad guy...

@firespeed1122 Год назад

Everyone just assumes we get the easy life you’re one of the only one that doesn’t

@Mymomisgreat1234 Год назад

YES TY no one really says that the youngest has a hard life

@starrii3 Год назад

If you search up, "why is the youngest child not favorited" or something else, it always says, "why the youngest is always spoiled and treated like a queen/king"

@AustinSchrock Год назад

haha yeah it's kinda interesting, i guess that's the main opinion out there

@JessicaHunt-n2j 5 дней назад

I'm quite late to this video, but i can completely relate. I'm only 13 almost 14 and I'm the youngest in my mother's side of the family, i have 2 youngest brothers in my fathers side of family. My youngest brother in my father's side had a bad heart problem and almost died when birthed, while my 2nd brothers on my father's side is always on a device. My dad is always getting drunk and my mom is a bit of an addict. By the time i was 11, my brother already moved out. When i turned 12, my sister ran away. It's almost as if they're trying to put the pressure on me to take care of the house, our mother, myself, and my dog. And that's what i did. It feels like I've been living for thousands of years, but people don't care. Nobody does. The stereotypes are actually aggravating, because my family is nothing like the stereotypes and people act like I'm a spoiled little kid and have nothing. The stereotypes are always saying "The youngest child gets the most attention!", which is a complete lie for me. My mother was quite literally NEVER payed attention to me and now she expects me to take care of her, the house, our dog, cook, and basically do everything? Hell no. It may sound selfish, but after everything they put me through has turned me into a mess. I remember when we would sit at the table to eat all together and laugh. Now I'm just sitting at the table alone and waiting for them or anyone to come back.

@AustinSchrock 4 дня назад

Thanks for sharing

@hannahressler2173 3 года назад

I seriously appreciate this video. As an older sister there’s few things I want more than to be a good one, but the majority of your points I would have never known about because obviously. Thanks a lot!

@AustinSchrock 3 года назад

I’m so glad it helped! Comments like this are what make me want to do RU-vid! Thank you!

@kokonut.K Год назад

Finally, a video that doesn't make the youngest child the spoiled bad guy! As the youngest of 3, I do admit that my parents often baby me, but that's pretty much it. Both my brothers didn't live up to my parents' expectations. Cause of this, my parents have high expectations from me, and it makes me a bit scared. What if I also end up like my brothers? It's a lot of pressure. But I am close with my brothers, and the age gap is ok (7 and 10 years older), so I know that some have it even worse.

@AustinSchrock Год назад

Thanks for the feedback!

@lilymcleod634 Год назад

I was born very late from my other siblings..people keep saying we are the brat we are rude to our parents we get it easy we don't know what were talking about and we are always compared to the "smarter" sibling and we are the "favorite" because we are young we cant take care of ourselves and it depends on everyone personality some older sibling have a learning disability some middles are the annoying brats.We should all break the stereotype of our gender,skin etc and that's how people see us the annoying,stupid,disgusting,violent,bratty and is you search up "Why are the youngest children SEEN as brats" it'll come up with "Why are the youngest so self-centered, spoiled.

@AustinSchrock Год назад

Thanks for the comment and your insight!

@urlocalchestnutmaregirlie3394 Год назад

I am glad this video exists, I am the youngest of another sibling I know it doesn’t sound hard, but it is, I feel the same you do, except, I feel like I need to work harder just to only get half way because my older sister will always be better than me.

@angelhavinstars Год назад

As for me being the youngest is that everyone in the family can be mad at me can yell at me or scold me but when I get angry I can't talk back .... sometimes I feel like an extra wheel cz i don't feel like I was ever needed ............... And all my siblings left home and I'm here with my parents only with whom I don't talk really a lot ..... I have to face their fights, have to do all the chores

@_AquaArt_ 2 года назад

I’m the youngest in my family and I always use to feel left out and bullied and not taken seriously. But I still wanted to be with my siblings. My siblings and I don’t really fight at all unless it’s some stupid kid stuff lol finally a couple years ago I realize that I actually want to get to know my siblings and I try and do what they want me to do. I laugh with them, I get to know them and I do what they ask. My siblings and I are really close and I don’t want to sound like I’m bragging or anything lol but my siblings and I really love each other and we try and do stuff for each other. Still I feel like I’m left out from time to time but know that I’m getting to know them, I feel like I’m really close with them, same with my parents.

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

That's so awesome and encouraging! Thanks for the comment!

@Samiyah_C Год назад

I'm crying. Finally someone SOMEONE who actually understands it!

@AustinSchrock Год назад

I'm glad it resonated with you!

@marabellemitzukio8755 2 года назад

I am the youngest child and I absolutely hate it. My older sister is immature and I basically have to take care of her and help her while she barely does anything. Then she goes on about how my mother always babies me which is NOT true. Also most youngest siblings rarely get anything new, they usually get hand-me-downs. I rarely get anything new and I always have to use my sister's belongings from like 5 years ago. My sister usually complains to me about how I'm the favourite child which is NOT true. My mum treats us both the same.

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Thanks for sharing your experience.

@marabellemitzukio8755 2 года назад

@@AustinSchrock you responded so quick lol🤣

@PrincessKaren Год назад

As the youngest child, i got less and less so i didn't seem spoiled, and i would be ignored by like everyone.

@ibrahimabarry7840 Год назад

Me being youngest I totally agree

@JamesMathisJr 3 года назад

This is such an interesting topic. Me coming from a few years as the oldest and then going into an extended family where I became a middle child, I can definitely see both aspects in myself. Love it brother.

@AustinSchrock 3 года назад

Yeah I’m quite fascinated by it :) thanks for the comment

@b0hemiamrhasph0dy Год назад

im the youngest sibling too and i can agree. my parents expect me to grab a notepad and note down every thing my sibling does and do it as well

@dannyyoung767 Год назад

I’m the youngest of 6 as well, 2 sisters 3 brothers

@AustinSchrock Год назад

wow cool!

@Animallover0055 Год назад

I am the youngest in my family. I have an older brother. People always compare me to my elder brother and although I admire him and his abilities, it gets really frustating sometimes. Like what? So what if my brother is good at math and I suck? So what if my brother is calm and silent and I'm a chatterbox? What if my brother doesn't have much priorities when it comes to food and I am a very picky eater? What if my brother is very hardworking and I can't work that hard? It's not my fault! I'm not my brother! And when he took engineering, luckily I stood up to myself and took Medical field. I am so glad that no one in my family has ever been in medical field so I can have my own path. Although I should say this, my parents were supportive of me and didn't judge me for not following my brother. And with the cons, being in the medical field, I don't allow my family members to use medications without prescription. They treat me like a baby and don't even take my opinions into consideration. I always feel disgusted that "When you are young they assume you know nothing" And when I raise my voice and say "I study about it, I know" They say that I'm arrogant and flexing about knowing all these things Sometimes even though I am very open with my family, I do hide that I felt hurt at some occasions... Being youngest is not always gifts and silver spoons you know, it's also many expectations and comparisons.

@AustinSchrock Год назад

Thanks for sharing your perspective!!

@Kids_together 5 месяцев назад

I have four siblings and I’m the 5th. And I have three sisters and 1 brother my brother is the 4th child but still is 9years older than me.By the time I was 8 I had my oldest sister move out because she got married.I wanted to help with some things like the gifts but I was told I was too young.When I was 9, I had won a science bee in my school and nobody cared because my 3rd sister was going to Oxford.So all the spotlight was on her.And the thing is, my 3rd sister has mental disability’s like ocd and autism and she said most likely someone else in the family has autism and everyone said I had it?And I was quite offended and this was when I was 10 years old.And my family always talks about what happens when they were kids and its sad because I can never go like ‘I remember that’ so it’s very sad for us younger siblings.

@AustinSchrock 5 месяцев назад

Thanks for commenting, I appreciate it. Thanks for sharing some of your story

@brooklynqueen125 Год назад

Thank you for posting this video! Very relatable and informative. I'm the youngest of 5 at 40+yrs old and the eldest of my siblings are in thier 60's. Sometimes the lack of respect is very real.........

@AustinSchrock Год назад

You are so welcome!

@darpanapathak 6 месяцев назад

I am the younger one in my family.. I have an elder sister.. my dad and my mom both were also the eldest in their families so maybe that's why they instead of looking into the matter just decide to take my elder sister's side ALWAYS- Doesn't matter if I was treated wrong, doesn't matter if she does anything to bad to me.. I couldn't put up my part of the story or in their words I can't 'speak back'.. I was always yelled at by my mom and sister.. they make me feel unwanted.. my mom yelled at me so many times that she regrets giving birth to me.. and that she must have done so much sin in her previous life to have a child like me.. and that she wants to get rid of me and put me in a hostel or some and that they can't tolerate me anymore.. And don't even get me started at the comparison shit that they do.. Now i am 17yrs old and i have a feeling of hatred towards my elder sister.. and they wonder why. Cuz ofc no one can hate their perfect elder daughter who is good at everything from cooking to intellect and earning etc.. ofc it doesn't matter how she and my mom treats me all the time Now i am a person with low self esteem.. I can't talk and trust people that I encounter.. or even my close ones.. I can't communicate very well.. I have trouble making friends cuz all my life I was called useless and who would want to be friends with some useless piece of shit.. I cry.. I cry every night.. I can't seem to love myself.. and because of that ig no one else loves me either.. My life sucks.. thank you mom and elder sis

@AustinSchrock 6 месяцев назад

For me there were two options. Stay there and regress farther or take responsibility using the challenges to fuel my growth. This one choice will change the course of your life, but it's one we must all make at some point. It changed mine. It's often one of the hardest as well. Best of luck!

@V0idPill0w Год назад

It's a lot of pressure you know my mother abused me she pulled on my hair really hard and said I will get a knife and ripp you're throat once and my sis always says "you're lazy" "YOU have nerves!? Haha you must be joking-" and the ones I personally hate the most are "go do chores you're grown up" and "no you're too young to go with you're sis and cus to the store" like girl what- am I young or old you say Im old to make me do stuff and you say I'm young to be doing that like girl and especially when my family interrupts me and my siblings curse a shit ton meanwhile if I just say one bad world I get beat the shit out off and my siblings make me do things and when I say "no go do it yourself you want it you do it" they always say "you're the youngest which means you have to listen to us" NO I DONT HOMIE I AINT YO MAID GO ASK MOM OR THE OTHER SIBLING and I hate the stereotypical "babied" and "golden child" like it's not that easy as you think mr.my iq is 2

@AustinSchrock Год назад

Thanks for sharing

@EddieSpagetti_SpagEddie 7 месяцев назад

As the youngest of 4 kids one thing that I experience a lot of is being compared to my older siblings. For example when I was 11 I got a college reading level and I was really happy, but when I told my parents they just said “Your older sister did that when she was half your age” this is also an example of success being undermined.

@CUP1D_LOVES_CORAL Год назад

fr , we DONT have it all great , i work for those grades my grade is fairly hard to me as per my age , we r belived over the older siblings for the smallest thing and the important things? the elder siblings get those , being left out , my grade is not easy yk why? cuz u were suffuring when u were here so stfu , yall might have ur owl problems but u cant say younger sibling have it easy , cuz we r having it equaly hard

@AustinSchrock Год назад

Thanks for sharing your perspective!

@ARPOYT 2 года назад

people aways saying that the youngest is the favorite meanwhile me not being the favorite but at least if I am second please (even if it is only out of two)

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Yeah very true. People don’t stop to consider many of the facts, they just like labels sometimes

@Elizatrombly Год назад

I’m seven years younger than my older sister I have two sisters

@jacobdavila9684 2 года назад

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

That’s so encouraging to hear! I hope all goes well for you as you pursue this

@_vall1ee_ Год назад

THANK YOU!! After seeing this video, i am so happy that someone is actually posting about what being the youngest actually is. I am the youngest among 3 but luckily for me i am quite close to my siblings. I am lucky that even though i am stereotyped sometimes even by my friends, but my parents support me in my goals. Just that because my older siblings are smarter than me, so my parents expect me to be equally as smart. like once my dad told me i need to buck up on my grades. although i scored pretty good. my mom also tells me i need to focus more when doing my work when i am already giving my best (baiscally my parents put more pressure on me and are more strict on me). Even by my friends i am told i am spoiled, so it makes me a little upset. But after seeing this video i am so happy, thank you. Edit: Honestly, I think the youngest kid always get the most pressure from their parents, as they are expected to be the same as their siblings and follow in their footsteps

@AustinSchrock Год назад

Thanks for sharing your experience!

@AnastasiaA-fo1qw Год назад

You basically just explained my entire life as being the youngest child out of two. Thank you for that

@AustinSchrock Год назад

glad to hear it

@Seffi_sew_crochet Месяц назад

No, being The youngest is NOT easist. People think that Everything is being taken on a silver platter to us, as someones said, But it is NOT. The difference, actually 😢 My parents always spoiled The older ones, and I needed to work really hard to even get them to look at me. I always needed to do all dishes, I needed to do all cleaning, and my other siblings Did nothing... All of them had own rooms while I sleot on The couch in The livingroom.. I was always left alone and everyone made fun of me. I hope that some people at least understand that being The youngest isnt always so easy😢

@AustinSchrock Месяц назад

Very true. Thanks for sharing

@Seffi_sew_crochet Месяц назад

@@AustinSchrock ❤️

@eternalfire580 Год назад

Were you born in 1999 or 2000? because when you uploaded this I was 22 and 3 months

@AustinSchrock Год назад

2000

@JadeAquarius 2 года назад

You also missed LONELY!!! I grew up as not only the youngest but also the only girl I by the time I was 13 years old all my older siblings moved out soooo it was quite boring for me I wish RU-vid was out back then I would’ve been a RU-vidr lol

@AustinSchrock 2 года назад

Haha that’s a very good point. I don’t think I experienced that because I’m a bit of a introvert, but I’m sure there’s others who have. I’ll have to keep that in mind :)

@carolinepaisley 7 месяцев назад

Well, I’m the little sister to my brother and sister. I wasnʼt having it so bad, but when I was a kid and they were teens, they were quite pushy AND they wanted to dictate me what to do. Luckily there was always my mom to remind them where their place is. 😂 Theyʼre great siblings nowadays but I’m glad they moved out anyways. Now I have the whole house for myself! 😎🖕🏻

@AustinSchrock 7 месяцев назад

haha right?

@carolinepaisley 7 месяцев назад

@@AustinSchrockYup. I can attest so LOL