●Ladies, when in a new relationship, you should continue to be mysterious in a way that makes a man want to get to know you more and more! ●Keep personal things, past situations/relationships between you and God only, so the man won't be able to use anything against you.
I was talking to a guy recently and he said I’m really quiet and I don’t say too much 😂 I’m thinking oh no I talk but I can’t tell you everything about me and we just started talking!
A boyfriend is not your husband. Give him no ammunition to use against you. If you made that mistake, leave him alone. The world is full of idiots. Don’t be one of them.
Maybe I’m cut from a different cloth, but I don’t tell a new man anything. For all he knows I’m squeaky clean. Even in a relationship I still don’t trust that 100% because it WILL be used against you when stuff gets real. I always felt like women talk too much even to other women, that’s why so many have experienced their best friend sleeping with their man! A man is not your friend so don’t ever get too comfortable.
Tony you are a natural father to a lot of fatherless women out here. I really could cry because I’m so grateful to be able to take in all this knowledge. The Bible says “my people perish for a lack of knowledge.” I really see that I am where I am in life simply because I didn’t know better. The phrase “if you know better you do better” but if you don’t know better you can’t do better. If a woman didn’t have a mother or father in her life, women that did have an advantage over her. I told myself instead of continuing to cry about not having either, to go on a journey and get all the knowledge I can. Knowledge is information and wisdom is application. Once the knowledge is gained I then have to apply it. This is true deliverance right here. Thank you so much for being a father to the fatherless. I am forever grateful for your ministry.
You’re spot on about Derrick Jack. I went to college with him and no one on campus wanted him and he was swole and on the football team back then. I was confused when he came out acting like he had all this experience with women when he clearly didn’t get it in college.
25:22 is on point. my father doesn't remember his parents even telling him that they loved him (EVER). out of 6 kids, he's the only boy and always felt downed, blamed, etc. he said at 7 or 8 years old, he vowed that when he had kids, he would love them; he was gonna love them the way he felt he wasn't. he's lived up to that for sure.
It’s so crazy to hear how many adults were not loved as children. I’ve heard this story countless times. 😢 But your dad is an anomaly! Love that he broke that generational curse by loving and showing love to his children
Tony keeping it real. I have found the relationship tips a therapist gave me doesn’t work. It’s not that they are useless it’s that the tips are meant to be healthy meaning it’s done with good intentions, good faith, respect, and does not hurt anyone, I find most people I meet in dating but honest in general have unresolved issues from the past and don’t know how to be a kind, responsible accountable person. As I started doing my own personal growth, healing, and overcoming my own past and learning good ways to be with people. I find that changes who I want and who wants me. So although the therapist is helpful, Tony’s advice sheds light on the reality of what I will likely be dealing with into until I find a real grown man who can do healthy things like communicating, has self control and emotional mature and honest and giving grace for each other. Not perfect but healed or healing enough to meet me halfway.
As a woman who grew up without any guidance, an absent dad and no presence of God(an atheist mother)...I learned EVERYTHING the hard way. I thank God for his grace, mercy, covering, healing, salvation, knowledge, wisdom and unconditional love. God never left my side even when I had no knowledge of him. All praises and glory to God. I thank God for people such as Tony who are willing to be obedient and follow the instructions of the LORD.💌🤍🥹🙌🏾🙏🏾
@@LaBrayeMichelleMcKinley God is so good. He has always been there for me the same way he is always there for you. May you thrive and continue to be edified by his grace and love in your heart. Tony is the brother I never had and God is my counselor and in the absence of a good father and mother due to death, God is my parents, my husband and my brother and my sister and my greatest friend. I surrender all to Him and I live according to His instructions.
Yesss TG you teaching ! So true ! My previous relationship I over shared and it was def a lesson learned. I was in the world at the time and was being lead by my flesh! He def used things I shared with him to his advantage for sure ! Thank you Lord for growth, wisdom and courage to leave !!
Thank you so much! From a woman who grew up without a dad present, your content is literally life-changing. May God continue to bless you and yours a million fold 🙏🏾
Tony I SCREAMED 😂😂when you told the lady to get you a job, because everyone can eat. Thank you for always sharing a word. GOD bless you and your family.
Control your emotions. Keep your business to yourself. Don't overcharge. It will be used against you later. Stop explaining yourself to Satan. Let your cut off game be on point. Love yourself no matter who you with. Pray
Yes! We have to use discernment. I remember “swole buddy” was a fraud. My mom used to send me his clips and I always ignored them. He used to say good things that sounded Biblical but NEVER mentioned God from his first popular videos which was a RED flag. Second red flag was him always wearing those tight shirts. You only dress like that when you are looking for a woman to look at you. That just didn’t align with him portraying himself as a man out to HELP women. Thanks Tony!
Bro Tony you're right I've been program to mentally think that a Man of God wouldn't do this or that to you. It's sad to have been program this way .the women in the church this is what's been taught
Alot of the time if you stay someone that is emotionally wounded then it is going to be destructive If the person heals then they usually outgrow the relationship
Hi Tony, Yes I agree with how men interact with their kids. I genuinely don’t believe they’re able to connect with their children even if they want to because they might not be wired to do so.. men take good care of their kids if they like the mother. If they don’t, all hell breaks loose.
TG please not saying yawl forgive me. It’s great to see a man putting his priorities FIRST. If a viewer can’t handle the realness they’re on the wrong channel. Love seeing you face light up for your children and your wife more men need to show it!
Teach me how to love…. One of my favorite songs and yes I think you can heal through love and you have to learn what makes another person feel loved 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼☀️☀️☀️☀️☀️
@tony gaskins, thank you for this level of insight. In addition to that, I do want to say that in my experience some woman idolize men because the world does. I’ve witnessed moms be harder on and towards their daughters than they are towards their sons. Also, for the religious folks, and to which you agreed that woman haven’t had a very safe nor honest depiction since the beginning of time, which includes the Bible. So therefore some woman no matter who they are have felt like I have to praise the man in order to be considered submissive or feminine even if it is at my own expense.
Wish more of our fathers were giving us the game so dating would be easier for us to avoid such simple things. It seems like NO MEN care about our well being including our fathers.
All this talk about porn is just disgusting. If I'm seriously dating a guy and we're intimate, I need to be able to trust that he's not doing that. Women shouldn't have to put up with visual cheating, just because it's "commonplace" for men to do. It's disrespectful and it kills relationships.
Come on now preach Tony! Psychological abuse is very crippling! Because you can’t touch or see it , most people don’t understand the level of damage it can cause! It doesn’t matter if a million people try to help you it won’t work! The door will literally be open and the coast is clear and the victim won’t escape because the defeat is already in the mind or belief system 😢. Only way out is to find yourself in Jesus. I’m a living witness, he delivered me from people and situations I didn’t even realize I needed deliverance from🙏! God Is the greatest ❤️❤️❤️❗️!
@kangelondexter1156 Yes, Lawd. 1. Throwbacks after 15yrs married. 2. Failure to launch 3. Life long bachelor's 4. Looking for a nurse 5. Looking for a purse What did I forget?
Yu are so right on the most honest man the most church godly man can scam yuo can steal from yuo yes it happened to me my ex stole lots of money he never pay back manipulating me into we are married this why I don’t trust a man with my money women talk a lot we don’t know the man and we are telling our lives and it’s been use against us men can be very dangerous
I’m starting to wonder if men are really stronger than women?😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮 1.We women can go without sex for a long time, it seems like men can’t. 2. We endure menstrual cramps men don’t 3. And a women is less likely to cheat and sleep with less men overall 4. We work and endure so many situations such as being a single mom and single lady period much more than men 5. We endure much more emotionally than men 6. And it seems like black women are less likely to date outside their race 7. Am I wrong for seeing things this way? 8. And why are men so unforgiving and women are? Men expect us to be perfect and we don’t get second chances but they expect us to give second chances!!! What is this!?? Lastly, why does it seem like men can’t believe that a woman can change? We really can go from being promiscuous to settled but why do they expect us to believe them when they have changed? 😮😮😮😮 Can somebody please make this make sense because i could be very wrong and please correct me if I am but it just seems like women are stronger.😮😮😮😮
This came right on time for me!! I'm about to go on vacation with him, and I know he's going to want to talk at length b/c he's already tried that and I did not say much...I kept it light. I am ready for all of it!❤ Thank you for this, Tony!
I can't lie I got to 5 minutes from a godly perspective if you're equally yoked and God has ordained and your discernment is on point then you'll be fine. If a man is gonna hurt you with what you told him in love he was never the one. This advice is dangerous I'd say everyone let God lead you these days you can't trust no humans words alien let God reveal and confirm everything simples😊
@@MIZZMICHIGAN19 I was looking for this comment. Like if God is telling me that he approves of a man that I’m dating, why hide who I am or who I used to be if those conversations come about🤷🏽♀️ because if I withhold information, then it’s going to put me in a position to try and uphold that “perfect” image when I do want to reveal who I am (if that make sense)
I appreciate uncle Tony so much but watching his videos I be thinking dang I messed up again, or I said to much I just don't be knowing what to do what not to do until I watch these videos and I feel the need to start over!
After dating with game playing, how do you approach a new relationship when you are on guard about everything because of the games they have played in the past?
When people say "heal," to me that means consult our Heavenly Father/friend/counselor FIRST about your experiences in prayer, seek knowledge and wisdom in the Word (how does God see us, what is wisdom, what is a wife, what is a husband, how does God say you should treat each other), read books on healthy communication in a relationship, and consider a licensed Christian therapist if your finances/insurance allow. By healing, you know your worth, have your boundaries, and know how to filter out unserious men that like to play games.
Good morning Tony Gaskins this absolutely powerful message and I'm so grateful how God using you to tell truth about men because I was in so many situations hip and now know why thanks to your teaching 😀 just not sure how to help my 3 grown son's because unfortunately their grown boy's hurting the woman in their lives
I've been using Tony's advice since the first video he mentioned this. It's funny, I've had men tell me I'm mysterious and so hard to read 😂 I wonder if it's because I don't give into their baited questions like the examples Tony gave in the video
I saw Tony in my dreams last night selling me Elderberry Gummies in Jamaica out of a white van. He sold me three bottles, even though I asked for two. I think WEALTHOFHEALTH was on the van too.
A man sure don’t tell you everything I just experienced this with my guy been knowing him 4 years and just found out he have a grown son he didn’t tell me about.
Ohhhh heck nooo get rid of him! That’s not cool by courting and it get serious within a few months you should know about all their children.. men like that is DANGEROUS he be the type to give you an incurable STD.. y’all ladies better stay woke..
Girl I hope you not in that relationship anymore.. he could be hiding an incurable STD.. where y’all get these sneaky men from y’all dating over 1 year That’s crazy business
My mom taught me very well Never tell a man only everything Will wash your face later on.. They are not going to tell you all they personal business.. Forget them..tell jesus not silly man .. life coach tell your business..They're human. Aswell. I know my sister in law is a family counselor.. she come home and tell My brother.. her clients their personal issues of life.. she off the devil.. I just shake my head.. she off the devil ..😊
Honestly this is why women will stop relying on man for partnership in the future and change the whole system man created. everything you said is true and women should listen and stay safe. but unfortunately this is not realistic and long term solution because as women like you said we enjoy expressing and running our mouths because we trust that you won't violate us but reality is man will always violate women no matter what we do so it's better for women to use this knowledge to protect themselves and always plan for the future. be independent and be financially secured so you can leave any bad situation. I rather leave then cheat and get murdered but that requires financial independence and strategy. I don't think I'll ever trust man I'll always be ready for attack and I pray I don't get killed for standing up for myself
