Righttt, they think just because you’re gay or bi or whatever that that means you like every man. They only apply preferences to themselves and other straight people lol.
One thing I’ve seen some guys do that show me they insecure is when they get around they friends and act totally different. Like I saw this one guy who was dating this girl he was always so sweet and nice to her. Treated like a queen and she treated him the same back. Though when he got around his friends he started acting real arrogant and cocky as if he trying to show his dominate power , as if trying to prove he’s the alpha male in the group by ordering his girlfriend around. I don’t know about you but I feel like if you have to change how you are around your friends to feel accepted and comfortable , and not be how you are personality and mannerism wise then there’s a issues .
Tbh tho, that's understandable in the sense that there's a difference in the dynamic in your relationship with your girl vs your home boys. I not gonna act towards my boys the same way I act towards my lady, but I agree that if the guy starts treating his girlfriend differently when he's friends are around, then he has a problem.
@@ochestra2527 I think the op meant that they don't like it when guys treat their partner as one of their friends when they are in a friend group. Like, we're still partners even if we're in a group of friends, what are you on?? dumb. No one has to be your object of dominance towards other people. I'm here for you, not your friends. Differentiate it.
this was my most recent ex (we broke up a week ago) he was so sweet to me and right when we'd get around his friends he would almost completely ignore me and when i would try and join the conversation he would look at his friends and smile or laugh like i was stupid or something and whenever i would call him out for it he would say it was my fault because i was too quiet or i was awkward
@@claireready9562 he was treating you like a newbie to the group, when ever guy join a group of friends you go through a process like you described, I could be wrong depending on how long this was going on a couple months is normal imo you just have to show you not pussy by backing out of the conversation and soon enough you’ll be in on conversation, gaming sessions ect just gotta play the cards right
Men who associate everything out of the traditional scope of “masculine” with “being gay” are hella insecure. We all have different personalities and interests, and calling somebody “gay” because they like the color pink, or because they go to the nail salon, etc…just hella weird vibes because those activities have nothing to do with sexuality because there are gay men that don’t go to the salon and don’t like the color pink. Dudes gotta grow up at some point and let people live and stop projecting their own thoughts onto other peoples lives. And also, men who are just hella uncomfortable being next to somebody that’s gay. If you that bothered by a gay person who has done nothing to you or even spoken to you, you have some internal work to do. Or men who get embarrassed because a woman is better than them at something. I could type a whole lot list tbh. 😂
Trust me its just joke most guy now a days act gay around they friends and wouldn’t care if one of the homies are actually gay cause we brothers so it doesn’t matter, old niggas are really the one who care about pink and nail salons, and wed still say eww thats gay to a friend we know is gay and wed all laugh
It depends. Going by favorite colors is ridiculous, but there's definitely a point where someone has feminine characteristics that increases likelihood. It's not always right, look at Prince. But even how someone acts can often give it away, it's why no-one was shocked when ilovemakkonen (or whatever his name was) came out.
Once dated a dude who felt so insecure when he lost at games. I won 3 times in a row (Jenga and UNO) and he wouldn’t stop bothering me for 2 days straight until we played a game again so he can eventually win. Cut him off that weekend (he was homophobic and refused to listen to me when I explained sexuality isn’t something you choose… ignorant af)
You also have to keep in mind as well, that there are parents out there who treat their children that way. You have fathers who aren’t gay, but they have that toxic masculinity stupidity where everything they see that women mostly do is “gay” if a guy does it. Of course, if I guy wears makeup, they aren’t instantly gay, they just like makeup, if they love pink, that doesn’t make them gay either. I’ve seen femboys that are ironically heterosexual, but people nowadays claim everything is “gay” when it really isn’t. This is sadly what some parents do to their children and that can influence or cause the child to develop that attitude. I agree with what you’re saying though.
One thing I always though was weird was how some men, consider the dudes who have good hygiene and dress well gay. Like no?? Guys can care of their appearance? It’s like they think taking care of themselves is ‘feminine’ and makes them less manly.
Men aren’t encouraged to indulge in feminine activities. They’re either forced to be outliers or they have now have to take on more masculine activities. It’s pretty wack
@@Xavier_9872 brooo I had a girl breakup due to her ex saying cleaning his bootyhole was “GAY,” Guys who think chapstick, face cleansers, lotion is “feminine” like WTF. Shits crazy out there.
Bro there's a girl in my class who thought I was gay cause I take care of my hair and face and I groom myself. She said she doesn't see alot of people do so that's why Idk why I'm putting this but I'm blacl
@@monicaortiz2283 Yikes. But that makes sense, women do have some sort of play in why men are hyper masculine, cause some women don’t want men to be feminine.
@@Xavier_9872 not a surprise. A lot of woman have the same messed up views on masculinity, like a lot of guys. We get pushed an idea how a woman should be and how a men should be, very early on.
@@arthurramirez5665 ur correct, those two dont have anything to do with each other. one is about gender and the other is about sexuality. wild concept :-;
when people get mad for no reason usually they are hiding something about themselves. Before I came out as bi I was always mad for no reason when ppl talked about gay stuff bs of internalised homophobia, we need to teach our children to love themselves, we need to do better as a society.
Or maybe they have strong beliefs ,I feel uncomfortable with gay and bi stuff, it doesn't mean you can't do you but I usually don't want that around me. It has nothing to do with yourself or others for some people . Not everyone cracks or conforms to society's wants and needs.
@@noneofyourbusiness4311 You don't have to be homophobic to stay true to yourself. if your beliefs were strong they would remain intact no matter who you're around.
@@deehines5750 I just believe a man is meant for a women Making jokes or trying to push that on to me is crossing a boundary.i don't call it homphobic, I call it a bunch of generalize people who want me to accept the "world " as it is. I have yet to go back on it.
@@noneofyourbusiness4311 There ised to be a time when society was black and white. When it was believed that a white women should be with a white man and vice versa. Look at the apartheid system. And strange thing is, they used to "believed" that it was how it is supppsed to be. Just let people be. No heart feelings. Just because a black or white man is around me doesn't mean I must go out of my way to be angry at them because my beliefs has thaught me that being black is wrong...Think about it for a second and restructure abit. We can all learn to live together.
oooooh don't even get me started. My ex was a walking ball of insecurity and normally i'm okay with that but he was extremely homophobic only towards gay men and would get extremely offended if anyone made any jokes about him being gay, he would act completely different around his friends and pretty much ignore me and when i would try and join the conversation him and his friends would just look at each other and laugh, would refuse to listen to any of my music because they were female artists, would always threaten to fight people even if they so much as looked at him, he would never let me pay because "only guys do that." The list goes on and on but yea safe to say we ended things a week ago.
@@mezbarb5827 unfortunately i was not the one who dropped him he ended up dropping me because i was too sensitive ig but ik that he just did me a favour. the whole relationship was extremely toxic, off and on, he hated showing any affection towards me and practically had to ask him to start saying he loved me more because when i would say it he would just say ik or cool even tho he was the one who said it first. he was extremely manipulative it is not even funny so yea im glad he dropped me.
She was talking about her legs right? If so I'm not taking anything from her but the average human Should be able to press that much weight on their legs with just a little amount of practice... Simply for the fact that we walk and use our legs more than we do anything else on our body. I knew a girl that was fine as hell With a nice body when I was at high school not only does she have have amount of good leg strength but she could also squat some ridiculous Waits as well... Doesn't really matter the gender of the individual
@@ooferrell yeah I'm guessing what you just said is the point Dee's tryna make...these niggas shouldn't feel pressed about the fact Dee can leg press more than them cos as you said, the "average human" should be able to
Fam he literally said put you on to something.... he's on some other type of stuff But let's reverse the roles if a dude wants to touch his gf's butt and she tells him to stop is he supposed to get angry? No
@@sunshowerzo interesting isnt even the right word to describe him. Then had the nerve to call us insecure beacuse we wont let our girlfriend play with our butt... The devil is truly busy and we're living in the last times
I asked you to grab my ass all the time... I never had a problem with it... Because in high school That's that's how most girls used to flirt with me... But penetration? Nabra I know that shit.. L o l...
That subway dude is right. I've seen that happen. He was trying to humblebrag, but seriously, there are men who act like that. At my old job, I used to have this fine as a co-worker. He was super tall, deep-voiced and he had light brown eyes. When a customer came in with their girlfriend/wives, they always pivoted towards me. Sometimes, they would let someone skip them so they don't have to go towards him.
There's this RU-vidr who gives flowers to people to make their day better. The men. They all got pissed and angry at him. The women were happy to recieve it though.
For the booty one i disagree, everybody can say they are uncomfortable with people doing anything with their booty but if they start acting like "no it's gay" then yeah. You can say no whenever you want but this excuse is the most insecure
Me and my cross country team were about to take a picture together and my teammate deadass said “I don’t gives hugs, it makes me feel less of a man” I looked at him so stupid when he said that like….
My ex use to say he wasn’t like other guys and that he was surprised I would go for a guy like him. He would also say he wasn’t as manly as other men. All of these were red flags, but my dumbass stayed. Turned out he was veryyy insecure and emotionally abusive
Idk what this is, but this video reminded me of when me and my mom got into an argument. She was talking about men wearing feminine clothing and asked me if I would be okay with that…when I said yes, she called me weird. Like..it’s just clothes to me and if they comfortable with who they are that’s attractive to me. What you wear or how you act does not define your sexuality, but she doesn’t get that when it comes to men..but understands when women or afab do it🤦🏻.
I'm not someone who acts all weird around anyone, but I will say that there's an easy answer to why most straight men are afraid of being seen as gay/ feminine. Most men are ok dating bi-women, but most women would not date a bi-man. For example, Dee has literally said this herself. She is bi, but she would only want a masculine straight man.
I totally get your story Dee 11:38. I know some guys who have girlfriends and all and still do whatever they want. Whether that be nail polish or wear bright colors. I don’t see the point in getting so worked up. If its not your thing then so be it but damn I would be shocked too at his reaction
Last girl was speaking fax she worded it wrong but what she was saying is that if y’all r playing around with y’all friends using gay jokes and they get hella hostile about it and try to prove they not gay , if u are secure u know what u r u don’t need to prove non
Shiiiit. At the end of the day a guy she be secure enough to wear whatever he wants. Be it nail polish or a skirt. The problem lies within how they think the outside world will perceive them. I've worn plenty of stuff that had people shaking their head but I gave zero fucks.
Well I don't agree with people being beat up or harrassed for what they wanna be you can not say something your not I find it disrespectful the journey is not the same but whatever people are gonna agree with stuff like that anyway because of feelings.
@@khadi818they’re not cis woman but still woman. That’s why they’re “trans woman” there’s no such thing as “real woman” it’s just an excuse to be transphobic.
As far as the guy with the booty thing, that’s completely untrue. Most guys just don’t like things involving their ass. It’s not insecurity, it’s just what we dont like
Like as a guy, I don’t even really like my girl touching my ass but it’s kinda whatever. It’s not that we think it’s gay necessarily, just uncomfortable
@@Feliciatanktop Incorrect. The prostate is situated around the internal base of the penis, not inside the digestive tract. It is not "inside their asshole" as you claim. Doctors reach through the a-hole to feel the prostate because of how closely situated it is to the lower rectum anatomically, not because it is in the rectum.
About the booty thing.....don't touch me🤣🤣 I don't like being touched too much in general it don't got nun to do wit nun else I be feeling violated like bro chill😂
I'll listen to "female music" or be fine when a girl out lifts me in the gym I couldn't care less, in fact it's cool. However, I'm not wearing no nail polish, maybe that makes me "fragile" but nah I'm not doing that. The person didn't have to shout, I would just say nah, I'm not wearing nail polish.
I mean idk, I kinda feel you, but you’re not “wearing” it. She’s just putting it on real quick to see how it looks on a nail and then taking it right off after and it’s your girl asking the favor. Idk just seems weird to refuse to me but hey different strokes I guess
Calling a man insecure about how he feels is dumb. Ladies can be and show their insecurities all day. We cant show that we have them too. Men cant do nothing but show strength and courage as a men. I dont care if people are gay straight whatever.
It’s not about being simply insecure. We are all insecure about some things, that’s just being human. But when your security or insecurity is attached to “masculinity” that’s when it becomes stupid. I’m insecure about many things, but none of them have to do with “masculinity” or perceived masculinity.
@@devronl08 Masculinity is tied to behavior in a way that femininity isn’t. People will call you a boy well after you’re grown to make that point clear. In that context i think it makes as much sense as any other insecurity
@@Gobackto4chan I’m not following there because people call women girls also after they are grown. I think in that way it’s more used to say someone is childish or not mature enough to handle and take care of their responsibilities as an adult. At least that’s how I’ve encountered it.
@@devronl08 Well i’m sure it happens and it’s frustrating that there’s no real numbers to this topic, but the communities i’ve visited over the years all had wayyy more to say about masculinity than vice versa, hence the large amount of bitter, vengeful dudes you see taking any opportunity to try to flip the script.
@@devronl08 I think it depends on the context of how their acting with their insecurity and whether they are self-aware in the circumstances. However, most insecurities of men are going to be about their “masculinity” because it’s intrinsically linked, and synonymous, with being a man. No matter how people say it’s unhealthy or weird for that to be the case, that’s the reality at the moment in society. Therefore, I think it makes sense as to why men get insecure about those kind of things.
I had a straight friend that quit going to the gym with me because I put performed him. This dude was way smaller than me trying to tell ME how to work out .
lmfao the leg press thing is gunny first of all the way the leg press is angled it isn't great on your knees so if you have bad knees you'll likely leg press low. second thats kinda like someone who can bench a lot saying they are stronger. when you get good at an exercise, its just that. I do a lot of reverse lunges but I wouldn't say im "stronger" than someone who can "only" squat 365 because I can reverse lung 275.
5:00 Idgaf if it’s gay or not. It could be the straightest thing in the world, I’m just not interested. Has nothing to do with an insecurity or my masculinity. It’s just not appealing or desirable to me. Simple.
@@OO-ct4hq and if that’s the case I have to respect that or find someone else. I don’t get to violate someone’s space if they’re not comfortable with it and vice versa.
No means no Dee. If a man don't want to put on nail polish he don't have to, if he don't want somebody grabbing his ass (even a woman) he don't have to. The word no is not for just women, I understand spazzing out but damn can we say no despite the reason? 💀💀💀💀💀
She never said he wasn't allowed to say no. It was the fact that he was getting aggressive with it and calling it gay that was the problem. This is nail polish, hardly a traumatising situation to find yourself in as a boyfriend... like dang, no it's not gay and no, he didn't need to be getting aggressive about it like he had to defend his masculinity against her.
@@jada_a4342 I clearly said I understand the spazzing part as a problem so probably u forgot to read that but still it doesn't matter if it "traumatizing" or not, we have the right to say no
You adding the no isn't just for women part was so unnecessary like huh? The point wasn't about just saying no, it was his reason and his attitude about it. Did you just listen to every other word or what happened
@@UndergroundZone English comprehension isn't your strong suit, mate lol she said the problem was how disrespectful and aggressive he got and THAT is what showed insecurity, not that he said no. And she didn't state a guy can't say no to a girl grabbing his butt, she just said it isn't gay because it's a woman doing it. You just want to be angry and go off on women 💀 sad
@@frothyfro3359 how am I going off on women when I stated how I felt? Dee said "it's still a sign a insecurity but whatever" probably she said that in a joking way and I also said I understand the spazzing out part? Damn I can't even voice my opinion?
well sometimes when a staight dude does something in the category of fem, other staight dudes bully the fuck out of them. so sometimes when they get mad like that it's to stand their ground and let other dudes know not to fuck with them like that. this is especially if they allow it in private but masively disagree with it in public.
i partially agree with this however some of these opinions are a major stretch though, some of these opinions seem like an excuse to label men insecure because they don't agree with what is being socially accepted now which is somehow a crime...I thinking differently and being insecure isn't the same thing...but that's just my opinion maybe I'm insecure...
Thinking differently and believe certain people shouldn’t have rights because they don’t fit into your worldview are two different things. You people say shit like this then have the audacity to wonder why everyone is running away from churches and religion as a whole.
The last one I agree with but not the way she said it . If I make a gay joke towards you not call you a gay slur but make a gay joke and you get offended or refuse to go along with the joke then that does give of insecurity vibes . There's a guy I know has a girlfriend everything as is perfectly fine with taking gay jokes and often makes gay jokes about himself and that to me shows that he is comfortable with his sexuality he knows he's strait he dosent need to prove that to anyone and knows it's just a joke .
Yeah as a guy I have no problem with gay jokes... And if a woman usually cracks a gay joke at me I'll reverse Uno card and make the joke even funnier... But that's with mostly any Jokes directed toward me because of the end of the day No one can really make fun of you if you can Always making fun of yourself..
I had a friend of mine make a gay joke towards me & it made very uncomfortable. So uncomfortable, I damn near broke his damn jaw. I'm a straight black man & I don't make gay jokes. I only make jokes about being black & what not. I made a gay joke one time & I got called a faggot for it by the same friend. So what did I do??? I immediately turned into Daniel Robitaille & went on Candyman on his ass.
@@vodoumyers why should you care what he says . If your strait and you know your strait why does it matter if he calls you a faggot . Sure he called you a slur so you can knock his teeth out but why does a joke or being called gay bother you if you know your not .
@@joeswanson7634 Like I said, it makes me uncomfortable. And I told him that it did. But of course, he didn't listen. The crazy part is that he forgot that I'm an amateur MMA fighter & I could literally kill him with one single judo charge. We ain't friends anymore because he crossed the line.
Truthfully, this was a goofy topic to begin with. The answers were botchy and while I understand the assignment, it was definitely going to come from a lot of biased perspectives. True that many men can be insecure with the concepts of what being a man actually is. That’s also true with a lot of concepts in general. Being insecure isn’t a coverup , it’s a feeling that can trigger a irrational response to things that certain minds can’t comprehend..
but pink was originally a boy colour because it was seen as strong while blue was seen as a dainty and delicate colour so it was assigned to girls, it was only in the 1900's that they switched meanings so pink originally was not a female colour
@@ruths3721 tell it! So many people have seriously strange ideas about gender that they think is innate. Boys used to wear dresses in the past until about 7 yo. High heels were originally for Nobel men, cheerleading was an all-male sport and they even banned women from participating for a while. Make and long hair was worn by men and women in various cultures for centuries. Yet because some peoples weird puritanical and patriarchal ideas of gender, the most random things have been pointlessly gendered.
@@ruths3721 u jus proved my point ,colour can be used to label gender , u even gave a reason , my point is it ain’t that deep of a guy thinks pink is a girly colour
Because it’s a color. It’s not girly or manly. It’s just a color. People just started associating colors with gender because people are obsessed with labeling and categorizing things. There’s no such thing as a female or male color wtf 😂 🤦🏿♂️
4:53 Man shut up. I get what he's saying but the reality is most dudes don't want you feeling up their butt. It is weird and somewhat uncomfortable because it's not a sensation most of us are used to. That's not "being insecure in our masculinity", that's "this is uncomfortable". Plus, miss me with the cap, because people will say "oh it's not gay to let a woman feel up on your butt" but the second you and chick start beefing she's gonna say "y'all he like when I be playing all in his butt and stuff" trying to make you look gay. Case in point: look at Amber Rose and Kanye. #fingersinthebooty
If she says that just to make you insecure, just stand up and and take it like a man. Nothing wrong with being played with the butt as a man. It’s called exploring. If your that insecure of someone shaming you, then stay in your insecurity.
nah dee even i wouldn't put on nail polish, doesnt mean im hiding something, you gotta stop saying just because a guy refuses to do something related only to females, hes automatically hiding the fact that hes lowkey gay or something, but most guys wouldn't want to do it in general, its just something a guy wouldn't normally do. other than that, i agree with the rest of what you said.
it's the reaction that makes the difference of insecure or not. You can respectfully decline the offer if you're not comfortable with it, but if you make a scene about it like her ex did, then that's a red flag that screams insecurity. "I'd rather not, it's not really my thing" vs "hell nah, fuck outta here, men don't do that"
It used to be something that guys did at a normal level tho, makeup too. There’s a whole history behind men doing those two things that suddenly became traditionally feminine
some of these ppl in the compilation lost the plot bc…the whole point of the ig tiktok was to defeat the purpose of toxic masculinity but some stitched the vid w them just being lowkey homophobic…
after seeing this video and understanding the insecurites that men have. As a man im glad i dont have none of these because i would totally like a girl grab my ass if she was my girlfriend. no cap
@@KAYOSISPINK but she didnt say that tho. She said gay. How u gon say she one thing and she clearly said sumn else? 🤨 she done came out the closet bruh!!
@@dimeandbiggie353 She also said that she wanted a full-blown diKk in one of her videos and since Dee is a woman, she can't be %100 gay. Edit: not y'all thinking I said that Dee can't be gay because she's a woman 💀😭
What about if the uncomfortability comes with the culture/law of the country you come from. Like you could get locked up for being homo sexual or being in any sortve affiliation with anybody who is...?
@@thatbitch3254 nowhere did I say that it was right ... it wasn't a question of morality. it was a question of circumstance and people being from totally different backgrounds, instilled with different belief systems, freedom of speech isnt a practise we all get to share..the world is bigger than just the U.S... .where I'm from they just recently stopped locking up homosexuals, had I not been as exposed by being a 3rd cultured kid diplomatic background well travelled. I most likely would've grown up homophobic that's the harsh reality.. in some countries that is normalised just a fact. So I understand them. Don't agree, UNDERSTAND them. These are first world problems if I ever seen any, theres somebody right now on a hand built raft fishing out at sea with crazy tides, just to provide for their family come morning. And we here commenting about homosexual insecurity amongst heterosexual males lol chill it's just entertainment. My question was simple wanted to hear the response to that kindve environment influencing the reaction to this video not whether its right or wrong
That is kinda weird if your girl just gripping your butt cheeks😂 like just imagine walking by and see someone getting the butt cheeks gripped by they girl from the front😂
It’s also weird when men do that they’re girlfriends too. But they’re have ass to that love looking at, and if he’s comfortable and not insecure than I think it should be fine for them.
You wrong for that asking that man to put nail polish on smh who does that? I would’ve been pissed too especially if you keep pushing the issue and a nigga said NO SMH you wrong
The dude was mad bc he was homophobic and misogynistic. He only seen it as a girl/gay guy thing. He ill intentions when being upset about it. She was gonna take it off afterwards anyways, but he made a scene about it. To me, in my opinion, that’s a red flag.
Ik what ur saying but the main point is that it was unnecessary for him to get THAT upset and defensive about it, especially considering the circumstances lol He could've simply said I dont feel comfortable doing that and left it at that.
@@rose2654 but for all we know there is trauma there that's associated with that and it's a boundary he has never had to communicate we have all reacted in ways that may be deemed too much but as women we fight for the right to consent and we forget it isn't always just sexual and it also applies to men
Lol I don't see why people haven't realized that yet... You use your legs more than you do any part of your body if you walk around all day... Your legs and feet are literally the only things holding your body up.. So if you're able to walk and run then most likely you're able to do some pretty decent leg presses at least your body weight
this shit had me dead😂but i don’t really agree with when dee said if a guy refuses nail polish then he’s insecure cuz i personally don’t wear nail polish and i couldn’t care less if another guy wears it. i don’t think it’s gay. it’s hygienic but i just don’t wear it cuz i keep my nails clean on my own. that’s like implying that if i’m offered nail polish then i have to accept it or else i’m insecure but i ain’t bout to be yelling and screaming refusing it like her ex did😭😂
well yeah, it's the reaction that makes the difference of insecure or not. You can decline the offer if you're not comfortable with it, but if you make a scene about it like her ex did, then that's a red flag
@@tekrar8825 i didn’t say it was a simple decline lmao i don’t even know what you’re talking about i just gave my opinion on what dee said i was literally talking about myself. please reread the comment.
I understand you but dee obviously explained that he over reacted and did not just simply decline You need to comprehend these comments better(not trying to be rude)
She said she was gonna take it off, but the dude was just being misogynistic/homophobic, so he had Ill intentions when complaining. And the butthole playing thing is how much comfortable the guy is. If he’s comfortable with it then yes, bc maybe he needs to explore more in his sexuality. If he dosent want to bc he thinks it’s gay or a girl thing, then he’s just homophobic/misogynistic.
I seen tons of men who enjoy and comfortable with having they’re butthole played with, but that’s them bc they’re not insecure/uncomfortable. It’s the fact they’re more attractive when they’re okay with it.
