What the Hospital Provides for Birth 

Hi! So I’ve been using inclusive language for the past few years, and “hello you beautiful birthing people” for a while too. That was just a catch phrase, if you will. But the inclusive language (I often use you and us when talking about birth) does a couple of things in my mind. 1) when I’m talking to the internet at large I want to make sure that none of my language is exclusive. There are trans men and non-binary people who give birth. There are women who are surrogates or plan on giving their baby up for adoption who might not want the term “mother” used. 2) using inclusive language does not exclude you or her as a mother. In person, I use the term you are comfortable with. So mom, mama, mother or the patient’s name (which is definitely my preference)! I understand there had been a lot of push back recently on inclusive language with birth. I’ve gotten some nasty comments on my last few videos. Thank you for asking kindly. It’s ok if you don’t agree with my reasoning, but my language choice is nothing new. It’s also ok if you don’t agree with me, but like everything else I believe we can have different opinions and still be kind and respectful. 💗

@@Nurse_zabe I love the inclusive language. All patients and people going through the birthing experience deserve respect. And anyone being nasty about language needs to get their priorities straight.

@@Nurse_zabe oh ok I was just curious! I definitely agree with calling patients what they feel comfortable with and would never leave a nasty comment but I also see why some people would be upset to go through 40 hours of labor like the superhero they are and then be called a “ birthing person” like what they did in the hospital to my friend 😖😖😖😖 it sometimes feel like saying a “ woman” is a crime now days when it should be celebrated because I’m 30 weeks pregnant and let me tell you my husband would freak out from some of the weird body things I’ve been experiencing and he can’t even look at a birth video still 😆. She asked them if her husband will be in the charts as a “ sperm donor” 😂

@@Nurse_zabe love that you use inclusive language as well and that you have such a caring heart. The world needs more of this. Many blessings to you

I love this ❤️ I know some older people who completely disregard surrogacy and those choosing adoption because they take such offense to the term “birthing people” 🙄

Genius!!

I also use them to clean 💩 off baby bottom. Squirts it right out ...and I don't have to touch it 😅

In case nurse zabe doesnt reply… its called a ring sling and there are lots of youtube videos about them if you want to check it out!

Congratulations! my little one is also due July 4th

Congrats moms happy healthy labor,

Congratulations

She did have a demo on her Instagram if it’s still there!

Amen! Say it again!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Yeah, I think the hospital will be fine. We took three home, as well. One of the nurses straight up told me to empty the cabinets before her shift was over and I was discharged the next day.

Danngggg. Yes, I know it’s crazy to think about how much money they make in comparison to a blanket. But as a little employee it’s just my job to let y’all know 😂

@@Nurse_zabe I think it might depend on Hospitals too. The NICU packed it up for us when we were leaving.

@Az Op I delivered at a public hospital!

Love it!!

I used them when I was in hospital. We still buy them as they help save my cream carpet!

Definitely take them!

They are also so great to keep in the diaper bag and use on public changing tables! Especially on the somewhat questionable looking ones I don’t want to put my reusable one back in my bag, these I can just toss these after.

You can always just ask for an extra pack too!

I’ve heard good things about frida products in general!

Yes, totally ask!

😂😂

Ya know, now that you mentioned it 🤔 I think my mom had one of those too! Lol I never thought that could be where she got it 🤣

Baby wearing is the best. Definitely savoring it with my last baby too 😍

We used to give out halo sleep sacks but then the grant ran out. 😩

I would be so lost in ICU, so I totally get it. 😂

Also LOVED the giant water bottle for my nightstand for late night feedings. Also ended up with two because the preeclampsia stay before delivery. Having two was great.

I have one from every birth and use them all!

They sell the cheap at dollar tree ... For soaking dishes... If someones hospital doesn't provide them. Mine didn't...

That’s amazing! I wish we had a medical system like that here in the states

My nurses told me to take some! I think I have three or four for each twin since we double swaddled them for awhile

Fair enough! But as an employee I’m just the messenger 😂😂

@@Nurse_zabe I respect that and appreciate your honesty...by the way I love your videos they’ve been incredibly helpful to me!! 28 weeks and counting! 🙏🏽

Not all hospitals have everything I’m sure, but it doesn’t hurt to ask!

I do! Search “Tips for Labor Support People from a Labor Nurse” I also think the labor toolbox series would be helpful!

@@Nurse_zabe Yay! Thank you so much 😊

Me either I just did it on my own because the burning but I didn’t think it was an actual thing

I think I only knew because my friend told me

Now I feel bad because I didn’t know until now that’s why they say not to take them. I’ve only ever taken one for each baby but my bad. Now I know not to.

They are amazing!

I ended up buying 1 of each to have at home and I went through all of the ones the hospital gave me and about half of the ones i bought. I did tear super bad though so I was recovering a little longer 😬

I found I needed a second witch hazel pad container. But I ran out of the first in the hospital, so they provided the second. Otherwise the ones I received were enough for me. But everyone is different, especially with the differences in degrees of tearing and other external factors. It might also be nice to have multiples for different bathrooms in your house

I had a 4th degree and needed more than they provided and had to buy more. This time around I bought 2x 100 count boxes.

Three kids, never needed more.

Congrats on baby #3!

Yay!! Let us know how everything goes!!

I didn’t know either, the nurse in the nicu actually told me I should take it home and and smell it while I pump to help my milk. I think they even packed some blankets up for me when I was getting discharged, but maybe it depends on the hospital. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I felt so unprepared for my birth, but I’m sure you’ll be just fine mama. Good luck with your birth and congrats on your third little bundle! ❤️

It sounds like based on the comments some people are totally allowed to take their blankets home. Definitely ask. And I understand the nervousness with your third birth. Even though you’ve done it before, each and every birth is different. But you’ve got this! 💪💗

Never knew they offered them how do I know what size I need

parsley they will fit you, they have like 3 or 4 sizes

Mine didn’t

@@CharletteG post the hospital so people know

That’s amazing!

Yay! Hope it was helpful!

Why not give birth on your back if you have epidural? I’m confused

@@nydasialewis328 it can actually make it more difficult and lengthen the pushing process

In case she doesn't answer, I'll give you my experiences. I have had five children with an epidural and four without. When you have the epidural, you probably won't have any control of your legs, so you won't be able to get into different positions. It would be dangerous. However, my midwife will sit the head of the bed up and break down the bottom so that you can sit upright and still deliver without being flat on your back. I know you hear horror stories, but sometimes it feels good to be on your back and have your legs in stirrups. If this is your first, I know that seems hard to imagine because I know I DID NOT want to be like that beforehand, but in labor sometimes your desires change. It's good to have an idea of what you think you'd like but at the same time be forever flexible because every birth and labor is different. I know I didn't understand why some women gave birth naked; then I was in the tub with my second when I completely dilated and could barely get out of the tub before collapsing on the bed and having to push. In that moment, I just wanted it over; I didn't care about how I looked. 🤣 Birth is a wonderful, empowering thing. It's hard, but it also feels amazing to have accomplished it. Just relax and go with the flow! 💗 You'll do great!

Yeah, from my understanding now to ton is provided in Canada. But this video can also be helpful to know what to bring.

@@frugalmomofmany thank you!! 🥰

You can always ask!

Honestly a duffel bag that you have is great, or I did really like my wumblekin labor pack that doubles as a diaper bag!

I had this from twenty weeks on. We add it now to her first night feed and she sleeps a bit longer, so it's ended up being a big blessing.

I’m 17 weeks and starting leaking a little bit of colostrum, it’s not a significant amount but it’s there 😂 every pregnancy is different, save the colostrum so you can feed it to your baby once they’re here! ☺️

That’s amazing! Definitely can take home any pump parts since those are single use!

Yes! I always ask to use their pump so I can get a new set of tubes and pump parts each time I give birth.

She typically uses ones from hope and plum :)

It’s a ring sling by wildbird in the print Esperanza. Unfortunately they don’t make this print anymore.

Way to go on the halfway mark!

Thank you! 💗💗

😂😂😂

They really are amazing blankets!

Not gonna lie, I took the one they gave him as well because he didn’t like any of the others.

Yay!

@@Nurse_zabe yea they were just like take everything and then brought us extras when we left lol

Ring sling!

It’s a ring sling by wildbird

Definitely. And things might be different now too.

Fair enough. The employee in me has to tell you so I don’t get in trouble 😂😂

I’ve got one! Search my channel for group B strep

@@Nurse_zabe Thank you!! Love your vids💖

I don’t think those could handle the amount of blood that occurs after birth. Maybe in the last week or two, but definitely not in the fresh post partum days! I have heard so many women swearing by just using adult diapers like depends though which I never thought of using but am going to try with this last baby I’m having!

@@kirasjourney4847 ah okay, I've not given birth so I'm not really familiar with the amount of bleeding. Thanks for the info!

@@kirasjourney4847 yes I used adult diapers and wouldn’t have it any other way. They were great because I didn’t have to worry about a pad moving and not catching the blood (which did happen with a pad). I swear by adult diapers post partum

That’s crazy! They gave me so much here in the US, I ended up throwing up some stuff away. I’m sorry that happened to you. I didn’t have a bill either even being in the US, I didn’t pay a penny and we were there a week. Most people have jobs; therefore health insurance. I did have one friend years ago that didn’t work, but the state picked up the bill. I have never met anyone else who doesn’t have insurance, but it might be the type of people I choose to surround myself with. So I am always confused why people say Canada is better than the US when the wait time is much longer than here, as well as you don’t get as much choice.

My sister in law is a school teacher in the US. So a state employee in one of the only unionized industries in the state, and she has the union health insurance. $10k labor bill after insurance coverage