If she’s a fearful avoidant (attachment theory) and pulls away…..you pull away twice as hard. Stay confident, stay mindful, and regulate your emotions. Under no circumstances do you put her on a pedestal. You have to think of yourself in a higher regard. I’m going through it right now.
@@igorgulco6608Seconded. Fearful avoidant women should be avoided (ironically) at all costs by men. They deprive and starve you of the benefits femininity is supposed to award you in the first place. Why bid on a sick horse?
A secure person is not going to pull away without trying to understand. If you already care more about your own needs than you have curiousity to understand what's happening with her, you display an avoidant behavior too, so both avoidants won't make it long since both are busy only with themselves. A secure person does care about the other person's feelings, so the one will look for ways to understand the reasons behind this pulling away behavior. But true though, avoidants would not care much and will be too scared to even address the issue
I have 35 years of experience having relationships with women, and everything he says in this video is CORRECT. I would add this: Give her a chance to explain herself regarding why she vanished: If you don’t like what you hear, don’t argue-immediately turn your attention to other women and don’t look back. DO NOT keep trying to pursue her or plead your case for why she should be with you; if you don’t like the dynamic, if it feels gross to you, just quit marketing yourself and instead look elsewhere.
If your after a healthy long term relationship and she doesn’t have the ability to come to the table and discuss what’s wrong in the relationship or how you can fix things together, count your blessings you dodged a bullet.
As an ex-avoidant woman, what he's saying is 100% correct. To add: we feel doubt in the relationship or in ourselves when we pull away OR we're just busy and need a second to decompress and do our own thing. Being a stable foundation and reiterating and openly communicating with us to make us feel safe and secure is exactly what we need in that moment. Don't convince, remind that you care in a gentle way and that "everything is okay." That's it. Don't love bomb. If she's stressed out, do activities with her that allows her to chill out - which means, no sex, no high energy things... think like tv watching, movie, cuddling, talking... If she responds by pulling away more, she isn't that into you but she doesn't want to let you go because she has insecurities that are related to trauma like needing external approval, cannot respect herself, etc. If the latter, let her go, she has to work on herself and shouldn't be in a relationship.
Yeah, this is blatantly false. Avoidant types will keep pulling away precisely because you're a healthy attachment style and that makes them feel "unsafe". That has nothing to do with levels of attraction.
@@robertdeskoski9783 With all due kindness, I am not sure you read or understood my comment. Also, avoidants can be hypersensitive and notice things that are unbalanced in others even though those people "think" they are secure. I mentioned nothing about attraction.
@@og8425: 100% read and understood your comment. Avoidants are hypersensitive to things that aren't actually happening, by engaging in flaw finding and by misreading their own emotions (because they're not connected to them and lack good usage of their right brain cortical structures more associated with intuition, emotion, and bullshit detection). This is why avoidants are notoriously bad at making decisions and more severe avoidants find it very difficult to follow pursuits consistently outside of a work environment or an academic achievement environment (often, they were encouraged to achieve because their parents were otherwise cold). Because they lean heavily on the analytic side of their brain *without mitigating measures that people with good usage of both types of structures have*, their intuition in any sense is quite flawed. Source: 'Trauma and the Avoidant Client'. It's one the handbooks psychologists use to treat avoidant attachment: It's great read and offers interesting insights into how resistant this attachment style is to treat, as it's self-reinforcing. (I've read many books on the topic and am studying psychology, so please tell me more about what you know and list your sources, because I hear about this avoidant "sixth sense" from other people who are avoidantly attached online but who can't find their emotional proverbial ass with both hands.)
Ok what about if she flirts then goes cold then comes back again and try’s to be her self this girl she been like this one day she compliment my outfit the best she is serious then the next she seems to try to be the same as before I don’t chase her I’m not needy I hold my position 😮 but is annoying she switch fir example today she is acting normal but yesterday we were talking and was touching my arm n rub it 😅 but today she is normal n don’t talk like before I’m about to walk away I dint got times for games n I dint want to be rude
I believe where I have gone wrong in the past was staying a relationship with someone who for whatever reason checked out because I thought commitment was an absolute principle. If someone cannot communicate or have the conversation when confronted, walk away. They have issues you can't help with.
Girls pull away all the time, even from high value men. It's normal and usually a subconscious test. Sure, don't chase her but just cos she isn't texting you every day doesn't mean she doesn't like you.
I resonated the most with the calling forward part. I'm going to play with this a bit. I have noticed if a woman after 2 or 3 dates isn't as engaged as she was before I tend to just chalk it up to a sign she is not interested and I should just move on. Now I am going to bring it up and ask what is going on and just invite her to communicate. Man, what an "easy" but difficult concept since it seems to go against a lot of what I have told myself about women for years. Well, time to grow.
Nooo just no calling. You call her only when things are going well, when it's all sweet and fun and all. When she pulls away she wants nth from you. Doing anything at this stage only serves to irritate her. I've learnt this the hard way.
@@rejectwokeness1314 I know this is an old comment, just wanted to put this here in case anyone reads it in the future. You don't lose anything by inviting more healthy communication. It cuts through mind reading. You potentially gain clarity by asking questions at the right time. Generally, the worst that could happen when you don't know what's going on and asking questions is you get ignored or a lashing out. Both provide data. By asking questions, you're choosing to turn to the other and seeing if they choose to turn to you as well. That's an essential thing for moving forward in a romantic relationship.
The one thing I am trying to teach my sons, is to be able to master yourself, and specifically stay calm when everything around you is trying to set you off. There are way too many instances of men going off to hurt their woman either emotionally or even physically, after a breakup, and sometimes even taking the woman's life and their own in the process. This is a glaring example of what NOT to do. A man is a mountain and a woman is like the weather. No matter how thunder and lightning bolts, floods and blizzards she might send your way, stay calm. As someone mentioned attachment styles, this goes for all three of the insecure ones AP, DA, FA. Leave them be, and they'll come back. Still talk to them from your inner calm about what you put up with and what you wont.
by far the best video on this - actually tells you how to do it, but also encourages you to do it in a healthy way for yourself. Really Really well done.
I didn't chase. I waited like 10 days and just said "Hey, I don't know if you're going through it, but I'm here if you need me". She responded with some big paragraph full of hearts and stuff. I was giving her space because she had recently gotten diagnosed with GAD and was put on anxiety meds, so didn't know if they had her messed up or whatever. I just made sure I gave her time and that I wasn't coming off needy when I did reach out.
Thank you, yes I have gone to the needy well way to much and finally learned to come from a respectful place and set standards, splitting with my wife of 17 years but looking forward to a new start!
Good advice, but it also risks doing something very bad, that being swinging to another partner and repeating the same mistakes. Sometimes it's better to wait, sit with the experience, and learn from it through meditation and conversations with friends or a therapist. The most growth I ever did was when I was single.
So resonate with this video. Im in a situation where i acted out of character and allowed my anxiousness to take over multiple times and that made her pull away multiple times. We decided to slow things down because it got serious really fast and heavy emotions were coming up every week. Great video!!!
Your entire 'Don't be needy' section are things those men need to take to therapy. Emotional instability (lack of self/responsibility) is a dangerous marker for any man above 25 and absolutely no place for a stable relationship to take place
As a woman the best advice I can give is this if you sense a woman pulling away send her 1 succinct message that says: I sense a distance between us, I’d like to talk about it and see where you are. Don’t text her a hundred times, but don't ghost her to “teach her a lesson”. Ask her for a mature conversation how she responds tells you everything you need to know.
IbuprofenPill you are a BOSS and I’m going to act exactly verbatim like you describe. The opposite of how I reacted in the past to her pulling away after an initially fun, stimulating, flirtatious and promising first few extended interactions. I can see now just how weak and pathetic I must have appeared in an attempt to stop her pulling away. I wish I had this information 12 months ago, I would probably have actually been able to be choosy about who I really wanted the most. Damn, what a loss of the opportunity to to bag multiple potential girlfriends. Not going to lose one more chance for a mutually beneficial romantic relationship to such amateur folly as prematurely freaking out or overreacting to a chick’s pullback. I ain’t going out like a needy simp even one more time.
If she’s a fearful avoidant (attachment theory) and pulls away…..you pull away twice as hard. Stay confident, stay mindful, and regulate their emotions. I’m going through it right now.
Thankyou, you answered all my questions. She was a great girl and i fell in love with her . Unfortunately she messed me around after about 8 weeks. I have found out she was dating another guy . It really showed her true qualities. I said goodbye , it's hard but I know it the right decision.
My god man, this has to be the best advice I’ve ever heard. I’m going to try some of this because I’m going through the exact things with my girl right now. Thank you so much for this!
Hey I just wanted share some feedback. As a female, this video and some of the other videos I watched really hit the nail on the head. This is a great channel for any guy striving to be a high caliber man! I've read some of the comments as well; while some of the points are good, some of the other suggestions are the opposite of what you could be doing. In fact you're shooting yourselves in the foot. There's a lot of differences in how men and women are wired and take in the world differently so I think the best thing anyone can do is grow yourselves, understand yourself better, and understand the opposite gender better. Like reading books, educating yourselves. A few I've read have given me a lot of insight that maybe will interest you: Love and Respect by Emmerson Eggerichs The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman Wired That Way by Marita Littauer Wild at Heart by John Eldredge Also a general rule of thumb is the girl chooses the guy that fights for her. It may not apply to all women but from my own experience and hearing other women's stories, a big reason they pull away because the guy stops fighting. Fighting means, choosing her, good communication, respecting her as a woman the way you want to be respected as a man, listening, etc. I really hope this helps. There's lots of great women looking for great men and I know you're out there!
It's still a very new relationship less than 2 months but all words expressed are that we're really feeling each other and things are progressing naturally. But she just got out of a relationship recently and is hesitant getting into another so soon. And it happened the other day that she is pulling back and I feel and sense that and notice the behavior change towards me. I know it's been 2yrs but this video really helped to calm my nerves and how I can go about the situation differently than I might have in the past. I have faith that things will work out for the best now. Thank you brother
Just found this on UTube, this is excellent advice and i have learned this the hard way. Having self control and respect for yourself is paramount. Women , just like men have many strengths and faults. Be true to yourself , polite, and dont over react.
Generally good advice but I don't agree with the calling part. When she pulls away, reaching out to her only irritates her. When you call her, even if you're not saying you want her back, she WILL see it as an attempt to chase her. I think no contact is the best, and don't even put a timeline to it. Just erase her from your life, and if she don't return, so be it. It's difficult, but doing anything including calling is a disaster.
If you call her asking her why she pulled away, that is needy. Do not do that, she’ll deny she’s pulled away and you’ll be left in the awkward area of coming across as needy and her telling you there’s nothing wrong.. This would only work with someone you’ve been in an actual relationship with not someone you are seeing or dating..
Pull away = Another rooster in the henhouse. Immediate No contact. Do that right and usually you'll hear back at some point. Could be a week. Could be 3 months. Could be longer. When you hear back, NEVER bring up the breakup. Just resume as if nothing happened. If you DO NOT hear back and it's been at least 4-6 months, you can text a quick 'Hey how's it going' and this is ONLY if you have absolutely nothing else going for yourself (which is bad). But essentially, the longer you do not contact, the better 🙂
I know you're not that fucking stupid. If you DO NOT hear back 4-6 months you never look back. No contact = no contact FOREVER. C'mon man! I thought you knew!
This is the only true answer, if she’s pulling away there is another guy in the picture. She is entertaining it and she may vaguely break up with you or say “should we take a break”, and then she will try the other guy out for awhile. It will usually end at some point or there will be some conflict after the honey moon phase ends and that is when you might hear back from her, as if nothing ever happened.
Thank you, this is the sole healthy advice there can be. I am so greatful you are sharing this content here. So often, men "learn" from some "experts" that they have to manipulate the woman to make her obsess about him, that men who actually handle the situation in a healthy way become extremely rare. I mean, there is even nothing wrong about feeling needy in this situation, since you do need the person's engagement abd you do need to see their affection in a healthy relationship, so it's almost ok to feel the missing point and sort of shift to neediness. But nothing stops you from clearly communicating your feelings and asking the right questions. And you can only do it right when you act from the place of your authentic self. Expressing your feelings of discomfort is the only way to address the issue, certainly following by your willingness to understand her situation and her way of developing feeling for you. So, bravo, a clear, healthy and helpful advice aimed at finding the solution.
If you guys pull away first, severely, or frequently, don't be surprised if we get discouraged about trying or stop putting in effort. *I'm not talking to the guys who genuinely tried, so no one jump me for that if so, but low effort guys need to take ownership or move aside for her to find someone who gives equally in a relationship.*
My gf of 9 years broke up with me came back and broke up with me again and then broke up 3rd time and came back and this 4th time she pull away again saying she love me ...what should I do ?
Yea, but if we pull away because we aren't the number one priority in her life, then tough. No man wants to be 3rd or 4th to a girl. I dated a mom with 2 kids, who she put miles above me. That's not how it works. If you want a relationship, you make the person feel number 1 all the time. If you have kids, then you balance it. But no one in their right mind would be treated 3rd place to kids that aren't his and not pull back. It's nature. For men to accept a woman's way of life or family dynamic without any compromise at all is what is causing the downfall of traditional families. Men and women think differently, but only men can think logically.
Dam wish I found this video before I text bombed a girl about all my anxiety when she pulled away 🤣 Truly speaks to the inner work I need to be doing to grow my confidence in myself and develop my own standards.
Just came across this video. I think you might be the first person i've heard that talks about pulling away as a nervousness about liking someone A LOT. I'm seeing a girl, i know she likes me, she knows i like her, a massive amount as well. And we're in this kinda of freaky, nervous moment where we need to tell each other and be more serious. I text her a week ago, haven't heard back but i will open up dialogue again next week and ask her whats going on.
Am going through this right now, I put her above me and she plays with my feelings so am done! I put all her things she left in my apartment into a bag and into storage room, might through them away. But my self respect is more important and it's time to move on
big red flag not really mentioned here when she acts differently or pulls away: shes conflicted because theres another guy in the picture or shes plain and simple cheating and feels guilty. However, if she pulls away and cant discuss whats on her mind im out of there. im sorry but im not staying in a situation for games where im going to start overthinking or having doubts about her
@marcleroux3426 Thanks. I noticed that the girls I've dated who were approaching age 30 (25 - 28) started to apply pressure to have kids, and I don't respond well to pressure. I actually start moving slower. One ghosted me after 2 years, and the other one left and had a kid with someone else. I was the reason they went cold, but I'm okay with that. Things should feel natural, especially to have kids. But, if they have a recurring topic they bring up that you're not feeling, there is definitely an end date to the relationship no matter the age. 🤣
What a great video this hits the nail with me in so many ways in my relationship I'm in ive been such an ass to her and ino I've screwed up hardest part for me now will be to regain her trust and show her im not the ass she thinks I am cuz of my behaviour
Great advices, video and channel! Could you point out materials (books etc.) that helped you build this mindset in regard of the various things you approach here?
I'm a woman and I am pulling away from a man I have deep feelings for. He has been flirting hard with me at work, but he never asks me out and it's been 8 months. When we start getting closer, he suddenly pulls back, avoids eye contact, ignores. It hurts and I find myself needing to pull back for my own mental and emotional well being. I wish he would just ask me out and be consistent. I don't want to chase him. I'm pulling back to regain some balance and perspective.
Be true either true talk to avoid confusion by gaming. Reading between the lines is a bad way to communicate easily with confidence. Dating or stopping is easy to say without shame or trouble. Be clear and fair to be respected. There’s no damage to be frank especially with real personality. Never let someone guessing an answer. Talk and act according to the answer. Be true be yourself. That’s respect.
Just Stop over texting. Stop being needy! Stop being over-bearing! These are the top reasons why women pull away. Get a life! Get a hobby! Hang out with guy friends. Have a purpose outside of the woman! Then you won't encounter this pull away problem.
BS, I have a career in medical, I treat kids spines. I’m fit and have friends. I have a life and had to adjust time to fit this girl in, as soon as I was romantic she pulled away, I moved to doing what I do which is live my life. Normal people don’t mind being loved, the that’s on her. She needs a psychologist.
I think most of time we make seduction too complicate,so, i briefly let her understand i consider her more than i consider the rest of the girls,thats it. The rest its up to her to do the same, if she doesnt there are no questions...no chasing...no angryness..nothing
How to let go man , how to let go? When i still love her. When i still think i was good for her and she didnt wanted to give me more chance, she didnt wanted to work things with me. How to forget her, how to heal and how to put myself again to meet some better? When i dont rly think rlight now that i will be able, no matter how videos and information i look for the matter every day, to give myself courage. I wake up every morning with headache and with pain in chest hard to breed and in tantrum, putting enormous efforts to overcome that and try and go to work. And im patient guy , but im rly running out of patience man , rly running out of patience. And i know i need to improve, i know im a late guy and didnt done alot of things early in life, but i cant change the past man , and im a good guy , overwhelming by grief. I know i need to go forward , but how to overcome that? There are alot more things i want to say , but dont think here is the place. I dont know
If she pulls away, I recommend than not ask her why, she wouldn't probably tell you the truth. Do not contact her. This a repeated parent some people usually do if you notice once. She is highly likely to be with someone else.
According to my own research and some testing my own attachment style is secure with some anxious traits (maybe it would be more accurate to say a mix secure and anxious traits). Therefore this push-pull game is like a poison for me. I know myself well enough to let that woman go if she shows this kind of avoidant tendencies. Besides, I am not interested of women with avoidant attachment style in the first place so letting them go makes the most sense. Chasing these women make me feel that I am the woman in the relationship lol.
Why do men have to care if she pull away ? If she pull away do the same and go on with your life because that's a woman that can not communicate. Do chase her and keep bring kind but stop focusing on woman. My girl does that I keep pushing getting successful and planning my next move in life.
My ex began pulling away after 6 years. But she refused to acknowledge she was pulling away and made excuses for her lack of presence. I think this was very different to the normal case of pulling away because she was manipulative about this and had done other things including weird testing. I think when it's done deliberately and especially when they're trying to provoke a response and the react to that response, it's generally coming from a very insecure place and should be a red flag to the guy. But like I say my ex had been doing some other strange and unexplained things alongside this. So it was quite exceptional. Unfortunately there was a gaslighting element to this and it would have been very hard to respond in a healthy way because of the confusion and cognative dissonance it created. I can only conclude that either way I did not need this toxic person in my life.
What do I do when she's a friend, we haven't spoken in a while and she's not responding to me but her friend knows she's alive and texting each other 💀💀
this i such good adfice i get the pullback a lot dating after being in relationships fora while and being slightly older 3 5 I find the pullback happens a lot almost as a test, gotta do these things in this video is great advice
I cannot underscore enough his steps! 1) untether from it emotionally. before addressing it, you should do as much work as possible to move on from the hurt you feel without an apology from her. It helps me to see myself as small and finite. My life and it's experiences are such a small blip of insignificance set against the backdrop of all time and the entire universe. Your pain was very real. Your life is also very short. 2) dont start the conversation with the word "you". Instant fail. Instead, start the conversation with the word "I". E.g. I felt very ________ when I didn't hear from you regarding this important thing we are facing 3) frame the episode as a moment in time, not a judgement of her character or worth to you. I still love you and want you its just that I felt _______ when ________ happened. Patriarchy is real. respect it. If you're honest, you also face the dark side of patriarchy as a man. think about the times you've heard the phrase "I'm just a cog in the machine". As men, we are programed to be accountable to the patriarchal system. We've also been programmed to see it as good and normal. If we are accountable, we get raises and promotions, etc. Women in deep in traditional gender roles? Not so much.
Waaaay too much work. After a 25 year marriage, I have learned over many years that if you have to work at the relationship, you are with the wrong person.
My girl of 9 years used to blame not wanting sex due to menopause, which is the perfect gaslight. I always wondered if someone else was getting her affection. Ever felt that? Now, I'm free from that inner turmoil. At peace.
If she mentions marriage a bunch of times and her having a ring on her finger but everytime an argument occurs it goes from that too you should stay at your moms or go somewhere for a few days..? How would you look at that ? Im a 90s baby and grew up on marriages that lasted 40 years and fights only ended up being 20 minutes and then everyones all good and lovey and wifes never kicking the husband outta the house for a fight because its there house …? I like to let acouple hours go then address the situation but lately it feels like when i address it it makes it even worse then before and brings up more stuff😅
As a woman, of course I want a man who I can respect and who has a lot of self respect. But that is only 50% of the story: i also want a man who respects me 100% ! Treat women with respect, treat them as an equal. No game playing, no weird strategies and a..hole moves (like making her jealous by flirting with another woman). Just be very respectful and step away if required. That separetes you from 98% of men. It would be so great if these tips for men would also focus a bit on safety issues. Men who cannot respect a woman fully quickly become a very real threat to her. Men who do not respect boundaries or that a woman simply lost interest in them, quickly become dangerous, stalkers, abusers.
Trying to reconcile with the wife. 20 years together and 2 kids. Had a big fight and separated. She moved back in after 6 months but for the last year I’ve given space and continued to work on me and the family. She’s pulled away hard a couple months ago after a trip to her parents and reconciling seems dead. I see her work harder to stop reconciling than I see her being apathetic. Not sure what to do at this point
I'm gonna take a shot at this (despite not knowing your situation, this might be more appropriate if you've had a fair bit of contact), it might not be what you are looking for or from whom, but here we go: I would apologise, and here's the key part, *without* expecting them to get back to you, respect you more, come back and start something up again, etc. Assuming that the bridge is burned and owning up to your actions for You, that is a strong place to be. That is a place where we start feeling respect for ourselves and can start forgiving ourselves for what we're ultimately upset or disappointed in ourselves for. And move forward. I would have appreciated a message that said something similar to this: "Hi. I want to apologise to you. I've been doing a lot of self reflection lately and I've realised that I became needy, over reacted and that I messed things up with us. I'm sorry about that. I liked you and I apologise that I let my fear get the better of me. In hindsight I can see that I could have communicated this with you differently. I could have just talked to you about it. I want you to know that I'm working hard to make some changes, to get better tools, in order to make sure this doesn't happen again in a different situation. I really appreciated the time we spent together and I hope you're well. I think you're awesome. Take care,... " And then you Let Them Go. And remember that even if they respond with kindness, that does not equal a romantic future, so if you're not sure what a response means you can always ask for clarification. This cannot be used (and this is going to sound harsh) as a manipulation tactic. If you do, the other person will feel it, it will become incredibly clear and instead it will feel icky and creepy. You actually have to mean what you say and stand by it. So you go into it with no expectations, despite your hopes. That is the best advice I have on this. I hope it helps. (And if you are dealing with a person that sees vulnerability in the form of sincerity and owning up to our crap as weakness, then you deserve better. You are clearly here working on things.) Cheers!
Stop all contact. Let her contact you! If she still has attraction for you, she will reach out. When she does, make a date! If she never contacts you, you have your answer. No amount of stalking her will change her mind
Work on healing your attachment style (anxious preoccupied, attachment theory). Then you pull back and give her a ton of space. Don’t react to your urge to reach out and regulate your emotions. Got to give these women space so they can recalibrate
No. Just no. Learn from it and manage it better next time. Once respect is gone, it's gone, unless you become some rich cool dude and she comes to know of it, and initiates contact. Otherwise, no, just no.
I don't know the full context. However you chasing her never ends well if she wants her space and you're not allowing her to have that. Whatever reason she has for disliking or not wanting to speak with you, it doesn't matter. No apologies or anything, just drop the train of thought and move on with yourself, you can leave the door open for them to contact you. Allow them to reclaim their space and peace. If she is sentimental about the qualities you have or time you had together, she can reach out if she wants to reconnect/reconcile. Otherwise again, just forget about it and move on. If you are habitually/obsessively attached to looking if she is online or looking at her social media, cut out that habit. In time and while pursuing other things you will have passions for something else, and/or someone else. Biggest thing you can learn is that you should be content/motivated on other things in life other than a girl (even if biologically we are programmed for that). There are billions of things to do and billions of girls, don't get hung up over one that doesn't want/appreciate you, it's a waste of time.
Hello, i just jumped into your youtube channel and it’s so helpful and I understand a lot from your video. And i would like to ask about ‘how to understand partner and how to read her?’
I think saying things like 'Hey, I’ve noticed that communication from your side has decreased. I want to talk about what’s going on' only creates a serious, psychological, creepy atmosphere and really shows you as needy. The woman will feel pressured, get irritated, and would rather spend time with someone cheerful and relaxed. Don’t pry, but don’t get offended or end the relationship. Just ask her how her day was and wait, give her time. If she cares and is interested, she will respond. Just be normal, be yourself, live your life. If she wants to be part of it, she will.
I agree. A man should never say this to a woman unless they’re in a serious relationship of some sort where communication is necessary. But if she’s pulling away after 4 dates… a man should do the same. A man who doesn’t give a crap is one attractive mother lover to women.
This advice is all the same and you can not generalize . If it’s in initial stages then do not keep chasing . If you have a history then a different tactic response can be used in combination
i was talking to a chick she was messing with a few other guys and she knew that I liked her and she also liked me, I asked her if we were going to call us bf gf she said she was confused atm and she wasn’t ready to date, I disappeared completely, no communication, 6months later she had spent a few weeks talking to my sister about me and she was getting my sister to ask me questions about y I left and now we are are dating and official
If she didnt want to be with you at that time it means nothing more that she was with other guy. You was her option B thats why she has come back to you. If women is not investing her time to you, she do it for other guy- always. Women are never alone and lonely.
