Thank u wa kiama for enlighting us but some of us women have narcissistic husbands. Lack of consistency confuses women. The lack of affection n abuses of all sorts from physical, emotional, disables even the most loving woman. Any woman can change for a husband who is not abusive.
Hello, I've just come across this and am of a different opinion, listened to Maggie Mose s story, the musician used to do beyond her means to maintain her marriage but the man never appreciated. So what I believe is that if a man decides to stay, no matter how bad the situation is, nothing will make him leave but if he decides to leave, nothing.... completely nothing will make him stay. It's a man's sole decision to stay or leave
Being on every segment of Metha ya Kagoni is Wisdom Re-loaded! I'm enlightened... Keep up the good content @Monica Kagoni... A shout out to our coach @Wanjiru Kiama...
@@mimiiarrow9803 Yeah..i.wonder too. I agree, it takes two. If either party does not pull their weight, then the marriage fails. Sio kazi ya wanawake tu kutengeneza ndoa.
I don’t think it’s possible to treat him the same away after he remarry. Personally I would be devastated, I could forgive yes but accepting him the same way it’s a no.
That’s really a good 👍 one. I like the diversity in your channel. Alafu I would like you to talk about, long distance relationship/ marriage whereby man/ woman leaves the country for greener pastures abroad….. what would you advise such a couple especially mwenye hubaki nyuma waiting for the other to settle abroad ndo amkujie wakaishi pamoja. Reason am saying this is that I got a friend who’s marriage is in jeopardy, cos the partner left behind hapa, lost hope despite the other partners (who’s awaiting to settle abroad) efforts of sending support back home to the family & asking for patience & trust and faithfulness. Apparently the spouse left behind thought the other one moved on , hence, presumably kinda committed infidelity. What, would u advise such spouse? Should the spouse abroad be hopeful to get together or rather come for them even after settling properly huko majuu..or should they star a new life all together?
I don't think if I had the so-called demon of lust my husband would tolerate it and pray for me. And I will take a risk and say most men would bolt. So, while it is commendable to be patient and understanding, it is not prudent in this day and age to stay with a serial cheater. Ni kubaya. The kind of expectations and responsibilities this lady places on women is unrealistic. It's as if men are children that need to be led by the hand and forgiven for virtually anything and everything. The kind of men she describes are like little gods who need to be worshipped, and have everything done to their satisfaction by their women.
Ester and Wambui, I have had both good and bad experiences with them, just like most women, but even if, for arguments' sake, I may have not had the experiences, I struggle to see men the way the guest sees them. It could be generational or just a difference in opinion. I guess we can't all agree and I think that's ok. I wish you both well. Thank you.
People are different if he has not brought a woman in your house and he loves you...ignore the rest as long as you have not caught him...kwani kazi kazi ni kumchunga tu...? Some pple luv marriages other dont...I personally luv the companionship and atleast someone to grow old with as well as kunitoa ma stress... a shoulder to lean on .. etc.. but if you dont appreciate the value of a man in your life just leave him in peace..
Nowhere in my comments did i write that I do not appreciate the value of men..assuming that this comment was directed at me. There are good men and bad men, just as there are good women and bad women. My issue, like i had alluded to before, is the idolization and infantilization of men..and the notion that they should be cajoled and begged and pleased and entertained just so that they can act like husbands. That was my point..thank you.
Through M/s Kagoni, Congrats Wanjiru Kiama for the great work you are doing, as well as taking great care of my sick age-mate, for many years. Keep it up. I will send you the link on my continued empowerment process that you aware of. Rgds
