Just because a woman can't birth a child that doesn't mean she can't raise a child Just because a woman can birth a child that doesn't mean she can raise a child - I've seen this in other places, idk who the original author is
@@Lovely-sv1ye lol its completely ur choice, though it is social responsibility of females(especially those with superior genes) to bear children but one should not* be shamed for not doing it especially in such a densely populated society of ours.
This is very true. As much as I want to be a mother, I feel very unfit considering I suffer from anxiety, depression, lots of unresolved childhood trauma. I'd never want those things to affect my kid...
@@KOST1110 the idea seems a burden or a problem to those who dont want to literally make a human being in their womb, have it growing on their life energy and carrying it for 9 months. I mean did you not see the video, it explains how bearing a child takes a toll not only on your body but also your mind. Even after delivering the babe, the rate of post-partum depression is so high among indian women. I assume these are the reasons that would make women think having a kid is a liablity.
@@whimsyeyes7032 I understand that a baby can be a tough grind , i do understand that carrying a baby for 9 months is not a task to easily be given away at , but do we see this that we are comodifying a god damn human baby ! .......... i for one cannot stand anyone who use a term of " LIABILTY " for a child , i hope you know well that the term liabilty does not certify something good infact is used in fore of something derogatory ....most of all , this is the darker part of american and western culture , which indians seem to be picking up quite blissfully ...........
@@KOST1110 Just think about doing a job that you don't like for the rest of your life.Will you grab each and every opportunity to get out of that job? I hope the answer is yes. Apply the same logic here in the case of motherhood. That's it. Don't counter me with arguments like "so motherhood is a job for you" and so. That's not what I meant here.
The fact that a women only gets recognition and respect in a household after she became a mother is so true especially in indian society and it is sad because this very fact destroys any other role or dream a woman might have because now she is a mother only.
@@amitrana9090 I'm saying if she is an liberal feminists like u, just dont hide ur v liberal ideas before marriage. It would be evil u know to deprive a man of kids who wants them.
I don’t think so. Pick any serial after hero and heroine’s marriage , they won’t sleep together for some bullshit reason , then after half the season something will happen between them portrayed as sex . Tell me a real life example in which husband and wife do not have sex in years , or yaar itna kon si ladki sharmati h I love you sun ne mein , so the point is the society doesn’t copy that . The reason your own parents pressurise you for kids is that ki aapka pati aapko chor kar n chala jaaye , bachhe ko to chhor kar jaayega nhy (forced fatherhood). Serial nhy sikhate society ko , society khud mein hi h kisi ka sookon bardaash nhy karne waali , dahej lo , beti ko kokh mein maar daalo ye sabb insaani laalach or societal pressure ka natiza h , kisi serail k karan nhy
@@soumyok5925 no buddy, indian serials are nothing but unrealistic , irrational circus. Inlog bad treatment k naam pe dikha denge ki halfi mein kisi ne seesha mila diya , cooker fat gaya , or inhe kya h do episod tak pattiyan laga kar ghumenge but real life mein ye sabb accident bht scary hote h.Koi v serial utha lo kuch v ho rha h .
My mother was a working mom and she used to go on office trips so many times and I think I turned out fine. In fact she made double my dad's salary. Her relatives were like oh look at that poor kid, he doesn't see his mom very often. Then my mom was like I make most the family income and so if I quit then the family will go through a big financial problem, until you guys are willing to give 10% of your family income to take care of this poor kid
Also working women are better. Housewives who give unconditional love to children which many hopeless kids do not deserve even, end up raising spoiled brats and often criminals
In india, we are forced to have kids, it's not even a choice for us. People constantly keeps telling women to have kids,and I'm like are you going to pay the bills? Are you going to take care of them? No right. So keep your damn advice to yourself 🤷♀️
@@foreverrocks7989 about whether I have kids or not? I am unmarried and I have monthly lectures from my family and extended family on why I shouldn’t say no to kids. Once my aunt said you love your dogs so much you’ll love your kids too. Apparently men will not marry because I don’t want kids. I will be an old spinster and I’ll be bored because I won’t have anything to do. People care a lot
The childless mother who can't have children unfortunately can go for adoption or assisted reproductive technology or surrogacy but still there is a stigma for surrogacy in India . I asked my mother is motherhood that compelling, she said yes because it completes you as a women . My mom is a doctor and it is crystal clear that she has sacrificed her career for her children's upbringing that does not mean that my father has not given up things to be a better role model. Yeah i don't know whether i will choose a child over career but it is damn clear that my career is no less then a child to me because i nourish it daily ,love it ,hope for it and determined to see it happen one day.
To be fair adopting a local child in India is made Very hard. Most orphanages do this to secure children for international adoptions which is often accompanied by wealthier donations from said adopters.
I would agree with your mother. The feeling of motherhood is unique which is worth all the pain one goes through. As far as career goes it can be an important aspect of your life, and one should no doubt do whatever practical to have it if a person is career minded. However remember companies will not bat an eye if they need to dump you even in your tough times, but family is more likely to support you in all times. So choose wisely.
I am also from a doctor family like you , my mom sacrificed her career for us But I will not, my independence is much more important than any of these shity things, but that doesn't means I don't wanna have children, I want children and in natural procedure only , I want an husband who will always support me
@@dilipsaha4732 relax , you can't call yourself shitty. That's how we all were born. It's best if we don't stick to ideologies and keep an open mind. Actually children are important too. Feminism anti patriarchy, anti orthodox societal construct ideologies have pushed us to the far left. Having children should not be a personal choice, but more importantly should be a couple's choice, the decision arrived at by mutual understanding. Also, childfree(includes adopted) or pregnancy free should be evaluated. Progeny need planning, and should not be shunned outright. Definitely give it a thought. Life is reproduction. That's how we came to be. We've evolved through generations. Having a child is a COUPLE'S decision, should not be a unilateral decision by women. Not having children too is being glorified now, as being feminist, and rebelling against patriarchy, etc, whereas the actual gist is being lost. When women take UNILATERAL decisions like this, they should also understand that they are obstructing their man from having children, which is not ethical, especially from a lineage standpoint. It might seem retarded from an ultra modern/economic point of view, but it's a right of people to have their own kids. All I advise is to keep an open mind. Motherhood is natural. And equally important is one's decision to or not to. Cheers!
This society was making me feel guilty for choosing to not have a child as if it's a crime, and I'm being too selfish about myself. Thanks to this video for making me feel better. Thanks for saying it's okay to choose.
No you're not did anything don't feel guilty about that having kids not having kids going for adoption it's a personal choice not a societal choice whatever you feel your inner voice says not to have kids then it's completely fine it's your own choice don't feel guilty even I think after getting married I don't want to have kids by my own I would like to go for adoption or rather not have it
there are many selfish things done by our dear society and most of them done by hurting somebody ,that is evil,you on the other hand is not hurting anybody by your ''SELFISH'' motive ,so i will rephrase selfish more like Choice .i have seen parents disowning and killing their children because they married outside of cast to selfishly keep the reputation in the family,i have seen parents raising their children as a means of investment [that is selfish and greed]
Having children is a personal choice. Some people find happiness in being a mother/father. Some don't. Being a mother/father is not an emotional labour. It's a responsibility.
You should realise choices don't exist in vacuum, there's something called conditioning. When the whole patriarchal society glorifies motherhood so much, it naturally would make some women "choose" to become a mother. Be wary of where your choices are influenced from.
@@harv609 Patriarchal Society Huh!! Even if an external factor is the reason for a persons choice for becoming a mother/father or any other event in life, it is still called a choice. Motherhood is glorified because a mother nurtures a child and makes that a child a good person. Even if you are infertile you can adopt and become a mother/father. It has nothing to do with patriarchy. The choice of being a parent is effected by financial and person reasons. If patriarchy is the reason for glorification of motherhood why is Scandinavian population increasing at a very high rate even though they are least patriarchal society?
@@fidhaz1925 your very reply which says mother nurtures the child and makes the child a good person, this very reply is patriarchal, and you don't seem to understand this. The pressure to nurture a child and make them a good person is as equally there on a father, not the mother alone. If you agree with this, tell me why fatherhood isn't glorified like how motherhood is? Do you sense something wrong here?
High tfr is the most imp reason y we survived islamic n colonial massacres, artificial famines n genocides dispite losing most of the major wars, though it is not needed in modern India(except kerala n jammu) we should not degrade it.
@@gotnochill1924 ofcourse it should be a choice but childless women should not desecrate/mock sanctity of motherhood. Motherhood is rightly glorified n mothers should always be respected. P.s:- low tfr was the biggest reason for the disintegration of Soviet union
Well lets just say.. that that's the current state of our country.. intellectuals ARE underrated coz they r less and the people to appreciate them are also less
@Ananya Swaminathan no.. that's not useful.i know what kind of mentality of people I am around. So.. they r just hard ass stereotypical people.. they cannot think beyond the conditioning.. it's useless.to send them so I don't but yeah.. if there is anybody around u the person reading this I would suggest.. u share it as much as u can
@Ananya Swaminathan if I send it to my family grout they will think the girl has got out of hand, if I send to my friends groups they will say "pakka mat yaar" so...I don't have any person with a brain ti share it
As a gay Indian woman , who can’t even get pregnant I’m literally shocked about how women who don’t want children in married or straight relationships It’s a personal choice periodt
What's worse is that even today,many people think a woman's sole job is to be a good wife and fulfill their husband's wishes. How many more years until all these mentality changes???
Ask me how many times I have been told this exact things cz me and my partner decided not to hv kids! My own dad said there is a high possibility that if I dont hv kids either me or my husband wud go for an extramarital affair cz kids kp families together. I told him if either of us wants to cheat they can cheat even with the kid. If kid is the only reason 2 ppl are forced to stay together they might as well not stay together. He didnt get my point but couldnt convince me either.
@@I_am_Sri omg yes, if kids are keeping a couple together,what is the point of it? I'm sorry your father didn't get your point tho, but I'm glad you are happy with the decision that u made
I've always felt that the idea of motherhood is unnecessarily romanticised and sugarcoated by men and this patriarchal system. Sure, becoming a mother might be a wonderful experience but every women in this world is not living for the same kind of experiences and they should be given the right to choose whether or not to have kids.
The fact that you yourself are calling if a 'wonderful experience' implie that you yourself have been manipulated by the 'patriarchal system'. Isn't that so??? If not, then what makes you so sure that others are glorifying motherhood because they have been manipulated by 'patriarchal system'??? People should have the right to have or not have children however motherhood/fatherhood should be glorified.
Why is everything being decided for us here?? The society decides when I am supposed to be married, The society decides when i shall have kids...this really needs to change.
Yes my mom had to face the same thing when she continued her job,. I couldn't believe one of my primary teachers in my "girls " scl actually told me " u forgot ur homework...ohh she works...that's y u are like this..." That thing was so shocking cuz I was a kid and I literally swore that I'd be soo perfect nobody would ever point finger on my mother's job...at the same time I had lost all my respect to that teacher....even the family of my father's side ( whom I don't talk to anymore)said that I'll be "a bigdi huyi beti".. cuz she works...I just want to give a tight slap on their face by achieving what their children couldn't...
Finally someone said it! Idk if you know but there's this daily soap my mother watch, the female protagonist quits her DM's post for her child and the whole scene is so glorified with 'achhi ma banna hi mera param kartavya hai' and 'I can't live without my child for 2 secs longer'. Idk when this daily soaps will change!
Till we have people who believe in such things. TV serials these days are targeted at housewives and if you do not present material that validates their life choices, it won't be very popular.
@@EagleOverTheSea really.. I know the targeted audience kind of people.. and really can't believe how blind they are they don't recognise anything. Hero or heroine is shown a god like character.. that too with societal gendered stereotypes..like girl being docile and all sacrificing and villain's even one simple act is demonized as hell and they don't find it ridiculous 😂. Even.. the people who admire them are not that perfect.. par tv par unhe perfect log dekhne pasand hain.. that's why they make that shit.
@@EagleOverTheSea yeah.. look at silsila badalte rishto ka.. why was it taken off? Just one quality content . Who showed the perspectives of both the sides in an adultery storyline and nobody was hero or villainized.. and bam what do u know.. indian culture flag bearers are having problem!
Love Swaddle. Just by listening you guys it is satisfactory that I'm not alone who have this type of deep or OVER thinking. There are people who resemble my thoughts.
Maybe not us but in the future generation, it will become more easier for women to voice out their choices and not be shamed or criticized upon. And the way things are happening in the world be it climate change, pandemics, natural disasters, it forces me to think whether I should bring a life into this world and make it suffer. There is a lot on uncertainty now and it just makes you think hard and deep. So yes, I totally agree with you.
Being a mother is a really great thing and requires a lot of sacrifice and added load to a woman.. but that neither defines them as a whole nor it is the greatest achievement of their lifetime..
I recently turned 28. In 2019, my weight was 110kgs. It took me 2 years to shed down 40kgs (since I lost naturally and got toned). Post lockdown, I had gained 3.5kgs, which took a mental toll on me(as I had gained a fraction of what I had already lost in 2019) Thus, *I have decided to not give birth physically and very much open towards Adoption*
My Cousin : Find someone who is not into having OWN child. ME : _(I am more than 100% sure in this)_ firstly, 99.999% Men want thier Own, irrespective of country, community etc. Secondly, even if I found someone So Good to be True. There will be someone in His Family who would today/later will Mind Wash him into having at least One Child. Tb toh mere lg jayenge na.. 🤦🏻♀️ *And then They say, there is nothing known as Male Privileges* 🙄 Plus, I am constantly made aware about my Biological Clock ticking and I have only 2 years to take action. 🤦🏻♀️
I want these thoughts through daily TV shows and news because not everyone realise that how much our daily shows affects our daily life... Our Indian TV shows actor and actresses talks on how much stereotypical our Indian society and same time they show the same kind of stereotypes as good thing in their dramas...they have the power I hope this gonna happen some day☹️
It is sad that there are so less comments from men and boys here... Nonetheless I am happy that finally women are breaking the shackles of patriarchy and raising voices for equality in rights... A very positive sign for the future. Thanks Swaddle, I love your channel... Even though I am a male, I can relate to your content. If possible raise issues pertaining to men as well... Coz even we deserve love...🙏🏼
@@at1906_ Are you trying to say trans women have no rights too, as they dont have an uterus? Admit the truth, Indian men wont even watch these videos coz ofcourse, it's a matter of us and not about them. We dont need men's support coz they are men, we need it coz men are half the population as per the binary division of our society, and a society can't be uplifted if half the population remains backdated.
@@andymandyshandy only women have uterus and can get pregnant. This is basic biology. In so far as men are concerned, their opinions only matters when it is in consonance with the opinions posited here. If a man has a different take, he will be labelled as 'sexist' and a 'misogynist'. Lastly, just because someone doesn't share your 'progressive' ideas doesn't mean they are 'backdated'. There is a difference between equality of opportunity and social equity.
I really look forward to becoming a mother because I love babies and children. But my family's constant questionnaire about "when?" really pisses me off. Today only I replied to a relative asking the question "I don't know. Do you wanna help?" 😂😂
OMG ..... Such an amazing girl you are More power to you 😍 This is what should be done Don't sacrifice your career for babies but having babies is not less than a dream ❤️
After discovering my infertility and overcoming my absolute devastation at not being able to conceive or become a mother, my husband gave me these words of wisdom... instead of focusing on your lack of child, think and concentrate on what your legacy is. That is a mentor, a loving and maternal woman who lavishes and guides the worlds children through education, guidance, being the most fantastic aunt and step mum to my kids. Oh dear god, I loved him even more 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Taking footage from the film, books, cartoons, and ads is the best part of Swaddle videos, this strategy makes the audience more engaging and also develops trust/authenticity to the content.
Sahi....once a gynecologist told me and my parents when I was 23 ,since I have pcod ,I should be married early so that I can have kids,,,that is the day the seed was put into me to not have kids ....because I can't marry early just to have kids
@@soumyok5925 no she can marry even if she dont want to have kids while clarifying this with her spouse early on the relationship and both agreeing to it. bcz therr are also many men who dont want kids. .but only marraige..
2:18 That's one of my biggest fears. I know for a fact that I can't handle pregnancy but when I say this, I get "What kind of a woman are you?" in return.
Definitely. Thanks for saying this. As a person in her twenties and just starting her career and being hated by family for not fitting into the stereotypical girl they wanted... I'm relieved hearing this. I actually love kids. But after my experience with my parents I am scared I'll not be a good mother and the way I depend on my job as the last string of hope in my life I don't think kids will be a nice choice, even marriage doesn't sound like a good thing. So thanks for helping me put my mind at ease. It's nice to think that I have a choice.
And I was called abnormal when I said this 😂. I guess it's also about being emotionally ready. If the mother herself is not ready for another 'near completely depended tiny life' which again is because of the social construct .she will just end up being frustrated. Eventually hurting both..
"I was an accidentally pregnancy and because of me she had to leave her education. But she is pro-life so my mother kept me, and we don't have best relationship between a mother and a child." One of my friend told me. Please don't force anyone to have children. It can lead to child neglecting, abuse etc. It will also affect the child's mental health. You are not only ruining the parents life but also the childrens life.
even my mom today said that being a mother is the greatest sukh of a women's life my brother told me you need to clean poop off your child and make him wear nappies and all and I was like I will adopt a kid my mom got angry and said that childless couple adopt kids think before u say something being a mother is most incredible thing ever for a girl but what I believe is that if we adopt a kid that orphan kid would get parents and about being a mother or being a mother with an adopted kid doesn't change that u will be a mom in many countries couple adore kids but are not parents they want 5-6-year-old kid taking care of a small child is not a joke many parents struggle with it I really like this channel thnx for such great message
I would like to remember Mileva Maric here she was an exceptional science student but we know her only as Einstein's first wife. She had to abandon her career because of her commitment to her children.
@@dilipsaha4732 I was saying that if the society was not so dogmatic we would have got another exceptional scientific mind. We often forget the role of women in science. Like for example if we ask the question 'who invented computer' most of us would say Charles Babbage. Actually Babbage invented a calculating machine but Ada Lovelace discovered the power of computation in the device it's truly revolutionary but often forgotten.
@@dilipsaha4732 she had to sacrifice her career and everything she worked for to take care of her children. If she would have had a career, she would have also been successful
I think having a child especially in the 21st century where pollution is at its peak and the expenses are so high coupled with the cut throat competition doesnt sound feasible
I've been a dedicated mother for over a decade and I agree with you wholeheartedly. There is a lot more to me than just being a mother. I'm now looking back and wondering what all I gave up. 🙄 It's not easy. No one prepares us for life after the baby comes.
Hats off to you for saying this openly. I have seen people with kids often defending their choices even though it is quite evident that they are regretting their choice of having kids.
I don't want any kids. I decided that when I was 19 and coming out of depression. I don't think I'll ever change my mind but if I do, it's my *choice* . It's not something some random auntie can tell me to do. I'm a rebellious person and I don't believe in doing things just because some unwritten societal norms dictate so. I am blessed to have parents who do not pressurise me to do anything and always respect my decisions. ❤️
This video is quite important because, as a result of deification of mothers and motherhood, you strip away the humanity from a woman by setting impossible standards, thus breeding resentment, depression as well as anxiety and discriminate against ‘Barren’ Women at family functions and see them as a sign of bad luck, like it’s a crow cawing or a cat crossing your path.
Having a child is choice not a force and so society made all this so that they can always have a great hold on women in all aspects. Forcing the idea that motherhood is the biggest achievement of any women is because so that other things can be enjoyed by males more easily without having a constant fight with opposite gender. Even if some males are going to oppose my comment tell me how much men sacrifice compare to women after having a baby in there life. The idea of sacrifice was put in women head with such a force that now this things has taken a deep rooted in our mind. I am not saying having a child is wrong infact I'm looking to have children but if someone is not looking for or don't wanted doesn't make them less human being
Also, isn’t it fascinating that a man would resort to domestic abuse if his wife happened to be ‘infertile’ but cannot come to terms to him being infertile which is impeding conception? Exhibit A: ‘Parched’
I'm a very sensitive person...even thinking about childbirth gives me anxiety...i've seen my mom's condition when she had my sister...it's just so painful 😩...i'm 18 and i know i can never ever do that...we already have this massive population but society still forces women to have children...its just so frustrating 😖
Oh god this is like so relatable for me. I've always said that I don't want to have kids. But my mom ka constant dialogue: "You'll feel different when you get married ", "no boy will marry you" Her goal in life is to get me to have a kid...like get a life jeez
Motherhood is a huge responsibility. You are responsible for the needs of another human being. So many people have children just to please the society but no notion of how to raise them. It is much much better to remain childless, than have children who you cannot provide for or raise properly. And even if you do have the means, be sure that you are prepared yourself. Dont bring a child into this world and then fail to give them the time and attention they need and deserve.
Thank you so much for bringing this topic......After being a mother I had to to give up everything I loved, even my goals took a backseat. I hate being a mother. This is the only place I could say it without being judged.
Just saw a movie today where the female lead was unhappy abt her pregnancy and said that she was not ready for it but her husband, the male lead forces her to have the child just coz he and his family are happy abt it and want the child... It's was quite disturbing watching bit now found your video relating it and providing clarity to it.. Great work❤️
personally i dont mind motherhood as long as there is someone to fulfil fatherhood duties well. if there is someone to help me with everything, it can definitely be easier but men like that are rare 🤷♀️
People tend to push the idea that the ability to create life means life HAS to be created. We are in a generation that women have a choice to get married or have a child/have children. Those choices didn't exist in the past generation because of the systematic lack of education and financially independence . This video is literally one of the best things I've seen on the internet. ❤️
I am a subscriber of this channel ..And I swear, each & every episode enables me to break all the barriers imposed by a mindless society on women...inspite of being in service & highly qualified ,there are many issues which keep me bragging..This channel has helped me to get rid of all those doubts I had been carrying within..Over thinking has done wonders..
And I just saw a woman from USA on fb who wants to have 100 children bcoz she wants to have a big family. Already has 11 & plans to opt for surrogates to fulfil her goal. I get your obsession but this is child neglect and over population like you need to chill out.
@@nithi9638 what do you mean? A person can not possibly look after a hundred children with full care or attention. Also your sentence made me lose brain cells.
@@mehboobhassan371 OOF, I'm so sorry. I was half asleep when I wrote that and comprehended it as you telling not having kids is child neglect. Children don't type when you're supposed to be sleeping lol.
This whole group working for this channel is just so amazing!! We need more and more amazing woman like you emphasizing on individual choice and awareness challenging unhealthy societal norms!! Seriously you guys need to shout out loud, maybe a campaign or a show on a platform bigger than youtube where you reachout to more and more people with your overthinking it series. What people like us should do is to share this with our mums and folks of previous generation who struggle to understand the changing perspective. Love you swaddle team!
It's going to take way more than a miracle for Indian women (from old, older and oldest generations) to understand Indian women (of today), let alone men and the so called "society" (that's a whole other issue).
Finally! This issue really needs soooo much more attention >:( I know so many women who could've had such amazing, fulfilling careers and lives had this baccha karne ka craze not been pushed down on them.
I always wanted to b a mother. I loved being pregnant. Now i hv a son. But now i hv realized that taking care and upbringing of child is totally mother's responsibility. Me and my husband work from 9-5. My inlaws have cornered themselves in helping us to take care of our child. It has become really challenging for us as parents. I am always asked to quit the job by my husband.
@@soumyapradhan2526 i got 6months maternity leave then 3months child care leave. Now my mother has come to me for some time and my husband is looking for permanent work from home. My son is 9.5months old. I don't know what is there in future.
Don't quit your job in any conditions! By leaving your job you would be totally dependent on your in-laws and the freedom you have with your job would be snatched. *They might take advantage of that. You never know how a person is actually* Even my aunt is always asked by her boyfriend to leave her job for raising up her step-son(the son of her bf). Edit: she left her job.....
@@amanpreetkaur7227 Your seem to be in good hands now. Your husband and mother looks supportive. Consider carefully before you quit your job, think about the potential challenges you can face and make sure you find a way to generate passive income if you're choosing to quit work, for the sake of financial independence. All the best
The dislikes gotta be the MOST stereotypical people out here, drop by to say hi if you hit the dislike button, cause we got smn to talk about, hun 👁️👁️
I haven't had periods for 5 months after the trauma of loosing my mom and my dad is desperate to get my cycle back to normal getting me checked by 3 different doctors. And honestly I am tired taking medication for my PCOD Edit. Got my period. Woo
PCOD is more common than we like to believe. Stay strong and don't let peoples talks of oh god what if she can't bear a baby ever stress you. Women are more than their ovaries ffs
@@soumyapradhan2526 yeah. My grandma asks me everyday checking if I had periods and when I say no the lecture I get is annoying. It's not like I can punch my gut to make myself bleed here. What can I even do?
when I told my friends that I don't want to get married or have children , they were like " aisa sab bolte hai par ek na ek din sabko shadi aur bacche karne hote hai " 🙄
Yaaaa..... And indeed even they don't want to have such life.... Buttt somehow they accepted this...... After receiving the sameeeee thoughts again and again from others.....
Brilliant video. I can't express how deeply I love your videos and your take on societal issues. It's high time we start addressing these orthodox mentalities in our society. Thank you for the hard work. Please keep up the good work.
I truly truly truly love your channel. I wish your videos was broadcasted on TV and the swaddle could collaborate with influential people to create an impact in the society on a much higher level. And also your videos were shown to students in schools.
Those ladies who choose to be childfree are called selfish. I've had so many discussions with my friends who have become mothers or are inclined to becoming in future and they say "how can you even think of it", "what's your purpose in this world?" And I just feel it's so mentally draining to explain these so called "open-minded" people. It's none of your business to judge me. If I can be happy for you why can you not? It's sad that most of the time I'm worried if I'll get married will my partner and in-laws give me a ultimatum based on these facts. My whole happiness is dependent on these decisions I make to please them. So who's the selfish one here?
Why do u want to get married . Live a free life . Be free .....Absolutely free . Please tell the man in advance about your freedom(s). Why even marry .....be free . Get fked anywhere . No child ....nothing to do .
I desperately needed for someone to think like me. I'm done with the peer pressure I go through everyday for kids.why no one ask us what I want? Why no one listen to my choice?Why no one understands me ? Why everyone frame boundaries of ideal wife?Why everyone wants we to fulfill there needs Why we have to reach there expectations? Why we can't make our own choice?why my voice is always unheard or ignored? Why I don't have dare to even share this video to the people ,so that they can understand what I want.😟😟😟😥😥
@@richajain9389 I would love to have a child to be honest, but not as the sole reason for marriage. Then, it never ends too. First, have a kid, then school, and it goes on. Whatever keeps the relationship happy should be the goal, society as an umpire needs to retire.
thats one of the toxic effects of having children because of societal pressure, you can end up being dysfunctional towards them,people don't realize that children suffer under these standards too.
Yuppp sooo plzzz stop pressurizing these women to have kids... Who reallyyyy don't want to.. Or who are mental financially physically not fit for becoming a mother..... Then they will become a abusive mothers... If they are not ready for it
This is what actually happens when you have limited freedom and more expectations, we can't change society but we have our own life and its totally up to us what we want as career, marriage or retirement, society's this habit of poking nose and spreading unrealistic myths about different aspect will eventually lead to being cornered and pushed away from your own life's enjoyment, sad to say but our country is still bounded by the British culture and stereotypes, need to be mature enough to think what is independence and what is freedom.
