WHATS REALLY BEEN HAPPENING PERSONALLY | VICTORIA 

Watching Victoria looking at Alex talking, tugged on my heart. Through it all you both are still together and managed to accomplish much more than some couples who have nowhere near these issues. Alex finding a route to a happier and healthier wellbeing, with new therapist and medication, looks like the beginning of a journey with a positive outlook to the future. You’re both such lovely souls, I only wish you both love, happiness, health and many great moments always! ❤❤

I love when Alex said that he no longer looks back, because it’s all about moving forward. I am so very happy for you both.

So many older people are finally getting a adhd diagnosis, and it’s great to see their emotions being validated ❤

Nothing more attractive than people who are willing to put in the work and who are self aware. Keep being true to you and loving each other. xx

I could feel the build up of emotion, Victoria and I burst into tears when you teared up. This was very courageous of you 2 to come forward with this insight into your private life. The example you are showing to others about what it takes to make a relationship satisfying is priceless. Thank you for doing this. You have my utmost respect.

Beautiful honest conversation. Thank you for your willingness to talk about with us. My husband struggles with his mental health, so much of this resonates❤️

You two are so lovely to share such personal struggles. I'm sure being open and honest will help many. I've so enjoyed both of you for a long time. Makes me feel even closer. All the way from the Oregon coast with love.💘💘💘

Alex's description of his behavior sounds very familiar. I'm glad that you are putting a priority on meshing your personalities and drawing on each other's strength.❤

Thanks for being so vulnerable guys!❤ love that you so supportive to each other.

It was so beautiful to hear Alex thank you for all your support thru his journey. True love

This is so important and so often overlooked. I have a brother who was not diagnosed until his late 30s----after lack of success in school, difficult friendships and relationships, dissatisfaction at work and in his career, a childhood of misunderstanding and bullying. Once he was diagnosed and started on medication, he said 'the noise in my head disappeared and I felt focused and calm'. When he told me that I burst into tears at the thought of all the time wasted, and the torture of his longing to 'belong'. His life changed for the better--at last. Thank you for your honesty.

Alex I hope you read this comment. Thank you for sharing your struggles with such honesty. My son was diagnosed with ADHD at 17, he’s now 21. He struggled in school for years which destroyed his self esteem. He saw a neurologist who immediately diagnosed him and he also began seeing a therapist. It hasn’t been an easy road but he’s figuring things out. We watched your video together. He was moved by your willingness to share your story. Victoria I understand how hard it’s been , I’ve experienced all you mentioned. With your love and support , you will get through this together. Take care❤

Thanks for your honesty Alex. That conversation required a lot of courage. Really interesting and informative vlog. Thanks for sharing this info I’m sure it will benefit so many.

So relatable and great that Alex can be so reflective and honest 🙌🏻 no doubt this will help lots of people and their relationships ❤

Alex, you are so brave disclosing your struggles openly, you both are. This will hopefully help so many people. This Vlog was truly lovely and so human. Sending lots of love to you both 💖.

I think it so beautiful how God can put two people who have different strengths and weakness together to help each other out. it’s evident of how much you love each other and how you help each other and that is beautiful and admirable! Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing!

You guys are amazing for sharing this incredibly personal journey. Much love to you both.

I'm 63 and have had mental health problems since I was about 12 Like you said I've tried everything but nothing works No one really understands I feel so alone with it x Still trying xxxxx

So happy Alex is doing so well. You are a strong couple x

This can't have been easy to go through- you two are a shining beacon of love and support and an example of what a kind partner is truly like. Mental illness can be extremely crippling and hijacks all passion and love out of life. Here's to Alex's full recovery and his continuous strength to keep walking towards the light.

Love you both! Vic, your content has always been a ray of light, and I so appreciate you both sharing with honesty and compassion for each other. Love and respect from NY!

Bravo to you and Alex. This is a conversation that needs to become normalized and you have both done a great service by sharing your journey. Happiness and Love to you ❤

A hard topic but so good to talk about it. So glad that you have worked it out and stuck with it. ❤

Alex, you should be very proud of yourself for being real and not being afraid to speak of your journey. You two are very lucky to have the support of each other. I'm sure you have both gone through ups and downs over the years, but the fact that you are together and strong means a lot. Never lose that, since it is really precious.

So refreshing to hear what you had to say, no frills just honesty. You both said your vows and you guys meant it, you can see the love and respect you have for each other.

Thank you guys for being so open and honest. I went 40 years not being diagnosed and now that I am on the right medications. It feels like I have a new life.

So cute when you described Alex‘ place on the desk…💕

This is so open and honest. Thank you for this. I so much appreciate this video.

Oh my, now i have to cry ... You two remind me a lot of my husband and I. I wish you only the best for the future. Thank you so much for sharing ♥

I get so excited when I see you''ve posted a video! Dropped everything to watch ❤

Thank you for being so open and honest. Content can get so mundane without transparency❤ takes bravery to open up however hopefully it is cathartic in the same respect. To your last point on getting rid of those people in your life that aren’t supportive at your worst, I totally agree. It can be very hard to see that happen before your eyes, the lack of compassion and support from those you once trusted or gave so much of your energy to and then to let them go. But it is 100 necessary to cut them out or know how to use your energy with them. It can be a whole other aspect of loss, anxiety, grief etc but it’s part of the growth process. You are the company you keep after all. Damn why do cliche lessons take learning the hard way to fully grasp 😂 Bravo on your progress and revelations. You two are a great team. Being married is super tough and raw. You choose who you want to go thru the hard stuff with not just the rainbows.

I could see the lightness in you both as you shared how far you’ve come. 🙏

As a sufferer of depression im so happy for you both that, Alex, you finally got a diagnosis and the help you needed, im pretty sure this conversation will indeed help many thank you for sharing your pain

Omg I am crying So happy Alex is in a better place and that he has your support. ❤

Thank you so much Alex for talking about it so openly and publicly. My husband suffers from reocurring episodes of depression and has an unhealthy relationship with work and constantly has to overachieve in order to feel somewhat "safe". We are unfortunately in the "therapie is not working for me" phase so of course it takes a huge toll on our relationship and I am sometimes lost about what I can do to help but not losing myself at the same time. My hope is that my husband will eventually give thearpy a second chance and will be able to talk about it more freely one day, just like you. Thank you for reducing the stigma around mental health problems that is still so prevalent especially for men since they have to "be strong" all the time and are not used to be vulnerable and "weak".

Thanks for sharing this! It is super important! ADHD often gets misdiagnosed as depression, even more for women than for men. And that experience with the anti depressants sounds so damn familiar, I'm sorry Alex had to go through that. I myself was diagnosed at 28, after realizing I might have it. I hope Alex can find the silver lining in his Adhd further down the line! Also it is well known that neurodivergents attract each other in relationships and friendships, not to forget that if your sibling or one parent has it there's a 50% chance you got it too. Big hugs for you guys !

Thank you both for sharing, and especially Alex for opening up. I love seeing couples making it through mental health struggles, it's so heartwarming ❤

I'm so happy for you both! I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was in my early 30s and so many things changed for me when I understood more about myself and that I wasn't broken. Wishing you the very best of luck ❤

Well done Vic, it’s incredibly hard to live and support someone with mental health as much as you love them it’s hard. Bless you both for a well, long and happy marriage Great job for talking about it well done Alex x

Alex thank you for being so honest about your mental health journey and being finally diagnosed with adhd and how you have found taking antidepressants and the horrid Side effects and now you have found a non antidepressant which has been life changing for you. Thank you once again Alex xxx

What I’m the sorcery is going in with all the ppl in the media arts talking about the GUT and Mental Heath?? Return to sender. It’s everywhere.

Blaming the teachers 😅😅😅 this generation has a victim mentality. It’s insane that you think teachers are responsible for controlling or diagnosing children, that’s a failure on the parents and the healthcare system NOT the teacher. Teachers are highly abused by kids and most of them are doing an amazing job. I’ve been in therapy for years and I can tell you one thing I’m the only person that controls how I respond to what life throws at me, it’s stoicism 101. You control how you respond.

I had mallet finger a couple of years ago tucking a tarpaulin between some canoes! I wore my splint for about 2 months initially and it did seem to heal, but I continued to wear it another 6 weeks after as I work outdoors and was worried about it reverting back. It’s absolutely fine now.

Thank you so much for being so honest Alex, so important for everyone to talk about it and to persist with finding a way forward to support your mental health. You guys are so genuine and honest and it's really appreciated x

So refreshing to see you both open up about this! Me and my husband have had very similar experiences and the video has been really great to watch. This issue needs to be more recognised. Thank you so much for sharing ❤❤

So happy for you both. You are a great team. Enjoy your love to each other with new horizons opening up for you. ❤

Why am I looking at the fish finger wrap hungrily as if i haven't had dinner? 😭

I’ve watched your videos from when you had purple hair, thank you for sharing this and talking about medication struggles also. I got diagnosed with ADHD in my 30s and while it’s given me a lot of closure I feel really alone with it at times. Wish you both the best

Thank you for this! My partner also has ADHD, and we were lucky to have been able to build our relationship knowing from the beginning. But it must be a relief to start this journey for you guys! I think one thing we have learned is that he needs to accommodate my neurotypical brain almost as much as I accommodate his neurodivergent brain. We both work with empathy to help each other. I think sometimes people think “well my partner has adhd so I need to compromise more than they do” when really it’s a two way street to have a healthy and empathetic relationship. I can see that you guys have come to that same conclusion, and with the help of modern medicine it’s only up from here!

Thank you Alex, you very brave.❤

Alot of people in there 30s have struggled with depression and anxiety to which then turns to be ADHD or ADD. For myself finding out I have ADHD has helped enormously to understand coping techniques. I'm so glad there has been a huge step in your journey to help you Alex 🤘

How beautiful that was, keep going Alex xx

Thank you so much for sharing💙

Remember to look after yourself as well Victoria x Wishing you the best for the future x

What beautiful people! Both of you!!! Thank you for sharing!! Way to go Alex!! ❤️❤️

Alex : Thank you for sharing Victorie : My Doll Such a beautiful friend partner and very good wife to your husband. I have son with ADHD very relatable this video is for me . Victoria thank you for understanding Alex situation 🙏🏻

I'm so proud of both of you for being open and honest about this. More people than you ever know are struggling with mental health and suffer quietly, one of my 34 year old son. I wish and pray that he would seek help like you did. I'm so very proud of you. Keep pushing forward Alex, you're on the right path, and you will be just fine, especially with Victoria by your side. You are very much a valuable human being. You are NOT less than anyone else. Please allow me to say, I love you both and I wish you a lifetime of health and happiness.

Beautiful and valuable video. Thank you for your generosity. Alex not smart???!!! I’ve seen your spectacular work, sir!! You’re a brilliant, creative and powerful TEAM!! Bravo for finding and sharing answers and your journey. So amazing you’re doing it together. So proud of you as a couple. 🙏🏻☺️

The high and low in mood you described sounds like bipolar disease. My ex husband of 12 years suffers from bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, manic depression, ADHD, OCD, and narcissistic personality disorder. He abused alcohol to cope with his illness. It wasn’t until after our divorce that he became formally diagnosed. Many many many trials of meds. Even tried electroshock therapy to treat his bipolar. His bipolar gave him the extreme moods of either over to top high annoying erratic mood (like on drugs) or severely depressed cannot get out of bed. This also manifested in extreme rage he could not control with emotional outbursts at people. Then followed by shame and guilt which just kicked up the alcoholism. I’d definitely keep being tested for additional disorders because you are correct they often overlap which is why using drug treatment is so tough. But for many of these mental health issues intense behavioral therapy works well but it’s a long term solution. My ex husband always was looking for that magic drug that would make him happy. But we all know that doesn’t exist. You will always have ups and downs in your emotions. That’s part of being human. So it’s learning better coping skills and self soothing techniques that will probably make the biggest impact for you. All those negative beliefs you have about yourself have to be rewired in your brain. As silly as it sounds “I AM” affirmations are very powerful to help rewire those brain paths. I used them after my abusive marriage and still use them to this day. There is a book you could check out too called Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess that talks about the way negative emotions affect our brains from a physiological perspective and how we can form better habits with our thoughts to change those physiological neuro structures. Really fascinating stuff. Definitely worth a read if you feel like you’d like a more homeopathic solution vs chemical. Another thing I’d probably investigate is your hormone levels. Just like women, men’s hormones can also affect mood or cause disruptions. And of course our brain receptor serotonin is a hormone. There might be dietary or lifestyle changes that could be made if it’s a hormone imbalance type of thing. And lastly dears….prayer and gratitude. While they don’t solve every problem…they do help immensely. Start asking God for peace in your mind. And thank Him for giving you peace. Often when we are disconnected from our spiritual source forgetting our higher purpose of serving, giving, and loving….being bogged down with work, life, and tasks….this can cause huge problems with our feelings of depression. This is coming from someone who wasn’t a believer for 42 years of her life. Now age 46 and a Christ follower, I have more peace in my life mentally, emotionally, and relationally. Allowing God to be a part of your life will bring great and powerful healing to you. And I am not talking about “religion”. I’m talking about a relationship with God. Talk to Him. He loves you unconditionally. Learn to see yourself the way He sees you. His perfect creation. I’ll be sending some prayers your way. And thanks for being so brave to share. ☺️❤️🙏🏻

This is going to be a huge eye opener and aid to so many people watching. The way you both described the problem was so different to how I've ever heard it worded

Wow this really choked me up 🥺 So honest & im just so happy Alex has found what works for him & some answers. X

Thank you both so much for sharing this! My husband has recently realized he's probably ADD or ADHD (at 30 years old) and listening to Alex talk about his experience and the challenges he's faced it all sounded incredibly similar. I think it's so hard when you grow up like that and you think that's all normal and you're just stuck with it. I'm so happy for you both that Alex has found something that works for him to overcome those challenges. Hearing the huge improvement Alex saw has also encouraged my husband to explore his options. So much love to you both and a big, heartfelt thank you for sharing!

My work from home days got switched to Tuesday so now I catch these vlogs right as they release 🤗

Thank you, Alex, for being so open and honest about what you've been going through. It has obviously been tough at times for you both. Victoria is so loving and caring this video is very powerful. ❤

Immediately as soon as you got teary, so did I. I'm happy for both of you

Alex, you've got this!!!!! Positive energy sending your way!! 🌞💛

Absolutely great video! Thank you for sharing and being so honest. I can only imagine how exhausting it must of been relationship wise. Proof your an incredible couple with the strength to get through tough times and support one another xxx

Thank you guys for being so candid and using your platform for such an important topic. Thank you for sharing your experience so eloquently. You are helping more than you know and are an inspiration!

Thank You for sharing your personal struggles. It’s quite common nowadays and I’m glad more influencer has open up with mental health. ❤❤❤ I love you guys and compliment each other so well.

What a lovely chat in the end of the vlog. Thank you for sharing your story. I’m so glad you’re in a good place now, Alex!

thank you so much for sharing your story! really positive for your audience to see you like this and genuinely certain it will help lots of people!!!

Love how brave you both about talking about this diagnosis. More visibility to any type of mental or physical disorder is so much needed. Sharing is a good lesson for others. My most sincere respect to y both. Best wishes for a Happy Life from Spain.

Hi Victoria and Alex ❤wow you both are amazing and so beautiful together. Xx makeup looked amazing . Alex we are so proud of you and your, honestly with the struggles your experiences in mental health. Thanking both for sharing and for your hard work in helping others in this difficult times. ❤

Your both an inspiration love you guys ❤

So incredibly interesting, I had notice that you and Alex have been alot more tactile I now understand that this recognition of the ADH has been so profoundly informative to you and your viewers, so thank you for a wonderful interesting vlog. Good luck on your new journey Alex 🙏

Any mental heath issue - can ruin your life - it’s so wonderful to see you both working together to find what is right for Alex. Coping with work if you struggle to focus is the hardest. I struggle with my emotion’s - I always have - and I’m 66 soon. Always needed validation of others - it’s often as though I’m almost afraid of being happy - because there always seems something to bring me down. You both love each other very much and it’s wonderful to see you working together on this issue ❤

❤️so glad to hear that Alex is feeling better. So much respect for Alex putting in the work to get to a positive place and so happy both of you stuck through this together ❤thank you both for sharing this one.

Love you guys ❤❤well done for highlighting & speaking so honestly. XX

What is the video you watched on ADHD? Convinced my partner has it.. just crying over here, I feel seen and heard and my partner has been struggling with this too!

🎵 coz it’s a woman’s jumperrrr but I don’t carrrrrre 🎶

This chat made me quite emotional but in the best way. I have struggled with mental health for over ten years and I could really relate to a lot of things you guys talked about. This past year I’ve really been making progress and I can see how numb I was to everything before. It was like I was like I was a shell and slowly I would start seeing glimpses of myself come back. The medication I initially took worked really well for me, but finding the right therapist has taken more time. I’m still looking but like you said it’s so important to keep trying. Alex, I am so happy for you. I’m so glad you are feeling more like yourself and more understood. Feeling that down about yourself and constantly tearing yourself apart really takes a toll and to see you smiling and talking about how good you’re feeling makes me so happy and proud of you 🤍 and Victoria, the encouragement and support and patience you’ve had is really something special. It’s not only hard for the person struggling but also those around you and this was probably really difficult for you too but from someone who struggles with mental health I just wanted to thank you as well 🤍 I’m so so so happy for you both!! Thank you for sharing your stories 🤍

It feels different when the people that we see on the other side of a screen aren't afraid of showing their emotions and sharing their thoughts and experiences, especially in times like these where people run away from being vulnerable and get closer to being mechanical and robotic; this video felt so close to my heart. All the support and love I can send

I'm so proud of Alex for sharing his diagnosis. Mental health is never an easy topic to discuss but I'm positive he's already helped many people. Last October I was diagnosed with AuDHD (Autism & ADHD) at the age of 34 and it felt like a weight had been lifted. It felt amazing to finally feel like someone understood me and I'm so happy Alex gets his turn to be validated by professionals and gets to start his healing process. I'm also so happy for you, Victoria because as the people who are struggling, we often don't see how it affects the people who love us the most. Your love and commitment to helping your husband is so beautiful. A lot of people can learn a thing or two from you about true love, patience, and understanding. I'm very happy for you both! On to better times 💕

I can see how deeply this has been affecting Alex. And likely you, Vic. I hope he’s finding some relief. You seem very understanding.

You are so lucky that you have a good solid relationship. You are right, you absolutely need professional help. Unfortunately it does take time. It's a combination of lifestyle, medication and therapy. You two have a great life and above all each other.

I see sooo much of myself & my husband in you guys except that I am the one with the mental health issues. It is really hard on the marriage, especially for the partner & takes a lot of hard work to succeed. Much Love ❤

Thanks for sharing. Hang in there Alex. You are stronger than you think. One step at a time. One hour at a time. One day at a time. Pat yourself in the back for every step of the way you slay it. 💪👍 Marriage, any relationship really …the only way it can last is if both parties ride the waves together through life. Good job guys.

Love you guys ❤ sending big hugs 😘 xx

Hey guys, I was diagnosed at 35 (now 36) Now you know about it you will see it everywhere. I see it in so many content creators. So many myths around adhd need to be corrected. You don't grow out of it. Girls and women have it. You're not dumb if you have it, quite the contrary you're likely more intelligent and creative. My psychologist totally missed it. When I raised it with her that I thought I had it (at 35) she screened me and then just apologised. and keeps apologising that she missed it and kept treating the symptoms and not the cause. Diagnosis is life changing!!!! Good on you for exploring it Alex and for supporting him Victoria. People can be so dismissive, especially at the moment "everyone is a little adhd"😡. Love you guys xx

Thank you so much for sharing Alex & Victoria! I got very emotional but I’m so happy things are improving and you are moving into a positive and fruitful chapter! Love you both! ❤❤

What a lovely chap Alex is. Very brave to open up like he did in today’s vlog. Onwards and upwards ❤

I retire from 39 years as a nurse in August and wondered what to treat myself to……. Intro sold me on the Dyson hair dryer. Thanks Victoria Xxx

So happy for you guys and for Alex to be moving forward and enjoying life more! Wonderful that you two are talking about this.

Thank you so much for normalizing your struggle so others realize they might not be alone. It’s so important to get the message out. My son was recently diagnosed with adhd at 17. He does pretty well in school and is the opposite of hyper, so he slipped through unnoticed. But he could never focus or study, had memory issues like he would not remember things from his childhood we all did, etc. I wish the school system taught teachers it’s not just the kids who don’t sit in their seats or are disruptive. I’m so sad that Alex (and my son) had to struggle for so long!

It is so refreshing to see an "influencer" share real life! Life is hard, relationships are hard and mental illness is incredibly hard. Thank you for sharing your struggles and journey Alex. And Victoria thank you for using your platform to offer suggestions, encouragement and help to those struggling.

Thank you guys for your honesty! I recently at 28 got diagnosed with ASS and I am struggling to get to grips with it. This really helps me to think about it in a more positive light. ❤

I love this about u two keeping things real and honest and thankyou for sharing..it does other people good to see that life doesn’t hand out great things unless ur prepared to put in the hard work.. on the surface it can look like u both have a fantastic lifestyle and have the best of everything and it’s all just dropped in ur lap and ur lucky,whereas in reality it’s dam hard work and constantly having to be upbeat and looking ur best and deadlines to meet and not a moment to ur selves , and behind the scenes u still have to do the mundane chores ,run a household and have time for each other etc and it’s not easy when husband and wife work together.. I’m so happy for u both that things are better these days between u ,it must feel a bit like when u first got together and all those emotions come flooding back .. so pleased that you’re feeling better Alex and long may it continue ..I always think practicing gratitude every now and then keeps us grounded and humble and doing a good deed for someone every day does the heart good .. all the best u two ,I love watching ur vlogs and the content and editing..u work hard and deserve to be happy and content and to go far in life ..enjoy and don’t listen to negative people ,they are toxic xx

My son has ADHD, he is the most wonderful little boy that is celebrated for who he uniquely is. I’m so glad he’s growing up in a generation that understands this condition. I was that kid, I’m 36 and still undiagnosed due to the NHS having such long waiting times, I’m just being treated for depression and anxiety. Thank you for speaking up, it’s so easy to look at peoples lives online and feel like you are on your own in not managing life the way others do. I follow both you and your husband, I love seeing the creativity from Alex, his photos are stunning. I hope this brings life some stability and understanding x

Who is chopping onions 🥹🥹🥹 so thrilled for you both. Onwards and upwards ❤️

Such a powerful example of a couple’s stick-to-it-ness when things get tough being there & encouraging for one another. May God continue to bless your road ahead & the message you’re giving to help others.