Benjamin I’m a product of a polygamous family and the experience is horrible.. alot of competition and hatred yet we carry our bibles everywhere we go. How I wish I could wake up and find myself in a different world… The whole process is traumatizing.
True,am yet to meet a person who grew up in a polygamous family supporting polygamy. You grow up with pain, unhealthy competition, jealousy, rejection....some of us are still healing from growing up in polygamous families. I honestly fear polygamy than being a single mother.
'In a courtroom of hyenas, a goat will never have a right' Wueeeh!!! The wisdom from Benjamin is so deep but true. I wasted a lot of time trying to 'prove' myself to people who would never see my value. I'm glad I walked out. And I hope more women will have the courage to do the same instead of sitting in helplessness and humiliation.
Women can be empowered but not to the point of trying to control men's decisions on how many wives they want to marry, this is not a woman's place in a man's life 👍
I like your mentality Zulu I argue with men who think with money there's no problem marrying many women .you are the first man have heard speaking sense
The best decision ma'ama ever made for herself was walk away.I bless her to this day.Cause weeeehhh the chaos that comes with polygamy is something else.
@@Polygyny to each their own.Your decisions your choices have nothing to do with others experience.Not every aspect of life shall be guided by the Bible.
@alfinsjoshua8098 which means such people shouldn't present themselves as Christians then. If someone is going claim they a Christian then they should accept that different people interested in pursuing different lawful activities and that includes a wife accepting that a husband may pursue something they might not agree with but should accept their freedom in God. Divorcing would be wrong and unjust and sinful and such a women, which should a mindset, shouldn't tell a man that she is a Christ follower if she is not open to the whole counsel of God - I am sure you'd think that is reasonable? I hope so anyway The bottom line is a Christian is not to choose what parts of the Bible he/she wants follow or not that would be disingenuous
@@JesseVealIII The Old Testament didn't exist in a vacuum. God created mankind with a free will to choose right and wrong. Just because you have a free will to be gluttonous towards food,drinks or greed towards worldly materials it doesn't make it right.The same principle applies to polygamy or women How about your wife or future wife marries another man and you share happily ever after?#Husband one and husband two fairytale!!!!
😂🤣😂 God has never been against polygamy. It is there in the bible, many biblically great men were polygamous. You can leave if it doesn’t work for you and want your own man which you will basically have to bake 😂🤣. But don’t hint at it as being ungodly or even unafrican
@@JesseVealIII Please read your Bible. As Zulu said, polygamy is recorded in the bible but is not recommended. It is documented as having caused a lot of strife in families, as it still happens today. That's why Apostal Paul condemned polygamy & only recommended monogamy. Thank goodness for that. Open your mind & your eyes 👀 & look around you 🙄
You have a feminist mentality, it sure how you’ll ever attract a high value man. It’s not a competition. Then pregnant women should also be mechanics and go under the cars with their big bellies for servicing.
Oh my goodness! Benjamin Zulu is just heaven sent to always speak out the realities of life. Thank you so much for empowering us women to understand our rights
Where in the bible does it say men and women are equal partners in marriage? What it does say is the man is the head of the woman and that wives are to be subject to their husbands in everything
Kudos Benjamin..there is no woman who wishes to stay after a man gets another woman..they ones who stay it's because they have not invested therefore have nothing to feed the kids or where to start from
Women keep forgetting that the moment you are married no other man will keep you..walk away to what.. sleeping with people's husband's ..and after fouty no man will touch you
You man who told you when you walk away it means no will have you again,if they accept you when you are married so what's stops a woman from being married again
This is what am going through, everyone blaming me, and i knew he is long distance working, just to realize had another family . Thank Mr. Zulu for your advice am stronger and resilient. I went in depression God is good.
I didn't sign up for being the first wife I am safe being an ex wife You marry I leave I can be someone else meat if I am your poison Children suffer ..
If you leave and you marry another man you would have committed adultery - keep your pride inside and stop being a feminist. Christianity and feminism do not go together
@Benjamin what about those few first wives who Force their husbands to marry second wives because of their failures koz not every man wishes to end up as polygamist??
@@bellamugala1727 yah....It's like this,, a man marries hoping to have a better and prosperous future with his wife,, but the sad part is that the man is a gold getter and the wife doesn't like like real hustle, the wife also doesn't look after his husbands assets but what she likes is a show off life, milking the husband dry and she doesn't motivate her hubby in whatever thing he does but instead she brings him down,,and the annoying list goes on and on there are such sick wife's who force's their hubbies to be polygamous not because they want to but such husbands sees no better future with such a wife.....
Benjamin, am dating this guy that after sometime i feel like he rejoices in my chaos. That is when he gets other women in our relationship and I react to it. He says polygamy for me must be there since am a nice person with greater qualities than other men that's why women love me is this a healthy relationship? Can I ever do life with them?
I love the way women are resisting polygamy yet they say yes to it every day😀..this is a very personal issue..no one can decide for even benjamin zulu, only u...zulu most viewers are women n hes knows he wil have lots of subscribers,zulu pls give us a solution for those single mothers who strive n get abused every day by evil wicked men who claim to be monogamous..dont just demonize polygamy,give us a solution for single mothers n ladies who desire to have kids n be happy in a more stable relationship!.i have deep respect for men who come out n say i have 2 wives,than hiding in cheats,..zulu skewes toward women in most of his content,..polygamy is not a sin..Gideon had many wives,David,Hanah the mother of prophet samuel was in polygamist family,she had peninah as a cowife..yet Elikanah offered annual sacrfices to God..why do pple not read the bible for themselves!
With this argument, then: Cain killed his brother Abel, Lot's daughters did what they did with their father, Judas killed himself Tamar did what she did Absalom too did his bin David and Uriah/Bathsheba Not forgetting Eli's sons All above are in the Bible. ...ask the children from polygamous
The problem is women themselves,why give out sex before marriage .if women value themselves and stay virgin till in marriage there will be no such things.
@Mesh muesh, so virginity is the measure by which a woman's determinant on stability and justification for a good marriage, is virginity the same measure for men (to uphold from sexual intimacy until after marriage)?
Am 19;yrs dating a 48 old guy but he is married the wife left they had three kids am scared plz help coz everytime i want to be just his galfrnd he gets mad he only wants to marry me 😭
You are too young to get involved with a married man. First you need to grow and develop yourself go to school and build yourself you are a child and the guy is abusing you. Second find out why the mother of his kids left, he might be the biggest problem in the marriage and things won't get better even if you marry him.