What it's Like Being Married to a Therapist

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What it's Like Being Married to a Therapist
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I FINALLY got the chance to sit down with my husband to ask him what it's like being married to a therapist. He answers questions you submitted via an instagram poll.
00:00 Intro
00:29 Meet the other Fang
01:26 Get to know you
04:25 How involved are you?
04:55 Impacts of running a business
06:07 Pros & cons of being married to a therapist
07:43 Impacts on emotional health
10:36 Boundaries/Balance
14:46 Am I therapizing you?
18:37 Closing thoughts
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@TheMichelex20 Год назад

This was very interesting. I think someone should talk about dating as a therapist. My dating life has become so much more difficult since becoming a therapist.

@user-is4cp9ot8s Год назад

That’s interesting, why do you think that is?

@parisjoy7875 Год назад

Interested in why that is as well.

@PrivatePracticeSkills Год назад

Interesting topic!

@meriamnjah8633 Год назад

OMG yes! I think a part of what makes it hard as well is that as therapists we see the humanity and goodness in everyone. So I often finding myself going on a few dates with people who in hindsight, would not have been suitable for me to begin with, but I go one date too many with them because I keep thinking things like: "well they were probably nervous, everyone is nervous in the beginning.." It's too hard to piece out that see goodness in everyone part of us!!

@edbrown5956 Год назад

So what I'm hearing is that as a therapist your dating life is a challenge.....is that right? Seriously though I totally can understand why. Instantly that probably puts up a defense in some people.

@jcfan3n1 Год назад

Thank you for sharing! We have a lot to relate to. I’m an Asian male therapist and my wife is Caucasian. We have two young children. And out last name is Fan…(close) 😅 Thank you for your channel! It has been a tremendous help for me to jump start my own practice last fall! 👍

@PrivatePracticeSkills Год назад

So glad to hear that, how exciting!

@DNSKY444 28 дней назад

OMG you guys are too cute! Wonderful to see two people with so much intentionality in their lives as individuals coming together in life and partnership! Thank you for sharing!🥰

@kb9847 Год назад

I'm married to a therapist for 32 yrs already. Actually retiring end of January 2023!! I can relate to pretty much everything Daniel said. My husband will often ask me a question with his bias in it. I call him out on it now, and we laugh. Also, there have been times I have said to him, "can you just be my husband and not my therapist right now?" Although, as Daniel noted therapy is very integrated into the therapist's personality.

@PrivatePracticeSkills Год назад

32 years! Congrats!

@Twinkletink83 Год назад

You guys are adorable! Thanks so much for sharing this video.

@collettehonsowetz3468 Год назад

Haha, thanks for sharing and tell Daniel thanks for being open in his responses. This was an enjoyable video and very relatable. I'm a child therapist just starting her private practice in WV and met my husband while he was in graduate school near DC. Now going into our 11th year of marriage and with 3 kids it's fun to reflect on all that's changed since then.

@meriamnjah8633 Год назад

This was sooo sweet! Thank you being willing to share this "side" of private practice :) It's super inspiring to see that there are people who would like you even with your therapist quirky-ness and would not be intimidated by things that become second nature to us as therapists (hello "hmm, tell me more") 😅

@andyma1146 Год назад

Your couple dynamic is so cute! Great topic & very interesting discussion. Thanks!

@terriw919 Год назад

I really enjoyed this interview! Great questions. It was interesting hearing Daniel's thoughts and feelings on being married to a therapist. Your love for each other is obvious! 🙂

@arctother5176 Год назад

When people ask me at parties if I’m “psychoanalyzing them right now” I always answer with an emphatic “yes!” and then explain that we’re all doing that all the time and that’s ok. Then they give me money

@Yesmindbender Год назад

This was awesome. Thanks for sharing!

@shawnabernath8673 Год назад

I love this! My husband sometimes likes that I am a therapist and sometimes doesn't haha. It's helped me grow so much as a person to engage with others and be more active in my listening and communication. I think that sometimes it's challenging when I bring home work or upset because of a session and I do my best. I do children therapy in Colorado. Always love your videos and it really helped me transition from agency work to my thriving private practice! I appreciate your hard work with navigating life and providing content on RU-vid!

@PrivatePracticeSkills Год назад

Thank you, best wishes to you!

@cynthiaburton4419 Год назад

I loved this! Thank you for sharing.

@mariepettit2632 Год назад

Awesome video, Marie! ❤

@b.wanless Год назад

I loved this!

@DrThereseMascardo Год назад

I enjoyed this so much Marie! Loved getting to know Daniel better too. Great video!

@PrivatePracticeSkills Год назад

❤️❤️ aww thanks Therese :)

@edbrown5956 Год назад

Your husband did a great job of carefully answering questions without being mean. It's extremely interesting to hear him say you use some therapy techniques on him. A person in my friend group became a therapist and they definitely use there training outside of work. When you try to tell them a story they seem way to into it. Even if it's something small they will act super interested. Sounds similar to how your husband was talking. Then again if you have an issue in something he understands I'm sure he'd probably go all doctor on you. Lolol

@kristinaasimova601 Год назад

Nice video, thank you 🙂🧡

@yuliya.psyhelp Год назад

This was super fun! I definitely "analyze" my husband from time to time (if not all the time hahahah).

@englishrose4388 Год назад

I really appreciate how affirming your husband was.

@brendagregoryyuen4923 Год назад

We have interesting cross-over lives here. Although I'm much older, my husband is Asian (I am Caucasian). I feel like there's so much about the blending of our cultures that makes me a better therapist...my husband is in medicine (science/research). He had his PhD before I went to grad school and he was my biggest support (as well as chief editor). I know that all those papers he read helped him deal with some of his own "stuff." It was nice to meet Daniel - he's very thoughtful, insightful, and giving.

@PrivatePracticeSkills Год назад

So many parallels!

@lizdestefano4905 Год назад

I love this video! Love your videos and I would love more videos like this! So sweet your guys story! I've always wondered what it's like to marry a therapist, I bet communication is better! I've read somewhere some therapist can turn it off when they leave but some a lot just keep their thoughts to themselves but they think as a therapist because it's in grain in them but they won't oppose it in their personal lives like their partners or try not too!

@laurenwolfe7554 Год назад

So fun! You're husband is such a good sport :)

@PrivatePracticeSkills Год назад

He really is, I was surprised that he said yes to do this!

@keyrosellc Год назад

Thank you both for this. I think I cried through it all. 😂🤦🏽‍♀️🙏🫂

@alexly3209 Год назад

It’s good to see Daniel again!

@PrivatePracticeSkills Год назад

👋 Hi Alex!! I hope you're well!

@alexly3209 Год назад

Thankz! \

@charlamagruder2863 Год назад

So nice getting to see your hubby! I'm an LPC and my hubby is a Psychologist! ...Can we please get more details on that coffee though?😜

@PrivatePracticeSkills Год назад

Yes! I've been enjoying Nespresso's vertuo style coffee. It's a splurge, but I love that I can quickly make a fresh cup of coffee for each client (and of course, for my own use too 🙃)

@kimcarrots Год назад

You guys are an adorable couple! My husband would say that sometimes I make self awareness a priority and he would rather move on. :) I like to have a "meta" look at everything....sometimes he would rather us wrap up the argument.

@PrivatePracticeSkills Год назад

I can relate!

@G.A.1024 Год назад

Thanks so much for this video! I appreciate you and your husbands' openness to sharing what it's like to be married to a therapist. It can be vulnerable to do so (at least I speak for myself :) so I appreciate you doing so.

@SevillaILove Год назад

I am trying to imagine doing this with my Life Mate on my channel. LOL! It would look VERY different. 😂 Love the channel!

@PrivatePracticeSkills Год назад

I think everyone's relationship would!

@Mscursed2 Год назад

More personally videos like this!

@liv8121 Год назад

Dying at the intro😭 (edit: and also the outro)

@hege_r80 Год назад

The question about always analyzing - humans literally always analyze the people around them. Always. It’s part of basic survival and part of having relationships. Psychologist just do it for a living so we have a lot of practice in doing it.

@CB-ys8jl Год назад

Y'all are adorable together.

@theycallmelerch Год назад

omg to the question: do you feel like she is analyzing you all the time. Yes, I am analyzing my bf all the time, and yes also down to all his past trauma 😅😂

@parisjoy7875 Год назад

Can you share how you became a competitive applicant and got accepted straight into a doctorate program right out of undergrad?

@seattledramatherapy7199 Год назад

I feel like this should be a series. Can my husband and I be next? :)

@parisjoy7875 Год назад

This is great! I want to know what the MBTI of each of you are 😊

@PrivatePracticeSkills Год назад

ENFJ and INFJ :) I'm only marginally more extroverted than he is, and we both are pretty close to middle on that variable.

@Allybaba55 Год назад

Haha that question about "hmm tell me more" because she's not really interested in his interests... That's my trick now too! 😂😂

@Allybaba55 Год назад

@@deuteronomy3162 I didn't get that vibe from their conversation but if you say so lol. My husband actually appreciates the effort! As long as I actually listen to his answer afterward lol. I totally get how it would feel icky if I were to ask and then not even listen or engage in his answers though! But please do better at not generalizing when commenting on other folks lives 😊

@Allybaba55 Год назад

@@deuteronomy3162 I made a passive statement about my own life. And you made a directed and presumptuous statement about my relationship. So not the same type of comment at all. I was alerting you to that, the same as you were apparently warning me. Direct communication and clarifying statements are not the same as shaming.

@practicallysocial Год назад

LCSW for telehealth, my YT channel (practically social) is therapy related, I also write on Medium. As a divorced single Dad with a schedule around my son, I can say it's been exceptionally hard both to make income and date. Given that we're in a field with an ever increasing mileu of people, yet are forbidden from even being friends or engaging in business with them, let alone how people feel about therapists and "therapizing" them (which is often perception, not reality- I keep work at work), wouldn't it be nice if I met a female doctor (with financial support) and actually had a supportive partner... It seems easy for women therapists to find this, however often as male therapists we're deligitamized in dating and social circles. Just one opinion.

@tylerlagasse4978 Год назад

Ok question im enganged and shes a therapist , she is amazing but emotionally not there at all, we do not ever talk about me or my feelings (beleive me i learned my lesson) and if i say something is wrong its turned on me. What do i do? Iv been thinking about therapy just so i can express how i feel without being hurt in return

@michelefisher5171 Год назад

You started three times? I’m on number 2. Glad I’m normal.

@diaphanousearth6272 Год назад

You guys are so dern cute!

@mjones2619 Год назад

I bet he’s an awesome doctor being more aware of mental health issues and needs.

@PrivatePracticeSkills Год назад

I think so! And he also stays mindful of MH concerns as it often comes up with the population he works with.

@keyrosellc Год назад

Listening to this all passive aggressive next to my husband 😂

@SevillaILove Год назад

HAHA!

@JuanRodriguez-yl9oq Год назад

My wife is a nurse so we don’t “work” at home!

@Erikah-Smalls Год назад

I appreciate this video, however, I noticed constant interruptions on your end when asking your husband the questions. As in you were so quick to finish his sentences and hope you didn’t do this with clients 😅

@PrivatePracticeSkills Год назад

🙃 It's all about the video edit - this was a 50 minute interview. But I hear you!